Marriage between Farangs and Thai bar girls from a Thai person's point of view

[andyrose]

First, let me introduce myself that I am a Thai guy. I wrote this article long ago and posted to one website. I just have been reading your stories and I feel like maybe I should post my writing again in this forum. 

 

 

I have read a lot of Farangs' stories about Thai bar girls and I am disturbed by them. Your stories are quite similar. You stated that Oh, I met this girl, that girl in a bar and I fell in love with her. I took her to my country and gave her a good new life. I gave her lots of lots of money but she ran away from me after all. I spent such money 50,000 - 300,000 dollars and look how she treated me back. Once she settled in my country she ran away with another guy blah blah blah. I feel hurt without a doubt. Why are Thai girls so... bad why do they have to be like that ? They are scam artists, they never loved me in the first place and I found out later. No, no...no... the truth of the matter is you did not find out later, you knew right from the beginning!

I know exactly what you meant, and I can understand why you are so angry and hurt. However, come on, you guys all know from the get go that they are bar girls, they are prostitutes! What makes you think that they will leave their country to go with you without anything in it for them? Come on, you are not that naive and you were not born yesterday. You knew that they are all after your money.

I think we all know that you were in love, or infatuated with them.

 

If you choose to marry a prostitute, that is your prerogative.

 

But, don't come crying later that oh, Thai girls are bad, deceitful, unfaithful. As a matter of fact, you are not talking about Thai girls at all, you are talking about prostitutes that happened to be Thai. I know in your country, it is not a big deal, and I understand that. In Thailand, it is a big deal. Honourable Thai men with good status in society never marry them. In our country we have like a hierarchy which is hidden in Thai society, even though it is not obvious like in India. Well, it will probably take me forever to explain to you.

A lot of you are around 50 - 65 years of age, and you mess around with Thai bar girls who are around 20 - 30 years old. Some of you said you spent money on them, 100,000 dollars or more, and I believe you...how's that? I am not sure whether you have a big heart, or a small brain. Let's not dance, shall we? Everybody knows that you guys all go there for one main reason, and that is sex. You went there, you had a good time, and you left your heart over there. Then you think about taking these girls to your country. You think you can change them, you want to provide them a better life...well that is very nice of you. However, they may never change, but you just hope and one thing that I can guarantee you is that you can never buy...love. 


You knew exactly from the outset who they were, but you still went for them anyhow...so don't you think you are partially responsible for the consequences as well? Maybe you are the one who deceived yourself, maybe you like to live in a fantasy world? I know sometimes it is happier to live in a fantasy world than the real world.

Don't you think this is the time to come out and face reality?  I am sorry if I offend anyone, o.k?

 

Here is my second part and here is my advice:  If you really love a Thai girl and want to marry her, you should go for a real Thai girl. I mean a Thai girl with education who has a real job, not a bar girl. I know it is more difficult, but they are still out there. If you want a happy married life, then you must find a way and a will to locate her. You know,... right, easy come, easy go, difficult come, difficult go. Well some of you might say that there are some people who have a happy marriage with a former bar girl. Yes, there are about 2%, but you are not 2%...you are the other 98%.

If you live in your country, maybe you can find a Thai girl who is already there to save all kind of hassle. You can find her through a college or university. A lot of Thai people study over there (the states, England, Australia, New Zealand, Canada.) Or perhaps she works in a Thai restaurant. Well, I am sure if you can find the way to go to Thailand for those bar girls then you can find the way to figure that out too. In those countries that I mentioned above, they all have Thai communities. Maybe, you can visit their website and leave your message on their web board. Your message should be clear and truthful about what you are looking for. Who knows what might happen after that? Let' s hope for the best. You see, you don't even have to go to Thailand to find her, maybe she is right next door to you. 

I apologize once again if I offend anyone with my strong comment. I hope you guys learn something from my point of view.

Good luck to all of you, and take care.

From a Thai guy who lives abroad.

 

 

 

[andyrose]

Well, as I mentioned above, I wrote this article long ago.

I married the Belgium guy five years later and I cannot deny that one of the reason I married him was for his money. Nice heuh !!!

 

But, I was not a prostitute or a bar boy; I never was and never will be. I know we all have our reasons to do things. Therefore, I never blame or criticize my compatriots who want to marry a Farang for a better life rather than love. I thought his wealth would help me to overcome certain issues; but I was wrong. The marriage ended in less than seven months. I have been suffering a lot since that separation and I am planning to write the full story of my marriage later.

 

 

 

 

 

I would like to mention that I have signed up with the face book account not long ago; and I post my photos in my album. If anyone would like to chat with me anything over there; please be my guest.

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[Jai Dee]

 

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