How much is enough for the wife's monthly allowance?

Thakkar · February 13, 2014

I would've thought that it's the mistress that needs a monthly allowance. The wife just spends whatever she sees fit of OUR money to keep things humming.

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GuyL · February 13, 2014

To put things in perspective, you should know that the monthly average income per person in Thailand amounts just a little bit over 12000 bahts (12163.15 THB in the fourth quarter of 2013 - source: National Statistical Office of Thailand: http://www.bot.or.th/English/Statistics/Standard/SDDS/Pages/sdds.aspx).

A significant number of Thai people, especially in the agricultural sector (farming, fishing, etc.), have a monthly income much lower than this, as low as (and sometimes lower than) 6000 THB monthly (their income is not always a salary, and they don't get paid the official minimal daily wage on an everyday basis).

stickylies · February 13, 2014

what wife? what monthly allowance? which joke? why bother ? good night!

tyler2208 · February 13, 2014

15k/month? Its depending of the individual situation and life-style, same-same bargirl or not!

For example, living in a rural Isaan village in the family home with no child?

Presume around 5,000/month will do

Living in rural Isaan village in the family home with a child?

More likely 8,000 to 10,000/month add some 4,000/month per child

Living alone away from family home in a rented place, study or no work?

Depending of rent and costs 15,000-20,000/month seems fair

Working and living away from home in a rented place?

Some benefits for extras 5,000/moth, more if child/children/support family

Contributing to family at home?

Depending of how much, but 3,000 to 5,000/month may be fair to add

When living a higher life-style, then at least double the amounts.

Many ifs, if dont know details.

Presume making a budget may help finding the right amount.

Before I could settle here I wanted my GF to learn/study (more) English and computor (Word, Excell etc.), and of course I needed to provide for that. We made a budget together or rather I did and she commented if she could live on it.

Posts to concern about can for example be:

Rent for home/room/bungalow etc. (fx 8,000/month)

Tuition fees; study iso working (fx. 7,000/month)

Daily allowance for food etc. (fx. 200/day = 6,000/month)

Extras like telephone card, clothes, and time out with friends etc. (fx. 2,000/month)

Transportation, motorbike rent + gasoline, public transport (fx. 3,000/month)

Child/children to support (fx. 4,000/month each child)

Family to support (fx. 3,000/month)

Together the posts can easily sum up to 30,000+/month

Only yourself or yourself and your GF together can judge if 15k seem fair.

I have two friends sending money to GF in village. The one sends 5k/month (two grown-up kids) ; the other sends 40k/month (1 child about 7yo) plus all the extras coming up all the time, like money for a new motorbike, money for a new house for mum, money a new car for her, money for two baht more gold presume next will be regular school fees for EP or International for a couple of kids

you know when you drive down the highway and pass a really bad crash/accident and think... thank god it didn't happen to us.

well that is exactly how i feel when i read posts like this one...

the funny thing is, these losers choose this way of life lol

siamjimi · February 13, 2014

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - if this man is living overseas and sending his wife money to maintain a lifestyle - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month and then double that for expenses and you have only 24,000.oo. I don’t belive there is need for 30,000.oo+ per month

That should keep her in a Thai lifestyle that is commensurate with being married to a farang.

I also agree with the mainstay requirement that ALL farang wives should be working and earning money to send home or pay for incidentals.

No longer should we be viewed as patsies opening our wallets to the wives to sit at home jobless and spend without regard.

She paid her rent and food and utilities and sent money home to her parents before you met her.

Now that she has a farang partner - you pay the rent and utilities and she has her entire paycheck to send home if she likes - but I bet she won't. If all farangs get this methodology into their heads and quit allowing their partners and their families and extended families to exploit them this would be a better place for all farangs - some balance would be restored.

All the double standards that exist with the division between farangs and Thais we should do everything within our powers to close that gap permanently

slipperylobster · February 13, 2014

The minimum wage in Thailand is 300 baht a day... 300x30 is 9000 baht per month. A lot of Thai's with families are earning only that so if you are sending her 15000 a month to sit on her backside she is doing very well thanks very much.. TELL HER TO GET A JOB....

Well, I guess being a wife is her job. So I pay her. Seriously, how is any man going to get & keep a woman if he doesn't have any money?? I've tried to spot some homeless guys with women but no luck yet..

You could ask your dad if he had to pay your mom to stay with him .

Hahaha....good one. Was your dad a farang and your mom a Thai?

You seem to be missing the main issue...which is, Thai ladies expect the farang to take better care of them. They want the farang, because of the low wages at their job and expect a bit more out of them than they would a Thai man. That is what its all about.

huh?

slipperylobster · February 13, 2014

15k/month? It’s depending of the individual situation and life-style, same-same bargirl or not…!

For example, living in a rural Isaan village in the family home with no child?

Presume around 5,000/month will do…

Living in rural Isaan village in the family home with a child?

More likely 8,000 to 10,000/month – add some 4,000/month per child…

Living alone away from family home in a rented place, study or no work?

Depending of rent and costs 15,000-20,000/month seems fair…

Working and living away from home in a rented place?

Some benefits for extras 5,000/moth, more if child/children/support family…

Contributing to family at home?

Depending of how much, but 3,000 to 5,000/month may be fair to add…

When living a higher life-style, then at least double the amounts.

Many “ifs”, if don’t know details.

Presume making a budget may help finding the right amount.

Before I could settle here I wanted my GF to learn/study (more) English and computor (Word, Excell etc.), and of course I needed to provide for that. We made a budget together – or rather I did and she commented if she could live on it.

Posts to concern about can for example be:

Rent for home/room/bungalow etc. (fx 8,000/month)

Tuition fees; study iso working (fx. 7,000/month)

Daily allowance for food etc. (fx. 200/day = 6,000/month)

Extras like telephone card, clothes, and time out with friends etc. (fx. 2,000/month)

Transportation, motorbike rent + gasoline, public transport (fx. 3,000/month)

Child/children to support (fx. 4,000/month each child)

Family to support (fx. 3,000/month)

Together the posts can easily sum up to 30,000+/month…

Only yourself – or yourself and your GF together – can judge if 15k seem fair.

I have two friends sending money to GF in village. The one sends 5k/month (two grown-up kids) ; the other sends 40k/month (1 child about 7yo) plus all the extras coming up all the time, like money for a new motorbike, money for a new house for mum, money a new car for her, money for two baht more gold – presume next will be regular school fees for EP or International for a couple of kids…

Would any farang want to live on 10,000 baht a month....with kids? This is ridiculous. That is just rent and utilities.

JesseFrank · February 13, 2014

The minimum wage in Thailand is 300 baht a day... 300x30 is 9000 baht per month. A lot of Thai's with families are earning only that so if you are sending her 15000 a month to sit on her backside she is doing very well thanks very much.. TELL HER TO GET A JOB....

Well, I guess being a wife is her job. So I pay her. Seriously, how is any man going to get & keep a woman if he doesn't have any money?? I've tried to spot some homeless guys with women but no luck yet..

You could ask your dad if he had to pay your mom to stay with him .

Hahaha....good one. Was your dad a farang and your mom a Thai?

You seem to be missing the main issue...which is, Thai ladies expect the farang to take better care of them. They want the farang, because of the low wages at their job and expect a bit more out of them than they would a Thai man. That is what its all about.

huh?

I wasn't aware of that . Guess I'm unlucky I wasn't born as a Thai then.

tyler2208 · February 13, 2014

To put things in perspective, you should know that the monthly average income per person in Thailand amounts just a little bit over 12000 bahts (12163.15 THB in the fourth quarter of 2013 - source: National Statistical Office of Thailand: http://www.bot.or.th/English/Statistics/Standard/SDDS/Pages/sdds.aspx).

A significant number of Thai people, especially in the agricultural sector (farming, fishing, etc.), have a monthly income much lower than this, as low as (and sometimes lower than) 6000 THB monthly (their income is not always a salary, and they don't get paid the official minimal daily wage on an everyday basis).

so what?

look at the cost of living in these area's...

there are plenty of people in the west who work minimum wage jobs which barely cover the cost of the monthly living expenses!

and alot of these people you refer to get given free land for agriculture, also pay no tax, many grow their own vegetables and have their own chickens.

and before bleeding heart types come along with the "try supporting a family on 6,000 baht a month" remarks

these poor people you are referring to were poor before they decided to have children, if they knew they were poor and would not be able to financially provide a good education and better way of life for their children, why have them?

sorry if it seems harsh, but in the west people often complain about people who can not afford to support themselves let alone children, deciding to have kids anyway and then try and get support from the state.

me and my wife both have our own jobs and work very hard, we talked about having children years ago, but decided not to for various reasons, but one of those reasons was financial reasons back then.

but these people who are earning below the minimum wage (according to you) decided to have children of their own free will, knowing they cant really afford to or provide a better future.

I personally would never dream of having a child (even if i wanted one) if i did not have the financial means to provide a solid education and good future for them.

For those who say "there is no pension here, so they have kids so they will take care of them in old age"

this train of thought is selfish and stupid.

just think if all these poor people didn't have kids but saved up the money each month that it would cost to feed, cloth and educated the children if they had them.... there is their pension right there!

for anyone who does not have enough money to raise and financially support a child or provide the child with a good education, to then expect that child to grow up to be anything but a rice farmer or equivalent is just stupid.

just go and look in all the seedy farang orientated bars here, where do you think all those girls come from?

bigbamboo · February 13, 2014

You could give according to your ability and according to her needs..... as Groucho Marx used to say.

tyler2208 · February 13, 2014

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand

Now now be sensible - if this man is living overseas and sending his wife money to maintain a lifestyle - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month and then double that for expenses and you have only 24,000.oo. I dont belive there is need for 30,000.oo+ per month

That should keep her in a Thai lifestyle that is commensurate with being married to a farang.

I also agree with the mainstay requirement that ALL farang wives should be working and earning money to send home or pay for incidentals.

No longer should we be viewed as patsies opening our wallets to the wives to sit at home jobless and spend without regard.

She paid her rent and food and utilities and sent money home to her parents before you met her.

Now that she has a farang partner - you pay the rent and utilities and she has her entire paycheck to send home if she likes - but I bet she won't. If all farangs get this methodology into their heads and quit allowing their partners and their families and extended families to exploit them this would be a better place for all farangs - some balance would be restored.

All the double standards that exist with the division between farangs and Thais we should do everything within our powers to close that gap permanently

agree 100% well said

HeavyDrinker · February 13, 2014

We allow my wife's niece 25K a month while she's at university up in Khon Kaen which includes digs, books, to run a scoot and a fun, comfortable lifestyle which is what university is all about in spite of what academics seem to think....

When we were deciding/debating this issue I thought 25K excessive for a young single lass not in BKK but better that, than she looking for alternative methods of funding her studies which is the wife's big (huge) fear. I also felt that by not having financial worries would allow her the peace of mind to really hit the books. If she gets bad grades then Uncle HD is going to have to put her across his knee and give her a spanking....

When the wife and I retire (not too far off) she will be the earner of the family (we hope) so will take up the reins of financial responsibility from us, her Uncle and my in-laws, all of who both recently retired so for us we see it as an investment albeit one for the good of the family.

Good luck with that. You seem overly optimistic about here earning power after she graduates university.

She has an internship lined up already in the UK related to her field thanks to her grandparents. Thankfully not all of us have hillbilly families here. You sound like a teacher I once knew who could never accentuate the positive as he was stuck with a hideous bar girl wife and a vile brat of a kid. Any positive comment made at tje table he would sneer, then start his whine..I still cringe when I think of his whinging' yeaaaaah,but this is Thailand. ."

namatjira · February 13, 2014

whats the problem, I met my wife in pattaya, lucky day for me we were both visiting and she was in the beer bar

only to help a friend who was sick...she never work the bar and is special...she says she was farang in past life

which is why she likes my buddha belly and bald head....we are married now and i have bought her a condo

in Jomtien and only pay her 100,000 baht a month for her expenses, she has a sick brother that she takes care of

and apparently he has an illness that can be contagious but she is immune...thats why I stay in another condo

while she takes care of her brother....man she has a heart of gold, family stick together over here....i understand

she is always busy and she takes care me 3 times a week...I do wish the brother would get better but I am told

no luck he is getting worse and maybe need more care and more money for him.....i do not mind all this because

she really loves me and I am her first true love...hope other people like me come to pattaya and find their real

love....i have found pardise

namatjira · February 13, 2014