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Obviously, to marry a prostitute who is extra schooled in the art of deceit does not improve the odds of a successful mariage...
I did not marry a bar girl, and yet experience the same problems - albeit on a much lower scale than other posters.
Part of the problem are the unrealistic expectations of our Thai wives who think we are soooooooooo rich. Even if they understand that we are not so rich, they will not be able to convince their family of this / they will not try to convince them, as face is involved.
And of course farang expectations of romantic eternal love are just as irrealistic.
Furtermore, Thais usually have no savings (other than land) and no social security system, so when they genuinely need money (accident, funeral, bussines) they will expect money from the "rich" farang. They will resent us if we "don't take care" of them.
Add to that, no planning for the future, the paternalist culture, face, lack of education, a religion based on monks, the concept of "getting lucky", that few Thais raise above.
I do not think that most Thais have bad intentions.
It is all rather a big cultural misunderstanding + snowball effect.
But the results are the same.
I live(not married) together with an ex-bargirl for the last 17y. A bargirl can be a poor Isaan girl like mine without education ( she is the oldest and she had to take care of brother and sister). She was (is) pretty so this was her only way out. Bargirls can also be students looking for some extra cash...
You can also find a nice girl on Tinder or other dating sites, maybe they don't work in a bar but basically they persue the same goals and they also use their body as attractant. But apparently according to most TV members, bargirls are the worsed bloodsuckers of all.
I admit, in behavior, mine is no different from other stories on this topic, she does put her family first, But she is smart and uses the vampire method, you don't feel the bite and the drain will not kill.
However there is some kind of weird balance that keeps this relation going, she can be very sweet and kind and I have the choice to live with her or not (no children). I guess the ability to break-up whenever we want is probably what is holding us together.
I live over 20y in Thailand and I can only confirm other poster's comments that most girls who have cash strapped family will make it their goal to help them in any way they can and a "rich" boyfriend or husband is the shortest and fastest way to achieve this. So I do believe that a marriage or relation where the GF is financially independent will increase the chance of a longer lasting relation. But not so much an option for old buggers like me..
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Family for sure can be the reason for a failed marriage directly or indirectly. I don't care to much where the money I give her ends up but I can't resist comparing this with drip feeding. Once you completely close the money flow, I am convinced in many cases this could be the beginning of the end. For me it is a matter of balance, she is unable to participate financially but she really gives a lot in return. It helps that we are living in Bangkok far away from family and relatives. In the few occasions we visit her hometown it is nearly a line-up from the start of "friends" and relatives asking for small loans. We all know these have to be considered as gifts and she luckily can withstand this pressure. These so called friends even argue why they cannot get loans while she has money to renovate her house. Really they are without shame. Her parents are ok and the rest of the family are hard working people so probably this was my luck because honestly I was not thinking about the pitfalls as described in the many posts above. But even after 17y together I will always keep plan B which basically means that I am ready to walk away and leave all valuables behind. Even if all stops tomorrow, I won't regret anything..
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Had to chuckle at your plea for us to share our life stories. Perhaps they should have a sub forum for that.
However, while I have had a very interesting life, lived in many countries, been places few others have been, done amazing things, out of all the people I know, not one single person has ever asked me to tell my stories, or look at my photos.
I've been coming to Thailand for over 20 years, a place where millions of people pay loads of money to visit, and nobody I worked with, or knew back home, has asked me a single question about it.
Perhaps the saddest thing about dying is that no one else really knows us, and all that we are vanishes when we are not around to remember it.
I know when I die, they will just throw my personal stuff away, including my thousands of photos from all over the world. Pity, but like they say, life is s*** and then you die.
Live is a challenge and a wonderful experience and then we die..
If I would be able to listen to the real life stories of some members on this forum I wouldn't need true tv that's for sure. Why in this golden age of communication there is this ridiculous facebook but no "book of life"? Even this forum is very limited, what I would like to see is some kind of video recording where members get the floor and talk about anything they want. This should be stored in a database so we can listen to whom we want and when we want. This could add an extra dimension to our lives.
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I have no idea how many silent readers are following this particular thread, I just want to come briefly out of the shadow to express my warm feelings to all these contributors of real life stories combined with beautiful writing skills and a wealth of experience and knowledge. I feel that many of you could write books which stories would probably surpass many movie blockbusters. A thread with warm feelings without anger and venom in a way it even repells the well known keyboard warriors is unfortunately a very rare case. I really wish that some of you would share their life stories, so much better reading than all the pulp and fake news of these days.
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First, it is important to decide if a patent is the best solution. If the product/ formula can be kept secret inhouse, better not patent. A patent becomes public and thus available for easy copy.
If you cannot hide the secret, you need patent. I work with a good professional patent bureau in Singapore.
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Beijing nr 3 on the list says enough...
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It's even so that if you have a container of 150ml half full, it will still be confiscated.
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I agree, looks very dangerous indeed...
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Yesterday my children and grandchildren went to a birthday party at Bounce Emquartier. At the end of the party there was an artist who made little figures from balloons. We went home by BTS but at the entrance we were refused to take the balloons on the BTS. I telll you these balloon-figures were small maybe 30cm and filled with normal air. The boy became 7y old yesterday, I call their action brainless.
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I was referring to when you go out to a bar WITH someone . not too when you go to a bar on your own and pay someone to have a drink with you
I would be quite happy to take a lady out for a meal/drink , but I would feel uncomfortable if the lady was on the restaurant menu
I have no desire to make friends with any bargirls in CM , as I live among them and see and know what they are really like, when they are not working
I have no desire to have any prostitutes as friends
Its embarrassing to have prostitutes as so called friends
You lower yourself to the "desperate" category
Really? So... in which category do you belong?
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10 000 Baht ?
The bars that I go too, that is the entrance fee alone, nothing else included
Just put "in" in front and you have my sympathy.
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Many, many nights I left 7-10k in a bar, it was a lot of fun but since I stopped drinking alcohol, the fun is also gone for me. Luckily I spend so much money, otherwise I would not saving so much now! Wink..
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At least the guy who put Turkmen Manat in his suitcase had a sense of humour!
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Fighting Klingons and Romulans has been fun.
Thanks for protecting the human race from this scum!
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Yes, good, but I always have the feeling I could have done much more...too much lost time. Now I am 60, started my own business, this brings new challenges and new hope. If it fails, at least I tried.
I just don't want to fade away, I want to stay active with a cause/ purpose until the day I die.
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Make sure your will is legal...
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I came into the office and we had an aquarium at the reception. Nobody took care, water was green filter clogged, fish not happy...
So before going to lunch I told our staff to clean the aquarium very well. when I came back they were just removing the last stones from the bottom, glass was clean and fish flushed through the toilet..one of my first "ooh soooo sorry sir" misunderstandings.
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For the finance, you need proof of income, copy of work permit, copy passport and proof of residence.
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If you have money to burn, why not give it to the GF or family. However, If you have no money better follow the advice from members above.
In the 17 years together I gave a lot of financial support, and if tomorrow all is finished, so be it, no regrets.
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Did you ever see Thai people eating cockroaches? They do eat a lot of bugs, one looks very similar to a cockroach but it is actually a water beatle. As such probably cockroaces are edible but they do live in a filty contaminated environment plus there is also a chance they just ate some poison before being cought for consumption.
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Anecdote..my wife was visiting some touristic places with 3 visiting friends in Bangkok. She was "arrested" and brought to police station and charged with being a tourist guide. So what is the definition of a tourist guide?
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Eat cockroaches.
Thai don't eat cockroaches..
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I can drop mine with rolled oats or (better yet) psyllium husks. But nobody in my family has ever succeeded in getting within the recommended guidelines on diet alone. I've gone completely low carb vegetarian (heavy on the juicing) for several months at a time -in the summer, meaning lots of exercise- and still didn't get within the recommended guidelines. Seemed like a lot to give up for such a small benefit. A lot of it is hereditary.
BTW, after bypass surgery, I'm on statins that get me down to crazy low levels recommended by my cardiac guy. But I feel like crap all the time. My siblings have all tried the statins and most of them would rather feel better and risk the heart problems. So they quit taking them. I'm still on the fence, but understand their decision completely.
Same for me tripple bypass and on Lipitor. I have to keep bad cholesterol under 70.
As one poster mentioned that in fact eggs are no problem at all, is really dangerous advice for people at eisk for cardivascular disease (CAD).
Some people can have high cholestorol without ever being at risk to develop CAD. Indeed "Impulse", a lot is hereditary but in my case I am a stand-alone in the family, probably very bad habits from young age onwards.. smoking, drinking and eating like a pig. I was in shock after I found out my heart calcium score was 1300! After surgery I adapted to a new life style with indeed a lot of sport ( cross training) is one of them.
I have absolutely no negative effects from lipitor although I take the high dose of 40mg every day.
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To reduce cholesterol focus on avoiding intake so no shrimp, squid, meat, eggs (highest cholesterol) fish and chicken are ok. Vegetables eat truck loads, fruit nor vegetables contain any cholesterol. You will be surprised how fast your cholesterol will go down
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I do think there could be another weapon sort of speak, married or not, I will always make sure I can walk away and leave all my possessions behind. Many farang want to fight for their share and this could literally cost them their life. If you can't do that you are trapped.
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