As I get older my tolerance for idiots seems shorter ...

 

I'm in lockdown in Australia so I'm missing Asia ..my gym...etc ...so last night Skyped with a old fellow who went to Thailand with me a few times but .. I just had to tell him about his negatively and immaturity...I don't know maybe it's my getting old ...

 

But on talking about going back to Pattaya he had to continually run down gay people in profanities ...over & over ....I got to the state I had to tell him...mate you know your 76 isn't it time to stop the hate ?

 

 

Mate it is his prerogative to express his opinion on what ever he thinks fit. You just showed your own opinion and well, your hate.

Live and let live.

 

31 minutes ago, sherwood said:

Mate it is his prerogative to express his opinion on what ever he thinks fit. You just showed your own opinion and well, your hate.

Live and let live.

 

As I get older I'm not interested in "hate" whether those people be gay,transexual,black ,green or whatever 

I go to Thailand/Asia to have a good time not to hate someone who is different from you .

 

Ok I would tolerate it with a younger person having those opinions but not some old codger my age who should get over it 

I was in Pattaya with this Australian friend he is 76 last time where in McDonald's he proceeded to call a farang & his Thai BF a "F.....GG..t ... something I shouldn't of let go at the time .

I'm over farangs  who hate others ...the moment I hear a farang start saying negatively about someone sex preferences I'm out of there 

Edited September 16, 20215 yr by georgegeorgia

Then just stop Skyping with the old fellow. Or are you morbidly attracted to negativity?

We choose our friends. If he no longer (sounds like he never did) supports the opinions you hold dear and that offends you, you don't have to spend any more time with him.

“Friends” or non- dependent Family not providing nett emotional benefit have become “ toxic” and should be cut lose……for self-preservation, all toxic people must be avoided….. life rule.

Totally agree with your view, but it does beg the question why you have such a bigoted ass.hole as a friend. 
 

Also, not sure you would tolerate it from a younger person. 
 

As for the negativity, if the foreigners were half as miserable as they seem on some of these forums then I feel for their partners/kids. Must be a horrible environment to live in. 
 

I think your friend is coming to the wrong country with his views. 

Edited September 16, 20215 yr by Kadilo

Look don't get me wrong..I can be bias too and have many British friends in Pattaya who tell me their against immigration to their country and I agree with them..I'm also against immigration to Australia but I'm not singling out any race during this recession...but if I hear someone like he did in Pattaya shouting at a gay farang with obscenity then yes it did make me angry and I should of spoke up !

Surely you older guys are mature enough to accept sake sex couples 

Edited September 16, 20215 yr by georgegeorgia

Why oh Why do people give two hoots what other people say, think, believe !!!

OP, I can hardly understand your issue in the sense your making it an issue by even giving the guy the time of day.

Recently I have sort of cut off a chap I know over years here in Bangkok. 

He was taking glee in the fact with current covid situation he was able to obtain cheap condo stays for various trip and the roads were great with no traffic.

I suggested that I would prefer to have crowded roads and Thai businesses busy for benefit of Thai rather than his childish attitude. 

He hasn't contacted me since and visa vera.

Cut ties with your "friend". He ain't worth it. 

Misery loves Company.

Edited September 16, 20215 yr by DrJack54

5 minutes ago, DrJack54 said:

OP, I can hardly understand your issue in the sense your making it an issue by even giving the guy the time of day.

Recently I have sort of cut off a chap I know over years here in Bangkok. 

He was taking glee in the fact with current covid situation he was able to obtain cheap condo stays for various trip and the roads were great with no traffic.

I suggested that I would prefer to have crowded roads and Thai businesses busy for benefit of Thai rather than his childish attitude. 

He hasn't contacted me since and visa vera.

Cut ties with your "friend". He ain't worth it. 

Misery loves Company.

Seems like he was just giving some positives to a bad situation 

13 minutes ago, canthai55 said:

Why oh Why do people give two hoots what other people say, think, believe !!!

Because it starts innocently with say but suddenly progresses to do as I say.

Never understood this. Why would what other people do bother someone if it does not affect them?

Especially over here. Go into many bars and there will be at least one ladyboy working in there. Some of them are pretty busy.

But if you are not interested in them they will not be interested in you. Its a waste of their time. Same with gay people. I worked with an openly gay man. I treated him no differently to anyone else I worked with. He was good at his job which was all I needed. I believe it was all he expected as well.

Live and let live. I think most people would agree with that.

But your "friend" appears to be some kind of dinosaur.

I would avoid further contact.

I am pleased you named it for what it is with him. 

The standard we walk past, is the standard we endorse.

 

His negativity is his to allow to eat him out, (prob wonders why he has few friends (not drinking mates) , however homophobia ,sexism and misogyny needs to be challenged, otherwise you become their collaborator.

 

Pick better friends and keep the toxic ones either at arms length or out of your life completely.  No need to join the perpetually offended and try to change someone so set in their ways and think that they’ll get over their hate no matter their age.

1 minute ago, RJRS1301 said:

homophobia ,sexism and misogyny needs to be challenged, otherwise you become their collaborator.

If I choose to ghost someone rather than challenging them, and instead surround myself with kinder more accepting people, it doesn’t make me a “collaborator”.

16 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

Seems like he was just giving some positives to a bad situation 

Maybe your a cup "half full' guy.

Clearly it wasn't just a once off comment. Had been a few.

 

From my perch, covid has little effect on me financially etc.

I would rather be talking with farang that are doing charity to assist others than pointing out the discounts available due to covid.

 

"Positives in a bad situation" spare me.

No one has the right to abuse anyone, in a public setting more so. If I saw anyone being abused I would stop it.What I nelieve is not important, how you treat people is.

Being a senior does not give you the right to be rude, although some blatantly do as they feel they wont come to harm as perhaps a younger person would if they shot their mouth off.

That said, if anyone offends you with their attitude and/or beliefs its time to walk away from them.

 

 

I am an ol' guy myself, but I have noticed that a few ol' blokes I know have gone a bit strange, odd, a Mr.Angry, what ever you want to call it.

 

Perhaps just the natural progression of old age.

 

Now I wonder if I have got there yet...Hmmmmmm......

6 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

No one has the right to abuse anyone,c in a public setting more so. If saw anyone being abused I would stop it.What I nelieve is not important, how you treat people is.

Being a senior does not give you the right to be rude, although some blatantly do as they feel they wont come to harm as perhaps a younger person would if they shot their mouth off.

That said, if anyone offends you with their attitude and/or beliefs its time to walk away from them.

 

 

Actually, everyone has the legal right to abuse anyone. As long as it’s not physical. 

I'm really over Thailand. If I needed fascism, I would have voted for Trump. I have no interest in anyone else's sexual orientation. It doesn't concern me. What DOES concern me is the constantly shifting position of Thai Immigration. The government does not want farangs who are not independently wealthy. The fact that this country has NOTHING to attract those "golden gooses", is far above the ability of a Thai bureaucrat to understand.

1 minute ago, LeatFingies said:

Actually, everyone has the legal right to abuse anyone. As long as it’s not physical. 

Noooo, in my country there are offences, mental cruelty, racial hatred etc..

You are not missing Asia you are missing Pattaya.

Thailand is a safe haven for idiots. The problem is it’s often the idiots calling other people idiots… Avoid Thailand if you don’t want to deal with idiots. He should also be aware of the gay culture in Thailand.

So sad, 76 years old and still not out of the closet and carry his anger to his death bed. God save him

9 minutes ago, transam said:

Noooo, in my country there are offences, mental cruelty, racial hatred etc..

Are you from Canada?
 

Luckily for a lot of people, free speech is becoming obsolete. 1984 began in 2001.

7 minutes ago, LeatFingies said:

Are you from Canada?
 

Luckily for a lot of people, free speech is becoming obsolete. 1984 began in 2001.

No, from a country that protects most from all angles..

Idiocy is not a prerogative of age.

23 minutes ago, Pravda said:

You are not missing Asia you are missing Pattaya.

Nice twist. 

Less Asia, more Euro-Ghetto.

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As I get older my tolerance for idiots seems shorter ..

because you are getting wiser and smarter, while the rest haven't caught up yet