What is Love to a Thai girl? How does she express it?

[Somsrisonphimai]

Saying I love you and being affectionate do not come naturally to most of them, but when they love you, you can be sure they will be loyal, honest, faithful, supportive and respect you.

When you say, "them" do you mean most Thai women?

I must admit, I picked up on that also, but in a slightly different way.

Somsrisonphimai ... you are a Thai woman, aren't you?

Strange way to speak of your sisters in the 3^rd person?

For real, really? What is the right word, Mr. David?

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[Carl64]

She puts the toilet seat up when she has finished.

Feels bad when my feet smell because she thinks it's her fault for not washing my shoes.

If my eyes wander when we are out, she feels it's her fault for not giving me enough sex. So more sex I get.

Try and get looked after like that in you home country!

[ravip]

Thai girls odnt love the falang it is hes money and only hes money - I dont understand why so many are so crazy after marry a thai woman - to say it frankly they are useless .

Looking at it in a different angle...

Thai girls odnt love the falang it is hes money and only hes money - SO, money is ONLY with farang?

I dont understand why so many are so crazy after marry a thai woman - SIMPLE!!! Where they come from they cannot find a S*** - obvious, isn't it? So many frustrated, ruined carcasses?

[thailiketoo]

When you say, "them" do you mean most Thai women?

Who do you think I referring to? Are you disagreeing?

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Since you have only been in Thailand for 6 months I would imagine it referred to women in a country you know better.

Or maybe you have been reading some Thai scientific studies you could mention here.

30 million women in Thailand! Seems it would take years and years to be able to make a generalization like, "love does not come naturally."

Are you trying to be silly? 6 six months in Thailand? I think you are mistaken me with someone else.

Where did I say love does not come naturally for Thai women? I said they don't say I love you likely and showing affection is not their naturally way of expressing their love for their man. Look around in Thailand, do you see a couple holding hand and kiss each other on the street? They show their man love by respect him, being honest and faithful to him and being supportive of him. If those expressions did not give you clue that she loves you, then I don't know what to say.

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Sorry I misinterpreted what you wrote. Now I get it. But I do see more and more young people being affectionate in public. Much more so than 40 years ago. About the 6 months I read one of your posts incorrectly I guess. Your avatar doesn't look Thai to me. My fault sorry.

[Scarpolo]

Thai girls odnt love the falang it is hes money and only hes money - I dont understand why so many are so crazy after marry a thai woman - to say it frankly they are useless .

you can not ask them about anything cause they dont know anything -even a masterdegree thai hardly knows where USA or Europe it

Thet are interested in Thailand only - brainwashed by a sick system with lack of intilligence.

Many seems to thing they wil be living in a dream paradise with their " thai family" - forget it. you are tolerated and accepted but never a part of their closed society.

I have meet ladys from otehr Asians neighbourhoods which hare much clever -

They are not interested if you cna speak 5 langueges fluently or the system in your country

The are interested in their own foods,their own sick soap operas TV movies-

they dont want to try your " falang food" they dont like it even they never tasted it

The listen to their own " music" - and to the monks which rip them of for money and they seem themselves as a kind of " upperclass " among other asian countries

forget it you wil never be able to have a thai after european style she has no respect for you but she will have respect for her thai husband whom are often a drunken violent perosn with monkey brain who dont want to work - but run around with other women ..

I wil never nver involved my self with a thai - then your worst nightmare will begin,

sorry if Io ffende any - but its the sad thruth ,,

Horribly wrong, but you are entitled to feel the way you do....

All I hear everywhere I go, is American music, sometimes horribly copied by a Thai, but most times, in every mall, I hear American music artists, the younger generation wearing mostly American fashions, jeezus, if I can count how many girls I have seen wearing shirts that say Brooklyn on them, and have no idea that Brooklyn is actually a place people live, and where many ex-pats actually come from,

my thai g/f has slowly been switching to beef, as I won't eat pork or any of the fish from the pacific anymore,

is trying to adjust to being with an american, which is apparently a lot different than the falange they are used to, (UK) (Australia)

and, all her music on her USB in her car, is mostly American or pop rock, sung by Americans,

on the occasions she has played thai music, it has been thai rock music, which to me, as a guitar player, all sounds great,

you may be too old, or too young to make an adjustment to a younger thai woman,

we can understand that, but not an attack on them as idiots,

when it comes to matters of the heart, I find them to be an advanced people....I have also met several male thai musicians, and have found it very easy to become friends, even though, we can barely converse

[Scarpolo]

Thai women are no different than any other woman. I was married to one for 37 years and we drifted apart and got divorced. I have two college educated bilingual daughters here in the Us and four young grandsons. I speak Thai fluently - for 40 years. Things that are wrong with Thai women are the same things that might bother you with women elsewhere. Treat them like the girl you loved in high school and you will have a lasting and fun time. Different language and culture, but they respond to manly courtesies just like women everywhere do....my opinion.

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More like junior high school,

but I agree with you, fully

[Somsrisonphimai]

When you say, "them" do you mean most Thai women?

Who do you think I referring to? Are you disagreeing?

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Since you have only been in Thailand for 6 months I would imagine it referred to women in a country you know better.

Or maybe you have been reading some Thai scientific studies you could mention here.

30 million women in Thailand! Seems it would take years and years to be able to make a generalization like, "love does not come naturally."

Are you trying to be silly? 6 six months in Thailand? I think you are mistaken me with someone else.

Where did I say love does not come naturally for Thai women? I said they don't say I love you likely and showing affection is not their naturally way of expressing their love for their man. Look around in Thailand, do you see a couple holding hand and kiss each other on the street? They show their man love by respect him, being honest and faithful to him and being supportive of him. If those expressions did not give you clue that she loves you, then I don't know what to say.

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Sorry I misinterpreted what you wrote. Now I get it. But I do see more and more young people being affectionate in public. Much more so than 40 years ago. About the 6 months I read one of your posts incorrectly I guess. Your avatar doesn't look Thai to me. My fault sorry.

Thank you. I jointed Thai Visa less than 4 months ago to improve my English skills and offer some Thai perspective. I used to be offended when people say bad thing about Thailand but now I can go with the trolls, 555. Sorry off the topic.

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[Campbellpip]

Ive been married to a lovely Thai lady for seven years now and during all that time Ive often wondered ,"Does she really love me"Its sometimes very hard to know but as some of the writers have said its the little things that tell you.Always going out of her way to make sure you have something to eat etc. I don't know if its just my wife or not but not too long after we were married it didn't seem like she wanted to be intimate much anymore. Certainly different from when we first met. Someone told me this is common with thai women. Im not sure though.Sometime seems that as long as you continue to give them what they want they will stay with you but sometimes you feel youd like a little more. Maybe Im just hard to please but there is always a nagging doubt in the back of your mind.

[Scarpolo]

If she is a bargirl read "Private Dancer."

If not, read "Thailand Fever."

Better yet, read both!

You know, thus far, I've gotten on fine without reading either selection.

Sort of worked it out for myself ... with a little help for the old-timers here^*

^* Said with respect to those who walked that road before me and put up the signposts.

I have received a wealth of knowledge in a very short amount of time from TV, and not just this thread.

I created this thread because I was questioning her commitment based on my own misunderstanding of how they show their feelings, which; many have agreed, they don't.

We have spoken about it and its the mothers indoctrination....the mother, VERY old school,

it will not change....she has even said, she has wanted to change, but it is too deeply ingrained, so, I will work "around it"

She has also admittted she has missed on relationships with men she liked, because she was "ashamed" to say anything, and neither did they, even though she knew the guy liked her, but because of her upbringing, the guy never knew she liked him back, and thus, the guy thought she didnt like him......really, this is all junior high school, except, at least in jr high, or high school, the girl would put someone up as the pilot to float the trail balloon,

they must not have that in the subtitles here, which is the only place they learn about "our" culture, which they want to model on the outside,

but can't understand us on the inside,

heck, we don't even understand ourselves,

[Scarpolo]

Mine expresses her love for me by putting up with me.

I wouldn't put up with me and often wonder why she does.

I can only be love.

Are you sure it's not all about the money?

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Probably...can you lend us a tenner while payday?

I am sorry, I don't think I can. I have to get my hair done, my nails done, my shopping done, and I have my mommy, daddy, grandma, siss and bros back home waiting for me to send them money, luckily I don't have kids but I do have a long list relatives also asking for money. I think you need to give me money.

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if that is truly your picture,

I am 100% certain,

your honesty about your needs whilst bring about you,

many the the man of "his" dreams ;-)

Yes, honestly it is me, why are people giving me a hard time about my avatar or my nationality? It is starting to bug me now, really.

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I only said something becuase it is a picture of cute girl,

and there are some men here, with avatars of females, and they are clearly not.

I am happy you have joined in, and hope you are treated with respect here

[drb]

If you don't know then she don't love you come on man get a grip

[leosuntime]

I talk to one thai girl non stop all day and all night, we some time fight and I try to ignore her for a day but we are soon chatting like nothing happened

i sometime try to get her to love me and sweet talk her but she wont bite lol

i don't know about love, sure its great until u bang her blow ur load and lose the urge to REALLY show your love untill a few days later

but not many ppl here talk about awesome friend ship

any comments on this

[thailiketoo]

I talk to one thai girl non stop all day and all night, we some time fight and I try to ignore her for a day but we are soon chatting like nothing happened

i sometime try to get her to love me and sweet talk her but she wont bite lol

i don't know about love, sure its great until u bang her blow ur load and lose the urge to REALLY show your love untill a few days later

but not many ppl here talk about awesome friend ship

any comments on this

Many men confuse on line relationships with real relationships. I used to feel sorry for a lady who did dances for her husband when he was off shore (all the boys on the boat were watching) till one night I found out she was not alone when she was dancing but the other guys were out of the cam viewing area.

[irishsmile]

How does she express it?

When I go to the Bathroom, she's already put the toothpaste on my brush.

I'm laughing here cos my wife does exactly the same thing!

SAME WIFE?? Lol

[puipuitom]

I came once in financial difficulties ( around 1997, before the Baht crises ) .

She wanted to give me her entire life savings of 142,000 THB to overcome it.

I did not need and did not want, but.. THAT is the opposite of what I hear so often of Thai women.

[hellodolly]

I pity some of the cynics on this thread...

I think most of them are so concerned with them selves that they don't have the time to see love for them from others. I have nothing against hookers and many of them turn out to be good wife's. But the places they have to work are not exactly full of possibly good wife's and not the place I would go to find one.

You take your chance and many have hit gold. But it would seem far more regret the decision made in those places.. Also I personally think Love is commitment. If a Thai lady sees that in you she is apt to take it as love.

If it is not reciprical you have the wrong women. \

Judging from a few of the posts it is the man who is using the women. Not the other way around.

[Donnie Brasco]

After you've downloaded and subtitled (in English) House of Cards Season One she gang-watches it with you, then discusses its plot twists with you and pesters you to finish subtitling Season Two so she can watch that.

While she's watching this thing she stops any phrasing that she doesn't understand and asks you to translate it.

She communicates.

She knits you a stunning cable-knit pullover for your trip back to the Old Country. She learns how to make a cracking good del Monaco style Caesar salad. She learns the names of various wines and suggests them with the right food when you're out. She teaches the kid to maintain a lady's decorum right up until the closing play in the courtship.

She only WAIS you or anybody else when it's appropriate and when she means it.

And once in a while, in the bedroom she'll shock the hell out of you in the bedroom with something she says she's never done before but has always wanted to try.

She develops a taste for cheese because you agree that like the anchovies in a Caesar, som tam without pla ra to pull everything together is just vanilla.

She saves money.

She holds your values in some elevated regard and respects you for having them.

And when you do the same she knows what you are doing.

She raises the kid to be proud of herself, to respect herself and to chose her friends wisely.

"Sometimes, 'fuggedabowdit' just means fuggedabowdit."

[4u2mad]

She leaves twenty baht in my wallet

[HooHaa]

Love. You still believe in that fairytale? The more I see these type of questions asked the more I believe that men have become vaginized. Yes. TBS. Tiny Ball Syndrome. Other than for some physical release in the shortest amount of time possible, why are you guys trying to figure out the mind of a female?

I call these type of men the WKOP. The White Knights of Poon. Always trying to come to the rescue of some woman who is exploiting them.

If you want to live her life and throw yours away to keep her happy, by all means, fall in love. If you want the Big Balls lifestyle of freedom and the ability to do whatever you want, then remove ballads, broads and bullshit from your life.

Keep women as fun sexual escapes. No love. No marriage. Have fun. Stop trying to analyze women. Enjoy them for their bodies. The rest let that be AMP. Another Mans Problem.

Turok, Dioosaur Hunter

you really are a one-trick pony.

I would like to believe that all your posturing is simply mysogyny, but i suspect it goes MUCH deeper than that.

Big Balls Lifestyle indeed.

you are belbina with anger instead of self pity.

I find neither appealing

Edited February 22, 2014 by HooHaa

[Ayemanomad]

Saying I love you and being affectionate do not come naturally to most of them, but when they love you, you can be sure they will be loyal, honest, faithful, supportive and respect you.

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Not true. My last Thai girlfriend told me she loved me, yet she was NOT loyal, honest, faithful or supportive at all. That's why I left her and took away my financial support.

[piersbeckett]

I maintain that generally Thai women prefer Thai men; farangs are a career choice & some mixed couples try harder than others to make it work as a relationship but 'at the end of the day' (comes the night & we all go home) the insular nature of Thai society prevails - they (the Thais) don't as a rule live in an 'international' world like what we westerners do!

Apart from that you don't have to be homosexual to see that most Thai guys, aside from being Thai, like the girls, i.e finding the same things funny, having been brought up in a similar way (socialisation), have got great looking bodies!

So wisen-up chappies, get a grip, see it as it is - It took me a very long time!

[piersbeckett]

I maintain that generally Thai women prefer Thai men; farangs are a career choice & some mixed couples try harder than others to make it work as a relationship but 'at the end of the day' (comes the night & we all go home) the insular nature of Thai society prevails - they (the Thais) don't as a rule live in an 'international' world like what we westerners do!

Apart from that you don't have to be homosexual to see that most Thai guys, aside from being Thai, like the girls, i.e finding the same things funny, having been brought up in a similar way (socialisation), have got great looking bodies!

So wisen-up chappies, get a grip, see it as it is - It took me a very long time!

[55Jay]

After you've downloaded and subtitled (in English) House of Cards Season One she gang-watches it with you, then discusses its plot twists with you and pesters you to finish subtitling Season Two so she can watch that.

While she's watching this thing she stops any phrasing that she doesn't understand and asks you to translate it.

She communicates.

She knits you a stunning cable-knit pullover for your trip back to the Old Country. She learns how to make a cracking good del Monaco style Caesar salad. She learns the names of various wines and suggests them with the right food when you're out. She teaches the kid to maintain a lady's decorum right up until the closing play in the courtship.

She only WAIS you or anybody else when it's appropriate and when she means it.

And once in a while, in the bedroom she'll shock the hell out of you in the bedroom with something she says she's never done before but has always wanted to try.

She develops a taste for cheese because you agree that like the anchovies in a Caesar, som tam without pla ra to pull everything together is just vanilla.

She saves money.

She holds your values in some elevated regard and respects you for having them.

And when you do the same she knows what you are doing.

She raises the kid to be proud of herself, to respect herself and to chose her friends wisely.

"Sometimes, 'fuggedabowdit' just means fuggedabowdit."

And by the end of Season 2 with all the pausing and pestering, we would end up looking like your avatar photo.

Just kidding, I get what you mean in your post.

[gigman]

If I may help here to answer first question about Thai woman love.

My experience with my g/f was exactly as I read other experienced and open minded guys articles somewhere else.

Patience , patience, patience...

As about our money..???? I must say I do not have one... really.

My age is 61 and g/f 37 ...

She has own hairdresser business and comes from very poor family... very poor.

I am her first farang who was very hard to trust after she learned from society what we are doing in Thailand...

I forgot....She found me... on Thailovelinks.com and not me...

I tried to invite her to my country for vacation and she refused and does not want to talk about it. She just love own country and job she is doing.

I was so impatient and trying to break up with her 4 times even before I met her personally but always I had to change my mind when she start to cry.... ( now I just learned why I should not be angry on her .. simply I did not understand many things in her culture )

I am not the soft type of guy ok. I lost everything after 2 marriages with 2 western woman...just imagine how am I sensitive on bull...t.

To make long story short ... I showed her my true intentions and acted exactly same way as to western woman ....and guess what now ?

She is no different then western woman..with a little difference that it took me long time to hear from her words "I love you and missed you"

Decent Thai woman does not say those words very openly even if she show it other way. But it happened finally and she is showing it on daily bases same as western woman.

Yes, yes , yes Thai girl need love and she is not a different to western woman at all except she knows you soon will be sick and old not having much money at all . Ask yourself if western woman would do the same????

In fact Thai woman does not get it from Thai man that much we are western man used to express it to our woman and to them... they just love it.

When Thai girl/woman finally trust you, she will be with you to your last days ....if you western spoiled man do not <deleted>..k up OK.

To finalize it ;

I can only say this... My Thai princess is with me everyday on internet based programs including viber a 3 -4 times a day worrying about everything wrong could happened to me when I am overseas or even in Thailand.

In my 60's I would never expect so much love from much younger woman not to mention I am her 2 b/f in her life .(first changed his gender hehe)

Hey guy ..she knows that I am broke...and even if I propose her little help with our green money she feel offended..(She is very proud woman and.I must be very careful now to try to "help"with my little money)

If I could show you her photos you probably could not believe me one word I wrote...heheh. she is just so beautiful that I am just feelings lucky old fart.

Guys I gave her my last best feelings and she is paying back with even more now.

That's the life.

To be honest !!!!!! why we are looking for woman in different country to ours ????

Don't try to tell me that they after our money ....

DO NOT FORGET WHAT WHITE WOMAN DID TO YOU FOR THE SAME MONEY EVEN YOU DID ALL BEST YOU COULD TO MAKE HER HAPPY>

Never forget what kind of image we printed about our western nature in Thailand

Hence do not expect miracles and if any happens to you be happy.

[wym]

"most of us just can't handle monogamy" - Do you have research to support this claim?

I'm 51 years old and have never cheated on a girlfriend.

Those aren't the only two options - it isn't cheating if you both agree in advance.

Overall, of the 1,231 cultures in the Ethnographic Atlas Codebook, 84.6 percent are classified as polygynous, 15.1 percent as monogamous, and 0.3 percent as polyandrous.

http://www.alternet.org/story/155904/why_is_monogamy_idealized_when_most_people_aren't_monogamous

http://www.livescience.com/32146-are-humans-meant-to-be-monogamous.html

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/darwin-eternity/201108/are-people-naturally-polygamous-0

http://blog.seattlepi.com/theethicist/2011/02/01/polygamy-is-more-ethical-than-monogamy-its-now-science/

[55Jay]

Love. You still believe in that fairytale? The more I see these type of questions asked the more I believe that men have become vaginized. Yes. TBS. Tiny Ball Syndrome. Other than for some physical release in the shortest amount of time possible, why are you guys trying to figure out the mind of a female?

I call these type of men the WKOP. The White Knights of Poon. Always trying to come to the rescue of some woman who is exploiting them.

If you want to live her life and throw yours away to keep her happy, by all means, fall in love. If you want the Big Balls lifestyle of freedom and the ability to do whatever you want, then remove ballads, broads and bullshit from your life.

Keep women as fun sexual escapes. No love. No marriage. Have fun. Stop trying to analyze women. Enjoy them for their bodies. The rest let that be AMP. Another Mans Problem.

Turok, Dioosaur Hunter

Sounds like there's a great story behind this one.

Most guys, even if they've been through life's rinse and spin cycle a few times, 'round 60 something years old, start looking to slow down again and get a lady for "take care". Just depends on when they get their second wind in life. Some may lose their wives for whatever reason and not make it here until their 60's, knock around a bit, but eventually, that shi_te gets old.

[HooHaa]

"most of us just can't handle monogamy" - Do you have research to support this claim?

I'm 51 years old and have never cheated on a girlfriend.

yes, that is called serial monogamy.

your choice of the term girl friend suggests you have never married.

sugar coat it all you want but you have had multiple partners just the same.

[dotpoom]

When I go for a drive she tells me to "take care"..........is that love?

[delh]

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Not really sure what the OP wants here. Could be vastly different actions by the same woman to different men. From my gf, it's " I good wife"
And I get my underwear ironed. Still haven't figured that one out.

I finally convinced my wife to quit doing that. It took years. She did stop putting the toothpaste on my brush much earlier though w/o my asking.

I hope its not going into your undies instead?

[delh]

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I made the missus a nice cup of tea and gave her a huge hug and all is fine now....that is love for you until she sees the state of me undies after I followed through last night but now I'm past 40 it does seem dry farts are but a distant memory....

Do you buy undies by the case ? ( I nearly added 'load' after 'case' but thought better of it)

Edited February 22, 2014 by delh