Have you any friends?

[kevvy]

i am an aussie Kevvy so GDay is o.k for me! lol

is this a man's only forum??

No, many men would love to have another pretty lady on here. I said pretty not beautiful as my wife is the only beautiful woman in my eyes. I am glad you came to this topic as it is really great to hear all the stories out there. Welcome Thaidelight

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kevvy

Not only are you sorry but you are wrong. My wife is the most beautiful women in the world. Most of the time.

must be my wife's sister then . G'Day brother in law....

[thaidelight]

i am very unsure how to negotiate myself around TV...i need to learn! lol

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[Dellie]

Tons of friends. Only 2 I would consider close and actually care what happens too them though.

[mrtoad]

Every expat in Thailand has a wonderful friend.Always with you day and night.A shoulder to cry on.Will help you to solve your problems.Introduce you to other people.....who?.....you should know......THAIVISA!

Funnily enough, I have met a few people from TV over the years, and I am fortunate to count them as friends. They are certainly not what some people think about stereotypical TV members being alcoholic, key board warriors. There are some good people, and a few on here know who I am talking about, and of course know me.

[godden]

I'll be your friend

[kevvy]

One of my rules over the years is that .... there is only love..... So, I hope to heed my advice and invest my time in those that truly love me for who I am and limit spending my time invested in those that will only slow me down on my search for happiness.I have found that happiness in my best friend ..MY BEAUTIFUL WIFE.

kevvy

[transam]

One of my rules over the years is that .... there is only love..... So, I hope to heed my advice and invest my time in those that truly love me for who I am and limit spending my time invested in those that will only slow me down on my search for happiness.I have found that happiness in my best friend ..MY BEAUTIFUL WIFE.

kevvy

You really should leave wives out of the equation. You can trust me on that, don't care how beautiful they are. Beauty means absolutely nothing, what matters is whats between the ears and that changes with time.

[mrtoad]

One of my rules over the years is that .... there is only love..... So, I hope to heed my advice and invest my time in those that truly love me for who I am and limit spending my time invested in those that will only slow me down on my search for happiness.I have found that happiness in my best friend ..MY BEAUTIFUL WIFE.

kevvy

You really should leave wives out of the equation. You can trust me on that, don't care how beautiful they are. Beauty means absolutely nothing, what matters is whats between the ears and that changes with time.

Wife's come and go, real friends are there for life. Maybe I am cynical, but a relationship is different than a friendship.

[briboy]

i am an aussie Kevvy so GDay is o.k for me! lol

is this a man's only forum??

go the blues, just 1 more time even..... as they say Sydney or the bush, I AM along way from Sydney

[rct99q]

I count myself lucky as I have several here (since moving and living here) that I would call good, in need call me anytime, friends. I would consider 4 or 5 are Western and 3 Thai all of whom I would trust with my children's lives! None are family but good people who I have had the opportunity to meet mostly through work but some as neighbors. Have to admit it is a very good feeling to know you have people like this close to you. I have friends back "home" but hard to call on in a dire emergency.

Sometimes my replies here are a bit crass but on occasion the topics get a bit under my skin. I love this country as I do my other adopted home lands (in which there are a few), so I get a bit defensive. However if anyone out there ever needs a local ear to Yak on pm and I am always available to listen...

[briboy]

If you feel lonely why not get a pet. A big cuddly dog who wags its tail to show it loves you. You can talk to it and(unlike a woman) it will not argue with you. It is a great therapy for lonely or depressed people. If you return the affection you will have a good friend for years and you will be very happy.

Apart from my wife , before that my best friend was my boxer dog .he died from brain cancer 30 years ago.I still think of him today .

Some will make fast friends with any humans they come in contact with.If you’re seeking a sympathetic friend, you may need to look no further than your dog.Some people treat heir dogs like their best friends, I know I did for a long time.

Kevvy

Mate so true, I have had and breed boxers all my life until my last 1 died 3yrs ago can never have another 1 as I get way to attached, living on my own

[kevvy]

One of my rules over the years is that .... there is only love..... So, I hope to heed my advice and invest my time in those that truly love me for who I am and limit spending my time invested in those that will only slow me down on my search for happiness.I have found that happiness in my best friend ..MY BEAUTIFUL WIFE.

kevvy

You really should leave wives out of the equation. You can trust me on that, don't care how beautiful they are. Beauty means absolutely nothing, what matters is whats between the ears and that changes with time.

Well I would agree on that with my first marriage . Now I have a best friend , and a wife as well. I have no real friends. not yet .

[kevvy]

I count myself lucky as I have several here (since moving and living here) that I would call good, in need call me anytime, friends. I would consider 4 or 5 are Western and 3 Thai all of whom I would trust with my children's lives! None are family but good people who I have had the opportunity to meet mostly through work but some as neighbors. Have to admit it is a very good feeling to know you have people like this close to you. I have friends back "home" but hard to call on in a dire emergency.

Sometimes my replies here are a bit crass but on occasion the topics get a bit under my skin. I love this country as I do my other adopted home lands (in which there are a few), so I get a bit defensive. However if anyone out there ever needs a local ear to Yak on pm and I am always available to listen...

Never seen a thread like this before , where people actually care about other people ... I will take you up on your kind offer.

kevvy

[i claudius]

I would say my best friend is my wife , i can do without other people although i seem to have "friends" judging by the number of phone calls i get to go out for a drink

[mrtoad]

Mrs Toad is not my friend, to me friendship is different . We have mutuel respect for one another, we laugh, we joke and we socialize, and love one another, I will always be there for her, and I know that it is the same for her. My friendships, are different, and she often doesn't understand that bit. I would certainly not want to put all my eggs in one basket, and anyhow my friends we can talk shit that most people wouldn't understand, including our wives. Both are Important to me.

[Beetlejuice]

This thread is certainly an eye opener and quite depressing in some aspects.

Back in Farangland, socially, what we considered normal was visiting friends at their homes, they would in turn visit us, go out socially together as husband and wife couples, with our kids, and so on. There were always people to chat to, my wife had her close friends, I had my close friends and we were all more like an extended family group rather than just friends. Occasions such as Christmas and New Years, we would usually meet and enjoy the events together. There was always something happening, somewhere.

But it`s not always like that over here and for those who are not loners, this could be considered as the downside of living in Thailand for the long term. I have known many who after a couple of years had fell into despair and had decided that this sort of lifestyle and Thailand is not for them and then returned to their home countries.

Here is a good opportunity for some business entrepreneurs. Possibly a sort of meeting website (not dating) exclusively for ex-pats seeking other compatible ex-pats for friendship and a bit of socialising. Judging by many of these posts, there is certainly a need for something a long on this basis. Perhaps even Thai visa could pioneer something on similar lines as a forum?

[mrtoad]

BJ I don't always agree with you postings, but that's a good point.

[StreetCowboy]

This thread is certainly an eye opener and quite depressing in some aspects.

Back in Farangland, socially, what we considered normal was visiting friends at their homes, they would in turn visit us, go out socially together as husband and wife couples, with our kids, and so on. There were always people to chat to, my wife had her close friends, I had my close friends and we were all more like an extended family group rather than just friends. Occasions such as Christmas and New Years, we would usually meet and enjoy the events together. There was always something happening, somewhere.

But it`s not always like that over here and for those who are not loners, this could be considered as the downside of living in Thailand for the long term. I have known many who after a couple of years had fell into despair and had decided that this sort of lifestyle and Thailand is not for them and then returned to their home countries.

Here is a good opportunity for some business entrepreneurs. Possibly a sort of meeting website (not dating) exclusively for ex-pats seeking other compatible ex-pats for friendship and a bit of socialising. Judging by many of these posts, there is certainly a need for something a long on this basis. Perhaps even Thai visa could pioneer something on similar lines as a forum?

I've struck up a friendship with a couple of chaps on these fora with whom I have something in common, and met up with them following an exchange of PMs. I think that TV already provides that function, but you need to be willing to make use of the tools available.

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[n210mp]

Not in any way undermining the genuine love and affection that can exist between animals and humans it seems that when a pet takes over what I feel should be a human role and becomes the focal point of some ones life then it is very sad.

I can understand why this happens, the absence of any human interaction or the opportunity to meet people, whether though illness or social deprivation it is still sad.

I notice that when this happens with shall we say normal or normally interactive people, the cause for this canine or feline companion is usually the need for an emotional crutch and one that does not either complain or talk back!

For the record I separate the normal doggy and cat lovers from the people that I am talking about here.

The need for an emotional interaction in caring and loving way can readily be achieved through the companionship with a great pet and of course it is on record that this type of relationship is great therapy for those who have say lost a loved one or who are just severely lonely

At this time our little Pomerainium "Nini" has just nudged me on the leg with that eye contact that says its time for me to go for a walk!

But of course I am not guilty of any emotional transfer problem............................ am I?

Edited October 26, 2013 by n210mp

[geronimo]

I have three real friends who would help me in times of need.

[anthobkk]

I met one of my best friend here three years ago. At the time i had a gf who was cheating on me with him and was cheating on him with me. When we realized what she was doing, we met and wanted to kill each other. But then we finally agreed that it was the girl fault.

We went to a bar and get wasted and we are great friends since then. And really happy this girl cheated on us or we wouldn't have a chance to meet haha

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Edited October 26, 2013 by anthobkk

[smokie36]

Who fancies a pint in Edinburgh over Christmas?!!

 

I'll be in Edinburgh just before Christmas for exams at the university, I'll be staying at my place in the New Town and almost certainly have a few jars in the Barony Bar. I'm going to be on a tight schedule but if I can squeeze some extra time I'll let you know.

 

I'd kill for a Cally 80 right now. 

Not what it was yet rretains a hint of former splendour...a fine choice.

Sorry Pats...I will be in Bangkok by then....

[transam]

I met one of my best friend here three years ago. At the time i had a gf who was cheating on me with him and was cheating on him with me. When we realized what she was doing, we met and wanted to kill each other. But then we finally agreed that it was the girl fault. We went to a bar and get wasted and we are great friends since then. And really happy this girl cheated on us or we wouldn't have a chance to meet haha Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Your friend is not your friend now or ever has been . Why, cos in the first place he would NOT have fooled around with your lady. If you have a problem with my words then you have a problem. Getting rat assed with your ''friend'' did not fix anything.

[kevvy]

This thread is certainly an eye opener and quite depressing in some aspects.

Back in Farangland, socially, what we considered normal was visiting friends at their homes, they would in turn visit us, go out socially together as husband and wife couples, with our kids, and so on. There were always people to chat to, my wife had her close friends, I had my close friends and we were all more like an extended family group rather than just friends. Occasions such as Christmas and New Years, we would usually meet and enjoy the events together. There was always something happening, somewhere.

But it`s not always like that over here and for those who are not loners, this could be considered as the downside of living in Thailand for the long term. I have known many who after a couple of years had fell into despair and had decided that this sort of lifestyle and Thailand is not for them and then returned to their home countries.

Here is a good opportunity for some business entrepreneurs. Possibly a sort of meeting website (not dating) exclusively for ex-pats seeking other compatible ex-pats for friendship and a bit of socialising. Judging by many of these posts, there is certainly a need for something a long on this basis. Perhaps even Thai visa could pioneer something on similar lines as a forum?

you took the words out of my mouth ...great post

[StreetCowboy]

I met one of my best friend here three years ago. At the time i had a gf who was cheating on me with him and was cheating on him with me. When we realized what she was doing, we met and wanted to kill each other. But then we finally agreed that it was the girl fault. We went to a bar and get wasted and we are great friends since then. And really happy this girl cheated on us or we wouldn't have a chance to meet haha Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Your friend is not your friend now or ever has been . Why, cos in the first place he would NOT have fooled around with your lady. If you have a problem with my words then you have a problem. Getting rat assed with your ''friend'' did not fix anything.

I thought that they didn't know each other until she 'introduced' them. And furthermore, I think they didn't know that she was seeing someone else until later in the relationship

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[falkan]

this must be a old fart problem..

[transam]

this must be a old fart problem..

Not necessarily. Hansum guys really must forget the hansum thing here.

[FiftyTwo]

this must be a old fart problem..

No, it's a socially inadequate problem.

As for the guys who only have their wife as a friend, when she dumps you you'll be really, really sad!

[chrisinth]

I have lived my entire adult life in Thailand and learned long ago that relationships are very transient. Before email, when people left the country to work elsewhere, you simply lost touch.

I have never been the clingy or needy type, so I simply feel grateful for the time I share with people and move on when they leave, for whatever reason. I have always known a lot of people socially, but my wife is the only one I would ever ask anything of. She is my best friend.

Excellent post VF, once again. I think your viewpoint is very similar to mine, enjoy the friendships of the time and move on to a new chapter of your life, new characters.

I can never understand people who insist that the only true friends that they have ever had come from their home towns, formed through childhood. No doubt they are still friends to these believers, but people and situations continually change in this world of ours.

Everyone to their own, but me personally wouldn't trust anyone that I haven't seen for many years, supposed true friend or not.............

BTW, currently there are about 6 people that I would consider true friends, this number has been a constant throughout my life when I think about it. The number remains the same, the people change.

[kevvy]

this must be a old fart problem..

Oh , can you please really explain what an old fart really is .What is your terminology , I am sure there are many "old farts" as you call them waiting with baited breath to hear your thoughts.