Freak vs. Starfish: Who Brings More To The Bed?

[SoCal1990]

When it comes to bedroom dynamics, I’ve always been curious about what most of the others prefer in the land of smiles. On one side, you have the “freak,” the woman who goes all out in bed, takes charge, tries everything, has no limits, is not shy about what she likes, is fully there for it, and is eager to blow your mind. On the other side, you’ve got the “starfish,” the type who seems much less into it, maybe isn’t all that enthralled with sex to begin with, doesn’t put in much effort but is easygoing, lets you take full control, and essentially becomes a blank canvas for whatever you want to do.

 

The freak is the type who’s up for anything. She’s creative, curious, enthusiastic, and puts effort into making every encounter memorable. There’s never a dull moment, and she might even surprise you with ideas you hadn’t thought of before. A freak keeps things exciting, but sometimes her strong personality or desire to take the lead can overshadow what you want in that moment. If you like being in charge, this dynamic might feel like too much of a give-and-take when all you really want is to let loose, dominate and do things your way.

 

On the flip side, the starfish is laid-back, passive, and tolerates just about anything you want to do. She doesn’t take control or make any moves herself, which can feel freeing if you enjoy being completely in charge. There’s a certain appeal to that feeling of submission where she just lies there, as it lets you explore your fantasies without interruption or pushback. Sometimes the freak moves around too much, taking things in directions you weren’t expecting, which can make it harder for you to focus on what you want to get what you need out of the experience. With the starfish, you can take your time and do exactly what you need to feel fulfilled.

 

That said, the starfish dynamic has its downsides too. If you’re looking for mutual effort or someone who’s as excited and involved as you are, the starfish might feel underwhelming. She may do little to actively please you, so if you want someone to take charge now and then or simply “service” you while you relax, this might not scratch that itch either.

 

Personally, I’ve found myself leaning toward a mix of both. I’m lucky enough to have easy access to each type in Thailand, where there’s no shortage of variety, and sometimes my mood dictates my preference. There are days when I’m in the mood for a wild ride with a freak who keeps things electric and unpredictable and that's who I call on. Other times, I want the starfish experience, where I can fully take control and focus on fulfilling my own fantasies without worrying about matching energy levels or accommodating her pace or desires and I have access to that too.

 

Ultimately, it seems to boil down to the kind of experience you’re looking for in the moment. Do you prefer the energy, variety, and participation of a freak? Or is the blank-slate, rag-doll approach of a starfish more your style, one that lets you fully take the reins and shape the experience exactly how you want it?

[proton]

I'd rather have a dump or a Barclays Bank these days, sex is in the past thank goodness

Edited 2 hours ago by proton

[StreetCowboy]

42 minutes ago, proton said:

I'd rather have a dump or a Barclays Bank these days, sex is in the past thank goodness

There’s nothing as over-rated as a bad shag, or as under-rated as a good dump.

[ModdaPunk]

Shup the h3ll up with your half-baked theories and go get some 4ss, bro !

 

 

 

 

 

[atpeace]

56 minutes ago, SoCal1990 said:

When it comes to bedroom dynamics, I’ve always been curious about what most of the others prefer in the land of smiles. On one side, you have the “freak,” the woman who goes all out in bed, takes charge, tries everything, has no limits, is not shy about what she likes, is fully there for it, and is eager to blow your mind. On the other side, you’ve got the “starfish,” the type who seems much less into it, maybe isn’t all that enthralled with sex to begin with, doesn’t put in much effort but is easygoing, lets you take full control, and essentially becomes a blank canvas for whatever you want to do.

 

The freak is the type who’s up for anything. She’s creative, curious, enthusiastic, and puts effort into making every encounter memorable. There’s never a dull moment, and she might even surprise you with ideas you hadn’t thought of before. A freak keeps things exciting, but sometimes her strong personality or desire to take the lead can overshadow what you want in that moment. If you like being in charge, this dynamic might feel like too much of a give-and-take when all you really want is to let loose, dominate and do things your way.

 

On the flip side, the starfish is laid-back, passive, and tolerates just about anything you want to do. She doesn’t take control or make any moves herself, which can feel freeing if you enjoy being completely in charge. There’s a certain appeal to that feeling of submission where she just lies there, as it lets you explore your fantasies without interruption or pushback. Sometimes the freak moves around too much, taking things in directions you weren’t expecting, which can make it harder for you to focus on what you want to get what you need out of the experience. With the starfish, you can take your time and do exactly what you need to feel fulfilled.

 

That said, the starfish dynamic has its downsides too. If you’re looking for mutual effort or someone who’s as excited and involved as you are, the starfish might feel underwhelming. She may do little to actively please you, so if you want someone to take charge now and then or simply “service” you while you relax, this might not scratch that itch either.

 

Personally, I’ve found myself leaning toward a mix of both. I’m lucky enough to have easy access to each type in Thailand, where there’s no shortage of variety, and sometimes my mood dictates my preference. There are days when I’m in the mood for a wild ride with a freak who keeps things electric and unpredictable and that's who I call on. Other times, I want the starfish experience, where I can fully take control and focus on fulfilling my own fantasies without worrying about matching energy levels or accommodating her pace or desires and I have access to that too.

 

Ultimately, it seems to boil down to the kind of experience you’re looking for in the moment. Do you prefer the energy, variety, and participation of a freak? Or is the blank-slate, rag-doll approach of a starfish more your style, one that lets you fully take the reins and shape the experience exactly how you want it?

I've had lots of great sex but don't get what you are getting on about in regards to exploring.  Every girl has different moves and vibes.  I simply want her to be attractive and  want me. That is all I need to have a wonderful experience and I don't feel the need to explore.  I hear all the time about this exploring aspect but just can't relate.  Sure there is something to it but sex to me has little to do with exploring. 

 

Can you give an example of your latest exploration?  I'm open to trying...