thaibeachlovers

On 3/20/2020 at 2:58 AM, Lacrimas said:

after my wife loaned some of our money to her cousin

Your mistake was allowing her to access YOUR money ( it's not "ours" unless she contributed to it ). Put all YOUR money is a separate bank account she can't access, and lock the bank book in a safe she can't access.

Of course she loves her relatives more than you. That's just how it is when one marries a Thai woman. Welcome to LOS.

On 4/1/2020 at 6:07 AM, SAINT THOMAS said:

A dowry is given to both Virgins and women married before.

As I understand it Sin Sod is NOT a dowry. A dowry is for the wife, sin sod is for the parents as compensation for losing the person that should look after them. if the daughter has been married before they were already compensated, so why the <deleted> should they be compensated again?

On 4/7/2020 at 4:01 AM, parafareno said:

we could be together all the time

Absence makes the heart fonder. Enjoy it while it lasts.

On 4/4/2020 at 1:32 PM, car720 said:

I seem to remember Chuck Berry being in there somewhere.

Had he been white he'd be a hero of rock and roll.

Springsteen has an amusing story of standing in for his backing band when they didn't turn up.

On 4/3/2020 at 6:02 PM, khunPer said:

I was never that fond of Beatles at that time – I'm a 1949'er – more a Rolling Stones and like, rebellionist; however I did go to their only concert in Denmark in 1964, even in the VIP-lounge up front; the truth is that I was invited for free, later I was however happy that I did attend.

 

Today I find their songs, even the older ones from "Rubber Soul" and onward, a lot more interesting than ever before, and realize how great their musically genius was; together, not when later separated.

 

However, I've always be hit by their lyrics, and the story – or message – they passed on; probably mainly John Lennon's work.

 

And yes @Peterw42, the film "Yesterday" was a great fun movie that gave their songs a reprise...????

It was my teen daughter that persuaded me, she's Beatles-fan...????

I hated everything after and including Sgt Pepper.

They went from a truly great pop group playing enjoyable songs to a collection of drug addled weirdos making music that is never played in public any more and will vanish into nothing once the last person that liked it dies.

Never let if be said that LSD is harmless.

The Stones, on the other hand, stuck to their roots and remain loved by millions, though I chuckle to remember Mick saying that he couldn't imagine still being in the band as an "older" person.

I did enjoy the movie.

7 hours ago, Crazy Alex said:

Come here legally. That's all we ask. And if you don't come here legally, you are subject to deportation. End of story.

Speaking as one that had to spend large amounts of money and go to lengths to comply with legal residence in LOS I have no sympathy for those that seek to live illegally in another country.

If one's own country is such a <deleted><deleted> that one does not wish to live there, either apply for refugee status and join the q, or do something about your own country.

16 hours ago, garrya said:

If you are on a "normal" income, this country is way more expensive than our home countries.

LOL. Do you try to live a western style life in LOS? Thais get by on 9,000 a month, so it's NOT expensive so long as one doesn't want an unaffordable life style.

16 hours ago, garrya said:

I like the roads. The roads are new and in a good condition. 

Obviously never been on the roads I drove on. The short cut road from Phrae to the Queen Sirikit reservoir is a doozy. 2 hours in first and second gear.

Some of the back roads up north could do with a reseal too.

8 hours ago, bwpage3 said:

Would you still be amazed with Thailand if you DID NOT have an amazing wife and you were on your own?

My life was better before I got married and got better after I was single again. Being on my own in LOS was brilliant.

8 hours ago, bwpage3 said:

Why lie and make things up?

One can always find bad things about any place in the world, and in most places one can find things that make it worth while to live there.

LOS can be horrible for anyone that doesn't want to look outside Pattaya, Phuket, Chiang Mai or Bkk, but outside those places there are so many wonderful and interesting things that a man would never grow bored in a life time.

If anyone doesn't find anything to love about LOS, IMO they just aren't trying hard enough.

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

I have met very few Thai women that I would describe as philosophical, or intellectual. Most Thais simply do not have inquiring minds.

That describes almost everyone I ever met. Not one person I know at home has ever asked me what it is like in LOS.

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

My first trip here was in 1976!

Beat you by 2 years. Bkk back then was almost entirely low rise. The Golden Mount was almost the only high point in the city.

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

The politics here are absolutely regressive. The army is horrendous.

You seem obsessive about the military government. The Thaksin government was the exception, not the rule for LOS since the coup in the 1930s.

If anything has got worse in the past decades, it is the restrictions on visiting LOS, which have gone from liberal to restrictive, and that can't be blamed entirely on the military.

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

people have become very dour, and heavy hearted, as a general rule of thumb.

That applies to every country I ever been to, including LOS. The smile disappeared about the same time they started getting fatter- long ago.

18 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Nearly everyone I know in the states tells me that their wives do not try as hard, once they are married. That the motivation to be all they can be just sort of disappears. I can see if for myself. They often do not seem the same as they were before. And this especially applies once the kids were born,

That's a universal truth, IMO.

Having children changes women in ways men are unable to understand. Not for nothing did I not want to have any.

You seem to have got lucky with your woman. I wish you well, but never forget a relationship has to be cherished and worked at by BOTH in it.

21 hours ago, sirineou said:

I am sorry to hear of your negative experience.

 Easy for many of as to get involved with the wrong crowd , I mean you get on a plane, you come to Thailand , what do you do? you go to a tourist area (you are a tourist) and you go to a bar, you meet a pretty little thing, you get along. have a good time, and there you are. Nothing wrong with that, many of these girls are good people in difficult situations, but you need to understand that they Got in this situations because they might not come from the best family situations. 

But that's not Thailand. It is simply the thailand many of as know. There is another thiland out there.

 I am no different from the people I describe above, but I got lucky. I met my now wife at a work environment. Initially she wanted nothing to do with me but i wore he down.

 . Her Family were not rich, Father was a worker for the water department, mother run a small convenience store in their village in Khon kaen, Both hard working honest people. Aunts and uncles the same. They worked hard, provided for their family, and put both of their girls through University. 

They really were not thrilled when I showed up with their daughter, I am sure they were looking forward to their daughter marrying a nice Thai man that would be a good fit in their family. In time they got to know me and love me just as much as their daughter, some times perhaps more ,because my wife can be difficult at times. 

Not once did anyone ask me for money, 

an uncle asked my wife ones.  He asked the wrong person . Wife is tight with the money, she quickly shot him down. I might have being an easier mark. 

If anything they have helped us. 

Married eleven years now, and even though we own houses both in the US and Thailand. when I say we are going home  I mean Thailand.

 Sadly both my MIL and FIL  passed away with in a year from each other a couple of years ago. I miss their smiling faces greeting us at the airport, and how they made me welcome in their house every time we went there.

I miss all of us piling up in the car and going to the dam . We always went everywhere together.

Today is a sad day for us, It is MIL's B-day, she passed away less than a year ago. Wife cut white roses from our garden and put them under her mom's picture. 

Stuck in the US with this virus , can't wait for it to be over so I can come home.   

You wuz lucky.

I thought I did it all the right way- waited 6 months before moving to LOS permanently, just holidays with her, lived with her a year before getting married. Met the family and they seemed OK. Where it all went wrong was letting her talk me into moving to the village to live with them. My advice to anyone getting married is make sure the family really are OK, or live too far away for them to visit. If moving to live with them have an exit plan, which I didn't have.

18 hours ago, Assurancetourix said:

A few weeks ago , in a restaurant in Sawang on the left side of the first light coming from Sakon Nakhon, khao pat khai ( chicken )  or hmu ( pig )  was 35 baht ; now it's 40 baht as nearly all other restaurant in Sawang and the villages around.

Considering it was probably 25 baht 40 years ago that's still pretty cheap.

18 hours ago, Assurancetourix said:

It's not a joke ;

A few weeks ago , in a restaurant in Sawang on the left side of the first light coming from Sakon Nakhon, khao pat khai ( chicken )  or hmu ( pig )  was 35 baht ; now it's 40 baht as nearly all other restaurant in Sawang and the villages around.

 

Today a very little MTBike balade : 27 km on red roads .

The photo of the century (  but thai people love to make their country as an open garbage can ) 

 

 

 

Thais don't seem to care about anything outside their property. Sad.

I went to a local hot spot waterfall somewhere on the MHS loop and it was a garbage tip. Samet, the last time I went was a garbage tip end to end.

If Thai authorities were on the ball, they'd have set up solar powered desalination facilities decades ago, but of course the reality is that they ain't.

13 hours ago, Leaver said:

I am sure many governments around the world have considered this crisis the perfect opportunity to ban cash, if only for a short period, to flush out tax evaders, criminals etc. 

Too many oldies like me that don't have internet at home, don't use plastic, don't have a smart phone. Be embarrassing if loads of oldies died of starvation instead of corona.

OMG. Do the authorities just not realise, or just don't care? It's mind boggling.

For the first time I'm happy not to be in LOS. I didn't see how long it is taking to get to the front of the q, but I couldn't last that long, however long it is.

Are the people running the office so dim they can't set up a big tent, or commandeer a big building to process the crowd- the existing office is obviously unable to cope? Have they even put extra officers on the desks.

BTW, are they still requiring irrelevant documents and multiple photocopies etc?

55 minutes ago, Watchful said:

Leaver, I suspect you are correct, but I have zero data to support that. 

 

I believe the medical community should start providing information that's databased about which populations are at the highest risk. It seems to me that quarantining those folks makes more sense than global shutdowns. Right now all I know is "elderly" and African Americans are at most risk. That really doesn't help any.

 

I suspect that both weed and tobacco smokers would fall in the "high risk" category as well as those that vape.

Any that have damaged their lungs by smoking or other ( glue sniffing? ) are obviously more at risk, but the sheer numbers would make quarantine difficult.

6 hours ago, sirineou said:

I love the family aspect of Thailand, it reminds me of how it used to be before we all got wrapped up in our own little worlds. 

I hated the family aspect of Thailand. Bunch of money sucking leaches.

18 hours ago, Lacessit said:

Am I regressing to a simpler and happier time, as an escape from what is happening in the world today? What do you dream of?

I dream a lot of being back on the ward, but never happy and definitely not a simple time- more like nightmares.

I never used to dream of sex, but recently I have, though I never get to a happy ending.

I rarely remember my dreams, but the ones I do are usually barking.

Sometimes I wonder if the things I remember are reality or some dream I had.

7 hours ago, owl sees all said:

She always has a cheeky smile for me,

No mask then?

7 hours ago, owl sees all said:

But there's a restaurant just along the road. Expensive though; 195 Baht for the three of us

I'm assuming that's a joke? Cost me more than that for two when I took the once upon a time beloved out to dinner ( not including drinks )

Your garden center photos took me back. I spent a lot of time in them once upon a time.

Keep 'em coming.

8 hours ago, rvaviator said:

You can try look at Lazada or AliExpress for this type of sports mask - Rockbros - They have exit valves - and replaceable active carbon paper filter on the inside.  I use one myself when I cycle .... easier to use than a normal mask .....

 

Does the filter on the inside cover the exit valves? If not, the only reason for wearing a mask are nullified ( to protect OTHERS ).

Like it says, it's a dust mask, not a virus protection.

BTW, without eye protection they are probably as useless as the paper masks to prevent infection.

Still, it's like wearing a bucket on the head instead of a crash helmet- keeps the BIB from issuing a fine.

12 hours ago, mauGR1 said:

Whatever is the law, and whatever you think about masks, you'll better wear a mask when you go out.

In Chanthaburi is 20.000 for not wearing one.

The usual sources of <deleted> money are probably gone, so that's not unexpected.

14 hours ago, Zikomat said:

It will not be over in one day or even a week or even a month. It came on us slowly and it will go away even slower. 

Didn't come on NZ slowly. Think it only took a few weeks ( I don't remember the exact timeline now ) from zero to lockdown and I only knew about the lockdown 2 days before it happened.

10 hours ago, Sheryl said:

 

The situation there is unspeakably awful. I am in constant touch with my family there. Most of my friends are too exhausted, working in hospitals, to talk much.  They say it is pure chaos (in the hospitals).

 

I think the mass transit was key to the exponential rise in cases and ti is hard to see how they will be able to reopen things. The city is so completely reliant on mass transit  that there is no way it can get back to even 1/4 normal without it, but  even 1 infected person getting on the subway in rush hour would re-ignite things in a major way.

 

So even once new cases taper off, it likely will be a long haul for NYC.

Would that be for the hospitals that cater to normal people or all, even the ones for rich people?

For years they've been telling us that American health care is the best in the world..............................

What I don't understand about this situation in any western country, is why they didn't get the military to open their field hospitals to keep Corona cases out of public hospitals- normal medical problems won't stop just because of this situation. They don't have to rely entirely on military medics- can use civilian nurses as well.

PS, I am an ex medic.