3 Things that will make your relationship successful in Thailand

[1FinickyOne]

On 10/8/2024 at 2:39 PM, NowNow said:

Why would you give your girlfriend money? Is she a prostitute or your daughter? That's just weird.

Actually, this is what you wrote... I just gave away 10,000 baht to people who have lost wages due to the floods and lack of work.. no particular connection other than I have known them a long time and know they are hurting for money at the moment... this must be really weird for you - I have other neighbors who help people affected by the floods too... 

 

At various points in my life, people have helped me out too... usually with information and mentoring but occasionally with money too when I was young and in need. I will never forget their kindness. I am sure others appreciate the gifts I have given today and in the past. 

[daveAustin]

Would go along with some of that, but ain't clear cut. The age thing for instance; women (here especially) don't tend to look at a guy the way we look at a woman as a thing of beauty. Money and tarts aside, as long as you're clean, decent, fairly trim and polite, the age thing is secondary. But, personally, 20y younger than me is about my limit. That is a generation. Aside from being a bit daughter weird, what would you talk about...

 

Probably best they have a job first, yes, preferably own business. Give me a smart, independent woman any day. They know what they want. I know a few standup middle-aged businesswomen that I know would be fine. And, at that point, the kids thing does not matter.

 

Again, though, these kinds of topics typically hail from regions where tourism is a thing and the girls they are rubbing shoulders with might be there for a reason. Nowt wrong with that of course. But if you want to at least meet a 'genuine' gal unconnected to any of that, you gotta get out and about, garner some good Thai friends and at least speak some of the lingo. Even then, it could all go pear shaped  (we're dealing with the fickle fairer sex here) which is where the vetting comes in...

 

Brit's response is pretty much on point. ALWAYS wear the trousers (the guys that let their woman control the purse? 🙄), have and continue to engage in your own pursuits, don't follow them around like a F puppy dog, or even be agreeable beyond the obvious. The silverback does not concern himself with the musings and trivialities of the woman gorilla! 😀

[Cameroni]

5 hours ago, khunPer said:

20 years – actually almost 21 – with same Thai girlfriend (and I've never been married, but had 3 longer time girlfriends in my home country; however, none on them lasted for 20 years, I'm not that old...😞

 

Number 1) She should not have a job, but full time for me; it has worked very well...

 

Number 2) Fully agree...👍 No children from previous marriage or relationships.

 

Number 3) Young enough to be of interest for me, and young enough to be able to take care of me, when I eventually might get old. 31 years – close to 32 – age difference has worked very well for me...

 

Extra Number 4) If had 3 clauses, I wished to be understood and accepted:

a) If you are looking for a rich man, forget me.

b) I'm not rich, but can provide for my own little family, but I won't provide for an extended Thai family.

c) Don't bring problems to me, I'm experienced enough to create plenty problem for my by myself.

😊

KhunPer gets it! 

[NowNow]

4 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

Actually, this is what you wrote... I just gave away 10,000 baht to people who have lost wages due to the floods and lack of work.. no particular connection other than I have known them a long time and know they are hurting for money at the moment... this must be really weird for you - I have other neighbors who help people affected by the floods too... 

 

At various points in my life, people have helped me out too... usually with information and mentoring but occasionally with money too when I was young and in need. I will never forget their kindness. I am sure others appreciate the gifts I have given today and in the past. 

 

No, you are being really weird, trying to equate being charitable, with giving money to someone in exchange for their companionship. In other words, expecting something in return. 

 

Girlfriend. Money. Stay focused. Not neighbours, not gifts. No your mates. Girlfriend. Money. Got it?

[mdr224]

11 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Only for those who don’t know how to handle a hot one.

Simps

 

Your idea of a hot one would be below average for me. Our standards arent the same

[MalcolmB]

9 hours ago, mdr224 said:

Your idea of a hot one would be below average for me. Our standards arent the same

I don’t like those fat American arses that you guys like over there. It would make me throw up. And yours all prefer the black guys anyway, you white guys just get the leftovers.

 

The ones the go after me are the busty petite types. 
 

I am in Thailand, you are in the land of the obese.

 

[NowNow]

6 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like those fat American arses that you guys like over there. It would make me throw up. And yours all prefer the black guys anyway, you white guys just get the leftovers.

 

The ones the go after me are the busty petite types. 
 

I am in Thailand, you are in the land of the obese.

 

 

Busty petite locals go after you? 😊 I'm sure you mean it the other way around 😊

To be fair, I've had a few of those on my case over the years. But all but one were available for hire, so they don't count. I don't P4P, I don't sponsor and I don't share women with anyone else. 

[MalcolmB]

3 minutes ago, NowNow said:

Busty petite locals go after you? 😊 I'm sure you mean it the other way around 

Fighting them off with a stick.

[newnative]

     After hacking my way through the first page--I got no further--I was reminded of the William Goldman quote, regarding Hollywood, but quite apt here, as well:

 

“Nobody knows anything...... Not one person in the entire motion picture field knows for a certainty what's going to work. Every time out it's a guess and, if you're lucky, an educated one.”

[radiochaser]

On 10/7/2024 at 9:56 PM, Celsius said:

 

NUMBER 4 - Don't try and control your woman with money. If someone comes along with more money, you will be out of the door. 

My wife used to say, any man that wants to take her away from me, better make more money than I do.   

 

Now that she makes more money than I do, her saying has changed.   Any man that wants to take her away from me, better make more money than she does.  

 

I just can't win!

[mdr224]

On 10/10/2024 at 1:20 AM, MalcolmB said:

Fighting them off with a stick.

Who are you kidding. Youre old and all you can get is prostitutes. Whats the fun in that?

[MalcolmB]

9 minutes ago, mdr224 said:

Who are you kidding. Youre old and all you can get is prostitutes. Whats the fun in that?

A lot more fun than taking matters into your own hands which is what you do and while living under Democrat rule.

[mdr224]

6 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

A lot more fun than taking matters into your own hands which is what you do and while living under Democrat rule.

British women are so ugly after living there your whole life i bet you bang anything with a pulse in thailand

[hotandsticky]

3 minutes ago, mdr224 said:

British women are so ugly after living there your whole life i bet you bang anything with a pulse in Thailand

 

 

I would.

 

 

 

..... and I have banged some beautiful English women in the past.

[MalcolmB]

5 minutes ago, mdr224 said:

British women are so ugly after living there your whole life i bet you bang anything with a pulse in thailand

Says the guy from the land of obesity where the average woman weighs a massive 

77.5 kg (170.9 lb)   Horrific

[BritManToo]

58 minutes ago, mdr224 said:

Who are you kidding. Youre old and all you can get is prostitutes. Whats the fun in that?

Got to say the Asian working girls have been much more fun than any of the 'free' Brit girls I dated at school and uni. And much more fun that the Brit schoolteacher I married.

And it wasn't just the sex that was better, but the romance and illusion of love too.

[Will B Good]

8 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Got to say the Asian working girls have been much more fun than any of the 'free' Brit girls I dated at school and uni. And much more fun that the Brit schoolteacher I married.

And it wasn't just the sex that was better, but the romance and illusion of love too.

 

 

Could not agree more. The gf experience used to be amazing......girls put heart and soul into making you believe you were the centre of their universe for a few hours to a few weeks.

 

Am I wrong in thinking that that seems to dying a death? It all seems much more transactional now ????

 

 

[madone]

On 10/8/2024 at 8:50 AM, OneMoreFarang said:

No

Yes

No

 

Maybe work a little more on your vast knowledge before you write that book.

 

My rule #1: You are the boss, behave like that. Otherwise, she will be the boss, and you won't like that. 

 

You tell 'em, sigma boy.

[BritManToo]

17 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

Am I wrong in thinking that that seems to dying a death? It all seems much more transactional now ????

Don't know as I've been married to my last one for the past 15 years.

Can't think it's much different now.

[Will B Good]

12 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Don't know as I've been married to my last one for the past 15 years.

Can't think it's much different now.

!8 years.....but still worry the gf experience might have gone....555

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/9/2024 at 5:55 PM, marin said:

That is totally up to who you socialize with. 99% of the Thai's I am friends with and deal with have university degrees, in fact most have two. 

Apparently not those that do real jobs then.

When papa earns 9000 baht a month, he's hardly going be able to send the brat to university.

[marin]

4 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Apparently not those that do real jobs then.

When papa earns 9000 baht a month, he's hardly going be able to send the brat to university.

Look mate, you cant even afford to live here so I dont put much credence in your posts. My neighbors and friends all make wover 80,000 baht per month per family. Older area and most of the kids have been to university and are contributing as well. 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/14/2024 at 5:41 PM, Will B Good said:

 

 

Could not agree more. The gf experience used to be amazing......girls put heart and soul into making you believe you were the centre of their universe for a few hours to a few weeks.

 

Am I wrong in thinking that that seems to dying a death? It all seems much more transactional now ????

 

 

Am I wrong in thinking you never partook of the bargirl experience?

If I'm correct it would explain why the first paragraph never accorded with reality, and I had more than a few to know.

 

I understand that it used to be that way back in the 60s, but that's just what I read in a book.

 

I'm not saying that it was a soulless experience- many were fun to have for a holiday, and they came in useful for translating and looking after the bags while I looked for a hut to stay in, but center of their universe, hardly.

[thaibeachlovers]

4 minutes ago, marin said:

Look mate, you cant even afford to live here so I dont put much credence in your posts. My neighbors and friends all make wover 80,000 baht per month per family. Older area and most of the kids have been to university and are contributing as well. 

Seriously? I've been visiting and living in LOS since 1974, so take your sense of superiority and ..............................

 

Like I said, not people that do a real job.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/14/2024 at 4:33 PM, mdr224 said:

Who are you kidding. Youre old and all you can get is prostitutes. Whats the fun in that?

Most of the prostitutes I've known, western and Asian, were nicer than the non prostitute western women I had the misfortune to associate with.

[mdr224]

10 minutes ago, marin said:

Look mate, you cant even afford to live here so I dont put much credence in your posts. My neighbors and friends all make wover 80,000 baht per month per family. Older area and most of the kids have been to university and are contributing as well. 

Looks like american politics seems unfavorable to you now so you shift your focus to trolling. Pathetic

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/10/2024 at 1:04 AM, daveAustin said:

Aside from being a bit daughter weird, what would you talk about...

Conversation is usually not the point of the association.

Daughter? Seems a bit creepy to associate one's daughter with a woman that has sex with as many men as she possibly can, regardless of age.

 

On 10/10/2024 at 1:04 AM, daveAustin said:

The silverback does not concern himself with the musings and trivialities of the woman gorilla! 

The silver back does not have caring feelings for the female gorilla. It's not part of their genetic makeup. Humans do, unless deficient in a few genes.

[thaibeachlovers]

6 minutes ago, mdr224 said:

Looks like american politics seems unfavorable to you now so you shift your focus to trolling. Pathetic

+1

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/14/2024 at 4:57 PM, hotandsticky said:

 

 

I would.

 

 

 

..... and I have banged some beautiful English women in the past.

I would too.

 

I worked in the UK for 10 years, but I never met any available English ones that I wanted to with. Australian women were better looking but they were Australians so a no go area. Way too PC for my liking.

[Celsius]

9 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Most of the prostitutes I've known, western and Asian, were nicer than the non prostitute western women I had the misfortune to associate with.

 

What a comparison.

 

I am sure that if you went to WalMart, Starbucks, 7/11, real estate agent or spec savers most would be nicer too before you spend the money.