Have you any friends?

[Tywais]

Personal attacks and replies have been removed. Civility is a useful trait to learn. Apologies for those whose replies had to be removed in the cleanup.

[xenophon]

This has become an issue for me because I don't go to bars much anymore and I drink far less. The culture in Bkk is pretty (actually not pretty) alcoholic and I am now less tolerant that previously. So, I have a very low b++sh+t threshold. Amlooking for other places and groups,not puritan, just not crazy drunken. Not much success so far

[MJP]

This has become an issue for me because I don't go to bars much anymore and I drink far less. The culture in Bkk is pretty (actually not pretty) alcoholic and I am now less tolerant that previously. So, I have a very low b++sh+t threshold. Amlooking for other places and groups,not puritan, just not crazy drunken. Not much success so far

Do you have any hobbies? I find I get on best with folks when we have common interests. Here mine are DIY and building, looking at and talking about re-doing the garden but never getting round to it and taking photos.

I went to a bar this year, it's owned by an old Japanese friend, haven't seen in years. Stayed two whole hours!

[AYJAYDEE]

This has become an issue for me because I don't go to bars much anymore and I drink far less. The culture in Bkk is pretty (actually not pretty) alcoholic and I am now less tolerant that previously. So, I have a very low b++sh+t threshold. Amlooking for other places and groups,not puritan, just not crazy drunken. Not much success so far

Do you have any hobbies? I find I get on best with folks when we have common interests. Here mine are DIY and building, looking at and talking about re-doing the garden but never getting round to it and taking photos.

I went to a bar this year, it's owned by an old Japanese friend, haven't seen in years. Stayed two whole hours!

in our town, there is a nice quiet bar owned by a german guy and his wife and the local farang meet there on friday nights for a few hours. i dont drink alcohol but still find it a nice evening out to just chat with everyone go home about 10:00 pm before the drunk talk starts.

[myluckythai]

A wife is no more a friend than any one else when she decides to do something else. I have the T-shirt from a 25 year relationship with a lady. We were two peas in a pod. worried about each other all the time, then suddenly.......BANG..........she wanted to do something different and our cuddly love disappeared, went up in smoke.

Same as your health, you or I do not know whats around the corner.

Sorry if I sound grim but it is reality. I have been there.

so true. one day you love each other, the other day you can ask yourself how did i ever love this woman.. surprising to me still. No matter who you are with , firends, someone you just met or whoever at the moment, cherish it for what it is now and keep it as a sweet memory when it has past by. that way you never have to be dissapointed when it does

May I add, that lady in my post was the love of MY life, perhaps still is, l don't know, BUT, my point is in reply to the topic, do you (REALLY) have any friends.

oh i got that . she left you heartbroken, not the other way round. I am sorry for your loss genuinly . i am looking from the other side i think. sorry. I never think too long about these things no matter how deep the love or friendship was to me. to keep it in your words , just turn around that corner. Remember them Always yes. Feel bad about it No. And No i dont believe in real friends

Edited October 26, 2013 by myluckythai

[zyphodb]

If you live like myself upcountry it can be difficult to find friends,acquaintances can be easier to come by but friends are different,I've been here 4 years although not full time due to work commitments and in that time I have found 1 real good friend.

Also I'm considerably younger than the majority of expats up here in Phetchabun and that makes it harder.

It can be a lonely place for some often turning to drink and in some cases drugs.

I'm surprised by the number of expats who live up here but often speak very little Thai after many years,in some cases their native tongue is German or French and they speak very little English as well,this must make life a struggle at times,especially in the marital home where by neither partner speaks much of each other's respective languages.

Combine al this with a lack of western foods,bars or restaurants as well as very little in the way of facilities such as swimming pools,it all makes for a recipe for disaster.

Many people live reclusive lives surrounded by people they grow to detest,can't communicate with and to top it all they've invested everything they have in building the dream home.

Seeking and finding friends up here can often uncover some very miserable people with very miserable lives.

Sad but true.

Yep I think that's very true, I'm 'the only falang in the village' my wife is my best friend luckily &I have a couple of good Thai friends, only acquantences falangwise though,

It's still nice to talk a little bit of English at the local bar 20 K's away & occasionally go fishing with some, but I come from a v.rural part of the UK so I'm pretty used to having to make my own entertainment, must be hard if ur from the city I should imagine...

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[Tywais]

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[Shomethewaytothenext]

Cool thread - makes me feel a bit less strange.. & good work from the moderators on keeping it clean ;-)

[planetdweller]

My definition of a friend is someone you respect , trust and have a good time sharing tall tales with. Someone who just likes you as a human and vice versa. Astonishingly hard to come by people like this.

Amazingly easy really.

But you have to actually go outside your home to find these people.

Of course,

It is far harder if you have been daft enough to plonk yourself in a village of stick huts in the back end of nowhere.

(I've found this situation usually happens when a guy doesn't have the courage to say 'NO")

I guess you're implying I don't go out of the house. I get out plenty. And if your implying I'm "daft" or may be someone who was led astray by a Thai woman to "plonk" myself down in a village of stick huts , by your inference to those who can't say no , you're reading way too far into my opinion of what constitutes a friend.

Condescending and holier-than-thou response to my post , in fact , offensive. You have just proven why genuine friendship is hard to come by. Because there are with personalities as yourself propping themselves up as know-it-alls on message boards

and probably out making the world a worse place to live , rather than a better one.

[Patsycat]

Why would people attack a nice friend thread.

Boggled mind.

[JLCrab]

The actors Henry Fonda and James Stewart were friends for over 50 years since sharing together a NY City apartment early in their careers in 1933. Fonda was a flaming Liberal and Stewart was an arch Conservative. When asked how they could get along so well all those years they answered simply 'We don't discuss politics'.

[Jib Teenuc]

I have one friend (in the UK) who would help me bury a body, no questions asked (the only real mark of a true friend) who I've known since we were 8 years of age (we're 55 now).

But I have thousands of "friends" and aquaintences I've met over the years.

Each and every time I go out I meet someone I like and who seems to like me, too.

I make friends very, very easily but keep each and every one at a friendly distance as I know they can never be the friend to me (nor I to them) as the friends we've each known and trusted for the best part of half a century.

No problem, either way. The life of an expat is always going to be populated by transient "ships in the night" buddies and there's nothing wrong with that per se.

Just be willing to smile and equally willing to talk (but also be, warily, alert same time) and there's around 7 billion potential friends out there, just waiting to be found.

Short-time friends have the same advantage as other people's children. They are great fun but nice not to have to take home.

[AYJAYDEE]

I have one friend (in the UK) who would help me bury a body, no questions asked (the only real mark of a true friend) who I've known since we were 8 years of age (we're 55 now).

But I have thousands of "friends" and aquaintences I've met over the years.

Each and every time I go out I meet someone I like and who seems to like me, too.

I make friends very, very easily but keep each and every one at a friendly distance as I know they can never be the friend to me (nor I to them) as the friends we've each known and trusted for the best part of half a century.

No problem, either way. The life of an expat is always going to be populated by transient "ships in the night" buddies and there's nothing wrong with that per se.

Just be willing to smile and equally willing to talk (but also be, warily, alert same time) and there's around 7 billion potential friends out there, just waiting to be found.

Short-time friends have the same advantage as other people's children. They are great fun but nice not to have to take home.

I dont agree with the "they can never be.,.." part. some of my very closet friends were guys i met in my 30's and 40's

[Jib Teenuc]

I have one friend (in the UK) who would help me bury a body, no questions asked (the only real mark of a true friend) who I've known since we were 8 years of age (we're 55 now).

But I have thousands of "friends" and aquaintences I've met over the years.

Each and every time I go out I meet someone I like and who seems to like me, too.

I make friends very, very easily but keep each and every one at a friendly distance as I know they can never be the friend to me (nor I to them) as the friends we've each known and trusted for the best part of half a century.

No problem, either way. The life of an expat is always going to be populated by transient "ships in the night" buddies and there's nothing wrong with that per se.

Just be willing to smile and equally willing to talk (but also be, warily, alert same time) and there's around 7 billion potential friends out there, just waiting to be found.

Short-time friends have the same advantage as other people's children. They are great fun but nice not to have to take home.

I dont agree with the "they can never be.,.." part. some of my very closet friends were guys i met in my 30's and 40's

Would they help you bury a body, no questions asked?

If so, I wouldn't tust them.

If not, I rest my case.

[AYJAYDEE]

I have one friend (in the UK) who would help me bury a body, no questions asked (the only real mark of a true friend) who I've known since we were 8 years of age (we're 55 now).

But I have thousands of "friends" and aquaintences I've met over the years.

Each and every time I go out I meet someone I like and who seems to like me, too.

I make friends very, very easily but keep each and every one at a friendly distance as I know they can never be the friend to me (nor I to them) as the friends we've each known and trusted for the best part of half a century.

No problem, either way. The life of an expat is always going to be populated by transient "ships in the night" buddies and there's nothing wrong with that per se.

Just be willing to smile and equally willing to talk (but also be, warily, alert same time) and there's around 7 billion potential friends out there, just waiting to be found.

Short-time friends have the same advantage as other people's children. They are great fun but nice not to have to take home.

I dont agree with the "they can never be.,.." part. some of my very closet friends were guys i met in my 30's and 40's

Would they help you bury a body, no questions asked?

If so, I wouldn't tust them.

If not, I rest my case.

i dont offer my friendship to felons and I wouldnt consider myself a good friend to anyone that I asked to commit a felony for my mistake.

Edited October 27, 2013 by AYJAYDEE

[Jib Teenuc]

I have one friend (in the UK) who would help me bury a body, no questions asked (the only real mark of a true friend) who I've known since we were 8 years of age (we're 55 now).

But I have thousands of "friends" and aquaintences I've met over the years.

Each and every time I go out I meet someone I like and who seems to like me, too.

I make friends very, very easily but keep each and every one at a friendly distance as I know they can never be the friend to me (nor I to them) as the friends we've each known and trusted for the best part of half a century.

No problem, either way. The life of an expat is always going to be populated by transient "ships in the night" buddies and there's nothing wrong with that per se.

Just be willing to smile and equally willing to talk (but also be, warily, alert same time) and there's around 7 billion potential friends out there, just waiting to be found.

Short-time friends have the same advantage as other people's children. They are great fun but nice not to have to take home.

I dont agree with the "they can never be.,.." part. some of my very closet friends were guys i met in my 30's and 40's

Would they help you bury a body, no questions asked?

If so, I wouldn't tust them.

If not, I rest my case.

i dont offer my friendship to felons and I wouldnt consider myself a good friend to anyone that I asked to commit a felony for my mistake.

The question is metaphorical, not anecdotal.

[AYJAYDEE]

then its meaningless.

[cavin]

It is a happy man who finds refuge in himself.

[AYJAYDEE]

It is a happy man who finds refuge in himself.

its a happy man who can find refuge in himself and be a refuge to others as well

[x0r1987]

they are few and far between... i must make more effort to see what few friends I still rate...

I have my gf and 2 GSD's... they keep me busy and in check

[andersonmatty]

NO! but I do like my own company, don't drink, which makes it difficult

[AYJAYDEE]

NO! but I do like my own company, don't drink, which makes it difficult

why do you feel you have to drink to have friends?

[impulse]

this must be a old fart problem..

Oh , can you please really explain what an old fart really is .What is your terminology , I am sure there are many "old farts" as you call them waiting with baited breath to hear your thoughts.

Old farts... you know.....well, maybe it's like porn, I can't define it, but I know when I see one.

Like I do every morning in the mirror.

But, like wine, some old farts get better with age. Other turn to vinegar.

[andersonmatty]

no! don't drink, which makes it diffcult

[AYJAYDEE]

no! don't drink, which makes it diffcult

i dont drink and dont find it difficult at all

[andersonmatty]

no! don't drink, becomes difficult

[AYJAYDEE]

no! don't drink, becomes difficult

i'm beginning to understand why youre having difficulty finding friends

[MILT]

None! and I plan to keep it that way.

[tartempion]

One of my two best friends got killed by a cobra two days ago.

I have one dog left now, sad times

[chrisinth]

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Yes, i do. This is 6 people who i know that would have my back at any given moment. 6 people who know where the bodies are buried.

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Boddies in the kitchen, Tennents under the stairs, you're a veritable Fred West. I'd have probably not mentioned that on a public forum

SC

Hmmm. That was stated as a figure of speech, not literally. But yes, I can see your concern..................