thaibeachlovers

I wish I'd had a FIL to be that so disliked me marrying her that we didn't for 10 years as after 5 years we'd be separated, and I'd still be living in LOS.

I don't think farangs pay the wife to like them. That'd be nice if she did but it's not necessary to like someone to have sex with them.

Didn't you know that Thai women are "different"? 55555555555555555

That's not the same as some woman getting paid to sit around house, playing on phone and watching soaps on tv. If she's taking care of the farm she's not a/ getting bored, b/ getting in the way of the farang.

Sounds like bureaucracy gone mad. Luckily I didn't need that when I got mine ( not from UK embassy ) as the first place wouldn't do it because of some problem with paperwork. IMO tell the agency to get a move on- I did all that in a day on my own. Perhaps it's got more difficult now, which would not surprise me.

Type 1 diabetes is different from Type 2, though result is the same if not treated. So, thin people can be diabetic. The point about fat people being likely to develop diabetes Type 2 is valid, along with more likely to have heart and joint problems and for the vast majority is entirely avoidable. Many of us, myself included, eat too much, eat too much sugar ( not myself now ) and carbohydrates, and exercise too little. For the poster that wrote that we had to give up processed food, that may be correct, as well as bread and gluten foods, but given I buy my food from the supermarket I'd starve if I didn't eat any processed food. The days of the butcher, fishmonger and greengrocer are pretty much distant past now.

My father never hit me, just didn't show any affection at all. He could have been a stranger to me for all the time I spent with him- a bare minimum when I was a child. I didn't take after him when I grew up. I learned to be what the schools made me, as I spent most of my childhood in boarding schools. When I joined the military it was just like school.

I learned long ago that I would never understand women, so I stopped trying and accepted that they are the way they are and that's that, even though they are a strange breed IMO. They will fend off Joe Average even though he'd be a great friend and a considerate lover, but will throw themselves at scumbags because they play a guitar or have a lot of money, and then complain how all men are awful when they end up alone with a kid or two. Worst thing IMO is that the laws in western countries encourage them to do so- have a kid because they couldn't say no, and then get taxpayer money to live on. I had a solo mum friend way back- had a nicer car than me, had a house when I couldn't afford one, had a great life while I had to work like a dog.

In an ideal world. My father got rid of me to boarding school as soon as possible. Never had a conversation with him like normal people do. Only left me something in the will when he died because he probably forgot he had one. When I see fathers that actually like their children I wonder if I'd have been a better person had my father been a father to me, but I'll never know, of course.

If a guy wants his wife/ g f to stay at home as a companion/ housekeeper/ sex goddess then yes, he should give her money in compensation for what she could have made working, but only that amount- no 20,000 baht when she could only earn 9,000. Personally, if I was a young woman and an old guy asked me to stay home with him all day, I'd have dumped him on the spot. My father tried that on with my mother and ended up alone ( they were the same age but you get the picture- I'm referring to farangs in LOS- probably no way they are marrying some old woman ). I can't imagine anything more soul destroying than being forced to hang around with one person for years. Perhaps it'd be different with small children, but that only lasts till they go to school, so what happens after that? I liked that my wife worked. It gave me my own time to do what I liked while I was by myself.

Nurses have always been too submissive for their own good. If they were like men and prepared to go on strike they'd be paid properly. I was in a meeting to decide if the staff in the hospital I worked in should go on strike, but hardly anyone agreed, so they got screwed over. Shortly after that I got a pay rise anyway, as the NHS couldn't get enough nurses because the pay was rotten, so the government had to give all low grade nurses a big pay rise. I could have become a higher grade with better pay but I didn't want to be part of the oppressors. Many of the nurse managers were bullies, but as that included the manager nothing ever got done about it. I retired early because of her.

and unlike a dog, it can be programmed to say "I love you" ( before a short circuit causes it to crush one to death in it's powerful arms ).

Dear Mr Gamma, please remember that less can be more. loony Ring book You are sir, a Philistine. LOR was without a doubt the greatest work of fantasy ever written and anyone that read it was privileged to do so. Elon’s prime directive seems to be finding some way to move human intelligence to Mars, as if he expects armageddon on Earth, any day now. He has even stated that he is in a hurry! and he's not wrong to be in a hurry! Looking subjectively at the human race, one has to wonder if it even deserves to be allowed by Gaia to carry on with the destruction and the pollution. IMO it's not looking good for humanity. All I can say about that though, is that Elon should never be allowed to escape. That would be a disaster to be inflicted on any survivors on Mars- the horror, the horror. I once lived for a few years under martial law, with no television, no radio, no English newspapers, and no uncensored magazines. Life was anything but boring for me. Sounds like life on a small Antarctic base during winter: No newspapers- bliss No magazines arriving- if we hadn't brought our own supply of Playboy; too bad. No television- paradise. IMO television is 99% garbage and 0.01% good. The remaining bit is informative. We did have radio though, and I learned to despise American Disco music. Life was indeed anything but boring though. Having to leave after my contract was up was like being evicted from Eden. So, again, I need a five-year plan which will wean me from the internet so that I can stop wasting my life in the virtual world, and, instead, get back to the garden, like Chauncey. You don't need 5 years- just do it. Man up and go cold turkey. You'll feel better if you do. The internet is a trap, but every time I try to get out it sucks me back in. Here you are in Thailand, and surely it is a blessing. Are you going to waste this precious gift by spending time in tourist areas, in the farang bars After discovering Thailand I spend the best years of my life in the farang bars, and not one minute was wasted. Conversely, every minute spent outside Thailand was a minute wasted. These days, I am seriously considering making a move up to Chiang Rai and becoming even more of a hermit than I have ever been. I have often considered becoming a hermit in LOS, but I never, ever gave a thought to doing so in Chiang Rai. If I were by some miracle to be able to afford to live out my remaining life in LOS it's be on the north east coat of Phangan, where I can sit on the balcony on top of a cliff and watch the sun come up over the wide wide ocean, while the beloved sleeps behind me.

If you think Bkk is boring you don't get out enough. Need to get out of the taxi and walk though. worlds-most-boring-cities More to the point would be which cities are exciting? Only ones on my list are Bkk and Pattaya. Even London was a yawn ( other than the few tourist attractions it's just bad architecture and dirty ). Soho was <deleted>. In the 1970s I'd have included Singapore, but I gather it's a bit too bland now. NB. I make no claim to have been in every city on the planet, so applies only to the few dozen I have been in. I have been in many exciting places, but were not cities eg Antarctica can't be beat for exciting and wonderful, but no cities down there.

My wife worked and got the average wage. I paid household expenses as it would have been mean to make her contribute to that. If we went to a movie or ate at a restaurant I paid. If we went to a nightclub I paid. If we drove to the village I paid for fuel. If we went on holiday I paid travel, hotel and restaurants. Get it? If we did things together, I paid. If she wanted to go off on her own, she paid her own way. I'd never have just given her a monthly "salary" to spend as she wanted. That's part of treating her as an equal, not as a person lower than myself that had to be "employed".

You touched on the real problem in healthcare- too many managers that don't care about the patients. Get rid of 90% of managers and things would likely improve ( could afford to pay nurses more if they got rid of the dead wood too ). Old: a main responsible person that knows the person well. And a team of others. New: everyone is rotated and no one should know any patient too good or have too much contact. LOL. I was working on the wards when they changed from everyone is rotated to a main responsible person that knows the person well. It was called "Primary nursing" and didn't work because there were never enough staff to be done properly. What most people might never know is that nursing is not popular because of bullying by managers and overworked/ underpaid. Happiest day of my nursing career was when I left the wards forever to work in surgical theatres. Still got the bullying and still underpaid, but better than being overworked all day.

More to the point, how many farangs with very much younger wives, girlfriends would give them up because someone else didn't approve? Personally, I'd tell them if they didn't like it to bog off.

I always used to wonder why women "fell in love" with bad men, but that was long ago when I didn't know anything about women. I still don't know much about what makes women tick, but enough to know why they fall for bad men- as I understand the psychology, it's a genetic imperative for women to have children with alpha males, though they will hook a beta male to help raise the kids.

I actually met the right ones a few times but they were always already married. I ended up living with the wrong one out of desperation. Far as the Thai was concerned, I actually thought Thai women were different- slap me!

I'm tempted to drive up to that remote village next time her phone pings there to find out what she's been up to but this will end up badly.. Fixed it for you.

Is it okay to lie to your partner of 5 years? Depends on what it's for.

WOW, would you give a western woman in your country money to stay with you? Try cutting the "pocket money" and telling her to get a job. If she is only with you for the money, you are better off without her, but if she does get a job she'll be too busy to play away.

No, we don't know different. Apart from the fact that you don't even know him, other than what he writes on here, it's a well known fact that some women turn the children against the husband in revenge. I treated my western ex's children better than she did, but they never wrote to me after I left. My mother treated them better than she or her own mother did, yet they never even sent her a Christmas card. Life isn't simple, and what applies to one person ( you ) does not necessarily apply to another person ( him ). We all have our own story to live.

Seems we are similar, except you apparently kept going back for more. I too treated my partner and wife as equals, shared the child raising with my western partner ( I had learned the folly of marrying a woman with kids so married a childless Thai woman ), did most of the housekeeping myself, and stuck out years of life without sex or even love with both, so hardly objects for my pleasure. I left my western partner, much to her displeasure, and even my Thai wife had to agree it was time for a divorce. The Thai did try to get me back a couple years later, but I wasn't that barking to go there again. Frankly, I think that one has to be incredibly lucky to find the right one and for her to still be the right one 5 years later. I just wasn't that lucky.

LOL. Bit hard burning a concrete house with tile floor and steel roof framing. Might manage the bed though ( hopefully without her in it, tempting though that may be ).