My Thai Girl keeps Asking for Money.

[benj005]

I met my Thai girlfriend online while I was teaching in South Korea. This was over a year ago. Throughout the year we've met a few times while I was vacationing in Thailand. If I added up the days we have been together it would total to 1 month. 1 week vacation in summer, 1 week vacation in winter, and 2 weeks after my contract ended in South Korea.

A little about her: She is 35 years old. No children and has never been married. She's attractive as well. She doesn't have a college education, and is a hard worker. She works as a secretary for a sporting company. Sadly, she doesn't make much money.

The thing is I don't know if I gave her the correct answer. She wants me to pay for her apartment which will total $250 usd a month. I'm going back to South Korea to teach in August. She wants me to get a place for both of us mid-June. I would stay with her and then when I left for Korea I will still pay the rent while I was working in Korea. She would live in the apartment.

She keeps telling me that she is in debt. She needs help and I'm her boyfriend so I should help her. I don't like the arrangement and I flat out told her no. She got mad and told me that I'm a selfish person. We communicate thru Line and I haven't heard from her since last night. I guess she's still mad at me.

I know that I'm going to get a lot of mixed responses. I'm trying to get an idea on what other falang/Thai relationships are about. Is it all about the money? How is your relationship with your Thai girlfriend? I'm the boyfriend so should I help my girl out, and should I stop being a tight wad. What about the negatives Is this girl trying to use me? Should I be wary?

So many mixed emotions.

Edited May 21, 2014 by benj005

[NeverSure]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Edited May 21, 2014 by NeverSure

[benj005]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Lol, yea she does get angry easy.

She told me "If no help. why should I keep you around?"

I haven't heard from her since last night.

[NeverSure]

Gee, the last woman I knew who would only keep me around for money was called a Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai hooker.

[Skint]

She's already onto the next mug, stick to the Korean burds.

[Pralaad]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Lol, yea she does get angry easy.

She told me "If no help. why should I keep you around?"

I haven't heard from her since last night.

I believe you have answered your own question.

Thai females do expect some financial support from men.

Amounts vary on backgrounds and up bringing.

$250 is not a an outrages amount but I am afraid this will not be all.

Then there will bills and more help needed .

The truth is you do not know her and being player is very common here, especially on dating sites.

Do not worry she will not run away, they do not give up so easy until they got something out of you

[Foxter]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Lol, yea she does get angry easy.

She told me "If no help. why should I keep you around?"

I haven't heard from her since last night.

Emotional blackmail

If she likes you , for you , money does not matter , seems she only cares about money, don't pay for flat , she goes .

So she looks for another source of money

Leave her , find someone you deserve and wants you not your money .

Good luck

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[Tywais]

I'm moving this out of the Ladies forum as it does not fall into the pinned guidelines.

This section of ThaiVisa.com is dedicated to women living in/travelling to or interested in Thailand.

All posters male or female are welcome to post here but this section is predominately for women and the prime concern is that women feel it is a safe and comfortable place to post.

[wooloomooloo]

If you care for someone and trust them, then a little outlay for comfortable surroundings isn't a great deal to ask. I wouldn't have my wife slumming it. She looks after me, I look after her.

You've only to decide whether she's worth the outlay.

[Donnie Brasco]

I met my Thai girlfriend online while I was teaching in South Korea. This was over a year ago. Throughout the year we've met a few times while I was vacationing in Thailand. If I added up the days we have been together it would total to 1 month. 1 week vacation in summer, 1 week vacation in winter, and 2 weeks after my contract ended in South Korea.

A little about her: She is 35 years old. No children and has never been married. She's attractive as well. She doesn't have a college education, and is a hard worker. She works as a secretary for a sporting company. Sadly, she doesn't make much money.

The thing is I don't know if I gave her the correct answer. She wants me to pay for her apartment which will total $250 usd a month. I'm going back to South Korea to teach in August. She wants me to get a place for both of us mid-June. I would stay with her and then when I left for Korea I will still pay the rent while I was working in Korea. She would live in the apartment.

She keeps telling me that she is in debt. She needs help and I'm her boyfriend so I should help her. I don't like the arrangement and I flat out told her no. She got mad and told me that I'm a selfish person. We communicate thru Line and I haven't heard from her since last night. I guess she's still mad at me.

I know that I'm going to get a lot of mixed responses. I'm trying to get an idea on what other falang/Thai relationships are about. Is it all about the money? How is your relationship with your Thai girlfriend? I'm the boyfriend so should I help my girl out, and should I stop being a tight wad. What about the negatives Is this girl trying to use me? Should I be wary?

So many mixed emotions.

Boot

"Sometimes, 'fuggedabowdit' just means fuggedabowdit. . . . "

[Warhammer820]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Lol, yea she does get angry easy.

She told me "If no help. why should I keep you around?"

I haven't heard from her since last night.

[wooloomooloo]

What is the point of your post, Warhammer, if you only copy replies and offer nothing further.

[Warhammer820]

You are not her butler. Just with that quote that you told us, I would have cut her ass loose right then and there. My wife and I dated for 4 years before we got married and I sent her $0 throughout the relationship. Granted, she was with me 4 months each year in America, she worked when she came here and still didn't ask for a penny. When she went back to Thailand she supported herself. Now that we're married, I'm glad I never faced this kind of problem. But Just like Scott Mallon told you on youtube......NO!!!!! Find another girl who is not using you as a cash cow. The fact that she asked you for a 1,000,000 baht sinsod is laughable. SHE DOESN'T HAVE A COLLEGE DEGREE AND SHE'S MOST LIKELY NOT A VIRGIN. the only sinsod her mother should be allowed to keep is wedding costs, but you shouldn't marry her anyway. If you decide to make the wrong choice and marry her plus open up a coffee shop for her, make sure the sinsod is unsigned traveler's checks to keep the mother from taking them.

[Warhammer820]

What is the point of your post, Warhammer, if you only copy replies and offer nothing further.

I messed up the quote, sorry.

[Scarpolo]

This guy needs a porn channel at home to keep him busy.

He also wrote to Scott, the American in Bangkok, who wiped him clean off his windscreen in his reply.

What this guy doesnt understand is,

he is nothing to her, only what he can do for her.

but with all the reaching out he is doing,

he has probably already been sending her money, and wants us to help him justify his insanity.

ps.

hookers in american would cost less than what this girl is about to fleece him for,

and make no mistake,

he is the sheep and she is holding the sheers

[Thaiberius]

I'm pretty sure you won't but just get rid. The requests for money will only increase and you will be dragged further and furher into the cobweb. Get out while you can.

[neverdie]

Farang = ATM.

In these situations, one should always use the message from ones big head, before allowing the smaller head to change priorities.

Unless of course, you've got plenty of $$$$$ & just want to splash out, in which case, go for it.

Edited May 21, 2014 by neverdie

[benj005]

This guy needs a porn channel at home to keep him busy.

He also wrote to Scott, the American in Bangkok, who wiped him clean off his windscreen in his reply.

What this guy doesnt understand is,

he is nothing to her, only what he can do for her.

but with all the reaching out he is doing,

he has probably already been sending her money, and wants us to help him justify his insanity.

ps.

hookers in american would cost less than what this girl is about to fleece him for,

and make no mistake,

he is the sheep and she is holding the sheers

First, I don't need a porn channel.

Second, so hat if I asked Scott. He gave me good advice. I wanted to get a few other opinions on this matter. This is why I posted my dilema here.

Third, I have only sent my gf $400 total. That's it. I haven't been sending her money home on a weekly basis.

Fourth, I haven't been fleeced yet. I don't plan to be used.

Thanks for playing.

[wprime]

One should support their partner if needed but your girl sounds like she's just looking for a man to fix her financial problems.

She got angry and called you selfish for not giving enough? Thai girls are generally not confident enough to be so daring unless they have the security of other men to fall back on. She more than likely has other men sending money too.

Get rid of her, there are plenty more girls available who aren't in desperate need of money.

[Scarpolo]

This guy needs a porn channel at home to keep him busy.

He also wrote to Scott, the American in Bangkok, who wiped him clean off his windscreen in his reply.

What this guy doesnt understand is,

he is nothing to her, only what he can do for her.

but with all the reaching out he is doing,

he has probably already been sending her money, and wants us to help him justify his insanity.

ps.

hookers in american would cost less than what this girl is about to fleece him for,

and make no mistake,

he is the sheep and she is holding the sheers

First, I don't need a porn channel.

Second, so hat if I asked Scott. He gave me good advice. I wanted to get a few other opinions on this matter. This is why I posted my dilema here.

Third, I have only sent my gf $400 total. That's it. I haven't been sending her money home on a weekly basis.

Fourth, I haven't been fleeced yet. I don't plan to be used.

Thanks for playing.

wrong

you have been fleeced,

she is not your girlfriend

[Scarpolo]

by the way,

I don't recall if you had lied to the group or not, whether you had sent her money, or were considering it,

if you didn't conceal this to "save face" then, it is just that I didnt fully read all your nonsense,

I do recall that there was another thread where TV posters gave you considerable time and input,

all of which you have ignored, and will continue to ignore.

that she is already displaying some level of psychotic and controlling behaviour is apparently lost on you,

but it isn't to anyone here.

Scott gave you good advice,

but if you need it to be sang into your head,

try my friend Rich Glauber,

play this a few times, for it to hit home, homey

Edited May 21, 2014 by Scarpolo

[kjhbigv]

Hold on.... you met her over a year ago and have met her a few times (a month) in total and you call her your girlfriend?

Listen to what you are saying.!

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[ttthailand]

You are what they call a sponsor. You are not her boyfriend.

Sorry !

[kurnell]

How do all you blokes so easily find women online? When I contact women, the talks go ok, then when I send my photo they suddenly go quiet??

[Scarpolo]

How do all you blokes so easily find women online? When I contact women, the talks go ok, then when I send my photo they suddenly go quiet??

kurnell,

how do you expect to get any reply at all, without a few pictures already on your profile page?

many, and I mean many of the girls I have met online have had mutliple pictures telling their story,

you cannot allow them to wander off thniking you look like George Clooney, or Richard Gere and then turn up looking like this guy:

[atpeace]

An attractive 35 yo without kids, a real job. and dates Farangs is a rarity.Throw in that she promotes herself on an online dating service and you are not residing Thailand.

Do you realize on how many levels this could bring a world of hurt into your life? The only possibility of this type of relationship even having a remote chance is if you "both" fell madly in love from the get go. The only emails she would be sending you in this case would be pleading for you to catch a quick flight to Thailand. In your case, you seemed to have skipped the honeymoon phase and went right to the what is in it for ME.

Would guess your woman is a nice catch but you aren't the one that is going to win her heart considering where you live and what you have written. Good luck and try not to let it bring you down.

[Somtamnication]

After the rent pay of $250, the brother gets into an accident and is in the hospital. Her mother fell down and broke her hip, her motocy is broken and needs first class brakes, her other "brother" wink wink crashed the car and needs money for car AND hospital bills.

See, the bills get bigger and bigger as this "relationship" moves along. RUN, teacher, RUN!!

[daveAustin]

Op, that little niggle/doubt/alarm bell going off in your head should be heeded. Do not ignore it for it can save you a lot of bother. It is not right and you know it. Walk, my friend.

I hear they're a bit snotty but would consider a Korean chic all the same if I were working there.

Good luck.

[F4UCorsair]

My Canadian British American Australian French Italian Spanish Norwegian Dutch Swedish Japanese Chinese Thai girlfriend wants me to pay for everything.

On the other hand, I want a super rich girlfriend who owns a Lear Jet and wants to pay for everything.

Men and women will never understand each other.

PS Don't fall for it. She could have 6 other guys around the world, all paying for her apartment. Her anger should run you off.

Lol, yea she does get angry easy.

She told me "If no help. why should I keep you around?"

I haven't heard from her since last night.

It's not a matter of her not keeping you around; you shouldn't be sticking around.

How has she survived until; now without your financial input? As another poster suggested, with input from other guys, which is probably ongoing.

Get rid of her if she hasn't already fired you as her lover/sponsor.

Somtamnication said,

After the rent pay of $250, the brother gets into an accident and is in the hospital. Her mother fell down and broke her hip, her motocy is broken and needs first class brakes, her other "brother" wink wink crashed the car and needs money for car AND hospital bills.

See, the bills get bigger and bigger as this "relationship" moves along. RUN, teacher, RUN!!

He got it right, and it's a little like lending money and the borrower asks for more. Do you give more or do you insist on him paying the first lot back? Do you let him get further in or write off the fist loan?

You're being played for a sucker. DO NOT FALL FOR IT!!!

Edited May 22, 2014 by F4UCorsair

[Scarpolo]

you guys all realize that it is already too late,

this is now all about "face"

he will be "shamed" if he admits he is wrong,

he has been infected by "thainess"

and I gurantee you,

she is ugly

how do I know this without seeing her?

easy,

very pretty girls, "NEVER" have to ask

Edited May 22, 2014 by Scarpolo