Age Discrimination, Bottom Feeders And My Plan

[A45YearOldVrgin]

What a never ending learning curve since I got to Asia... :)

 

Here are my observations -- please  comment at will:

 

Age discrimination.

I am 45 and it seems like it's a huge deterrent to girls below 40 :) When I tell my age, their interest plummets... Who wants a Thai girl who is 40...? They look terrible for the most part after 35. The lack of knowledge on diet, health, laziness and hot climate - are all doing its part. While I am looking boyish and well preserved from living in USA. Many people would not give me more than 35...

<deleted>... I did not come here to find a 35+ women... I can do that in USA.... :)

 

My young farang friends who don't pay are boy toys....

I have a few farang friends who had taken a stand of not paying for the women's attention...  One is married to a girl who is 10 years older than him (they have been 3 years together) she still refuses to quit her job as a prostitute (sitting in a aquarium with the the number tag)

 

Another guy is 32 and taken a stand not to pay for sex... looks great, tall, sport bike, sanook, etc... All he gets is an occasional sex from 37+ year old ladies, who treat him like a boy toy and relationship proposals from working girls who would not quit their jobs for him...

 

Majority of Farangs are the "bottom feeders" when it comes to Thai girls...

 

And the story goes like this... Thai boys and girls meet in high school... the prettier girls get 2-3 boys shadowing them for a couple of years... finally the girl chooses the lucky one, who gets her knocked up in the short order and moves on, for the most part never seeing the newborn...  Now this girl goes to Pattaya, BKK, Internet to find a farang who will provide for the family...  Basically farangs picking up women that nobody wants anymore... with baggage (kids), fat, old, lazy and ugly... The Thais will pass them on while farangs will shower them with gold...

 

Complete mistrust between foreigners and Thais girls...

When I had just arrived, I had a tendency to trust people... this had now completely evaporated... They lie to me about everything... My friends tell me, you must learn to lie well in order to survive here... They don't believe anything I say anyway, why tell the truth? I am already closing my eyes to many "white" lies and don't let them get under my skin... Oh this changing my personality not for the better unfortunately...

 

Ordering vs asking their opinion...

In the west we are cultured to respect the woman's opinion... It's a norm to ask would you like to go there with me? Yesterday, I had asked the girl I am living with... would you like to go to Lao with me for a visa run? NO she said... (<deleted> I was thinking... why you need to stay in Pattaya for 3 days while I am out) And here goes the miss trust ... 

My friends say, you had asked wrong... just say: we are going to Lao for my visa run....

 

Bangkok, Chinag Mai, Pattaya girls vs provincial girls..

I think, I understand why so many girls are unmarried in BKK: Their bar for choosing the guy to settle with is too high... Young, wealthy, looking like a movie star... that's what they want, but what they have to give in return... much much less (lazy, aged, fat, superficial, stupid, photoshoped pictures of themselves?)

At least the girl from the province picks up the housewife chores... And their main criteria for the guy is wealth...

 

"Good" girl vs a Bad Girl...

I was dating a nurse from Bangkok Hospital in Pattaya... On her days off she wanted to be wowed... take me to the islands, movies, fancy restaurants, markets for clothe shopping... Yes, officially I did not pay for sex with her (lackluster) but spent money doing the fun things... In the end I was paying more then for the bar girl, who would have been 15 years younger and gave ME sanook and excellent sex...  After a few dates, I had given up on the nurse...

 

Pounce like a tiger...

The many books on how to properly date a Thai girl, that I had read before coming to Thailand proved to be an outdated theory...  In reality every Thai girl is collecting suitors and then choosing who she is going to go with... And sometimes hides behind "the old dating rules" so not to give up her pussy, etc... Especially Thai girls like to play that game with Farangs who don't know better and think 6 month + is OK to wait for her decision, while wine and dining her..  The truth is either she likes you from 1st / 2nd date or it's going to be an uphill battle that I do not want to be part of...

And as some girls had thought me(and yes they were hookers) when a Thai girl opens up a little to you, you must waist no time... "pounce like a tiger", seeing her every day, talking to her every minute until you get those knickers off... and the faster the better... That seeing each other once a week for the first 3 months, 2 times a week for the next 3 months (give her a gift of missing you) strategy that works well in USA is a total miss here...

 

My update and plan:

I had just started living with the girl (I give her 11,000 per month + food) She is 32 with 2 daughters 8 and 12 years old who are living in Korat. She is not beautiful and kind of on the fat side but she does everything I need in bed, takes good care of the house and a great cook. She has history of living with farangs that pay her and sometimes freelancing... This is a cheapest option I can do while in Pattaya, everything considered... This is a transitional period for me, but I need to work on my "total package" looking fit, learning Thai language, getting my both feet planted in terms of the income and becoming more sanook for the Thai girls... May be 6 months, may be a year... who knows how long will it take me to go out and "pounce like a tiger" :)

 

Best regards and thanks in advance for your comments...

[CharlieH]

Hope you enjoyed writing thst.

 

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