She has started asking for money

[freedomnow]

6 hours ago, brianburi said:

He never mentioned his Dad received free medical treatment. 
Invest in a dictionary too…….

I think you should re-read it....it is implicit in what he is saying that his dad has to take out private medical insurance since he cannot access free Thai health care.

 

[freedomnow]

46 minutes ago, freedomnow said:

I think you should re-read it....it is implicit in what he is saying that his dad has to take out private medical insurance since he cannot access free Thai health care.

 

..and based on that...he thought her mum was needing private care as far as I read it...he was equating private care being the norm based on his dad...anyway, it's just a new guy in Thailand getting that familiar squeeze and he has had his advice to block her as its the usual B/S routine of guys with soft hearts getting worked by hookerz.

[4MyEgo]

On 3/12/2025 at 9:15 PM, Cameroni said:

 

Yes, there are the odd diamonds and exceptions. It's certainly nice to hear these true positive accounts and of course very happy you found a good woman. But if you had not had the funds to buy her a house, retire in Thailand, how long do you think this woman would have stayed with you? Clearly she is of good character, from what you have said, but don't you think your resources and willingness to buy her a house contributed to her happiness, and thus to her staying with you?

 

Thanks, and yes, ALL women want security of some kind for the long haul.

 

The above said, I have seen a lot of Thai women here, ending up with poor a$$ blokes here depending on their government handouts on a monthly basis to be left with nothing when he departs, suffice to say, I too consider myself an odd diamond too and of course, one has to set traps along to way to be sure to be sure as Paddy would say, and if the rat takes the cheese, then you know what you have on your hands.

 

The fact that she spend a decade with me overseas, supporting me as a stay at home wife with me working long hours from home and me being a single dad on a shared care basis, was a HUGE help, that said, she put a lot of trust in me to deliver on what I promised, i.e. to retire to Thailand in a decade and to build us a nice house, in the end it all worked out, and as you say, character has a heck of a lot to do with relationships.

[PomPolo]

What's her name? I'm in Phuket for a few days I'll do a test run and tell you if she's worth it 

[Cameroni]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Thanks, and yes, ALL women want security of some kind for the long haul.

 

The above said, I have seen a lot of Thai women here, ending up with poor a$$ blokes here depending on their government handouts on a monthly basis to be left with nothing when he departs, suffice to say, I too consider myself an odd diamond too and of course, one has to set traps along to way to be sure to be sure as Paddy would say, and if the rat takes the cheese, then you know what you have on your hands.

 

The fact that she spend a decade with me overseas, supporting me as a stay at home wife with me working long hours from home and me being a single dad on a shared care basis, was a HUGE help, that said, she put a lot of trust in me to deliver on what I promised, i.e. to retire to Thailand in a decade and to build us a nice house, in the end it all worked out, and as you say, character has a heck of a lot to do with relationships.

 

Always good to hear one that worked out. How old was she when you first met?

[NanLaew]

On 3/11/2025 at 11:26 AM, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

 

Who are the magpies?

[NanLaew]

On 3/11/2025 at 10:49 AM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day.

 

What happened between "...paid the bar fine and took her back." And "Next day comes around and she messages me..." Did you wake up alone? Was it all a dream? Did you pay her?

 

This could be crucial to resolving this very unique and unusual conundrum that you have presented to us.

 

On the other hand...

[geisha]

On 3/11/2025 at 5:42 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

Please read the post correctly.Medical treatment is free for THAIS’ , not foreigners. I don’t know if you’re real or not, but a girl working the bars are prostitutes . When the guys ( many) aren’t in Thailand , this what they do, Ask for money. If you’re ok with that, go ahead , but never forget who you are  giving it to, its not a girl friend or friend. It’s a prostitute. 

[Celsius]

9 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Always good to hear one that worked out. How old was she when you first met?

 

69

[PomPolo]

29 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

69

A very good age indeed and met a few ladies myself of a similar senescent variety 

[wavodavo]

On 3/12/2025 at 12:32 AM, johng said:

 

Don't send any money  she will soon stop messaging..and if she doesn't well

then maybe you got a keeper.

Send her 100,00- thb and she will be so happy she won't bother you again/

[VBF]

On 3/11/2025 at 10:52 PM, NorthernRyland said:

one and the same. 😂

Cynicism is the Romantic s condom. (Mike Harding)

[Ian Winston]

On 3/11/2025 at 8:49 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

 

[Ian Winston]

As others have said could be a red flag .this is very common with Bar girls and new customers who have barfined them if you would have sent her money you could be  sure she would be asking for more in the future.

just see what happens ,if you like this girl and she doesn’t ask for more money when you return you can take it from there. You have to bear in mind that she is a bargirl,in her job she is expectedto go with customers. If she’s not genuine she will be doing this every time she’s barfined .

I know Girls from the past who had many boyfriends from around the world that sent money thinking they are the only one ,but this might not be the case. Good luck.

[VBF]

17 minutes ago, Ian Winston said:

As others have said could be a red flag .this is very common with Bar girls and new customers who have barfined them if you would have sent her money you could be  sure she would be asking for more in the future.

just see what happens ,if you like this girl and she doesn’t ask for more money when you return you can take it from there. You have to bear in mind that she is a bargirl,in her job she is expectedto go with customers. If she’s not genuine she will be doing this every time she’s barfined .

I know Girls from the past who had many boyfriends from around the world that sent money thinking they are the only one ,but this might not be the case. Good luck.

In my experience and that of friends, I would suggest that this applies to the VAST MAJORITY of bargirls.

 

To the OP tread cautiously and be prepared to learn the worst. 

And from personal experience, ask yourself if this is not just a brief, sexy interlude in your otherwise mundane life and if THAT  is what you're missing.  (Sorry but had to be said)

 

You don't have to tell anyone else but be truthful with yourself 😏

[captain_shane]

A prostitute asking for money, wow what a revelation. Definitely need another 5 pages to figure out this mystery.

[Olsworth]

I dated a number of girls in phuket mostly from dating websites, in phuket especially the girls were insistent on a retainer between 10,000-20,000 a month. One girl I got on well with, however when she asked for money she insisted if I didn’t pay she would find another guy that would pay as it is expected in phuket. I said you have your own shop selling clothes why do you need my money, I said I can lend you 40,000 to buy extra stock and you can return the money to me amd take the profits for yourself. She debated then discussed with my dad’s wife about it. She said sorry I’m going to find a guy that will send a retainer each month. I wished her well, sent her on her way. She found another guy and sent me pictures of her being happy with her new retainer, it lasted a few months then She was back to the drawing board. Another friend that’s a girl I knew, has a boyfriend we were only friends, known her a few years, she got in touch while I was in Blighty asking to borrow her 500B as she had run out of food and was waiting for money from her man to arrive she has a job in a bar, knowing full well she earns a decent amount each month. No need to ask some guy 5000 miles away for 500b especially knowing that she won’t return it. Girls in phuket are generally on retainer that’s been my experience so far. I left Thailand and went to Laos, found a lovely girl who never once asked for money. We are now married living in the Uk with 4 children together. 

[Olsworth]

1 minute ago, Olsworth said:

I dated a number of girls in phuket mostly from dating websites, in phuket especially the girls were insistent on a retainer between 10,000-20,000 a month. One girl (not bar girl) I got on well with, however when she asked for money she insisted if I didn’t pay she would find another guy that would pay as it is expected in phuket. I said you have your own shop selling clothes why do you need my money, I said I can lend you 40,000 to buy extra stock and you can return the money to me amd take the profits for yourself. She debated then discussed with my dad’s wife about it. She said sorry I’m going to find a guy that will send a retainer each month. I wished her well, sad but sent her on her way. She found another guy and sent me pictures of her being happy with her new retainer, it lasted a few months then She was back to the drawing board. Another friend that’s a girl I knew, she has a boyfriend we were only friends, known her a few years, dated her sister (sister slept with me in a heartbeat despite having long term 3 year relationship live in boyfriend, sex is just sex in Thailand) friend got in touch while I was in Blighty asking to borrow her 500B as she had run out of food and was waiting for money from her man to arrive she has a job in a bar, knowing full well she earns a decent amount each month. No need to ask some guy 7000 miles away for 500b especially knowing that she won’t return it. Girls in phuket are generally on retainer that’s been my experience so far. I left Thailand and went to Laos, found a lovely girl who never once asked for money. Hasn’t slept with the whole of Laos We are now married living in the Uk with 4 children together. 

 

[PuiPuiHarry]

What is the service for sale in areas like Pattaya ? Yes, erothic entertainment. COMMERCIAL service. YOU had a nice time with her, so...you pay for her time. It is NOT a pub in UK, where ladies and men meet on voluntary basis.

[4MyEgo]

On 3/15/2025 at 7:28 PM, Cameroni said:

 

Always good to hear one that worked out. How old was she when you first met?

 

25

 

I will add, she had parents you wouldn't dream of, a physically abusive ex partner and then won the lottery with me, so she counts her blessings everyday as she has stability and security in her life, as I do as well.

 

I'd say I was and am pretty lucky, no doubting that, but that said, it's not the title people should be worried about, as it's the beast within the woman, putting down the Thai girls working to survive is easy, albeit it, everyone will sleep with them, but no mention of the X western wives taking 1/2 to 3/4 of the matrimonial house in the old country via the courts, just saying, you want a younger prettier babe for your ego's and to show them off on your arm to your friends, just make sure you have the brains to know what you actually have on your arm, regardless of ethnicity or career.

 

[Cameroni]

56 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

25

 

I will add, she had parents you wouldn't dream of, a physically abusive ex partner and then won the lottery with me, so she counts her blessings everyday as she has stability and security in her life, as I do as well.

 

I'd say I was and am pretty lucky, no doubting that, but that said, it's not the title people should be worried about, as it's the beast within the woman, putting down the Thai girls working to survive is easy, albeit it, everyone will sleep with them, but no mention of the X western wives taking 1/2 to 3/4 of the matrimonial house in the old country via the courts, just saying, you want a younger prettier babe for your ego's and to show them off on your arm to your friends, just make sure you have the brains to know what you actually have on your arm, regardless of ethnicity or career.

 

I quite agree, but the really weird thing is the guys who think their ex wives DESERVE half of all their net worth, half the house, the pension etc, just because they had a night of passion with someone else. It is truly bizarre how men have internalised that women deserve half no matter what.

 

But getting back to your wife, you said she worked in a bar, so she would have had a fair number of clients before you, assuming she worked there a few years. That thought never bothered you?

 

 

[4MyEgo]

On 3/17/2025 at 6:21 PM, Cameroni said:

I quite agree, but the really weird thing is the guys who think their ex wives DESERVE half of all their net worth, half the house, the pension etc, just because they had a night of passion with someone else. It is truly bizarre how men have internalised that women deserve half no matter what.

 

It all depends on how you look at things I suppose, for example, if both work, then yes, she should be entitled to half, or, if on has kids together, then yes, she should have half, maybe the whole house to shelter the kids. Naturally this would depend on the guy and how well off he is.

 

The above said, is she hasn't worked, and the relationship is only starting out, it's definitely a no go zone, suffice to say, before we married in my home country, I sorted legal advice from a Family Law Specialist who handled my divorce with my X (western) wife swiftly, without having to go to court, it was a 50/50 split with one child on a shared care basis, i.e. I got the kid one day a week less than her overall in a year, and he advised me to get a Prenuptial Agreement signed up before we married, with my now wife agreeing with me that I should protect my assets against the law that favored women, and it was carried out within days, i.e. she said, what you have is yours, why should I be entitled to them.

 

I ran that scenario by a few friends who were in relationships, not married, and wouldn't even think about going down that route in fear of pi$$ing off their girlfriends/future wives.

 

You might say mine is a rare diamond, fact of the matter is if she arked up about signing a Prenuptial, then I would know she was after 50% of what I had, my opinion, she did the right thing, and a decade later I kept to my word, built her a nice big home, so she has 100% of it, plus a car in her name, even though I could have put it in my name (yellow book), we have kids together, so if things went south, she needs to raise the kids, drive them to school, etc, etc and of course I would make sure she is taken care of, she is the type of girl that isn't our typical money hungry "B", she's still a village girl and hates it when the locals at the market call her Madam, i.e. she doesn't hang her bag off her arm which would be outward if you know what I mean, she loves her bum bag.

 

You might say why did my X only get 50% with one kid after 12 years of marriage, well the way I looked at it was as she only earned 30% of what I did, 50% was a good deal, and it was that or nothing, suffice to say she got enough to buy a house outright and if she wanted to go to court, I would have made sure it would have been chewed up in lawyers fees, that and her dad, told her it was fair and that I would looked after the kid, which I did.

 

On 3/17/2025 at 6:21 PM, Cameroni said:

But getting back to your wife, you said she worked in a bar, so she would have had a fair number of clients before you, assuming she worked there a few years. That thought never bothered you?

 

Dinner is served so got to jet.

 

Never bothered me, she was there for  months, checked, double checked and confirmed, and yes she could have been elsewhere, but her inexperience told me a lot, 16 customers to be exact, most drunk and not able to perform was the story and I believe it, that said, doesn't bother me, as I have been with scores of women in my life, should that bother her ?

 

No disease to date LoL 

[Cameroni]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

It all depends on how you look at things I suppose, for example, if both work, then yes, she should be entitled to half, or, if on has kids together, then yes, she should have half, maybe the whole house to shelter the kids. Naturally this would depend on the guy and how well off he is.

 

The above said, is she hasn't worked, and the relationship is only starting out, it's definitely a no go zone, suffice to say, before we married in my home country, I sorted legal advice from a Family Law Specialist who handled my divorce with my X (western) wife swiftly, without having to go to court, it was a 50/50 split with one child on a shared care basis, i.e. I got the kid one day a week less than her overall in a year, and he advised me to get a Prenuptial Agreement signed up before we married, with my now wife agreeing with me that I should protect my assets against the law that favored women, and it was carried out within days, i.e. she said, what you have is yours, why should I be entitled to them.

 

I ran that scenario by a few friends who were in relationships, not married, and wouldn't even think about going down that route in fear of pi$$ing off their girlfriends/future wives.

 

You might say mine is a rare diamond, fact of the matter is if she arked up about signing a Prenuptial, then I would know she was after 50% of what I had, my opinion, she did the right thing, and a decade later I kept to my word, built her a nice big home, so she has 100% of it, plus a car in her name, even though I could have put it in my name (yellow book), we have kids together, so if things went south, she needs to raise the kids, drive them to school, etc, etc and of course I would make sure she is taken care of, she is the type of girl that isn't our typical money hungry "B", she's still a village girl and hates it when the locals at the market call her Madam, i.e. she doesn't hang her bag off her arm which would be outward if you know what I mean, she loves her bum bag.

 

You might say why did my X only get 50% with one kid after 12 years of marriage, well the way I looked at it was as she only earned 30% of what I did, 50% was a good deal, and it was that or nothing, suffice to say she got enough to buy a house outright and if she wanted to go to court, I would have made sure it would have been chewed up in lawyers fees, that and her dad, told her it was fair and that I would looked after the kid, which I did.

 

 

Dinner is served so got to jet.

 

Never bothered me, she was there for  months, checked, double checked and confirmed, and yes she could have been elsewhere, but her inexperience told me a lot, 16 customers to be exact, most drunk and not able to perform was the story and I believe it, that said, doesn't bother me, as I have been with scores of women in my life, should that bother her ?

 

No disease to date LoL 

I had also bought into this the ex wife deserves half and I voluntarily gave it to her. But actually I had bought a 4 bed house when I was 26. I had always made double what she earned, when she did start to earn. So actually in hindsight giving her half was completely over the top, when i considered it rationally.

 

She seems an honest kind, so the 16 may be true. However, it is different for men and women, we do not get ejcaculated on. There is a certain disgust factor with women who have really been run in the ground, though 16 is still a fortunate lower side of things.

 

 

[4MyEgo]

12 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

I had also bought into this the ex wife deserves half and I voluntarily gave it to her. But actually I had bought a 4 bed house when I was 26. I had always made double what she earned, when she did start to earn. So actually in hindsight giving her half was completely over the top, when i considered it rationally.

 

What you did at the time, was the right decision, so best leave that in the past, no point in saying to yourself, I got sucked in, or I was still in love, you did what you thought was right at that time and stick by your decision, otherwise, you'll be punishing yourself and I don't believe you need that or want that, but learn from your decisions, not mistakes, decisions at those times.

 

14 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

She seems an honest kind, so the 16 may be true. However, it is different for men and women, we do not get ejcaculated on. There is a certain disgust factor with women who have really been run in the ground, though 16 is still a fortunate lower side of things.

 

I can guarantee you that she is the honest type as I know exactly what amount is in my wallet to this day, she never goes to my wallet, even when I tell her it's ok to, if she needs something she will ask, and I will tell her to go and get it from my wallet, she still to this day won't, I tell her I trust her, but she says, it's not my wallet, so I will get it for you and you take the money out, kind of strange, but it is what it is.

 

The thing I like the most about my wife is that she will discuss her past with me, and she tells me that I am the only one she will open up to, that I believe because she keeps to herself, few friends, doesn't want headaches, judgement and the usual talk down, lend me money sister, come on you have a farang and so on.

 

I have discussed her short career of 7 months on many occasions out of curiosity as I don't judge, and she feels comfortable being open about it with me. She has told me that she was fortunate, she had customers that would take her like an escort, for a week at a time, treated her nice and just wanting to go partying, drinking with friends and so on, getting trashed and getting to the hotels early in the morning, sleeping, most couldn't perform because they drank too much, others, it was over real quick, and others wanted a LadyBoy, but not in front of their friends, so they would go back to his hotel and he would give her instructions to get him a LadyBoy, pay her and tell her not to go back to the bar as he didn't want his friends to see her till the next night. She also didn't do things that she thought was weird or disgusting as she respects herself in that way, and would decline customers in a nice way, if they weren't up to scratch, e.g. if they looked like cheap Charlie's, not clean, she would say, it's that time of the month or I have a customer who has paid my bar fine tonight and I am waiting for him, etc, etc. She was fortunate to have 3 sisters who worked there before here, so they more or less taught her the ropes, drink the water (tequila shots) before the customer finds out (lady drinks) so she doesn't get drunk, that said, she doesn't drink.

 

I could go on, but hey, I don't need to prove anything to anyone, or brag about it, it really is the luck of the draw and keeping your assets separate, not spoiling them, or changing them, she is still a village girl with a village girl mentality, and that is what I love about her.

 

1 in a million or 1 in a billion, I am glad I met her in my lifetime, because I have been with a few gals, some models, others rich, but all had baggage, this one doesn't and makes my life complete, her payday will come when this golden goose as she refers to me as, kicks the bucket, as my will has her in it, but as I keep earning as I get older, she says she wants me to keep laying eggs LoL