3 hours ago, AYJAYDEE said:

and who defines "wrong"

Obviously, he does.

Maybe rightfully?

Justice for males often is nowhere to be found. 

1 minute ago, hansnl said:

Obviously, he does.

Maybe rightfully?

Justice for males often is nowhere to be found. 

 

maybe a guy that is that dominant doesnt deserve any

1 hour ago, nickcar said:

 

 My understanding has always been that if they are legally married husband is protected  and the courts usually uphold that,  it is when they're not legally married there anything in her name belongs to her no division of property 

there are many many sensible laws in thailand, but many of them are not enforced or carried out properly. of all the cases i know where the foreigner has made the mistake of getting legally married to a thai the foreigner has lost the house. one case the house was given to the kid because the mother had abandoned him with the father. if the foreigner never married the thai girl she would not have been able to take it.

7 minutes ago, little mary sunshine said:

 

 

 

 

 Won't say this is total BS...just unbelieveable!

Actually, it is quite believable.

Wisdom, however, hits you later.

I sure don't condone his actions but after the crap my X farang wife put me through I can sure understand why people do such things. It's amazing how nasty people can get, women and men ....

Lost everything, including his mind.

 

1 minute ago, Chris Lawrence said:

Lost everything, including his mind.

 

 

 

 

The Ghost made me do it!

3 hours ago, williamgeorgeallen said:

many guys i know have walked away from almost anything but they are still happy just to have their freedom back.

 

 

I was one of them back in 1999.

 

All I kept was the pensions and what I could fit into a Ford Mondeo estate car.

3 hours ago, robblok said:

If you take a wife half your age your playing the odds.. if you attract girls with your money do you think the want you or your money ?

 

I was recently divorced (unfortunately) from my Thai wife.. I kept the car and the house she did not want a thing besides what she put into the relation. We are still friends but I selected carefully and she was not half my age or attracted to money. 

 

They are out there.. just harder to find and get.. and probably not half your age and looking 10 times better. Woman want a good looking nice guy too.. Guys would not want a woman twice their age why would girls want it without some monetary compensation.

 

And yes there are good age gap relations out there.. but that is like winning the lottery everyone talks about it but fey actually win. (I have seen a few.. but seen more that were not genuine).

men age  much  better than  women, my  Wife  loves  me for what  i am.................87 yrs  old, shes 21  sooon

Just now, billd766 said:

 

I was one of them back in 1999.

 

All I kept was the pensions and what I could fit into a Ford Mondeo estate car.

God!! thats  terrible .................. you  mean u actually had a Mondeo??

I'm not defending the way things seem to work here but it's really not a lot different in my home country.  Laws related to divorce, settlement and child support have generally not been changed since I was born (in the 1950s).  Even though most women now have jobs of their own and many have decent paying jobs as well.  In addition, many women in my country seem to care more about the kind of car a man has, how much money he makes and where he lives than they do about the person.

 

Luckily for me, I married very young and divorced 5 years later when we still had practically nothing.  She tried to get the car but it didn't work since I had custody of the kids (aged 5 and 1.5 at the time).  I'll never make that mistake again.  "Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me."

 

I now have a live-in Thai gf 18 years my junior and she has a 16 year old who also lives with us.  They both seem happy with the better (though not extravagant by any means) life they have now.  If things change someday (which I hope they won't) at least I won't have to deal with divorce court.  And I decided to only rent when I moved here so "taking me to the cleaners" won't be an easy task for anyone.

7 minutes ago, kannot said:

God!! thats  terrible .................. you  mean u actually had a Mondeo??

 

No, it was a company rental.

 

I didn't have or need a car as I worked offshore most of the time.

 

I moved to an old girlfriends house, stored my stuff there and stayed with her when I was in the UK which was about 1 month a year.

Get married here and roll the dice.  End of story.

Anyone contemplating finishing off their spouse should seriously consider getting it done WITHOUT being caught........

Edited October 21, 20169 yr by R123

Strange that you guys lost it all.. where i come from wives get 50% of the joint property and a monthly allowance. Quite fair too they gave up all to stay home take care of the house your needs and kids and could not make money themselves. Then when it goes south she has to leave with nothing because you made the money.... forgetting what she did all the time for you and kids and could not have her own carrier because of it.

 

That monthly allowance is gone when she starts working (only topped up a bit). I have even seen cases where wives had to pay for their husbands. But these wives had a career made more money then their husbands. So it works two ways. You know what your getting into when you marry.. law has not changed in ages and you moan and bitch about it. 

 

Tough luck id say. First time around i was smart enough to have a pre nup.. kept my house out of it, and because of the short marriage only a short time for monthly allowance... all fair IMHO.. sure it sucks when she chooses an other guy.. but she is not property unlike what some of you might think. 

4 hours ago, SOTIRIOS said:

...''happen more around the world'......hogwash....

 

...it happens here in epidemic proportions...yet most victims...the hapless foreign husbands suffer silently....

 

...this is not justice...it is injustice....

 

...and it's time for the foreign governments to speak up.....

 

...the husbands and the children are the victims.....

 

...of greedy calculating 'wives' that never were wives or mothers....just calculating blood suckers....

 

 

 

 

Try to divorce in europe Or usa ...? 

" Morita was angry that a court had found in favor of his Thai wife over the house, land and other property after their marriage ended "  

 

He obviously was not a TV member, then......

4 hours ago, malcoml said:

Told my wife before we married that one way or another she will not have the opportunity to enjoy anything I have worked for if she does me wrong.

And they say romance is dead!

Now he got some time to practice Zen 

best thing that can happen to him

i envy him

1 hour ago, Get Real said:

Yeah! That man should never go to a casino, and he managed to miss 2 time. LOL
However I feel happy that she survived, because as you build you have to loose.

 

 

When I saw you'd quoted me, I thought you may be a do gooder condemning me for my uncaring, insensitive post, but we're on the same page.

 

We may be brothers??

Idiot . 

For 100.000 bht he could have her erased 

6 hours ago, trogers said:

Adjusting the scale of Justice?

 

No, attempted murder.

5 hours ago, SOTIRIOS said:

...''happen more around the world'......hogwash....

...it happens here in epidemic proportions...yet most victims...the hapless foreign husbands suffer silently....

...this is not justice...it is injustice....

...and it's time for the foreign governments to speak up.....

...the husbands and the children are the victims.....

...of greedy calculating 'wives' that never were wives or mothers....just calculating blood suckers....

 

"..it happens here in epidemic proportions...yet most victims...the hapless foreign husbands suffer silently...."    Hogwash.

 

"...this is not justice...it is injustice...."  Well you're right about that, shooting an ex-wife because you don't agree with a courts decision is not justice.

 

"...and it's time for the foreign governments to speak up....."   About what, a legal decision made in another country's courts?

Edited October 21, 20169 yr by gdgbb

Thankfully we have TV to keep us advised of all the terrible things that go on in Thailand, and how to avoid the pitfalls.

 

Regarding Thai wives; there are countless stories of cunning wives who are only after your money. There are good and bad people everywhere. Probably the best advice i can offer is dont get married until you really know your partner; at least 6 years. There are alot of good people out there too. Inverably getting married means taking on your partners problems; ensure there isnt any!

Edited October 21, 20169 yr by MaiChai

5 hours ago, catman20 said:

im surprised this sort of thing dose not happen more all over the world.

are you implying this is normal behavior?

20 minutes ago, sead said:

Idiot . 

For 100.000 bht he could have her erased 

 

 

I seem to have read, she took it all,...................lol

5 hours ago, kmj said:

Best plan is to not give it up in the first place instead of fking up your own life when it all goes bad because you're the idiot that gave it all away...

If we have not learned about the pain and financial loss by now of a divorce we deserved to pay the piper. It looks like this guy may have got the dirty end of the stick in the settlement but then he was a foreigner so why expect anything different. Again it all boils down as to how much do we want to trust the one we love calibrating in how the sh*t will hit the fan if a breakup occurs. It seems when it comes to affairs of the heart we do not do our due diligence. Reading people becomes a bit of a science as we age provided our mind is not clouded by love or lust. If your together for any length of time even the best deceivers drops a hint or two about their inner nature which should set of warning bells to "abandon ship"

15 minutes ago, MaiChai said:

Thankfully we have TV to keep us advised of all the terrible things that go on in Thailand, and how to avoid the pitfalls.

 

Regarding Thai wives; there are countless stories of cunning wives who are only after your money. There are good and bad people everywhere. Probably the best advice i can offer is dont get married until you really know your partner; at least 6 years. There are alot of good people out there too. Inverably getting married means taking on your partners problems; ensure there isnt any!

 

 

Know a prospective partner for at least 50 years before marrying her, and that may not be enough!!

 

The problem in 'developed' countries, is that a de facto wife, long term partner, etc., is still seen by the court as a 'wife' for property distribution purposes, etc.   The guys are pharqed from the word go.

He is a bad shot.

Just have no idea why anyone would get married in SE Asia.  The statistics are there. 

 

So many nice women and just dont do anything binding. 

 

Yea, some people make it out ok,  but everyone knows the odds.  Why risk losing everything you have over a woman. 

 

Will never understand this mentality.