is there such a thing as friends in pattaya?

[whitemouse]

Pattaya has plenty of shallow people of all nationalities who are much more interested in your wallet than in you.

I would never look for any sort of sincerity or honesty here, nor would I expect to find any real friendship.

Once that basic precept has been accepted it is a very easy place to live in.

It is true, that meeting people, and making real friends can be difficult here.

I have few good, real friends, a Russian boxer, who spends 6 months every winter hear, and Australian friend, they are real friends, I have known them for several years. Never have they tryed to pull anything, and why would they, both are doing well.

I think not being able to make friends is not a Pattaya thing,

I may be wrong, but I'm guessing by reading people's post, many are retired, many are in their 60s and maybe older. By that age, people have built a wall around them, distrusting anybody, and everybody. Joys in life become less and less, and not having friends must be terribly lonely.

You often read here, posters pointing out how their condo bathromms are larger, than new 24 sqm 'shoebox' condos meant for BKK weekenders. Cos thats all that this lonely, with no friends old man has!

You often read in the Visa sub forum, younger guys, who post questions, how does a retired guy in his 30s, but retired, be able to stay in Kingdom for, say 6-7 months legally. Guys like these are often ridiculed, I clerly remember, just few months ago, you, KK suggesting he buy a Thai Elite Card! You told him that clearly he is not tourist, if he stays here 6 months out of the year!!

I ask you, how do you excpect to become friends with this guy in 30s? He has seen your posts for past 3-4 or so years, used to really like your posts.

That poster asking about longer stay here was not me, but I am friends with him now, he stays in BKK, I stay in Pattaya, we are similar age.

I understand very well from your post, you are not looking to meet people, and not here to make friends. But WHY not? Life without friends is so dull, emtpty. No?

There are true loners of course, we really dont need people, they even avoid others.

Have you guys seen 'As Good As It Gets', great film! And a good example, that we can break our habits, step out of our comfort zone.. And it can be so rewarding!

Real friendships can be found here, I did, so could everybody else. It can be done here, in Pattaya.

[petercool]

In my experience a lot depends on what your activities are.

I like music and musicians so find friendships in that. I also like to do volunteer work and find friendships in that as well.

Some people like cars, or cycling etc.

If you find an activity and like minded people, friendships are not hard to come by.

[transam]

In my experience a lot depends on what your activities are.

I like music and musicians so find friendships in that. I also like to do volunteer work and find friendships in that as well.

Some people like cars, or cycling etc.

If you find an activity and like minded people, friendships are not hard to come by.

Reminds me of...............

[raro]

I have a bunch of friends, unfortunately most of them are moderators...

[azaazo9]

I think that is difficult to find friends in Pattaya, especially for someone like me - a farang woman in early thirties, married to a farang.

Actually, I am disappointed by expat scene here. First, my impression is that all nations keep themselves to themselves, unlike other countries where I lived before coming here. Then, Thailand doesn't have much of an expat community for people in their 20's, 30's and 40's. So far, I haven't met a farang couple within my age bracket, no that I want to limit myself by socialising with such couples only,, it's just my observation..The majority of expats here are older men who come to Thailand to retire and marry a Thai woman. So how to make friendship, who with?

Edited December 20, 2014 by azaazo9

[Jessi]

If you want a friend then get a dog

My wife asked me "Why do you like dogs?"

Because they are better than people and you can trust them.

"MAN'S BEST FRIEND"

[raro]

Try the Pattaya international ladies club, farang (and Thai) ladies of all ages.

I must say when I host a party with 15 couples , there are about 10 different nationalities present. Also true, that this is a the male part of the party, the girls are all Thais. The result is a segregation of the guys at the table eating Farang food and the girls having somtam at the far side of the pool. Nevertheless, usually everyone had a great time.

[paddyjenkins]

Try the Pattaya international ladies club, farang (and Thai) ladies of all ages.

I must say when I host a party with 15 couples , there are about 10 different nationalities present. Also true, that this is a the male part of the party, the girls are all Thais. The result is a segregation of the guys at the table eating Farang food and the girls having somtam at the far side of the pool. Nevertheless, usually everyone had a great time.

Why is there a special ladies club? Why is there not a mans club? I suppose that's more of a boy's town thing. So I wonder if the ladies club is a lesbian club? Not that i mind, I'm as open minded as the next personage, I'm just curious is all. Are men allowed to attend?

[KittenKong]

You often read in the Visa sub forum, younger guys, who post questions, how does a retired guy in his 30s, but retired, be able to stay in Kingdom for, say 6-7 months legally. Guys like these are often ridiculed, I clerly remember, just few months ago, you, KK suggesting he buy a Thai Elite Card! You told him that clearly he is not tourist, if he stays here 6 months out of the year!!

I suggested he do that because that is the option made available to him by Thailand; it's not my decision and I wasnt making any comment about him apart from pointing out that, by definition, he isnt a tourist.

Personally if I could not stay here on an easy to obtain retirement extension I would just go and live somewhere else, but that would be my choice to make.

I ask you, how do you excpect to become friends with this guy in 30s? He has seen your posts for past 3-4 or so years, used to really like your posts.

That poster asking about longer stay here was not me, but I am friends with him now, he stays in BKK, I stay in Pattaya, we are similar age.

I understand very well from your post, you are not looking to meet people, and not here to make friends. But WHY not? Life without friends is so dull, emtpty. No?

I enjoy my life as it is. I always have done. It suits me and it certainly isnt dull. I dont see much point wasting what little is left of it talking to vacuous expats. So I avoid them and instead just continue to do things that I like.

There are true loners of course, we really dont need people, they even avoid others.

Have you guys seen 'As Good As It Gets', great film! And a good example, that we can break our habits, step out of our comfort zone.. And it can be so rewarding!

That's a film, not real life. I saw Star Wars and Psycho also. Should I become a Jedi knight and start stabbing people in the shower?

[raro]

Try the Pattaya international ladies club, farang (and Thai) ladies of all ages.

I must say when I host a party with 15 couples , there are about 10 different nationalities present. Also true, that this is a the male part of the party, the girls are all Thais. The result is a segregation of the guys at the table eating Farang food and the girls having somtam at the far side of the pool. Nevertheless, usually everyone had a great time.

Why is there a special ladies club? Why is there not a mans club? I suppose that's more of a boy's town thing. So I wonder if the ladies club is a lesbian club? Not that i mind, I'm as open minded as the next personage, I'm just curious is all. Are men allowed to attend?

you can take the initiative and set up such a club. That's probably why there is a ladies' club. Someone thought there's a need for it and went ahead.

Nope they are not necessarily lesbians. I believe most of them are heterosexual.

[paddyjenkins]

You often read in the Visa sub forum, younger guys, who post questions, how does a retired guy in his 30s, but retired, be able to stay in Kingdom for, say 6-7 months legally. Guys like these are often ridiculed, I clerly remember, just few months ago, you, KK suggesting he buy a Thai Elite Card! You told him that clearly he is not tourist, if he stays here 6 months out of the year!!

I suggested he do that because that is the option made available to him by Thailand; it's not my decision and I wasnt making any comment about him apart from pointing out that, by definition, he isnt a tourist.

Personally if I could not stay here on an easy to obtain retirement extension I would just go and live somewhere else, but that would be my choice to make.

I ask you, how do you excpect to become friends with this guy in 30s? He has seen your posts for past 3-4 or so years, used to really like your posts.

That poster asking about longer stay here was not me, but I am friends with him now, he stays in BKK, I stay in Pattaya, we are similar age.

I understand very well from your post, you are not looking to meet people, and not here to make friends. But WHY not? Life without friends is so dull, emtpty. No?

I enjoy my life as it is. I always have done. It suits me and it certainly isnt dull. I dont see much point wasting what little is left of it talking to vacuous expats. So I avoid them and instead just continue to do things that I like.

There are true loners of course, we really dont need people, they even avoid others.

Have you guys seen 'As Good As It Gets', great film! And a good example, that we can break our habits, step out of our comfort zone.. And it can be so rewarding!

That's a film, not real life. I saw Star Wars and Psycho also. Should I become a Jedi knight and start stabbing people in the shower?

So why do you waste what little of your life is left by writing vacuous posts?

[KittenKong]

So why do you waste what little of your life is left by writing vacuous posts?

For the same reason that you waste your time reading them, I suppose.

[petercool]

A troll and flame post removed along with a reply quoting that

[azaazo9]

Thanks raro for your suggestion.

Hmm, sometimes s even this forum looks like a gathering place for farang men married with Thai ladies. )

I don't say that it's bad by default, but it gives a reflection of expat scene in Thailand.

Edited December 20, 2014 by azaazo9

[Bernard Flint]

After reading the bash pattaya posts, i think there are more sad buggers about than i first realised.Lucky i have many good friends in Pattaya and surrounding areas, and no doubt i pick friends very well, unlike most on here.

I also have many friends who come to Thailand and visit me, i would say, 40 weeks of the year,good friends are with me from uk, ozzieland, mainly.

[Bernard Flint]

If you want a friend then get a dog

My wife asked me "Why do you like dogs?"

Because they are better than people and you can trust them.

"MAN'S BEST FRIEND"

Go walk down a few dimly lit sois and get back on here, see if you change your mind, you cannot trust all dogs, you cannot trust all humans, so maybe think about that for a few days khun loner.I would suggest that your decisions on making friends are not right.

[Bernard Flint]

YES!! You can have friends here in Pattaya.

I have a group of friends.

One looked after 2 boxes of my belongings for 9 months while I was away. Nothing tampered with. No cost involved. Hell, he was even grateful and offered to pay me for English tea bags and some other small items I brought over for him.

Another helped me find a cheap condo within 24 hours of my arrival. He also helped me move my gear from the above friends place to the condo I am now in.

^^^ Two simple examples.

We help each other out with all sorts of little things.

One takes a few others to Macro in his truck once a month for their big shop.

I take one friend to Jomtien to do his visa.

These friends tipped me off about what my now ex was doing when I was away - that is why she is staying my ex.

If we have a problem we help each other where we can.

YES, proper friends.

Much better to read this than the human haters

[Bernard Flint]

All my "real" friends live in Bangkok, guys I've known for almost 10 years and they're still there. Why? Because they live and work in Thailand, have pretty much normal lives. While we argue (politely) and disagree on some things, they're solid friends and we do many things together, including travel. We also care about each other and help out in anyway. But I don't like to live in BKK so I live in the Pattaya area. In terms of friends, Pattaya has been a complete blank in 4-5 years of living here. I don't trust anyone -- for the reasons listed by a poster above that Pattaya draws pretty much people with a single agenda. It's an agenda I do not share.

Why live in Pattaya then, you describe the type who live here, i certainly arent that type, but i do not get het up about it, like you do.

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

All my "real" friends live in Bangkok, guys I've known for almost 10 years and they're still there. Why? Because they live and work in Thailand, have pretty much normal lives. While we argue (politely) and disagree on some things, they're solid friends and we do many things together, including travel. We also care about each other and help out in anyway. But I don't like to live in BKK so I live in the Pattaya area. In terms of friends, Pattaya has been a complete blank in 4-5 years of living here. I don't trust anyone -- for the reasons listed by a poster above that Pattaya draws pretty much people with a single agenda. It's an agenda I do not share.

Why live in Pattaya then, you describe the type who live here, i certainly arent that type, but i do not get het up about it, like you do.

Cheaper cost of living for a pensioner. Related to that is the fact I'd be going out a lot more with my BKK friends so my expenditures, i.e., partying, would rise a lot. I call that self-preservation of money and health. Here I live on the Dark Side in a very private, quiet complex, which I only moved into six months ago. Met some decent folks here.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

Thanks raro for your suggestion.

Hmm, sometimes s even this forum looks like a gathering place for farang men married with Thai ladies. )

I don't say that it's bad by default, but it gives a reflection of expat scene in Thailand.

In Thailand, for every white lady there are 100 white men.

In Pattaya make that 1000:1!

Forums and clubs all want to make money, easier to do it if they cater for the majority of potential customers.

[azaazo9]

In Thailand, for every white lady there are 100 white men.

In Thailand, for every white lady there are 100 (in a relationship with Thai lades) white men.

But I don't look for a man, white or not, since I am married.

[Bernard Flint]

All my "real" friends live in Bangkok, guys I've known for almost 10 years and they're still there. Why? Because they live and work in Thailand, have pretty much normal lives. While we argue (politely) and disagree on some things, they're solid friends and we do many things together, including travel. We also care about each other and help out in anyway. But I don't like to live in BKK so I live in the Pattaya area. In terms of friends, Pattaya has been a complete blank in 4-5 years of living here. I don't trust anyone -- for the reasons listed by a poster above that Pattaya draws pretty much people with a single agenda. It's an agenda I do not share.

Why live in Pattaya then, you describe the type who live here, i certainly arent that type, but i do not get het up about it, like you do.

Cheaper cost of living for a pensioner. Related to that is the fact I'd be going out a lot more with my BKK friends so my expenditures, i.e., partying, would rise a lot. I call that self-preservation of money and health. Here I live on the Dark Side in a very private, quiet complex, which I only moved into six months ago. Met some decent folks here.

nice one, good luck