Why do TVF Expats so dislike other expats?

[Lacessit]

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

My wife and my gf get upset if I do more than 5 others a year.

And since my pal caught AIDs, I've been a bit put off playing away.

Knowing the probabilities of the various routes by which HIV can infect, IMHO your pal was either very unlucky, or living dangerously.

[emptypockets]

9 minutes ago, transam said:

So you don't liv 'ere........????

I do and I have quite a few Thai men I can genuinely call friends. 

Must admit to not having many western friends,  three at most,  simply because they aren't that many around here. I'm a pretty easy going sort of bloke and have no problem with people generally. 

Edit to add: I draw the line at people from the UK.  Biggest bunch of whingers I've ever met here and in Australia over the decades. 

Edited March 11, 2019 by emptypockets

[JWRC]

Expats, I take it you are referring to male expats? I hate being tarred with the same brush.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

I do and I have quite a few Thai men I can genuinely call friends. 

Must admit to not having many western friends,  three at most,  simply because they aren't that many around here. I'm a pretty easy going sort of bloke and have no problem with people generally. 

Then I think you aught to read your post I replied too....????

[BritManToo]

1 minute ago, JWRC said:

Expats, I take it you are referring to male expats? I hate being tarred with the same brush.

Women expats are even worse.

[rumak]

20 hours ago, marcusarelus said:

I'm a house husband.  Wife works at a factory in the daytime and I take care of the house, laundry, cooking, dog walking and updating the computers and such.  We go out 3 times a week and I shop twice a week and go out daily for walks and chatting with the locals and at the foreign beer pub that's too expensive for most expats doing the income method.  I'm fine with the change from rambling boy to house husband.  But it does give me time to read Thai Visa. 

TMI .......  i prefer to think of you in emperor's clothes being fed somtam as you dictate your posts to some

barefoot isaan nymph

[Golden Triangle]

I don't actually dislike anyone, however there are some on here who are overly opinionated and believe that they are the font of all knowledge and therefore never questioned as to what they believe to be last word on any subject and take offence if they are questioned on the validity of their replies.

 

Then there also exists the poster who is just downright ignorant, obtuse and rude, they have no compassion or empathy for their fellow human beings and again disagree vehemently when their lack of compassion is called out, I have had many posts deleted by mods (this is not a criticism) when I have responded with like minded messages, I know one or two members personally and have had good chats via PM with many others, why anyone wants to attack another poster verbally I do not know, but maybe there should be more muting of members who continually attack others, that way they will learn to moderate their attitude in the future.

 

Healthy debate is fine, abuse is not. 

[rumak]

23 minutes ago, JWRC said:

Expats, I take it you are referring to male expats? I hate being tarred with the same brush.

So you are female ?   I am sure there are many here that have a variety of brushes they could use with you

(please enclose photo)......    I for one always change the brush after each tarring.

[Odysseus123]

3 minutes ago, Golden Triangle said:

I don't actually dislike anyone, however there are some on here who are overly opinionated and believe that they are the font of all knowledge and therefore never questioned as to what they believe to be last word on any subject and take offence if they are questioned on the validity of their replies.

 

Then there also exists the poster who is just downright ignorant, obtuse and rude, they have no compassion or empathy for their fellow human beings and again disagree vehemently when their lack of compassion is called out, I have had many posts deleted by mods (this is not a criticism) when I have responded with like minded messages, I know one or two members personally and have had good chats via PM with many others, why anyone wants to attack another poster verbally I do not know, but maybe there should be more muting of members who continually attack others, that way they will learn to moderate their attitude in the future.

 

Healthy debate is fine, abuse is not. 

Ah yes.."muting"....your opponents.

 

Now where did you learn that from,I wonder?

[Golden Triangle]

1 minute ago, Odysseus123 said:

Ah yes.."muting"....your opponents.

 

Now where did you learn that from,I wonder?

I have no one on mute ????

[Odysseus123]

2 minutes ago, Golden Triangle said:

I have no one on mute ????

"but maybe there should be more muting of members.."

 

Remember that-one post above?

 

Now why would you want to "mute" members?

 

Outside the normal guidelines of course.

[rumak]

5 minutes ago, Golden Triangle said:

I don't actually dislike anyone, however there are some on here who are overly opinionated and believe that they are the font of all knowledge and therefore never questioned as to what they believe to be last word on any subject and take offence if they are questioned on the validity of their replies.

IMO .... ???? .....  it is usually these guys who are the ones that say something negative than try to blame the other person when he defends himself.   they are quite good at disguising their attacks with certain catchwords said as generalizations but are used to denigrate another's point of view.   I know there is the ignore option,  but sometimes I just want to duel it out.  Never any winners, of course.

[AlexRich]

12 hours ago, Enki said:

I'm not hostile to expats. But I wonder why people want to live in Pattaya or similar areas on Phuket (and then complain about prices).

 

What I don't like is expats approaching me in chopping malls or super markets insisting to be greeted as they (or I) was something special. I don't greet random strangers based on their skin colour.

 

What despises me on TV is very simple: utterly disrespect for Thai, Thai culture, Thai people, especially Thai women.

 

I loath people who write comments like this: "That's a good point, at age 50 I would have been horrified at the idea of paying a bar girl for sex, 13 years on and it's the normal thing to do after a few beers when out with my brothers-in-law, and because I'm the oldest they usually let me go first."

 

Or like this: "I know I'm undesirable, my former Brit wife told me 10 years back when she divorced me.

Told me I was so undesirable that now she was leaving I would never have sex with a woman in the room again.

I don't think she had considered the power of the pound.

I've done about 50 since then, and they were nearly all half her age and weight (or less)."

 

Somehow surprising that people measure the quality of sex by the amount of women they had ... no wonder your wife divorced you. You must be a miserable lover.

 

I think this particular poster that your refer to is steeped in the British tradition of "black humour" ... it's supposed to be interpreted as a joke and not taken literally. Might be difficult for a non-Brit to understand if you are not raised with it. 

 

 

 

[rumak]

12 minutes ago, Golden Triangle said:

I have no one on mute ????

See ?   really have to watch each word !   There are those just ready to pounce   

[Thingamabob]

It's the way they look, speak and behave. Used to be a much higher quality of farang here 30 plus years ago, and a much better relationship with Thais.

[Mavideol]

1 hour ago, AlexRich said:

 

I think this particular poster that your refer to is steeped in the British tradition of "black humour" ... it's supposed to be interpreted as a joke and not taken literally. Might be difficult for a non-Brit to understand if you are not raised with it. 

 

 

 

if that's the case, to avoid misunderstandings and bashing,  it should have been written on the title

[blazes]

7 hours ago, Odysseus123 said:

Agree...

 

An American that I knew used to kept "open house" with the booze flowing (he died of chronic alcholism) and went to meet his maker..

 

Do you know how many of his foreign fellow boozers went to his funeral?

 

None.

 

Only my wife and I attended and that was to acknowledge the passing of an American veteran of the wars...

 

Only the U.S Embassy,and some Thai's attended (plus me-and I am an Aussie)

 

Reminds me of the end of The Great Gatsby.

[Odysseus123]

1 minute ago, blazes said:

 

Reminds me of the end of The Great Gatsby.

Every American has a Jay Gatsby struggling to get out..????

 

However it was quite sad in its own way.

[Nyezhov]

1 hour ago, JWRC said:

Expats, I take it you are referring to male expats? I hate being tarred with the same brush.

You betcha.  I doubt the ladies here (of whom there are many, ja?) are posting songs of misery caused by 20 year old Isaan bar girls, or paens to booze ridden projectile vomiting, or where to buy Viagara in Pattaya. I doubt our female posters are over screaming about Trump in the politics areas or bragging bout how they took on 6 drunken Motosais. I daresay that the distaff posters here are the ones posting interesting and important sh*t instead of testosterone ridden banality, bragging and stupidity. Me included. 

 

So yes, Madam, this topic is about Men and Men only. You can rest easy that you do not have the stigma of being a male in Thailand. You may look silly in your Elephant pants and braids, but you arent a d*ckhead like the rest of us.

[Nyezhov]

26 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

It's the way they look, speak and behave. Used to be a much higher quality of farang here 30 plus years ago, and a much better relationship with Thais.

There used to be a higher quality of people 30 years ago in the West.

[Lacessit]

4 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

You betcha.  I doubt the ladies here (of whom there are many, ja?) are posting songs of misery caused by 20 year old Isaan bar girls, or paens to booze ridden projectile vomiting, or where to buy Viagara in Pattaya. I doubt our female posters are over screaming about Trump in the politics areas or bragging bout how they took on 6 drunken Motosais. I daresay that the distaff posters here are the ones posting interesting and important sh*t instead of testosterone ridden banality, bragging and stupidity. Me included. 

 

So yes, Madam, this topic is about Men and Men only. You can rest easy that you do not have the stigma of being a male in Thailand. You may look silly in your Elephant pants and braids, but you arent a d*ckhead like the rest of us.

True enough. Before your time here, there was a female Brit called Missandry who sometimes posted about how she had extracted the nuts of her unfaithful husband through his wallet.

As a generalisation, the few farang female posters on TV complain about how difficult it is to achieve a relationship with farang males here. It's called competition in the marketplace, ladies. Plus a lot of us you would not want to be seen with anyway.

[Nyezhov]

3 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

 Plus a lot of us you would not want to be seen with anyway.

A lot? Oh, how you Aussies minimize things.....

[Lacessit]

2 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

A lot? Oh, how you Aussies minimize things.....

It's possibly a reaction to the US tendency to maximize everything from food servings to vehicles. That's why Aussies refer to American cars as Yank Tanks.

[Nyezhov]

13 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

It's possibly a reaction to the US tendency to maximize everything from food servings to vehicles. That's why Aussies refer to American cars as Yank Tanks.

When you be the biggest and the baddest..... ????

[Lacessit]

13 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

When you be the biggest and the baddest..... ????

Not at all. We prefer to be modest about our country and achievements, to avoid embarrassing other nationalities.

[Nyezhov]

5 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Not at all. We prefer to be modest about our country and achievements, to avoid embarrassing other nationalities.

Good technique, us Americans are braggerts, but hey, its good to remind the lessers. You Ozzies are OK, you are almost Americans, except for that hideous mumble you call Australian English.

 

You guys are close to Penguins too. I think Penguins are totally cool. Id love to be a Penguin wrangler.

[Lacessit]

2 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Good technique, us Americans are braggerts, but hey, its good to remind the lessers. You Ozzies are OK, you are almost Americans, except for that hideous mumble you call Australian English.

 

You guys are close to Penguins too. I think Penguins are totally cool. Id love to be a Penguin wrangler.

We have the sun in our voices. Yours seems to come out via the nose. Mostly we can understand what you are saying, except the ones from Nyawk or Gnawlins.

Did you know we also have fairy penguins?

[StreetCowboy]

1 hour ago, Mavideol said:

if that's the case, to avoid misunderstandings and bashing,  it should have been written on the title

Jokes are like frisbees; it’s great seeing them going over people’s head so long as one person catches it.

[marcusarelus]

10 hours ago, jvs said:

I am speechless.

Why would you be speechless?  You want to see her Samsung management id card? 

[marcusarelus]

4 hours ago, metempsychotic said:

Yeah, I'm sure she loves her time at the factory. 

She builds 500 ton pieces of equipment and ships them all over the world.  I realize you were trying to imply that my wife is a prostitute but you are a good example of the caliber of man that make up the expat population.  Who on earth else would call a mans wife a prostitute especially when never having met her.