3 hours ago, Titan1962 said:

Just remind them your partner called them all 30 yrears ago,and asked them to help pay off the loan to help mom and dad. But also mention that they all refused to help. Because it’s family and things might get ugly,offer them their share of the value of the property at what it was worth 30 years ago. Let’s say the valuation on the property was 1,000,000 baht,the parents owed 600,000 baht. Give them a share of the 400,000 baht the mom and dad owned. Better off trying to keep some sort of peace,as we all know how crazy Thais get when money is involved.

 

yeah, I think cooler heads will prevail- think they rethought the idea. Maybe they realize they haven't a leg to stand on- 

19 hours ago, Baerboxer said:

Similar circumstances. Mum and Dad wanted to rebuild their Isaan house and return to live their and farm again. We gave them money and they signed over couple of pieces of land. They still owned several more for farming. Older sister was furious and claimed we should pay more now because the land is more valuable now than when we bought it 16 years ago! She waited until her Dad was dead and then pushed her Mum on. Anything we ever game the parents she tried and grabbed - lazy and has so far had 2 alcoholics and 1 druggie as husbands.

 

My wife puts them firmly in their place whether they like it or not. Otherwise I'm afraid the demands will get more and more. The mentality is "loans" they ask for are really gifts and don't ever have to be paid back; they are entitled to anything and everything they want; you rich farang so should support all the family and cannot loose face in their eyes by saying no. 

 

Don't play them at their games. Treat them as spoiled selfish children.

Baerboxer- You're so right- that's exactly what my partner and I think- She worked too hard to get what she has, just to let her lazy sister and family take it. She's not giving a inch and I support her-

On 5/1/2020 at 2:33 AM, Baerboxer said:

Similar circumstances. Mum and Dad wanted to rebuild their Isaan house and return to live their and farm again. We gave them money and they signed over couple of pieces of land. They still owned several more for farming. Older sister was furious and claimed we should pay more now because the land is more valuable now than when we bought it 16 years ago! She waited until her Dad was dead and then pushed her Mum on. Anything we ever game the parents she tried and grabbed - lazy and has so far had 2 alcoholics and 1 druggie as husbands.

 

My wife puts them firmly in their place whether they like it or not. Otherwise I'm afraid the demands will get more and more. The mentality is "loans" they ask for are really gifts and don't ever have to be paid back; they are entitled to anything and everything they want; you rich farang so should support all the family and cannot loose face in their eyes by saying no. 

 

Don't play them at their games. Treat them as spoiled selfish children.

Completely off topic, but related to wanting more because value increased. 

Here in the U.S., years ago.  A guy had a VW van for sale at $300.00.  But no one could get the engine to start, not even professional VW mechanics at repair shops.  

I offered him $150.00 for it as is, not running and all.  He accepted the offer and gave me a bill of sale for the vehicle at that amount.  

It took me two hours to get the engine running.  I drove it up the hill to my place. 

30 minutes later he comes up and tells me I owe him another $150.00!  I ask why.  Because the engine runs and the VW is worth more money now!!

I did not give him more money!