CharlieH Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Problems only exist if you allow them to. Seems to me, that you are both at fault, as you both allowed this to escalate and happen. Either one of you could have chosen to diffuse it at any time, but neither did. That leads me to believe it wasn't just this issue but this issue was the "straw that broke the camels back". By coming here to an internet forum for what appears to be to gain some kind of support for your actions, demonstrates the doubt or perhaps regret, in your own action. You (or he) could have at any point simply agreed to disagree and moved on to something else. Example: "well that's what I believe to be true and clearly you don't so lets agree to disagree on that one, what you doing later ?" subject changed, situation diffused. instead it escalated into the result you encountered. Often it pays not to look at what happened, but "why" it happened. (All in my humble opinion of course) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaalle Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Getting rid of this person sounds like a blessing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tolsti Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Sounds more like a win-win situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheCruncher Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Did anyone bother reading to the end ? I made it to the 3rd line. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickJ Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 So.....you most likley would not even be frie ds back at home....small shit doesnt matter.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VillageIdiot Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 The issues involved were adult, but the emotions displayed were childish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Just1Voice, you asked in the OP if anyone had any suggestions. The below are a couple of outtakes from the OP, certainly not meant to be taken out of context: "I even sent him a web link of Bank Holidays closures..........." ".....called me a pompous ass, and went off line". "I sent him an email saying I didn’t really understand his anger towards me....." "....where I contacted a mutual friend on FaceBook and explained what happened..." Given the above, my advice would be to actually talk to him, if not in person then by phone. Don't be another one that allows social media to rule your life, possibly misinterpreting the BS it normally generates. Go low-tech, go round and see the guy............. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mogandave Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Why is he concerned about when you get your deposit, do you owe him money? If so, his being an a-hole would be a great reason to stiff him! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wooloomooloo Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Just1Voice, you asked in the OP if anyone had any suggestions. The below are a couple of outtakes from the OP, certainly not meant to be taken out of context: "I even sent him a web link of Bank Holidays closures..........." ".....called me a pompous ass, and went off line". "I sent him an email saying I didnt really understand his anger towards me....." "....where I contacted a mutual friend on FaceBook and explained what happened..." Given the above, my advice would be to actually talk to him, if not in person then by phone. Don't be another one that allows social media to rule your life, possibly misinterpreting the BS it normally generates. Go low-tech, go round and see the guy............. It's not necessary. Fair weather friends and all that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DogNo1 Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 People can be touchy. I was at a public speaking forum last night and when one of the speakers was slightly criticized, some of the foreign men actually growled. I've attended a lot of events connected with public speaking but have never before seen that happen. I wonder if it has something to do with living in Thailand. Perhaps the Jai Yen philosophy causes an absence of any opposition and people get used to it. I have a temper too and fire off sometimes when I'm very frustrated but the resistance to even mild criticism was surprising to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketboybkk Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Seems pretty petty to me. Is he smoking the 'herb'? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suradit69 Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 because he refused to accept that he was wrong about something trivial. If it was so trivial why are you turning it into a major event. The farang obsession about being right is simply a version of the farang obsession over perceived loss of face. Now, I might expect this from a Thai, Being right about everything is a far bigger issue with farang than Thais. Thais usually let trivial things go or ignore them. As multiple threads on Thai Visa demonstrate, farang have to nitpick over every little thing, take offence at every little event and feel the need to put down all Thais if he, the farang, doesn't get his way or misunderstands things in simple one-on-one encounters. Maybe your former friend is tired of you beating trivial things to death to prove yourself right. And why would anyone feel compelled to rush to a public forum to discuss a personal issue, aside from the rather lame hope of getting approval for his actions from anonymous strangers. Sad really. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torrens54 Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Don't think I'd be airing it all in public like this. Your "friend" might not be any too pleased to find you telling everyone about your little Hissy-Fits. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wannascuba Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 Trivial! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Puyai Posted May 6, 2015 Share Posted May 6, 2015 I thought 'blow off' was a term used for something completely different! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
benalibina Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 I thought 'blow off' was a term used for something completely different! Blow job, you must mean. Easy mistake to make. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieH Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 I thought 'blow off' was a term used for something completely different! When I was younger it was the same as "Fart" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HooHaa Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 i just cant understand why you would whinge about it on a public forum rather than dealing with it directly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wow64 Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 Did anyone bother reading to the end ? I made it to the 3rd line. Wasnt he blown by his friend... Only read the tittle. Sent from my c64 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rwdrwdrwd Posted May 7, 2015 Share Posted May 7, 2015 Think so yeah, on a pubic holiday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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