problems with Thai partner.

[Yinn]

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

My point is, don't you think that blokes all around the globe have been fleeced by "women", when you have worked that one out, then you will understand that a females profession has nothing to do with, it's the idiots that allow themselves to get fleeced by giving their wealth to the woman, directly or by exposing themselves through marriage laws of their countries, where most laws say, just because your married, she is entitled to 50%, 75% if you have a kid together, 90% for 2 kids, and any kids over that, might as well just give her the lot.

Hmmm. 

You say you will return to Australia. 

You say you have kid together?

 

 

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Blokes that give their wives, partners everything because of the feel good "love" feeling, are the ones that end up being f'd over, me on the other hand, only invest as much as I am prepared to lose, say 10% and I have my fall back position with is the other 90%,

 

Hmmmm, in Australia “she is entitled to 50%, 75% if you have a kid together, 90% for 2 kids, and any kids over that, might as well just give her the lot.”

 

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

I still have that feel good "love" for my wife, but if you think for one minute I would put my life in her hands, be it financial or other, you and everyone else are mistaken.

 

Like I said, I feel for the guy, but until guys learn to man up and see how easy it is for a woman to take a guy to the cleaners, then the merry-go-round will keep spinning for them.

 

That's my point !

Understand 

Do you?

[rvaviator]

4 hours ago, 448glb said:

Your sick to think that’s normal, this is why Falangs are looked down upon here. Whores are whores, cum dumpsters that’s all they are. They are barely human and your stupid if you think any different.

Who are you to judge and take a 'moral high ground' ?  They are females who deserve the same respect as anyone else. The fact that they sell sexual services is up to them. How can you say they are 'barely human' ?  I assume in your book the people who pay for their services are also 'barely human' ?

 

[CorpusChristie]

On 7/1/2020 at 3:30 PM, harrymcgarry said:

GAMBLING! she just wont stop playing cards for money everyday and obviously she is losing and tell lies to me all the time.

Find one of your friends to play cards with her , give your friend some money to play gambling with your Wife on the condition that she gives you 90 % of that money back and ALL the money that she wins from your Wife , that way you will get your wifes lost money back 

[Yinn]

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

thing, you must wear a yellow shirt, proud, middle-upper class wanna be ?

Orange shirt.

 

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

Sad that you feel because how one looks, weighs and has an age difference that you can judge them,

So your wife is older you, overweight? 

you judge same. 

And for love partner everyone judge. Is normal. Real attraction, not finance.

 

if someone real heart love someone age difference, looks and weighs= no problem. 

 

7 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Buddha forgive me, I know a older white guy happily married to a younger African overweight girl, should I judge them because of their skin colour, age and the whey they look, sounds like typical Thai xenophobia to me.

 

I am dark, enjoy my life. 

But thai care about skin color themself, for beauty reason. I go outside a lot= I get dark since I young. I not care to much, i southern person.

Most people dark skin in south. Only the problem if you care. I not care.

Actually Issan people care more about that. Try to be white.

 

Is not the same as the farang countrys “Black lives matter” xenophobia racism big problem there. Thai police not kill the African, fight about statue, cartoon voice etc.

[4MyEgo]

4 hours ago, Liverpoolfan said:

Well so far its treating me just fine.

same cant be said about you, i bet.

Go figure.....

 

[Yinn]

7 hours ago, Ron jeremy said:

Another winner marries a hooker and things go south? Who would have thought?

And this people blame and mock “Thainess”. 

They think all Thai people same. 

 

And this people have superioty complex, but marry a sex worker.

strange.

[4MyEgo]

33 minutes ago, Yinn said:

Hmmm. 

You say you will return to Australia. 

You say you have kid together?

Correct 2 girls.

 

33 minutes ago, Yinn said:

Hmmmm, in Australia “she is entitled to 50%, 75% if you have a kid together, 90% for 2 kids, and any kids over that, might as well just give her the lot.”

Really, Yinn is now an expert of Family Law in Australia, not so sure about that Yinn. I am all up for educating those who think they know everything, suffice to say, lesson one for Yinn, the Family Law Act in Australia accepts prenuptial agreements to protect those with assets, as long as my wife, prior to getting married, obtained independent legal advice before signing the prenuptial agreement, it's a done deal, however if we ever did divorce and we did end up before the Family Law Court (fat chance), the judge would see that the agreement was fair and she was provided with independent legal advice, meaning I cross my T's and dot my i's Yinn, however if the judge found that the agreement wasn't fair, the judge could render the agreement null and void, however as the prenuptial agreement was written up by a family law specialist, i.e. someone who specialises in family law litigation, I have zero concerns, so that means zero to her, but if I didn't have a prenuptial agreement written up and signed by her in the presence of an independent lawyer, yes, she would be entitled to a big slice of the cake. Ahh, isn't love just grand, when you have the upper hand ????   

 

33 minutes ago, Yinn said:

Understand 

Do you?

Um, I believe you have egg on your face Yinn as it is you who doesn't understand, especially family law in Australia, when your ready to accept lose of face, I will accept you your defeat, on this occasion at least and if you don't accept that I am 110% correct, then up to you, no skin off of my face  ????

Edited July 2, 2020 by 4MyEgo

[Yinn]

2 hours ago, Scouse123 said:

In the past I have lost a car, motorbikes and way too much cash, she even resorted to stealing out of the wallet.

Intersting story. Wow.

 

2 questions

1) why you not leave, so many headache. 25 years?

2) was she a sex worker?

[CorpusChristie]

21 minutes ago, Yinn said:

Orange shirt.

 

So your wife is older you, overweight? 

you judge same. 

And for love partner everyone judge. Is normal. Real attraction, not finance.

 

if someone real heart love someone age difference, looks and weighs= no problem. 

 

I am dark, enjoy my life. 

But thai care about skin color themself, for beauty reason. I go outside a lot= I get dark since I young. I not care to much, i southern person.

Most people dark skin in south. Only the problem if you care. I not care.

Actually Issan people care more about that. Try to be white.

 

Is not the same as the farang countrys “Black lives matter” xenophobia racism big problem there. Thai police not kill the African, fight about statue, cartoon voice etc.

How about yourself, are you slim or a bit over weight ?

[Yinn]

4 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

Correct 2 girls.

 

Really, Yinn is now an expert of Family Law in Australia,

 

No, you say it. 

4 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

 

not so sure about that Yinn. I am all up for educating those who think they know everything, suffice to say, lesson one for Yinn, the Family Law Act in Australia accepts prenuptial agreements to protect those with assets, as long as my wife, prior to getting married, obtained independent legal advice before signing the prenuptial agreement, it's a done deal, however if we ever did divorce and we did end up before the Family Law Court (fat chance), the judge would see that the agreement was fair and she was provided with independent legal advice, meaning I cross my T's and dot my i's Yinn, however if the judge found that the agreement wasn't fair, the judge could render the agreement null and void, however as the prenuptial agreement was written up by a family law specialist, i.e. someone who specialises in family law litigation, I have zero concerns, so that means zero to her, but if I didn't have a prenuptial agreement written up and signed by her in the presence of an independent lawyer, yes, she would be entitled to a big slice of the cake. Ahh, isn't love just grand, when you have the upper hand ????   

 

Um, I believe you have egg on your face Yinn as it is you who doesn't understand, especially family law in Australia, when your ready to accept lose of face, I will accept you your defeat, on this occasion at least and if you don't accept that I am 110% correct, then up to you, no skin off of my face  ????

Oh, good idea. 

I will do same way. 

 

No loss of face, no problem. I not worry. I have superioty complex.

Better to lose the face, than lose the money.

[Yinn]

4 minutes ago, CorpusChristie said:

How about yourself, are you slim or a bit over weight ?

Always 42-44 kg

 

Now is durian season. 44kg. 

[Scouse123]

17 minutes ago, Yinn said:

Intersting story. Wow.

 

2 questions

1) why you not leave, so many headache. 25 years?

2) was she a sex worker?

1. Only gambling has been a problem, that's that only bad thing. House is clean, good heart and generous, kind to others, very popular in UK with my family and friends. 25 years is a long time,  and throwing that away is not what I want to do. Keeping control has been important and watching the money. Her friends don't like me because I know their games.

 

2. No. Never worked in a sex bar.

Central department store in Bangkok was where she worked. Only waiting tables in a restaurant at that time, but honest work. She was also enrolled then studying English. Still smart and good English,  popular with Thai people and Foreign

 

Just the gambling!

[Yinn]

23 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

I am 100% sure most in the scene don't want to be there, but out of desperation

You 100% sure they not like it, but you still do it.

You not care the feeling? 

Black heart?

[CorpusChristie]

3 minutes ago, Scouse123 said:

1. Only gambling has been a problem, that's that only bad thing. House is clean, good heart and generous, kind to others, very popular in UK with my family and friends. 25 years is a long time,  and throwing that away is not what I want to do. Keeping control has been important and watching the money. Her friends don't like me because I know their games.

 

2. No. Never worked in a sex bar.

Central department store in Bangkok was where she worked. Only waiting tables in a restaurant at that time, but honest work. She was also enrolled then studying English. Still smart and good English,  popular with Thai people and Foreign

 

Just the gambling!

Why don't YOU play cards with her ?

Any money that she loses, then you will win that money .

Everyones a winner and problem solved 

 

[Yinn]

8 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

Blokes that give their wives, partners everything because of the feel good "love" feeling, are the ones that end up being f'd over, me on the other hand, only invest as much as I am prepared to lose, say 10% and I have my fall back position with is the other 90%,

So when you divorce your wife number 1 before, you only lost 10% right? 

So clever guy.

[CorpusChristie]

9 hours ago, Yinn said:

I meet 17 year old girl last month. She work construction with Burmese team, 350 baht per day, hot and dirty.

See the look krung. I ask her, her mum from Khon Kaen, Dad from England. She can not speak English. 

Does she have alot on work on at the moment ?

Its just that my place could do with a bit of painting and decorating 

[Catkiwi]

2 hours ago, Scouse123 said:

 

 

A fixed sum would have been better then they know, in their logic, it's their money.

 

Anything over and above, is either an ' advance ' on next months or a gift.

 

They fully understand where they are then and get that method as opposed to saying "it's our money" and then quizzing them on any transactions they might make.

I guess there is no general answer, rules or logic trends to any relationship. Ours worked out OK, each to their own. Hopefully our Mate here with the problem can find some answers to their situation's problems.

[Scouse123]

19 minutes ago, CorpusChristie said:

Why don't YOU play cards with her ?

Any money that she loses, then you will win that money .

Everyones a winner and problem solved 

 

Hahaha.

 

Tried that one too!.

 

Then then demand their cash back because when they lose, " we were just playing for fun and kidding " when they win, it goes in their pocket!

 

Besides, now the games of choice are illegal lotteries, lucky numbers in the village and a new online game, where they buy credit at a certain local shop and get cashed out there at the same place when they win. She can sit for hours in a bathroom playing an online roulette game as well.

 

Certain local Thai shopkeepers around the village are in on this and other illegal gambling of course. 

Edited July 2, 2020 by Scouse123

[LeoCesar]

you need to get sole custody..

offer her some money to sign the paper.

[Stevemercer]

Do you still love this lady? Besides the gambling, is she a decent enough wife and mother? Is she sometimes remorseful over her behaviour (e.g. sometimes admits to the problem)? Is she loving towards you and protects your face?

 

Many people have gambling problems, just like alcoholism and other addictions. It can ruin a persons' life and drag down the whole family. She will never admit she has a problem and will keep going back and back.

 

Maybe you can still stay together, if your son is in a loving environment and you can control her gambling to some extent, or at least afford to cover her losses.

 

AS others have suggested, you will have to pay most of the bills and only allow her a modest allowance to spend as she pleases (maybe 5,000 Baht per month). The main risk is she will go to a loan shark and get in so deep it will jeopardise the future for your son and yourself.

 

But you are not married to her so at least you won't get stuck for any legitimate debt. You can take your son and walk away. She would have to sell the house to pay off the debt.

 

My wife has a gambling problem. I know she will never stop, but so far we have been able to manage around it. None or our assets are in her name. Maybe I am kidding myself, but we do have a loving relationship that is good in all other respects. I, myself, am not perfect and have caused my wife plenty of grief. I hope we can go on for many more years.

[owl sees all]

I haven't read every post, but have not seen one that suggests she improve her card-playing so she wins more often than she loses.

 

What card game does she play? If she plays a game where she will win more if her maths improve, help is at hand. If she plays a purely luck game then that's a different jar of mustard.

[MyTHaiMyKe]

On 7/1/2020 at 3:34 PM, BritManToo said:

Almost all household problems like this are caused by the the fool with the money putting it in their open hand.

You will not only lose your son but your car and your house! You have no rights, she can say bye, bye at anytime to you and you lose everything! Go see a lawyer and he will tell you that! I know this for a fact!

[bwpage3]

I am sure there is nothing you can do to cure her gambling habit.

 

You have income, get a lawyer, put together a plan for a one time cash payment for sole custody of your son.

 

As far as the house and other assets?

 

To me my child would be more important and I would walk away (give her ALL assets) for your son

 

You have a good job and you can always replace material things.

 

You cannot replace your son.

 

He will have NO life with her!

[BritManToo]

3 minutes ago, bwpage3 said:

You cannot replace your son.

It's fairly easy to make new children.

[EVENKEEL]

5 minutes ago, abrahamturner said:

Most thai women married to farangs are in for the money , only a dumb man believes otherwise,  most ppl here would tell us MINE IS DIFFERENT LOL , these old ugly western men never seize to amaze me.

 

The gambling would continue because she never loVed you in the first place , The truth always hurts. 

Wow, your first post was awesome.

[WineOh]

2 hours ago, Yinn said:

Always 42-44 kg

 

Now is durian season. 44kg. 

You want come my room and eat durian with me?

 

i have many. Soft soft, arroy. 

[bwpage3]

17 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

It's fairly easy to make new children.

Only someone that doesn't love their own kids could make that kind of comment.

 

That 5 year old buy has no chance without his father.

[bwpage3]

1 hour ago, owl sees all said:

I haven't read every post, but have not seen one that suggests she improve her card-playing so she wins more often than she loses.

 

What card game does she play? If she plays a game where she will win more if her maths improve, help is at hand. If she plays a purely luck game then that's a different jar of mustard.

What card game? 9 point.

[bwpage3]

2 hours ago, Yinn said:

Orange shirt.

 

So your wife is older you, overweight? 

you judge same. 

And for love partner everyone judge. Is normal. Real attraction, not finance.

 

if someone real heart love someone age difference, looks and weighs= no problem. 

 

I am dark, enjoy my life. 

But thai care about skin color themself, for beauty reason. I go outside a lot= I get dark since I young. I not care to much, i southern person.

Most people dark skin in south. Only the problem if you care. I not care.

Actually Issan people care more about that. Try to be white.

 

Is not the same as the farang countrys “Black lives matter” xenophobia racism big problem there. Thai police not kill the African, fight about statue, cartoon voice etc.

Isaan people try to be white?

 

You have no clue what you are talking about.

[Postmaster]

If you don't want to leave then for her regular payouts transfer it to her bank account rather than put cash in her hand.  If she has to visit her bank to wihdraw some of it she might just leave a little in there for a rainy day........or perhaps not !