Thai child 11 years old with 7 year old education - how to close the gap. Manners

[Rc2702]

My mrs has an 11 year old girl who is sweet but she's not upto scratch education wise and whilst she is seen as clever in her class she and all the kids in her school clearly do not get much of an education.

To cut a long story short the child was taken from the mother by father when she was 2 and she only found out where they had taken her 4 years ago. I knew she had a child when I met her I knew this would not be easy. We moved to the city daughter is based we live in city she lives with grandparents 20km away we have her on weekends. She is not rude but she has no manners unless prompted this can be fixed fast in my opinion but what worries me is her poor education, lack of nutrition too she looks 7-8 no one would guess she's 11.

So I'm looking for success stories anyone got experience of a similar scenario what did you do?

Mrs teaches her english but I said better focus on her native education first as clearly she got little chance if we cannot close that gap. Feel a bit sorry for the blighter mrs has her going to school on weekends now but I'm sure we can do more. So any advice is highly appreciated.

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[metisdead]

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[Tagaa]

Private tutor...

There is a lady school teacher in our village that has built a small classroom beside her house. I do not know where she teaches, but I doubt it is the village school. Maybe on of the colleges in the surrounding area. She tutors local kids after school & on weekends. I went to look at the building when I was looking for someone to build my house. The builder built the classroom for her and this was one of his references.

When we walked up, a very nice teenage girl spoke to me in almost perfect English. The teachers daughter, I soon learned. I saw mathematical equations on the white board that were far above my ability.

I'm sure this is unusual for Issan, but I guess the point I'm trying to make is not everyone in Issan is a moron, even though sometimes it seems like it.

Look for an English speaking university teacher that will tutor. If the teacher speaks good English and lives in Issan, you have found a potential tutor.

[Rc2702]

Hi

Thanks yes I am thinking about that route.

I did find a guy who spoke excellent english and was a teacher but he was very honest and said he is too lazy to work weekends. Fair play I thought.

We have until 2018 to get her into some sort of shape so time is not on our side but I think it's doable just need to find the teacher who loves a challenge and wants to teach as opposed to $ chasers with little impact on the child.

Thanks I suspected this may be too much an obscure question with little response but fingers crossed.

[Tagaa]

Just curious...What major city are you close to?

You never know, but you may be just down the road from me. As I'm anti social, I wouldn't know it if you were. 5555

Edited July 20, 2016 by Tagaa

[Rc2702]

Just an update on this. We found a tutor and very confident in her ability just awaiting pricing details but I doubt that will scupper any plans. Amazing how quick youngsters learn once proper care and attention is given. Little lady in question sang along to an English song today word for word perfectly. English not really my concern tbh but she has clearly got a bee in her bonnet when she hears me and mrs conversing. A very determined youngsterling who I believe will be speaking English fairly fluently within 6 months not that I'm insisting just can see her drive now. Very pleased. Thanks to all who contributed.

[MikeyIdea]

One addition to the above

The primary role model means enormously for a child so she should gradually be moved from the grand parents home to your home, that would probably make more of a difference for the child than the tutoring in the long run

[Rc2702]

100% agree it is in the pipeline but we are living in the city little lady in sticks to get her to the acceptable level she needs for city school means a lot of work on her/our/tutor part. It's a tough one to be honest few minefields to contend with definitely a few tears but we knew this I guess we did not count on little lady showing such improvement so quickly. Her confidence now her mom is here in same city is motivating all. We stop by midweek now too. All part of preparing her grandparents for the inevitable. Fingers crossed.