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On 8/4/2018 at 3:22 PM, jak2002003 said:

Having lived here a long time I too have seen this again and again.  I still astonishes me how stupid and naïve a lot of the men that come here are.  

 

There is a house near me that the guy built for his Thai X bar girl  wife.. and she was from a poor family / working in a bar etc, and now she is super hi so attitude.. even having a very bad attitude with the Thais living around them.  She had to have air con in every room.... even the bathrooms LOL.  No one can bring themselves to tell the husband she is already married to an American and splits her time between the 2 husbands.  

 

There are countless more examples like this.  I still like the classic 'her brother living in the same house' one.  And the building the gf he just met a new house in some remote village next to her family'.  Then moaning when its all take off him after completion and she kicks him out.  

 

Last night at a restaurant there was a newly married couple sitting next to me.  The man was in his 80s and his new wife was in her 20s. Their conversation was about buying her a house, car, money money money.

 

I do have mixed feelings about these situations.  Many of the men are not nice people at all, and treat their Thai wives very badly.  I think the young women deserve the money they can get from them for what they have to put up with.  Other times, when the guy is very old, perhaps he knows deep down that the relationship is just about money... but he is happy to hand over his live savings for a few years of being with a sexy girl at the end of his life.  

Even a 80yr old with a 20yr old would be outside the norm. 

Maybe the odds of working are higher. Or chances are he'd be dead before he could get divorced 

56 minutes ago, gaff said:

 

If you knew how many married women I banged !!! Married to Thai and foreigners, but latter my fav, less chance to have problems when knowing that kind of idiots are many of them !

 

Yes you are old fashioned to believe in any faithful relationship, it's so ridiculous in 2018.

 

 

Let me guess. The chances of that happening back home are zilch to nil to nadda! 

3 hours ago, from the home of CC said:

Hello, is this you basing this upon your own experiences? If you had relationship (s) that went south maybe you weren't thinking enough with your big head. I admit I was very lucky to find someone to spend the rest of my days with (15 yrs and counting). She was a PR in Canada (where we married) for a while so she's gotten a good handle of where I'm coming from. And I spent 3 years in her small village running a store so I got an inkling of what influenced her when she grew up. We both worked hard in keeping it going (though it wasn't that tough) and it payed off with a lot of mutual love and respect, ol' school I guess you'd call it. Good luck to you Sir.

Settle down my friend, it's a  half tongue and cheek comment! 

9 hours ago, micmichd said:

Yes, and then they come to Thailand and promise Thai ladies a rose garden. Like a house in Germany, where in fact the house belongs to a bank, the mother, or someone else. 

Why should a poor farmergirl from Issan want to.marry someone like this?

Lying isn't good at all. 

However if you're going to judge someone based on the size of his........ House. 

Then expect to get burnt at times. 

You play with fire..... 

10 minutes ago, Gecko123 said:

It's a myth that there's a Thai girl waiting for every foreign guy who hops on a plane and comes here. That's right: even when you look in all the right places, do your homework, and take your time, cultural differences and language barriers make it hard to know what you're getting into until it's too late. Some men are not temperamentally suited to transcend these barriers, and that's not necessarily a shortcoming on their part. Steering clear of romantic entanglements is oftentimes the wisest course of action. Counterintuitive in a country with a reputation for being a girlie mecca, but nevertheless true. Nothing to be ashamed about. Often quite liberating, actually.

thats what happens when you leave your brain and both heads at Suvarnabhumi airprot

On 8/4/2018 at 2:41 PM, Kadilo said:

What’s a high end “normal” bar.?

an expensive bar that doesnt have hookers or girls you can buy/rent

i am far too cynical, and a realist to know that 30-50% of marriages fail (or whatever the statisic is)

that if I were to marry, I am not going think , "we're different" regardless of age, race, culture

unromantic? yes

3 hours ago, 473geo said:

I am staggered by the miseries now visiting Thailand, you go to a bar to be left alone......good grief what are you doing here?

I've been to a few high end "normal" bars and they never shake the bottle. In fact only 50/50 do they offer another one. 

49 minutes ago, sawadeeken said:

All I can say............ IS...... 'You have a great way of 'shooting your own foot'.......

You don't seem to have a 'clue' as to WHY those girls are in those bars doing what they are doing........ I know you don't care but I will try to help 'enlighten You'.........

#1 This is Thailand (Think: - Poverty)

#2  These girls came from Poverty and got very little schooling.... Even 7-11 don't want them...... But a neighbor girl tells them "come work in Pattaya (or Phukhet) and make big money" (EVEN MORE than 7-11)

#3  These bars and girls are there to make money in a 'Povertish' country (Thailand) and have a number of customers daily who benefit them by spending money and paying for their pleasures ------ BUT then they have a few customers (cheap Charlies) daily who come in and want the same 'Great' treatment as those 'spenders' who will pay for their pleasures.........

IT MAY TAKE SOME FOLKS LONGER TO 'GET THE PICTURE'...... but work on it and soon you will have the clear picture............

A good example might be:  Buy the chepest airplane ticket and then try to 'sneak' up into a 'FIRST CLASS' seat............ ( I know a lot of these farangs in Thailand ---- Taking advantage of Thailands 'poverty')..................

BUT...... as they say around the BARs......... "UP TO YOU".........

Customers don't care whether the girl/manager/owner/land owner/the pope is making the money. 

Shit service is shit service 

3 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

No, I'm looking at it from a different perspective. Yes, I do have car insurance. I don't have house insurance because I don't own a house.

My insurance consists of leaving 80% of my assets in Australia. I'm prepared to walk away from the other 20% here if it comes to a crunch. If you can explain on this forum how you cover your ass against a failed relationship in Thailand

in terms of protecting property here, I'm sure there would be many interested readers. IMHO it's pissing into the wind.

put it this way, the odds of a failed marriage/relationship are anything between 10-50% depending on which report or stat you look at,

if you are happy to lose all your goods, and it means nothing to you, then go for it

yes its unromantic but when the odds are so high, its just sensible, like i said unless it means nothing to you

I dont insure or protect myself against getting abudcted by aliens because the chances are a billion to one

others have mentioned a inbalance of power IF the property is being paid for by the guy in  a foregin country and if its under her name, and as we have seen and read before, this inbalance of power gets abused.

im not saying covering your ass completely against a failed marriage, but if the consequences are devastating to you , its unromantic but smart to minimise the damage, and that includes what name to put the asset that YOU paid for

putting it extremely if you are happy to lose a large chunk of your life assets over something that has 1 0-50% chance of happening, then thats up to you, but just dont come and complain after the event.

1 minute ago, Lacessit said:

You can't insure against a relationship going sour. Does that explain it clearly enough for you?

youve missed the point yet again, i will explain it in more basic terms so that you might understand it

car insurance minimises the damage an accident does

its called covering your ass,

i suppose you dont have car insurnace or house insruance

5 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Many people do; however, relationships are not cars.

And cars are not houses. 

Your point? 

7 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

If the OP is thinking of "protecting his investment" I'd say the relationship is heading for the rocks anyway.

Weve been throgh this before. On other threads

Would you drive your car without insurance? 

2 hours ago, klauskunkel said:

Since the OP says his investment consists of buying a "TV, washer, etc", then I believe the documents he needs to prove ownership are the bill of sale in his name for the items. Other that a legal document that entitles him to stay in the property is a "Rental Contract".

Im sure your gf is "different" 

But the first thing that gets sold/damaged/thrown/pawned  in the event of a fight is all your stuff! 

4 minutes ago, robblok said:

I agree.. unless you look like Sean Connery of course (he looked better as he aged). But unfortunately that is not how it works for most of us. 

Absolutely

Us men do stupid things when it comes to our ego and women. 

Unfortunately I'm learning a t a very slow rate

10 minutes ago, robblok said:

Getting married after a week is just stupid I think we agree there.. and yes some people only reveal their true colors later. I met and married one of those long ago. I learned from it but it did not make me bitter, just a bit more careful. 

Yes it is stupid. 

But one (including me) may think that marrying a girl half your age in a foreign country and expecting it to be because of your charm is also stupid 

11 minutes ago, Happy enough said:

such an old boring cliche comment that first was spoken in go go bars and passed on to those 'in the know' about thai women. yawn

May be boring and cliche

But I can assure give this thread a few more pages and every second post will be someone gloating about how theirs is different 

9 minutes ago, robblok said:

There are plenty of good Thai girls.. just takes a bit longer to find one and it takes more then money to get one.. 

Of course. Same with every other culture. 

Sure some people don't reveal their true colours until later or ever at all. 

But essentially it was your choice. 

For those people for example that get married after meeting for a week's and then complain that the marriage went down the toilet. You will Get no sympathy from me

3 minutes ago, robblok said:

If you have to spend so much money on a woman to keep her with you.. you surely must realize your renting and there is no love in between. (not saying this is the case here as there are kids). But if you have to keep spending huge amounts of money on a woman to keep her with you.... then she has a different idea about the relationship than you do. 

No, just remember

"my one is different" 

So many delusionals in this world from both sides . 

She doesn't deserve to die

But

Partner from different culture. 

22 yr age gap

He's behaviour would have been the same. Or similar before marriage. 

Both chose to ignore 

The rest you could probably fill. In the gaps

You play with fire. You will Get burnt 

Sometimes you have to take responsibility for your actions