Social Media Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 I was in a Bank in Bangkok recently, a couple were sat at a desk, and seemed to be having a problem so I asked if I could help ? The guy was French, spoke very little English, no Thai, his (wife?) Gf was Thai spoke no French and no English. Bank staff obviously Thai and spoke reasonable English. I was able to help as I speak a little French, reasonable Thai and English is my language. So I was happy to assist and sort the problem quite quickly for him/them. He had been in Thailand 4 months, dont know how long they had been together but guessing probably the 3-4 months he had been here. She was not a young girl, certainly not any form of "trophy" type relationship, in fact I would say she was probably about mid 50, him early 60's,. Anyone got any guess's or know of anyone in a relationship like that with zero verbal communication ? Anyway, that got me to thinking, how in the heck can that "relationship" work ? how do they communicate ? how can any reasonable relationship without the basics of a common language possibly work, let alone last ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipi Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Sign language using fingers and toes, and whatever is in between. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nikmar Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Ahhh, the language of love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 The language of love overcomes almost anything. Sign language/ body language, and last but not least bedroom language. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aussiandrew Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 Now days there are many pieces of technology like talking dictionarys on the market which can make life a little easyer. Also it can be fun if you got plenty of time. Really as long as you are with the person you feel strongly about how cares what other people think. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JMWPACIFIC Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Aren't most relationships here at the baby talk level? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BKKdreaming Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 it worked for Tarzan and Jane so why not the jungles of BKK Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
phitsanulokjohn Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Money&sex are multilingual. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Don Mega Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 when I met my missus 8 years ago she could speak zero English and I could speak zero Thai somehow we made it work and here we are now happily married and she can now speak fluent English. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ggt Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Money is a universal language... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
empireboy Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Human beings are very creative and adaptable. It CAN work if you're lucky enough to be a decent person with a decent person. It WILL have hiccups. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
awayego Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 when I met my missus 8 years ago she could speak zero English and I could speak zero Thai somehow we made it work and here we are now happily married and she can now speak fluent English. Same here ten years ago. My wife, during a miserable year working basically as a slave to two elderly invalid Thai ladies, had nothing else to do with her time than teach herself English from books. So, when we first got together we communicated in writing and used a dictionary because she didn't know how to SPEAK English! But she was a quick learner, unlike me, and her English speaking soon became excellent. I have to say though that, from the very beginning, I never spoke 'pidgin-English' to her and always spoke plainly and simply, insisting that if there were any words she didn't understand she should tell me. I don't think speaking 'pidgin' does anyone any favours in learning a language, unless, of course, they don't want their partner to have any proficiency in speaking and understanding! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThailandLOS Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Something like this: he porks her at will, she gets paid on a regular basis Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 I know plenty of people who speak the same language and only use it to rip each other apart. Intention, attention and caring does not need language - deaf and blind people can love... people extend far beyond words and words can often be misleading. They probably have a great time with the challenge... and obviously he can se something in her beyond trophy looks... so, great for them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farang99 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 When I first met my wife of (now) 18 years we had no common language, but we did have two dictionaries - Thai-English and English-Thai and with their aid were able to hold (halting) conversations, gradually coming to understand more and more. Now we use exclusively Thai. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klauskunkel Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 google translate and emoticons. That should do it Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akentryan Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Most of the responders on Thai Visa are not native speakers I hope. The most common misuse seems to be centered around your and you're and their, there and they're. But this does not hinder understanding what the conversation is about so what difference does it make? My present GF has very limited English skills and my Thai is even worse yet somehow we get along just fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oxo1947 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 How does/can it work ?---OP it's something like ----------------How do women defy the laws of physics? The heavier they are, the easier to pick up!................................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suradit69 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Being unable to understand what your partner is saying, much less thinking, is probably a good thing. "He who goes about as a talebearer reveals secrets; Therefore do not associate with one who flatters with his lips." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 I am with the OP on this one. When I meet couples who have very limited communication skills I am often appalled at what they don’t know about each other. The assumptions made are sometimes unbelievable. I am also amazed by the number of guys who have told me how well their partners speak English, only to find they have a very very limited vocabulary and no ability to speak in sentences. I have learned that it is not a good idea to play translator, though. You only end up in a no win situation and it is best to let people find their own way. Some people are happy not knowing what their partner thinks or who they are. The way they choose to live and who they choose to live with is up to them. Still I think the excuses people make are pretty funny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nabbie Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) Hi, you raised good point about how to communicate starting with zero-verbal communication. That makes more interesting & challenge for you. That is my speciality because of my birth with deafness. It depends on how much your onlooker is making an effort to communicate you. If the native languages between you will not work well, then you need to think about communication tactics like below Best to start with showing your smile (false or genuine will do either!) - I often do that in order to get some lovely Thai smiles (not always - but their job must make "the verbal response" to the customers anyway.) Try International Sign Language - regardless to the native spoken languages. like explaining 'Money' put in or withdraw or transfer the fund or get the new credit card. Using visual polite manners will be most helpful. They seem to be enjoying to guess what I am trying to say. Google translate is also good tactic if the onlooker does not mind that. Be aware of the translating may not be accurate though and it can be time-consumng. If none of these will meet your solution, then try to arrange the interpreter or bringing Thai friend who can speak both languages by making the arranged time as last resort. Edited March 31, 2016 by nabbie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoiBiker Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 I know plenty of people who speak the same language and only use it to rip each other apart. Intention, attention and caring does not need language - deaf and blind people can love... people extend far beyond words and words can often be misleading. They probably have a great time with the challenge... and obviously he can se something in her beyond trophy looks... so, great for them. You know deaf and blind people use languages too, right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmaxdan Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 My wife of seven years doesn't speak fluent English, and my Thai is average at best. So we end up having a 70/30 split in favour of English. So both of us will speak sentences containing words of both languages. We have s number of Thai/Farang couples that we see regular, and all of them rely on English as their main form of communication. For us it has never really worked that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
csabo Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 (edited) Ahhh, the language of love. I ask the girls if they speak English and if they say no I ask if they speak passah rak. Never had one say no. Edited March 31, 2016 by csabo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silent Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Something like this: he porks her at will, she gets paid on a regular basis It actually sounds a little like my own situation. Except in my case after learning institutional English from working out of the Queens's Park nuthouse in Ontario, I seem to have less arguments with my Thai wife who English-wise understands even less than what my Canadian wife could when we had to communicate without an interpreter. Jesus Christ if the OPP didn't come and take me for a psych assessment once because of threatening to do someone for breach of contract that got turned into uttering a death threat. Sometimes less knowledge of each other's language can be better for the soul, (or should that be the soles of my feet)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
n210mp Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 The language of love overcomes almost anything. Sign language/ body language, and last but not least bedroom language. Now you're talking sense and the bedroom language is mostly the cuddles and not the sex eh Colin? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RickTik Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 It can work beautifully if both of them are committed to it. Their older ages, (maturity), makes a lot of difference also. We are all both teachers and students. ... sincere emotional love conquers all ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bangon04 Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 It certainly helps a lot if you are a cunning linguist..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Linden Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 Money and Erections are universality recognised and understood The rest of the understanding develops through dreaming and alcahol. A lack of any of these 4 main ingredients = it doesn't work Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tuanku Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 I can talk to my wife, she can talk to me - doesn't mean there is any understanding between us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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