Coming out in Thailand

[lol69]

i am a frequent visitor to bangkok, i have tried going with the girls from cowboy. on my next visit i will face the truth and come out. i need advice on this

[robertthebruce]

Do you want me to hold your hand ??? Just Grit your teeth and get it over and done with.... And remember walk in a straight line with your head up high.

"Ooh you are awful.... But I do like You"... One of Dick Emery's famous quote...

Bored are we....

[lol69]

serious replies only please,

[jspill]

Who do you need to come out to? This is one of the most LGBT accepting places in the world. Just sit and have a drink at the many bars on Silom Soi 4, it's a friendly atmosphere and easy to meet people. Get chatting then walk over to Silom Soi 2 with someone for the nightclubs, e.g. DJ station.

[lol69]

i dont need to come out to anyone, but i cant connect with females i must stop trying. i am drawn to the boys but have no experience in this, i often wish i was asexual it would make my life easier to cope with

[sustento]

If you're looking for a simple sexual encounter many of the places have rent boys so if that's what you're after you should have few problems. Just remember when they 'lub you long time' the long time stops when your wallet is empty. If you object to paying you could try the saunas.

You could take a look at dreadedned.

http://dreadedned.com/

[lol69]

i would rather my first time, not be with a rent boy but that is an easier option

[sustento]

A massage with a happy ending is quite simple. At least you'd have some idea of whether you like the whole thing or not without any complications.

[Chaz1819]

Sounds like you are already facing the truth. Don't fall into the whole "the first time should be sweet and loving". It is the last time that you want to be sweet and loving!

A decent gogo type place in boyztown will do quite nicely. It will ease any shyness or discomfort you are dealing with. Try a few on for size to get a feel for what works for you.

No better place in the world for test driving a few young lads than Pattaya! Once you get the libido calmed down you start shopping for a mate.

Good Luck with it!

[Jingthing]

Well, how old is the OP?

I for one don't think it's a very good idea to start out in the retail department, if that can be avoided.

If the OP is reasonably attractive, I would suggest online "dating" sites.

But meet in a public place.

Be open about lack of experience, it will screen out people who can't be bothered with that.

Edited August 30, 2014 by Jingthing

[sustento]

Perhaps the OP could be a little bit clearer as to what he's trying to achieve.

If he's simply trying to see whether he enjoys sex with other men then the commercial route is probably the best way to go.

If he's looking for his first boyfriend then perhaps he ought to think whether looking in a foreign country with different mores and culture is a sensible thing to do. It could be a disaster for someone with no prior experience.

[lol69]

i tried a few boy gogos in pattaya before and they were overly aggressive, cute boys but still very aggressive with me and they wouldn't believe i hadn't been with another man before. are there any good boy gogos in bangkok?

[Scott]

It sounds like you are a bit confused and thus it is difficult to give you advice. Being confused, by the way, is quite normal early on in the process of getting sexual experience. It would help if you would give us a little idea of your age. 30s? 40s? 50s?

There are a number of go-go bars in Bangkok and a number of good saunas. Most of the rent boys are only aggressive in obtaining a client, once the deal is done and they are assured of payment they can be less than enthusiastic. The nice part of the rent situation is you can have a little play and a little fiddle and then send them on their way -- no need for romantic involvement. It does help with getting an idea of what it is you like and exactly what your interests are. Rent sex isn't usually great. It's a little like eating at McDonald's -- it's quick and easy, but usually not a memorable experience.

Saunas give you a little more opportunity to meet people and you can be a little more of a voyeur. You may engage in activity or you can refrain.

I'd tend to suggest some visits to some of the nicer saunas and once you have an idea for what you are looking for then either move on to a go-go bar or try to meet someone at places like Silom, soi 4.

Please be aware that many of the locals that you meet outside the go-go bars are also commercial sex workers, so don't be surprised if you get hit up for money.

Best of luck and keep us updated.

[jacky54]

No worries about 'coming out' half the country seems gay or bi! Have you thought of trying a ladyboy?

[sustento]

No worries about 'coming out' half the country seems gay or bi! Have you thought of trying a ladyboy?

[lol69]

i have no interest in ladyboys, i have tried real girls and that does not work for me.

[Jingthing]

No worries about 'coming out' half the country seems gay or bi! Have you thought of trying a ladyboy?

Ladyboys are for STRAIGHT dudes!

[onthemoon]

No worries about 'coming out' half the country seems gay or bi! Have you thought of trying a ladyboy?

Ladyboys are for STRAIGHT dudes!

True.

[onthemoon]

i dont need to come out to anyone, but i cant connect with females i must stop trying. i am drawn to the boys but have no experience in this, i often wish i was asexual it would make my life easier to cope with

You have received some advice in the meantime. Your next step is: Just do it!

Good luck. This is your own journey, and you have to take it. We all went down that road.

Let us know what happened, and if you need more advice afterwards, you know where to find us.