Isaan Love Triangle: Thai Men Found Lacking By Farang-Loving Women

[nausea]

Thai men don't find Issan women attractive, whilst Farangs do. Women need to feel loved.

[Morch]

With some variations, this comes up on TVF every now and then:

 

https://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/843945-new-trend-of-young-educated-thai-women-with-farang-husbands-emerges-researcher/

 

[The Deerhunter]

7 hours ago, exparte said:

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

Well I am not even up in Isaan.  I live in a rural area only a bit over an hour out of Bangkok and the things that go on.....  You couIdn't make up some of the stuff that happens around here.  I not only could, but did write a book about some of the weird stuff that happens but I avoided mentioning relationships stuff.  No one but another ex-pat long stay guy would believe me anyhow. 

OK, so December starts tomorrow and a lot of the Thaksin era cheap loans come due around here in December.   They have to find the money to pay them off in full, pay a year's interest and then the loan rolls over and they get the principal back out again in a day or two.  Repeat every year.  Wife was telling me over dinner how many people around here do not know where to get the interest or from where to borrow the principal to show for 2 days this year.  It is a hard life at the bottom in this land.  It seems a no brainer that any farang with a bit of money at all who doesn't want to keep a few spare Mia noi's on the side; get blotto on Lau khao and beat up the missus and kids a couple of times a week, looks like a good bet in much of rural Thailand.  It's a difficult life for many farmers here.  Quite sobering to be living among some of it.

[Berkshire]

3 minutes ago, Morch said:

With some variations, this comes up on TVF every now and then:

 

https://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/843945-new-trend-of-young-educated-thai-women-with-farang-husbands-emerges-researcher/

 

From the article you cited:

 

[Third, most of these women do not possess the appearance which is valued by Thai men (Chinese-like faces, white skin and skinny bodies). White men however find them attractive.]

 

This would pretty much explain every single Thai female in this OP.

[Dumbastheycome]

6 hours ago, Thaiwrath said:

And, where exactly did the second type of women meet their farang partner ?

Let me guess........................ the internet. Same, same, and not different. 

Not  guess..assume. 

 

[Morch]

1 minute ago, Berkshire said:

From the article you cited:

 

[Third, most of these women do not possess the appearance which is valued by Thai men (Chinese-like faces, white skin and skinny bodies). White men however find them attractive.]

 

This would pretty much explain every single Thai female in this OP.

 

Well, I'm not taking either article and related generalizations all THAT seriously.

[bazza73]

My Thai GF keeps imploring me to find a falang for her daughter. Her daughter is quite stunning, and has the brains of a gnat. Two children arising from said condition. Does that appeal to anyone here? If so, PM me.

IMHO informed Thai women want falangs because they are more reliable, have money, and unlike Thai men don't treat them like garbage.

[The Deerhunter]

7 hours ago, realenglish1 said:

I have been here for more than 15  years and I heart the same theme all the time

 

Farang respect their wives  Treat them well  as equals Usually don't disappear for a few days on a binge. Dont gamble to excess and of course have more money to spread around

 

The opposite is true of Thai men

Yes my wife's friends always ask me to find them a single farang friend with even just a bit of money.  They don't all expect us to be millionaires.   Had one over two nights ago getting help to set up on a dating site.

[ups7420]

A big part of it is the falangs all have the same initials: A.T.M. 

[HerbalEd]

I think for the most part the commenters here who say "it's all about the money" either don't have money (or a Thai lady) or they have nothing Thai women want except for their money.

 

No doubt, for some Thai women it is indeed only about the money. However, for many Thai women money alone (even lots of it) is not enough for them to commit to a farang because they also want a man who is happy and positive thinking, funny, respectful, non-violent, and makes her sexual satisfaction a high priority. 

 

As one Thai woman explained it to me: "Thai man drink too much, gamble too much, spend my money, have sex with other lady, and I no finish." 

[George FmplesdaCosteedback]

8 hours ago, ryane66 said:

There are two totally different types of Isaan women in Isaan with faring husbands. Those previously working in Pattaya or the likes and returning with their farang husband. And those from Isaan that were usually previously married to a Thai man. What the author is describing l think is mainly the second group. Many in this group are educated and come from a good family. They can be teachers, lawyers, nurses, business ladies. Most are looking for a stable happy life. They are tired of the Thai males attitude. My partner is in this group and on a regular basis friends and work mates are asking her to find them a faring boyfriend/husband. 

 

 

 

 

 

Yes, but does she give the farang money now?

 

 

[cyberfarang]

Fake. The young French guy in the photo is seen being able to totally assimilate into a Thai cultural lifestyle with what seems to be with absolutely no problems.

 

The reality; at his age he would not to be able to legally work within that Thai community and any Farlangs working at jobs usually reserved for poor Thais, such as farming etc, would be resented and probably experience much prejudice as a foreigner seen encroaching on the Thais turf. These Thai women marry Farlangs mostly for reasons of financial security and that young guy would have problems supporting himself let alone a Thai wife having high expectations of him. The majority of Farlang husbands in that region will be old men 50 and over that have accumulated life savings and assets over their lifetimes including now having pension incomes coming in from abroad. The young Frenchman probably has photos taken portraying himself doing his bit for a poor third world community as a do gooder and then returns to France with his Thai wife/girlfriend.

[SunsetT]

9 hours ago, curtklay said:

What is rocket surgery?

Penis implant?

[totally thaied up]

9 hours ago, exparte said:

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

My wife has a swag of friends looking for a farang, and she is always getting asked if I have any friends free. I refuse to be caught up in anything like an introduction now for a few reasons.

 

I just now tell I cannot say if any of my male friends are good and to the guys back in my home country asking me to hook them up to a Thai girl, I tell them I cannot say if any of the girls are good.

 

Over the years, several of my friends have come over here to stay and they over time have changed. Many do have a wife and once every few months, they disappear for a few days on 'business' to the girls down in Bangkok.

 

I mean it's kinda hard to keep a clean slate here. I can't even go to a straight massage shop even with my wife in tow and not get an offer. Last week I was getting my feet massaged at a Spa with my wife sitting next to me. I was talking about a trip North. My wife had to go to the toilet, and during this time, the girl playing with my feet said if I was going by myself, she was free to go with me.

 

Sometimes it gets just a little too much this farang thing, and sometimes I feel like I am a commodity. I am sure some of us have felt this way. When I was younger in my 30's living here, it was fun. Now married and 48 years of age and pretty happy with my lot in life, throwing another woman even on a part-time basis into the mix would be hellish. I don't know how either a Thai or a farang can juggle it all. Just too hard for me.

 

Giving now an introduction to any party is just like placing a gun to your head. I just do not want to be flamed from an introduction that has soured. From other guys that I have seen do such introductions, many have had egg splashed all over the place as the relationship has turned into a nightmare and the mess has landed squarely within there laps. Living in the Philippines is much worse I can tell you about with this problem.

[cyberfarang]

17 minutes ago, totally thaied up said:

My wife has a swag of friends looking for a farang, and she is always getting asked if I have any friends free. I refuse to be caught up in anything like an introduction now for a few reasons.

 

I just now tell I cannot say if any of my male friends are good and to the guys back in my home country asking me to hook them up to a Thai girl, I tell them I cannot say if any of the girls are good.

 

Over the years, several of my friends have come over here to stay and they over time have changed. Many do have a wife and once every few months, they disappear for a few days on 'business' to the girls down in Bangkok.

 

I mean it's kinda hard to keep a clean slate here. I can't even go to a straight massage shop even with my wife in tow and not get an offer. Last week I was getting my feet massaged at a Spa with my wife sitting next to me. I was talking about a trip North. My wife had to go to the toilet, and during this time, the girl playing with my feet said if I was going by myself, she was free to go with me.

 

Sometimes it gets just a little too much this farang thing, and sometimes I feel like I am a commodity. I am sure some of us have felt this way. When I was younger in my 30's living here, it was fun. Now married and 48 years of age and pretty happy with my lot in life, throwing another woman even on a part-time basis into the mix would be hellish. I don't know how either a Thai or a farang can juggle it all. Just too hard for me.

 

Giving now an introduction to any party is just like placing a gun to your head. I just do not want to be flamed from an introduction that has soured. From other guys that I have seen do such introductions, many have had egg splashed all over the place as the relationship has turned into a nightmare and the mess has landed squarely within there laps. Living in the Philippines is much worse I can tell you about with this problem.

It depends on how much money we have and the types of lifestyles we are able to afford in Thailand. Regardless that most Thais believe we have cash coming out of our ears and a dollar is just a drop in the ocean, the reality is that the majority of us are living monthly on budgets. I would love to be able to go out socilising a few times a month, have the odd rent a girlfriend on occasions but I simply can`t afford it and I guess this applies to many of us. Unlike in the past Thailand is not the cheap adult playground it used to be, completely different to how Thailand is depicted in the west as a country where beautiful young desirable Thai woman are lusting over any males who have a white skin, regardless of age and financial status. Those days are long gone.

 

The old saying in Thailand; no money, no honey, is a fact. Don`t have enough money and I mean a lot of money, then they can delete women off the menu.

[seancbk]

6 hours ago, Media1 said:

6 hours ago, kaorop said:

When i lived in an issarn town i saw and knew many thai men with good jobs or sucessful businesses supporting their families, their wives and wives families...they dont have the time, language skill or desire to associate with the average frang sloth whos on a noose held by a poorly educated poor issarn bargirl...stereotypes abound hey?

Lol what a story. You were quite inventing. THAI man supporting and of superior intelligence you say. We need to get the full script and there maybe a story here in the fiction categories lol

 

So are you saying you don't know any well educated, wealthy Thais?   Not one Thai friend who has a successful business and has sent his kids to school overseas? 

You must move in some really impressive circles.

[Acemaker]

10 hours ago, flyingdoc said:

Money has always proved to be an attraction!

Yes, especially in Essex.  

[Acemaker]

6 hours ago, Muzarella said:

At that age...and good looking...love is possible...even at first sight.  After 50?...... will be a miracle.

Speak for yourself.

[Acemaker]

8 hours ago, kiwikeith said:

In many cases there ends up being a secret Thai boyfriend in the background, one guy I new was married to a Young Thai lady and when he went back to work on the rigs the Thai BF moved into the house, the whole village new and laughed about it.

Really, and did you tell him what was going on or did you just have a good laugh aswell with your Thai buddies.

[kaorop]

18 minutes ago, seancbk said:

 

So are you saying you don't know any well educated, wealthy Thais?   Not one Thai friend who has a successful business and has sent his kids to school overseas? 

You must move in some really impressive circles.

I doubt he moves in any circles, even those "35 million" wife beating laokhao drinking drunk layabouts have standards. It might be to early to call CB troll but we'll see.

[FrenchguyStick]

2 hours ago, cyberfarang said:

Fake. The young French guy in the photo is seen being able to totally assimilate into a Thai cultural lifestyle with what seems to be with absolutely no problems.

 

The reality; at his age he would not to be able to legally work within that Thai community and any Farlangs working at jobs usually reserved for poor Thais, such as farming etc, would be resented and probably experience much prejudice as a foreigner seen encroaching on the Thais turf. These Thai women marry Farlangs mostly for reasons of financial security and that young guy would have problems supporting himself let alone a Thai wife having high expectations of him. The majority of Farlang husbands in that region will be old men 50 and over that have accumulated life savings and assets over their lifetimes including now having pension incomes coming in from abroad. The young Frenchman probably has photos taken portraying himself doing his bit for a poor third world community as a do gooder and then returns to France with his Thai wife/girlfriend.

 

Wrong.
Man, yes I am young, but is about 5 years I live in Thailand, 2 years in Isaan ... We never spent time in France since we are married and I not plan at all to go in my country asap if you want to know 

Edited November 30, 2017 by FrenchguyStick

[mettech]

This is why we are looked at like a walking wallet or ATM not rocket science for sure. Now days Thai ladies do know well about the exchange on our money just by knowing if you came from anywhere in the world.

So shopping for lady is ok as long you got the money.

[Jimdandy]

14 hours ago, Mister Fixit said:

Thai men are lacking in what way? Size of wallet or size of something else ... ?

Both 555555

[Scott]

Troll post reported and removed.  

[marquis22]

14 hours ago, curtklay said:

What is rocket surgery?

Done in mid-air 

[jacko45k]

Sounds like they now got another reason to sneak up on falang men and whack them on the back of the head with a 4x2.

[drgoon]

16 hours ago, exparte said:

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

 

While what you say may be true in some instances my personal experience is contradictory to this.

 

My wife's family lives near Kaset Sombun. This, as you will probably know, a typical Isaan rural agricultural area.

 

Everyone works hard, the men and women together. Not just our family, not just the neighbours but most people. If they don't work, they don't eat. Life is that simple.

 

Sure there are some lazy bums but it isn't typical. Sure, some of the guys get together after they finish working at around 6.00 - 8.00pm after starting around 6.00am.

 

Your comments are broad generalisations and not the norm.

 

I see the people in our area are hard workers. It would do many farangs a lot of good to spend some time here and see the real Isaan

[rosst]

16 hours ago, exparte said:

I live up country in Issan. What I see is the Women working to support the family while the men lie around drink and play cards all day long and then get into an argument with the wife and beat the kids; and for the ones who do work are usually have a couple of other women they are also supporting. It is not hard to see why these women are looking for men elsewhere. I wish I knew more eligible men.

How elegantly put, my observations also in Isaan. 

[catman20]

17 hours ago, Boon Mee said:

Well, it's because the Farang have more money? 

Not ? rocket surgery here... 

 

isn't the phrase rocket science   ? 

[SoulWater]

Personally I used to have a lot of money to spend on these available ladies and I did, I also spent a bucket load of money on beer and thai whiskey - my only regret is I wasted the rest of my money