Getting out of the bargirl / Isaan dating scene - feels great!

[sam sen]

if your young its proberly good for you to get out but if your old like me then this bar girl dating scene is the only option one has

Who are you fooling? Paid dates don't count.

'bar girl dating' interesting phrase. if you are paying someone to be with you is it a date?

[wym]

http://books.google.com/books?id=Wjwm-27trfMC&pg=PA72&lpg=PA72&dq=%22Hey+baby+you+want+a+date?%22&source=bl&ots=kLxCwQlSq-&sig=XN_aUkw8PhHWb6tu2_beGyW7YuI&hl=en&sa=X&ei=GBgAU7qbMYH70AHFnoHYAQ&ved=0CDoQ6AEwBg#v=onepage&q=%22Hey%20baby%20you%20want%20a%20date%3F%22&f=false

also:

http://www.usasexguide.info/forum/archive/index.php/t-3452-p-9.html

Ctrl-F search on "date" note the 41 instances and their meaning

Edited February 16, 2014 by wym

[brewsterbudgen]

"Dating" hookers? Isn't that an oxymoron?

Not at all. Many prostitutes have boyfriends or are trying to find boyfriends. They can keep their work separate.

[wym]

Problem then is you can't let her buy you dinner without people saying you're a pimp.

[trainman34014]

I don't know why it is that people always say 'It's always about money in Thailand and not as bad as this at home'. I had plenty of Women at home and was married to two of them and i can tell you they all want your money no matter where 'home' may be. Holy shit; if i counted all the money i'd spent on women 'at home' i'd die of shock. Thailand is no different from anywhere else...women cost money, loads of it.

Edited February 16, 2014 by trainman34014

[Stradavarius37]

Best and brightest of the western world on display in this thread...

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[wamberal]

if your young its proberly good for you to get out but if your old like me then this bar girl dating scene is the only option one has

My mission is to find an old Thai lady that's done the job on a few foreigner and built up a next egg so we can live in relative comfort without constant ATM withdrawl.

Nothing wrong with ATMs, old chap. Would you prefer to keep your money under the mattress?

[HeavyDrinker]

Move to Bangkok, go work in a Boiler room and become a "Player" (or Playa as the 'street vernacular spells it).

[NoshowJones]

I have lived here for 23 years, I came here when I was 35, that's the difference, I was a young guy, and I got along ok..

I would think most guys on ThaiVisa are old men, too old to adapt, am I right ?

Hey, guess what, that's why you can't get along, you are too old, just go back to your own home, be safe.

Thailand is not an Old peoples Home.

ThaiVisa forum might be though.

I don't care how old most Thaivisa members are. The help and advice I have received from them has been invaluable, so cut out this "go back to your own home nonsense".

[chrisinth]

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Good for the OP.

A lot of farangs go through a sort of "xxxxx fascination" phase when they first get here. This and what the OP euphemistically describes as "Isaan dating" are roads to nowhere.

Normal farangs grow out of it after a month or two.

It took me about 10 years...............

Ahh, you did say normal.....................

[Aceicol]

I think the OP was probably quite content with the bargirls in Thailand and now he has met a different girl and as fallen in love with her, hence him valuing her over all others, whilst the rest are out for one thing, but his perfect princess is different........

We've all fallen in love with people and wondered why everyone else didn't love this person like we do, but that is the beauty of life, we all like different things. I don't live in Thailand (sadly) but if I fell in love with a girl whatever her background as long as I/we was happy I wouldn't care less. The fact that I'd probably earn ten times more than the average Thai can earn probably means it would make sense for me to pay for everything.

As it is I live in the UK and sharing the costs of going out with a girl isn't a massive problem anyway as no one can afford to go out often due to the cost of everything. :-)

[jamhar]

Good luck to the OP.

My experience is that you most often find what you're looking for.

in the past he found it. in the future he will find it.

I'd like to see an update a year from now.

Regardless, best wishes to the OP and the rest of the guys out there.

PS, i'm in the mix with you dudes

[samba2014]

Bingo!

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[ianf]

Great post. Thanks for sharing and best wishes for your new normal

Yes a good post despite the criticism.

I married a girl who had a fistful of degrees, was not the typical 'beautiful' Thai, is a Civil Engineer, became a volunteer in a Buddhist temple UK, has a MBA, loved honesty - hated Isaan girls, spoke good English and some Chinese. Dressed well, Didn't do alcohol. I was set for life. But she was 100% worse than a bar girl hooker. She played the long game and was a cheat and liar. I have posted about her before and for the purposes of these posts she is known as 'Ami'. She now operates in Chiang Mai and Bangkok, and has been seen chatting in good restaurants around the city with farangs. Her slogan should be "More is not enough". A scammer if there ever was one. PM me if you want to be scammed by her!!!!!!

Nasty lying scumbag and a hi-so prossie. Give me a good honest bar girl any day!

[brd]

do you know what is the most expansive sex ?

the free one though good luck to you also in Isaan.

Thai Land belongs to the Thai and is an ideal place to play play play as they all play games even worse in Isaan

I learnt it the soft ways to my expenses personally.

Play...Play...Play !

[FiftyTwo]

Bar girls and schoolteachers..........

Why restrict yourself, have both, as often as possible.

[gerry123]

if your young its proberly good for you to get out but if your old like me then this bar girl dating scene is the only option one has

Totally incorrect about the only option take a little of the mindset of the OP and stretch those elderly wings

and look further afield unless of course you are happy with what you have i get the impression from your post not

[realenglish1]

I think the big question is "do you want a wife or girlfriend that is currently sleeping with many men" I think not

So give this guy a break He is realizing that there are nice girls in this world.

I have been with a nice girl now for 7 years and she never asks for money from me She is around because i treat her very well.

So stop making excuses for woman who sell CAT. They are what they are and that's the reality of it

[Somsrisonphimai]

Great post. Thanks for sharing and best wishes for your new normal

Yes a good post despite the criticism.

I married a girl who had a fistful of degrees, was not the typical 'beautiful' Thai, is a Civil Engineer, became a volunteer in a Buddhist temple UK, has a MBA, loved honesty - hated Isaan girls, spoke good English and some Chinese. Dressed well, Didn't do alcohol. I was set for life. But she was 100% worse than a bar girl hooker. She played the long game and was a cheat and liar. I have posted about her before and for the purposes of these posts she is known as 'Ami'. She now operates in Chiang Mai and Bangkok, and has been seen chatting in good restaurants around the city with farangs. Her slogan should be "More is not enough". A scammer if there ever was one. PM me if you want to be scammed by her!!!!!!

Nasty lying scumbag and a hi-so prossie. Give me a good honest bar girl any day!

Not all bar girl is bad, not all normal girl is good, it is your destiny that will steer you to who you will meet.

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[HardenedSoul]

The fact that I'd probably earn ten times more than the average Thai can earn probably means it would make sense for me to pay for everything.

As it is I live in the UK and sharing the costs of going out with a girl isn't a massive problem anyway as no one can afford to go out often due to the cost of everything. :-)

It never makes sense to pay for everything . . .

Only lambs to slaughter think like that.

Anyway, the OP sounds like he's made a good move but I suspect he's going to screw it up if his past behaviour is anything to go by.

Remember this is the guy who got annoyed because the locals told his ex bargirl GF that he'd brought a different hooker back to the home they shared together.

[abhaya]

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[macca3248]

I read your comments,i am not impressed !

These girls who work the bars , streets ect are mostly in survival mode so I would strongly advise you not to look down your nose at at them...

There is probably a minority that are in it for the money alone but most will be supporting elderly parents,children or other family members...

What did your school teacher friend do to support herself whilst going through university ???

[HardenedSoul]

So give this guy a break He is realizing that there are nice girls in this world.

What, you mean it took him 42 years to figure that out?

Edited February 16, 2014 by HardenedSoul

[djhotsox]

"Getting out of the bargirl dating scene - feels great!"

And so it should.......bargirls aren't meant for "dating"!

Nurses, teachers, flight attendants, (insert any female profession here) aren't meant to gyrate on poles half clad half soused and half heartedly interested!

Don't mix the two up!

(And then you don't have to give either up!)

[12DrinkMore]

Good for the OP.

A lot of farangs go through a sort of "xxxxx fascination" phase when they first get here. This and what the OP euphemistically describes as "Isaan dating" are roads to nowhere.

Normal farangs grow out of it after a month or two.

Oh dear, that puts me well in the class of abnormal....

[ppmacready]

if your young its proberly good for you to get out but if your old like me then this bar girl dating scene is the only option one has

Bar girls overall, have a higher libido!

However most girls share the same traits of Thainess.

Indolent, childish, arrogant, backward educationally, unfair and illogical by nurture.

[Bernard Flint]

sir

i await your next post about how bad white,Bangkok teachers are, u troll

[Somsrisonphimai]

if your young its proberly good for you to get out but if your old like me then this bar girl dating scene is the only option one has

Bar girls overall, have a higher libido!

However most girls share the same traits of Thainess.

Indolent, childish, arrogant, backward educationally, unfair and illogical by nurture.

And you cannot live without them, 555.

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[ebean001]

I am afraid there are way too many like you in Thailand. Of course you pay money. Do you think these girls get free food, room, and clothes. What are you - I got it - your totally ignorant. Tell me this - what good is a free, great, 5-star supper if you go home with no money. How do you think a poor woman thinks when you spend 5,000 bahts on a meal and she gets nothing. That 5,000 would pay a months rent with food money left over. It is probably more money than her parents make all month. You think your a hero for doing that? You are destroying her feeling. She should hate you for it - yep, a great meal but no money. forget it.

There are way too many men in Thailand that are simply ignorant. Yes, the girls want money - they want to eat. At you old job what would you have said if the boss took you to lunch and then said - free lunch no pay for the day.

[thhMan]

this post is completely nuts.

Where do you meet nice Thai girls... DOH... The same place you meet nice western girls... and thats not in sleazy places

Arent girls back home also looking for a caretaker? Or do you prefer she bring home the money too and make you do half the household chores, half the cooking etc... Thai women take care of their man and in return you take care back.... Did you miss that one?

You sound like a selfish want it all... nuff sed