On 4/20/2018 at 8:30 AM, dotpoom said:

I wouldn't give money at home as a wedding gift and I wouldn't do it here either (especially if it was between 500-1000 Bt. as suggested earlier and considering the groom is English) I would consider that an insult. Part of the gift when you buy it is the fact that one took the time to actually go into a store and search something suitable out. Money just seems the "lazy man's" way of giving a gift.

   I have been to 3 weddings while living in Thailand and the grooms were Farangs. I gave exactly the type of gift I would give to a couple back home, usually something for their home....cannot for the life of me see where there is a problem when this subject crops up.

  Last time I gave a mid expensive juicer. Before that a nice crystal fruit stand....forget before that.

 

Whereas I enjoy money and gift cards because it means I (or the recipient) can buy something I (they) really want, rather than receiving something I (they) might not want and having to store it out of guilt... (but, grain of salt: I'm both someone who would be more likely to be excited about an off-the-wall gift than the standard thing someone might give, and I also already have too much stuff and don't need to have additional clutter of things I don't actually need/want...)

Like you I knew the Thai bride for over 20 years, the groom only about five but I splurged on a Gold Plate, mind you, gold was only 240 an oz back then, but I figured if they ever fell on hard times, they could always sell it.  Cash is like water and goes thru the fingers faster than you can blink.

Hey guys,

 

I'm kind of having the same problem with the wedding gift. As this seems to be a bit complicated here's the backstory:

 

The bride and the groom are both Thai (around 35 years old), but are very international (travelling a lot, have quite a lot of money, university educated etc.). I've known the bride for about 7-8 years and she was my exchange partner in a student exchange we had in our Masters program in university ( I was in Thailand for a few weeks and she came to Germany for a few weeks as well).

I've been meeting her a few times since then when I was in Thailand or she was travelling in Europe.

 

Now the wedding will be held at a 5 star hotel (Mandarin Oriental) which I assume will be quite expensive. I don't really know the groom, but from what I can tell from our WhatsApp chats and her facebook posts he seems to be quite rich.

 

I don't know if cash is the right thing to give since they definitely have enough but on the other hand I have absolutely no idea what to do otherwise. If I choose cash what would be appropriate?

 

I would really appreciate if you could help me out :)

 

Went to wedding with Thai woman is Issan. She told me 100 to 1000 baht was the appropriate gift and 1000 baht would be a generous gift for good friend.  Was a mixture of village families that had little money and other working people that had good salaries.  

1 hour ago, tehmischi said:

Hey guys,

 

I'm kind of having the same problem with the wedding gift. As this seems to be a bit complicated here's the backstory:

 

The bride and the groom are both Thai (around 35 years old), but are very international (travelling a lot, have quite a lot of money, university educated etc.). I've known the bride for about 7-8 years and she was my exchange partner in a student exchange we had in our Masters program in university ( I was in Thailand for a few weeks and she came to Germany for a few weeks as well).

I've been meeting her a few times since then when I was in Thailand or she was travelling in Europe.

 

Now the wedding will be held at a 5 star hotel (Mandarin Oriental) which I assume will be quite expensive. I don't really know the groom, but from what I can tell from our WhatsApp chats and her facebook posts he seems to be quite rich.

 

I don't know if cash is the right thing to give since they definitely have enough but on the other hand I have absolutely no idea what to do otherwise. If I choose cash what would be appropriate?

 

I would really appreciate if you could help me out :)

 

Call the hotel concierges at the Mandarian hotel and they will give you a good answer.  They do these wedding many times and probably have information about the parents and bride to be and groom.  

1 hour ago, tehmischi said:

I would really appreciate if you could help me out :)

3,000 baht would do. 5,000 if you're being generous.

I think that money is the best gift, the newlyweds will decide on its own on what to spend them