JimTripper

I'm getting a bit of that as well where I am, but since my lease is up soon it's not really my problem as long as it does not collapse. I think it's water damage related.

I could not do a year in the room I was in. It was too small and you would end up just sitting out by the pool most of the time. No real gardens or other areas to hang out in. You also can't walk that long driveway out to the street more then a couple times a day (2B, not 2A). Not worth it unless you really can't pay that extra 10k a month to be happy.

Was it her son?

I'm not gay, it could just be a stereotype of young thai men I have. I also find that they rarely if ever look at eligible thai women with interest, at least that's what It looks like to me walking around casually. I guess that's not really the case however since that's human nature.

I liked LK Legend and almost rented there, but it required a little too much walking for me. I just saw a room for rent there for 12k 6 months/10k 12 months. Flyer is in the glass case in front of foodland next to harborland mall. Room looked Ok on the flyer.

I wonder why they don't come to Thailand for Thai men? Or do they? The young thai men I have come across that are interested in foreigners all seem gay. Are there any venues for foreign women looking for thai men and vice versa? I'm surprised that I almost never see an older white woman with a younger thai guy.

Do you prefer the company of men, or men doing things with other men? That's what being gay is mostly. It makes little difference who you are doing a physical sex act with as it's just a physical release. A female could be more socially accepted to do that with or more available to you. You could also be bi and like both, but it's about who you are comfortable spending time with.

Most guys that like other guys would not be in a gay venue. They chat up other guys in places that are oriented to straights and appear uninterested in the girls. That's why I'm always suspicious of guys that want to chit chat in places where they should be talking to the women. Many don't realize they are gay. They just know they are more comfortable being with and talking to other guys, or just doing things with other guys in general. Over time, they may come out and admit they like males better, but it can take a long time or years for that to happen. For some much older guys like this, it never even turns sexual. It's just a guy that has all these male friends, usually much younger then himself, and it looks odd that he's having all these pool parties with little or no women present. People sometimes think why is this guy not married of have a gf and he is always around a group of guys? Kind of like an uncle figure, but it's not family.

I hear HIV is crazy over there. Not a place I would want to be having sex often. The Op has posted on this same subject before. So it's interesting he is doing it again.

Many guys go there to talk and drink with other guys. You sound like one of those guys. Ask yourself why you are interested in being there with other guys. Do you like interacting with women only around other guys? Do you talk about women with other guys? Is the lady bar a way of being with other guys in a sexual venue without admitting you are sexually attracted to other guys?

That's common. The bar girls standing outside typically don't go inside with you. What happens is you stop for them then other staff take over once you step inside. Lots of guys think they are going inside for a drink with a girl they see outside because they kind of escort you do the enterance.

I don't know about "small island communities where everyone is playing music" but it sounds great. Where is that exactly?

I was scared of getting old and passing away in VT2.

Yeah, that was a bit weird. Sad actually. I think it's guys who are getting older and can't afford much and they just kind of get stuck there in Jomtein. There's worse places to be, but I would not want it to be my "end of the road" if you catch my drift. Jomtein can kind if be like that and it's a reason I moved out of the area to center. Another example is having breakfast in Jomtein near that condo. One guy on crutches sits down, then on the other side a jaded looking older guy, etc. The whole area made me feel old. I'm early 50's so I don't really want to live with 60's/70's. Not ready to retire yet on that level.

I lived in 2b for a month. The walls are actually pretty thick. No noise problems. Construction seemed good, but it's hard to go wrong with just a tiny room. The only issue I had was the small size of the room and the fact that there were so many units on the same floor felt strange, just door after door, etc. I also had some nutjob on my floor trying to open my door at night all the time, some mentally ill person. I could have probably solved this if I lived there, but you might have issues with people just because there are so many units. Oddly enough, I hardly saw anyone when I was there, could have been seasonal, not sure. Another thing is there do seem to be some down and out folk living in the rooms. Like old guys just sitting on the bed when you walk past that look kind of down and out or not 100% there mentally, that sort of thing. All in all it seemed livable, but I was very glad to move out and into a bigger room in a less populated building. It's Ok, but it felt leaning towards the lower end of the spectrum to me and what have you. Not really someplace I would want to "retire to" if you catch my drift, but I could make due there if that's all I could afford and be happy I guess 🤷🏻‍♂️. Just spend some time there. Walk right in and visualize yourself living there. It's not rocket science. I think you could even use the pool if you wanted to. I would definately buy in the VT's instead of stuff like the base, unixx etc. VT's are better in that regard. You would also be around more foreigners and similar instead of chinese, japanese, etc. which did not seem to like the VT's at all for some reason, not sure why. Although the Russians did like it.

I hate non rigid heads. It's like a limp handshake.

Phone calls are not part of the deal. The address is on the package, if it's not delivered it never arrived!

Another problem I don't think anyone mentioned is that most people you meet at all in Thailand seem very transitory. In other words, they are not really settled in. Even older guys over 50 seem to move around from place to place pretty often. It's like the roots are not there. I noticed this when I first came to Thailand and how many of the people I knew were more like people I would meet at college keg parties, people who I knew who they were but there was no deep friendship. We never talked about meaningful stuff, it was just hanging out and having a good time when we happened to be at the same party. Or, we would get in contact when they were coming into town usually for a gig or concert, then they just disappear until next time.

How did they suggest you get the money? Was there an ATM on site, or did you feel like they would drive you to an ATM? Or did it need to be paid in cash on the spot?

Over saturated market. You would need to keep lowering price as your neighbors undercut to where there is little profit or even near break even. Many will rent near breakeven or even at a loss to get customers. They have a map on the app, everyone near you shows up on the map.

Seems kind of naive. In the Usa it's often dudes. Most single women don't even bother with the internet dating sites anymore unless it's hookers, not sure about the Uk but it's probably similar. Meeting someone off there in the Usa is like buying a winning lottery ticket. Geniune good looking women have reported thousands of emails, so many that it's not even possible to screen people. Especially the ones where people are swiping yes/no etc. If you're even in a conversation with a real female you are lucky. It's that way in Thailand also, although I think there are far less fake profiles. Dudes from all over the world messaging sending messages to the women in Thailand. It's getting worse as time goes on. People are getting something off just messaging somehow even if there is no possibility of meeting. Kind of like comments on video's or whatever.

I think it's usually men who want to keep chatting. They put up female profiles to talk to other men. Your guess is as good as mine as to why they do that.

I remember the beergarden. There was some freelancer on her motorbike sitting at the enterance who gave me a 🤙 as I walked towards the enterance. When I went in there were a lot of german guys at beergarden having a beer snd looking like they wanted to meet me. I get guys staring at me all the time that look like they want to talk. I even started doing "tactical sitting" so I'm not facing directly at them during drinks & meals. I don't typically want to talk to another 50's guy during a meal if we are both stag, especially if we have had too many "biers" in the "garten". As for the sitting arrangement, it's rare for him to care which way I'm facing after all.

The reason you are having trouble finding them is because those are not the sort of guys that are attracted to Thailand. 🤔 It's mostly guys who need that female handholding, are drunks, baggage & relationship issues, need ego stroking, etc.

If they have an "english or american breakfast" it's a fake thai place 🤣.