what advice can i give her?

[Lekong]

What is your relationship with someone's wife that she is asking advice from you? When you take the pains to come here and seek for advice from people for her, one is given to think that you have something very serious with her. And here the pieces of advice are putting the man on the wrong just without talking to him to know exactly his own side of the story. Between a man and a woman, don't put your mouth. Tell her to contact a lawyer as you are not an expert and you don't know why her husband is divorcing her.

[kerrysum]

Mind your own business is always the best advice.

Other people's relationships are best left to them.

So the best advice you can give her would be ..... "Sorry, this is not my business"

Now from the other side of the fence,

If my Thai wife were in the UK and asking a close male friend for advice .......

I would be seeking divorce for reason of adultery, and naming him as the guilty man.

Perfect advise,,, Stay out of it......

[Kannikapor88]

Why dont she just go home to Thailand as we have to do if thaiwife gets tired of us ... ? No help from anyone here, why should she have ?

[arjunadawn]

accuse him of domestic violence, that will buy her some time.

Holy gobsmacked. This is exactly what I was thinking as I read this. There is a provision, at least in the US, to enable self sponsor following accusations of spousal abuse. Sucks, but... You did not solicit what was morally right, only available options. I have actually see this work- exactly, with a Thai woman in the US as well. So, it does work...

[theoldgit]

A number of nonsensical posts removed as well as a flame.

The OP has asked for advice from a friend and thought he would ask on this Forum, that's what forums are for.

If you have anything meaningful to say then please do so, if not then please play elsewhere.

Thank you.

[F4UCorsair]

Typhoon, are you the reason her husband is wanting her out?

Not judging here, but it does put a different perspective on the situation.

She'd possibly be happier back home.

[louse1953]

Mind your own business is always the best advice.

Other people's relationships are best left to them.

So the best advice you can give her would be ..... "Sorry, this is not my business"

Now from the other side of the fence,

If my Thai wife were in the UK and asking a close male friend for advice .......

I would be seeking divorce for reason of adultery, and naming him as the guilty man.

Jai dum.

[louse1953]

..firstly....she is NOT 'a Thai girl'....she is a married woman....

..secondly...you do not know WHY the man is divorcing her........maybe her version....

....thirdly....why don't YOU marry her........since you carry on like she is so innocent and a victim in the situation......

....then maybe you will find the answer to number 2 above......

So your opinion is,you can't be friends with Thai women without having designs on them.I'd be guilty of adultery heaps then,in 2 countries.

[theoldgit]

Can we please stop speculating and stick to offering advice on the actual question.

[dao16]

Tell her to go to a lawyer. If she has a good case, they will take it on for "free" at first and then just take their fees out of the win.

[Nemesis7]

Mind your own business is always the best advice.

Other people's relationships are best left to them.

So the best advice you can give her would be ..... "Sorry, this is not my business"

Now from the other side of the fence,

If my Thai wife were in the UK and asking a close male friend for advice .......

I would be seeking divorce for reason of adultery, and naming him as the guilty man.

No doubt its the best reply. Super liked it.

[bobrussell]

I am amazed at how many deeply cynical people there are out there. Perhaps they are just lousy judges of people.

At the risk of feeding the many 'trolls' out there my feelings are:

The OP was asked for help, was aware that he was not an expert so sensibly asked for advice.

There is no need to sleep or have an affair with someone to be able to offer a sympathetic ear. This might be news to some of the characters posting their bigoted opinions.

Divorce lawyers do not do a no win, no fee service nor is there ever a 'win'. They may take their fees out of the final settlement.

Within the UK marriages with a Thai spouse have a higher survival rate than average so there must be something good about being married to a Thai!

Not all Thai girls are bar girls and not all bar girls are bad!

A Thai divorcee might be happier at 'home' if there is family support but plenty have settled lives here so without knowing the parties involved who are we to judge?

Plato, quoted by Shakespeare, describe many of the posters here perfectly:

“An empty vessel makes the loudest sound, so they that have the least wit are the greatest babblers.”

[7by7]

Indeed, Bob.

About 4 years ago I helped a Thai women, much aided by advice received here, who was in a similar situation to that described in the OP.

She came to me for advice and I gave that advice simply because she was, and still is, a friend of my wife.

I suspect the same is true of the OP.

It is a shame that whenever topics like this come along people who usually never visit this forum crawl out from under their rocks to offer up their ignorant prejudices.

[MaeJoMTB]

Indeed, Bob.

About 4 years ago I helped a Thai women, much aided by advice received here, who was in a similar situation to that described in the OP.

She came to me for advice and I gave that advice simply because she was, and still is, a friend of my wife.

I suspect the same is true of the OP.

It is a shame that whenever topics like this come along people who usually never visit this forum crawl out from under their rocks to offer up their ignorant prejudices.

Just strange that it never works the other way around.

What if a English man secretly met with your Thai wife to ask her for advice?

What would you think if you found out later?

[7by7]

There was nothing secret about my wife's friend asking me for advice, and what makes you think there is any secrecy in the OP's case?

You all may be the type of men who cheat on their partners, and the women you mix with may be the type with several farang boyfriends supporting them; but don't judge the rest of us by your low standards.

[bobrussell]

if I was resident in Thailand I would probably ask advice from an informed friend of my wife, male or female. As in this case it is likely that they might not be able to help that much.

The couple are divorcing so what I felt about it would be irrelevant!

[catman20]

accuse him of domestic violence, that will buy her some time.

dafuq, what sort of advice is that?

I hope she goes to gaol if she were to falsely accuse an innocent man!

thought farangs should stick together could you imagine a Thai giving a farang in Thailand some advise like accuse her of domestic violence, that will buy him some time.

[bobrussell]

The UK authorities have decided to provide any victim of domestic abuse support. Good for them!

That Thailand does not give similar support suggests the authorities don't care or are thirty years behind the UK.

Accusations do not buy time in situations like this, divorce proceedings do!

[MaeJoMTB]

The UK authorities have decided to provide any victim of domestic abuse support. Good for them!

That Thailand does not give similar support suggests the authorities don't care or are thirty years behind the UK.

Accusations do not buy time in situations like this, divorce proceedings do!

You mean 'Female victim' ......... abused men get no help from anyone.

Everyone helps the woman, nobody helps the men.

Men are so quick and ready to betray other men, no matter what the circumstances.

Western culture means men are always guilty, men are always evil, men are always worthless.

I find it sickening.

[BadBouy]

Mind your own business is always the best advice.

Other people's relationships are best left to them.

So the best advice you can give her would be ..... "Sorry, this is not my business"

Now from the other side of the fence,

If my Thai wife were in the UK and asking a close male friend for advice .......

I would be seeking divorce for reason of adultery, and naming him as the guilty man.

100% agreement, unless you saw her being physically abused, it's a personal matter stay out of it! Would you want some one getting involved in your personal life?

[BadBouy]

accuse him of domestic violence, that will buy her some time.

Great idea, hope someone has the opportunity to pull this stunt on you.

[bobrussell]

There was never any suggestion that abuse is involved here! If you believe the drivel being spouted this is a bar girl, sleeping around, threatening abuse accusations, being foul to her husband and deserving immediate deportation on the grounds of public wellbeing. A thoroughly wicked human being.

If you actually bother to read the original post it was simply a lady asking the husband of a friend for a bit of advice! The vivid and creative imaginations of some people defy belief!

Actually there are a long list of charities offering support to male victims of abuse. The Home office does not discriminate on grounds of sex. It is likely that more women are victims but men are less likely to report abuse because of the type of idiots that have posted rubbish on this thread!

[durhamboy]

Totally agree Bob. It beggars belief what some people think they are entitled to assume just because it may just fit in with their warped views about society! Reminds me of a lot of the farang bar talk I heard in Thailand. I heard much more prejudice there from fellow Brits and Aussies there than I have heard in the last 35 years in the UK.