new Thai GF - what can I expect?

[changside]

Go back to that dating site, set up a fake account, contact her, ......... see if she's a player.

Lemonjelly is right.

Yes, you can expect requests for help for all sorts of things.

In my case it is a farmer guy. Need money for fertiliser, water pipes, even food. Chat regularly on LINE. I know that he genuinely has very little income.

I only ever send relatively small amounts. He is good fun and I stay in his house when I visit Thailand. I do not have to pay him for food and accommodation and he does all the driving so I see it as payment in kind. However, I am not naive enough to think that I am the only visitor he has when the opportunity arises. I also chat with his Thai friend who keeps me informed to some extent.

Ignore all suggestions that you buy property there. You can not own it in your own name.

[atyclb]

had dated a gal verified in management at a multinational company. her own car, bonafide university degree. smart and personable and quite light complexion. no bar english. no isaan look or style.

slept with me first time. ok since i dont judge anyone by that as it can be quite normal with chemistry.

one time a mall she borrows money for new cell phone. never repaid. borrows nice tablet and never returns it. says she cant find it. does not ask for money for family. no silly stories about sick relatives or buffaloes.

has some emotional issues consistent with borderline personality disorder and can be very very difficult at times.

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#1 yesterday had date with internet gal. good english and claims uni degree. confirm for 6pm. for her comfort i travel taxi and 2 trains to meet for dinner closer to her home. she does not show up. did not tell me would not show up, does not answer calls or LINE messages.. so i leave and send message thanking her for "polite courtesy"

2 hours later i get messages saying sorry. she was drunk and sick.

i message her reiterating #1 above.plus showing low character about being drunk as excuse if that is even true. her dating site profile says "does not want to play games" again she said she is crying and so sorry.

this style is common in thailand among thais also. they just dont care and or lose focus easily assuming they ever had focus in the first place.

i gave her a chance to see if she would make amends by inviting me somewhere close to my home. NEVER. nor will she learn from mistakes

no doubt theres lots of foreign guys that will accept this and do anything to appease them. my course of action 'deleted from chat"

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theres girls profiles on dating sites that only have photos. says nothing about interests, work, education yet are flooded with messages from guys. they even insult each other on comments section calling each other cheap or other derogatory stuff. some even believe with a premium paid membership girls will be receptive. to that the question i propose is "how do you change the mindset of an amoeba?".

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the most famous thai music songs about women can have lyrics saying "i dont believe anything you say" Om Pra Ma Poot. sek loso

or

"selfish greedy bitch" 3 different way in the chorus verse of song "cheuac weesaet" by Labanoon. 245 million views on youtube

[kingstonkid]

Enjoy the sex, pay what you think it's worth.

Plenty more where that came from.

That's my feeling. She's lovely but I'm not going to marry her or repatriate either of us. If I have to send her a few quid now and then to keep her sweet that's fine.

Just wondered if others here have had similar experiences and interested to hear them...

I take it that you have no desire at this time to move to Thailand permanently. Good.

Be like a friend of mine was. He had a "GF" that he called and let her know when he was coming to town. He paid for everything bought her some clothes and gave her some spending money.

Just remember no glove no love.

Al;so plead poor. Thai girls are looking for a sugar daddy.

[Lowdown]

Oh Dear --------------------------------Another one . !

Please fellow members be kind and do not tell him what is coming, he will not believe you.

Best the OP discovers Thailand for himself.

Come on spill the beans! I want to know how these things normally pan out. What's her next move!?

A 'good' Thai women does not go to bed with you the first night. I can not speak for your women, only in general. Many prostitutes now operate from dating sites, Facebook and similar. It's easier and much less degrading then sitting in a bar waiting for a guy to approach her. As some posts said, you can expect more requests for 'help', 'father must have surgery, buffalo sick, roof on houses broken, best buy new house for Mama'...none of those stories are usually verifiable, so be prudent. She has with certainty many other clients she also approaches for 'help'. This was already an MO of these bar flies 20-30 years ago, when tourists helped them write letters in English to beg for money from former clients. Then already it brought much more money then the bar traffic. Nowadays it's the internet. Keep your heart in both hands. They are crafty, beautiful, enticing, seductive and often enough dangerous women.

[mrfaroukh]

You should probably expect some disaster happening in her family and ask for more money.

[ggt]

Obsession, possession, monetary depletion, confrontation, depression, division, disillusion...welcome to the merry-go-round...

[atyclb]

Oh Dear --------------------------------Another one . !

Please fellow members be kind and do not tell him what is coming, he will not believe you.

Best the OP discovers Thailand for himself.

Come on spill the beans! I want to know how these things normally pan out. What's her next move!?

A 'good' Thai women does not go to bed with you the first night. I can not speak for your women, only in general. Many prostitutes now operate from dating sites, Facebook and similar. It's easier and much less degrading then sitting in a bar waiting for a guy to approach her. As some posts said, you can expect more requests for 'help', 'father must have surgery, buffalo sick, roof on houses broken, best buy new house for Mama'...none of those stories are usually verifiable, so be prudent. She has with certainty many other clients she also approaches for 'help'. This was already an MO of these bar flies 20-30 years ago, when tourists helped them write letters in English to beg for money from former clients. Then already it brought much more money then the bar traffic. Nowadays it's the internet. Keep your heart in both hands. They are crafty, beautiful, enticing, seductive and often enough dangerous women.

not really true about good girls not spending the night on first date. many farang like to believe that and use it as a yardstick about who is good or not. theres tons of promiscuity nowadays in all levels of society, be it at rural schools to the most prestigious universities and companies. having financial means also can lead to a more open minded outlook.

[JD66]

What can you expect? ....Well for one thing she'll teach you how to be one hel of a pool player.

[Mitkof Island]

This has (red flags) all over it already. Your taking her to Pattaya ? ! How romantic. Who's idea was that? Sending her money ? Sounds like a resent alcoholic i met that met a bar girl in Pattaya another drunk that smokes Ice, covered her in gold and then married her. He can not retire for fourteen more years so will visit her for two weeks twice a year until he retires. Of course the moment he left she was back in the bar. She sold the gold and now he has once again given her some more. My hunch is you have not learned a single word of Thai. Another seriously bad idea. As a few have mentioned i doubt you will listen. So i won,t waste another second of my time.

[Skygod2000]

Is the OP a vet? I bet he has no idea how much it will cost to treat a sick buffalo!

[Autonuaq]

you can expect the same as with any other new girlfriend

you made expectations and that is what she expects, because she is also not stupid.and know what you do too.

So if you met the perfect lady? I doubt if that is the perfect Lady of what you expect and what you what you wrote.

you small head was thinking and directing and is it still you little head want more and more.

you big head is now trying to oversee.

people can role play a long time and do things for a long time,

I think you have to reset fully reboot and have another approach.

soorty I Am rude try to get the message in your head as well of the others who are so smart and think with there small head when see woman.

[aronp1]

So what does she do for work? If she is working why did she all of a sudden need money from you? Also why doesn't her son live with her?

[xerostar]

I suspected it wouldn't work out when I first met her:

She said: "Hello can I hell you?"

[akentryan]

Next is "the buffalo died".

[Kiwiken]

No doubt about it my friend you were the love of her life. She is so lucky to have met. In love with that big thing in you pant. Sorry I mean your wallet. Slept with you first night. You and the other 6 guys will help put a new well in the village. Can you help with her sick mother. Has she sent you pictures of her sick in hospital yet. Stress of looking after her sick mother. And her child needs urgent Dental care. Oh Yeah a storm damaged the roof on her home.

[bazza40]

It's not possible to predict what the OP should expect - it depends on whether her interest is genuine or money-driven.

The majority of Thai women, just like Western women, crave stability and financial security. The fact they frequently get the rough end of the

stick from Thai men reinforces that desire.

The OP needs to test the boundaries of trust with his new GF. Dishonesty isn't all that hard to detect. Excuses for absences, requests for help for the family, or wanting a new scooter are all warning signs.

Rule 1 is to keep 80-90% of assets in your home country. Rule 2 is never spend more in Thailand than you can afford to walk away from.

After about three years with my Thai GF, I gave her 700,000 baht to build and furnish the house of her dreams on land she had inherited. She has never asked me for money for her family. Birthday presents for the grandkids, that's it

There are some on TV who would think I'm an idiot; however, I can afford to walk away. Not likely to happen as she thinks I'm the greatest thing since sliced bread.

The only other advice I can give is learn to speak Thai. Difficult I know, but communication is important too. And learn to tune out when the Thai soaps are on.

[cat handler]

Let me guess, Isaan girl? Chances are your not the only one sending her money, her Pom, Yank, French and Aussie boyfriends are too, oh wait your the Pommy one, Never send more money than you can afford to flush down the toilet,

While she may be genuine be prepared for the worse, next time ask to meet her parents, in most cases of scamming the girls don't want you to meet the parents (most probably parent plural).

For your next trip have a back up in case she doesn't turn out, if she stops chatting when you don't send money you know she's shonky.

[advancebooking]

Go to the Stickman Bangkok website and you'll get a pretty good idea.

Is OP stickman? Is this a self promotion thread. Troll

[ThaiWai]

"What to expect?" Well you figured out she was a whore the first night I guess the only thing left to figure out is how much it's gonna cost you.

[peterb17]

The first night says it all... ANOTHER farang. HOOK LINE AND SINKER... what a fool.

To be honest she would not let me penetrate her first night but I did give her oral sex.

In the spirit of advancing Anglo-Thai relations.

Yum yum

I hope you realise that oral sex is now being seriously implicated in several cancers.

Anyway back to your question, answer THE FAMILY . Blood suckers nearly all of them .

[ThaiWai]

Enjoy the sex, pay what you think it's worth.

Plenty more where that came from.

That's my feeling. She's lovely but I'm not going to marry her or repatriate either of us. If I have to send her a few quid now and then to keep her sweet that's fine.

Just wondered if others here have had similar experiences and interested to hear them...

"Send her a few quid to keep her sweet"? Cough cough cough..Do you send "a few quid" to the local pub to keep the beers cold when your not there?? Service is expected upon payment my friend.

[Khon Kaen Dave]

Slept with you 1st night,what a princess.Did she tell you the usual tale of woe? Just be careful. I knew a girl who had several boyfriends and a bank account for each one.The best ting to do is to tell her when you are coming over and arrive a few days early.When you arrive call her and ask her where she is. also if you are of the generous kind buy her a mobile phone with all the gadgets that go with it.There are phones these days that you can track her to where she is.Also they have the abilities to listen in on her conversations.If she calls you from somewhere where its very quiet and a slight echo,you can usually assume that she is in the oilet of some guys hotel room.

Good luck.

Ps keep your Atm card in the safe at all times,along with your wallet.

[Khon Kaen Dave]

What is it they say? when you go home,you dont miss your girlfriend,you miss your turn.

[JAS21]

The first night says it all... ANOTHER farang. HOOK LINE AND SINKER... what a fool.

To be honest she would not let me penetrate her first night but I did give her oral sex.

In the spirit of advancing Anglo-Thai relations.

Has your tongue dropped off yet ...

Actually a ten year age gap is not unusual in Thailand. In fact thirty or fourty years age gap is not that unusual either.

I think that you have a chance of a lasting relationship ... it might be a slim one but good luck.

[Gracas]

The first night says it all... ANOTHER farang. HOOK LINE AND SINKER... what a fool.

To be honest she would not let me penetrate her first night but I did give her oral sex.

In the spirit of advancing Anglo-Thai relations.

So was she a Ladyboy ?

[Apostate]

Question about supply and demand. Of which are there more?

1. Attractive young Thai women trying to bag a westerner as sponsor; or

2. Paunchy, balding foreign men visiting Thailand looking for a younger woman.

[AZBill]

You answered your own question.

[Bantex]

[ggt]

Do not believe all the negative comments...Thai women are warm, friendly, passionate and good cooks...nevermind they have a Thai husband, children, boy-friend, girl-friend, live with farang, and many on-line contributors...

Ex-pats just do not understand Thai culture...this is all very acceptable and good for business...

BTW...she is capable of taking care of all her "friends" needs and enjoys each one's company equally...

Her family is so proud that she is a screwed business women...

[Apostate]

I heard lots of tales of woe from Thai girls about foreign men.

One girl was "engaged" to a guy from Manchester for 18 months - then he married another Thai woman.

Another girl spent 2 weeks with a farang on holiday - then he went home and she never heard from him again ("I not know why?")

A foreign businessman offered one a proper job working for him in Thailand, however a condition of employment was she have sex with him whenever he wanted (she says she did not accept)

Life is strange for a young Thai woman...