Thais relationships with relatives

[Dimpys Dad]

I recently found a room receipt from a Bangkok hotel among some papers with my wife's name and the name of one of her nephews (son of brother of deceased husband). I was out of country at the time. He is 23 years old, she is 46. She has often gotten him to drive her when she has to go to Bangkok. She has said before that Thai family members sleep together when necessary, no problem...as in children, brothers, sisters, etc. This seems more than that to me. Is there anything to this? Any familiar experiences out there?

[CharlieH]

Never seen a receipt or other with more than one name, that being the name of the person who booked the room.

[Dimpys Dad]

Never seen a receipt or other with more than one name, that being the name of the person who booked the room.

Receipt said: Mr./Mrs. (her name) / (his name). Seems out of order to me on its face.

[CharlieH]

Either you trust her or you dont, it seems you dont or you wouldnt be asking the question to start with.

If you dont trust her then the relationship is all but over anyway, without trust you have nothing.

Sounds harsh but thats my opinion.

[Dimpys Dad]

Either you trust her or you dont, it seems you dont or you wouldnt be asking the question to start with.

If you dont trust her then the relationship is all but over anyway, without trust you have nothing.

Sounds harsh but thats my opinion.

You have a good point. This seemed so odd, i.e. hotel rooming with a nephew, that I wanted to get outside perspective before I jumped to any conclusions. Not everything is always as it seems is all.

[zeichen]

I think that you have a winner. I always find it normal when older women share rooms with younger male non relatives. Hopefully you don't pick up something you cannot put back down.

[NancyL]

Hmm.....

This is one of those "don't ask, don't tell" questions, no matter what the culture or nationality.

[nottocus]

So the "nephew" is the new "brother".

[Seastallion]

"She has often gotten him to drive her when she has to go to Bangkok."

Is there a problem with him driving her places?

Should she fork out for a separate room?

Would a 23 year old settle for a 46 year old aunt?

It all could be quite innocent.

But....

If she is being the old cougar, just think at least she's getting fresh young meat and enjoying it. Rather that, than the thought of some old geezer pawing her, huffing, puffing and heaving on top.

[krisb]

Never seen a receipt or other with more than one name, that being the name of the person who booked the room.

True that bit seems odd. Usually just the name of the person who booked and paid.

Could possibly be they shared the same room, maybe they had to stay in Bkk for the night for whatever reason, doesn't mean they had sex. I hope so for the op's sake anyway.

[buhi]

I object to "Thais relations to relatives,"!

Why Thai?

Thai families are very close and as such any relationship outside the norm is taboo. As in most cultures.

Ask, but do not ask on Thai Visa, what is wrong with you?

[Gsxrnz]

Communal sleeping and living in Thailand is bog standard for relations. There aren't too many Thai style one roomed apartments that have four bedrooms.

When staying in hotels, a non Hi-So Thai would think it a total absurdity and a waste of money to rent a second room for her nephew or cousin.

[buhi]

Communal sleeping and living in Thailand is bog standard for relations. There aren't too many Thai style one roomed apartments that have four bedrooms.

When staying in hotels, a non Hi-So Thai would think it a total absurdity and a waste of money to rent a second room for her nephew or cousin.

100% agree, I have shared hotel rooms with all my Thai family, wife, son, step son, mother in law, father in law , wife's sisters and brothers; ok two rooms, but who slept where was not a consideration!

[Dimpys Dad]

I wasn't trying to imply anything about Thais and only wanted understanding. Apologies if anyone thinks so. From several replies I believe it is an innocent thing based on culture...saving money is important, family is extended and close, and economy of time and effort is always practiced. That all makes sense to me. Thanks for your replies.

[Thakkar]

You can only deal with a problem once you've defined it.

The problem here isn't what your wife did or didn't do. The problem is that you don't trust her.

T

[Ricardo]

Never seen a receipt or other with more than one name, that being the name of the person who booked the room.

Receipt said: Mr./Mrs. (her name) / (his name). Seems out of order to me on its face.

I've known that too, when I wanted my wife to be able to sign for anything, like room-service, then they took both signatures & put the room in both names.

As to sharing rooms, we often have family-kids join our own for a sleepover at the hotel, when we visit down-South. They all just cram-in together !

It seems quite normal, perhaps more-so than in the UK, to share rooms with family, and if her nephew had driven her then this might be perfectly innocent.

[arthurwait]

Roi Et ?

Hello Kerry.

[mrtoad]

Oh dear, think the OP's Wife might have been playing Family Fortunes

[pigeonjake]

Communal sleeping and living in Thailand is bog standard for relations. There aren't too many Thai style one roomed apartments that have four bedrooms.

When staying in hotels, a non Hi-So Thai would think it a total absurdity and a waste of money to rent a second room for her nephew or cousin.

100% agree, I have shared hotel rooms with all my Thai family, wife, son, step son, mother in law, father in law , wife's sisters and brothers; ok two rooms, but who slept where was not a consideration!

must of been a big room bloody nora,,

[buhi]

Communal sleeping and living in Thailand is bog standard for relations. There aren't too many Thai style one roomed apartments that have four bedrooms.

When staying in hotels, a non Hi-So Thai would think it a total absurdity and a waste of money to rent a second room for her nephew or cousin.

100% agree, I have shared hotel rooms with all my Thai family, wife, son, step son, mother in law, father in law , wife's sisters and brothers; ok two rooms, but who slept where was not a consideration!

must of been a big room bloody nora,,

I was thinking of a stay in Chiang Mai, two hotel rooms, myself of course, my wife, my son, my sister in laws, two, brother in laws, two and mother and father in law.

Just one night, all hotels booked, new year.

No problem, I got to sleep on the floor!

[buhi]

Oh forgot my brother in law's wife and other brother in law's partner.

Not two big rooms, we coped!

Not an exceptional happening, just it was a hotel, normally we all stay with relatives and crash out wherever!

[Hedghog]

When I have liaisons with other peoples wives.

The hotel bill is always in my name only.

[chrisinth]

Personally, I think the OP needs to ask Dimpy for help on this........................

I have stayed in many many hotels around Thailand, often not alone, but have never seen two names put on a hotel receipt.

OP, as a matter of interest, how much of an age difference is there between you and your wife? It may be relevant to helping get you the answer to your question.

[krisb]

I wasn't trying to imply anything about Thais and only wanted understanding. Apologies if anyone thinks so. From several replies I believe it is an innocent thing based on culture...saving money is important, family is extended and close, and economy of time and effort is always practiced. That all makes sense to me. Thanks for your replies.

Especially if the hotel was expensive.

My wife thinks 1000baht a night is expensive, so would most average Thais.

[Gsxrnz]

I wasn't trying to imply anything about Thais and only wanted understanding. Apologies if anyone thinks so. From several replies I believe it is an innocent thing based on culture...saving money is important, family is extended and close, and economy of time and effort is always practiced. That all makes sense to me. Thanks for your replies.

Especially if the hotel was expensive.

My wife thinks 1000baht a night is expensive, so would most average Thais.

Mine's the same - she'll happily drive around for an hour wasting 200B in diesel to save an extra 100B on a hotel room.