Dating 22-Year-Old Thai Bubble Tea Girl - She Just Asked for 30K/Month – Am I Being Played?

[Acharn]

If ฿30K is not a burden for you, go for it.  That's a pretty good monthly income for an upcountry Thai family, especially if they're farmers. If it is a burden try to talk it over with her. After all, if you marry her you'll have to send her family something to make up for the loss of her income. Or not, if you're a cheap, hard-hearted bastard.

[JakeC]

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If ฿30K is not a burden for you, go for it.  That's a pretty good monthly income for an upcountry Thai family, especially if they're farmers. If it is a burden try to talk it over with her. After all, if you marry her you'll have to send her family something to make up for the loss of her income. Or not, if you're a cheap, hard-hearted bastard.

 

To what loss of income are you referring? She's(the imaginary girlfriend) still working.

[Hummin]

23 minutes ago, JakeC said:

 

To what loss of income are you referring? She's(the imaginary girlfriend) still working.

Read, if you marry her. If you married a street vendor worker/owner, would you want her to continue working ? 
 

If she quits working , she would most likely expect som money once and awhile for herself and her parents. 

[newbee2022]

"but somehow we click......"

Well, so the stories start. 30k is not too much if she cooks, clean, just spoil you and live with you 24/7.

Don't think it's love. It's business. She's young and offered her youth for money. And you're an old Granddad feeling young again.

Believe me: if she would have the choice she wouldn't take you.

You're too old, strange culture and not speaking her language.

Good luck 😂

 

 

 

[Jack Hammer]

Always cry poor mouth.  Tell her about all your expenses that you have back in your home country and how you are looking after relatives etc. etc. etc..

Offer 12,000, that is a win-win for both. Twelve thousand for a month of fantastic sex is a bargain. If it doesn’t work out, no problem. If you advertise that you will support a Thai lady for 30,000 a month you will have a queue from the airport to your accommodation wanting to come on board

[JakeC]

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Read, if you marry her. If you married a street vendor worker/owner, would you want her to continue working ? 
 

If she quits working , she would most likely expect som money once and awhile for herself and her parents. 

 

A lot of 'ifs' and jumping to conclusions, eh?

 

Yes, she would keep working unless she was carrying my children. For what reason do I need a woman to hang around me all day?

Better she works and keeps some semblance of freedom and independence. Unless you like the father/daughter relationship replicated in your own.

[JamesPhuket10]

 

How does this work out financially?

 

If a guy pays 30k baht a month is that much cheaper than hiring a woman for maybe three times a week for sex?

 

I suppose there are pros (pun not intended) and cons, with a monthly subscription you at least know what your are getting and the woman (or girl) is safe, with a new one each time there must be risks but at least you get variety.

 

But I suppose if a guy is 20+ years older than the girl then they have to pay for it as lets be honest, no where in the world would a girl be interested in an old bloke for sex.

 

But for some reason in Thailand many farangs believe otherwise.

 

I do find it funny when I see the situation though where an old bloke is strutting down the street with a young woman, they seem to think we do not know what is going on and do not seem to realise we could all do it. 

 

[Hummin]

1 hour ago, JakeC said:

 

A lot of 'ifs' and jumping to conclusions, eh?

 

Yes, she would keep working unless she was carrying my children. For what reason do I need a woman to hang around me all day?

Better she works and keeps some semblance of freedom and independence. Unless you like the father/daughter relationship replicated in your own.

 

😁 Talking about jumping to conclusions 👏

 

How come you do mot reply with adress to the one you replying to? Still wondering. You blocked me or? 

[ronnie50]

On 5/22/2025 at 10:39 PM, CHdiver said:

Sorry to burst your (tea) bubble, but you are her sugar daddy. But as you think 30k is ok, go for it. But I would not invest any feelings and treat her as that wat she is, a rental.

 

Good luck and enjoy your time. 

Agree. Just to add that if she is attractive she almost certainly has a Thai 'samee' (husband or b'friend she shags/lives with). Keep your eyes open more than the wallet. Many Thais have more than one sex partner.

[Cameroni]

20 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

How does this work out financially?

 

If a guy pays 30k baht a month is that much cheaper than hiring a woman for maybe three times a week for sex?

 

That's irrelevant, he;'s not buying a used scooter, he's talking about paying money for a girlfriend. If the girl were a true girlfriend, then money would be no object, as she'd deliver a whole lot more than sex, such as emotional support, household services and much else besides. If she were a true girlfriend, he'd have to support the family, pay for her if she got very sick to ensure she survives. She would be his walking liability but he would take it on regardless because of the benefits she offers.

 

However, in this case she is obviously trying to take financial advantage of the OP. So one can discount the notion that she is a true girlfriend, she is the classic gold digger.

 

20 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

But I suppose if a guy is 20+ years older than the girl then they have to pay for it as lets be honest, no where in the world would a girl be interested in an old bloke for sex.

 

Not true, Chuando Tan is fighting off the 20 year olds with a stick, depends what the man looks like and what his resources and social standing are.

 

20 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

I do find it funny when I see the situation though where an old bloke is strutting down the street with a young woman, they seem to think we do not know what is going on and do not seem to realise we could all do it. 

 

 

Also not true, even with money, you will find that women are highly selective with long term relationships, you would still have to offer a certain level of attractiveness for some girls. Others yes, they will do a hairy obese 280 kilo walking manpig. But not all gold diggerts are so devoid of standards, the better looking a woman is generally the more likely looks will also play some role, you still can't look repulsive. Even if you wave 30000 baht around.

[JakeC]

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😁 Talking about jumping to conclusions 👏

 

To what conclusions do you claim? 

She IS working, according to the OP. So, exactly the scenario to which I referred. It's you utilising conjecture and jumping to conclusions.

 

[SpaceKadet]

More likely than not, she's told her family that she's dating a westerner, and they are putting pressure on her.

30K is a large amount. Must be many buffaloes in need of veterinary care. And maybe some brothers in jail too....

 

Me, I married a girl from the South. Much easier to communicate with, and much more straight forward, western style. And no buffaloes, but a big coconut plantation.

[JakeC]

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If she were a true girlfriend, he'd have to support the family, pay for her if she got very sick to ensure she survives. She would be his walking liability but he would take it on regardless because of the benefits she offers.

 

What?! I most certainly have not ever financially supported any girlfriend's family. The mere thought of it is preposterous.

This is akin to buying a wife. Let's not mince words.

Many do it, as they often choose women from exceedingly poor families.  But if a woman has any self respect, she will take steps to earn money for herself.

Of course this is just in general. Most of the people doing it here, likely couldn't afford to do it back home. She would need to work.

[chuang]

There's no such thing as free lunch..

You are both culturally different so don't bring in your culture to play..

Becos a lot of guys will tell you so.

[rwill]

So she burst your bubble...

[JamesPhuket10]

30 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

That's irrelevant, he;'s not buying a used scooter, he's talking about paying money for a girlfriend. If the girl were a true girlfriend, then money would be no object, as she'd deliver a whole lot more than sex, such as emotional support, household services and much else besides. If she were a true girlfriend, he'd have to support the family, pay for her if she got very sick to ensure she survives. She would be his walking liability but he would take it on regardless because of the benefits she offers.

 

However, in this case she is obviously trying to take financial advantage of the OP. So one can discount the notion that she is a true girlfriend, she is the classic gold digger.

 

 

Not true, Chuando Tan is fighting off the 20 year olds with a stick, depends what the man looks like and what his resources and social standing are.

 

 

Also not true, even with money, you will find that women are highly selective with long term relationships, you would still have to offer a certain level of attractiveness for some girls. Others yes, they will do a hairy obese 280 kilo walking manpig. But not all gold diggerts are so devoid of standards, the better looking a woman is generally the more likely looks will also play some role, you still can't look repulsive. Even if you wave 30000 baht around.

 

"......he's talking about paying money for a girlfriend.....", a very strange attitude, paying money for a girlfriend? that means buying/hiring one, is that what some guys think a girlfriend is, a woman you buy?

 

I wonder what century we are living in, are we in a situation where women work, have their own businesses, are professionals, can take care of their own expenses?

 

I think it is funny how you seem to have different tiers for gold diggers, a gold digger is a gold digger, often known by other words.

 

That has been my experience so far in this old life of mine, I don't remember having to pay a subscription in order to get a girlfriend or partner.

 

No doubt someone will say I paid for dinner etc for women and that is a sort of way to hire a woman, but what about when they pay for dinner, does that mean they are then hiring us?

 

My experience so far of having girlfriends or partners is we both work, pool the money and pay from that on an equal basis, I think that is how the world works, even in Thailand it seems to me as the vast majority of Thais I know do that.

 

Maybe I am not into the farang/Thai old-bloke/young girl scene and know nothing of it, but I have heard and seen it from a distance, I prefer to keep it that way. 

 

 

[Cameroni]

5 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

"......he's talking about paying money for a girlfriend.....", a very strange attitude, paying money for a girlfriend? that means buying/hiring one, is that what some guys think a girlfriend is, a woman you buy?

 

 

You don't "buy" a girlfriend obviously, she's not yours. But her liabilities are yours, so if she needs money for family, for her medical treatment, for food, shelter, etc, then you have to pay for it.

 

6 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

I wonder what century we are living in, are we in a situation where women work, have their own businesses, are professionals, can take care of their own expenses?

 

They do, but women who have money stilll will seek a partner who improves their lives financially, they will date up. It is very rare they will do what men do and take on a liability.

 

7 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

but what about when they pay for dinner, does that mean they are then hiring us?

 

If they pay for dinner, they are investing in a relationship with you, because they know your resources are substantially greater than hers.

 

8 minutes ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

we both work, pool the money and pay from that on an equal basis, I think that is how the world works,

 

No, that's not how the world works, and I doubt that's how your relationship works, your gf paying exactly half of your expenses. Unless she's ugly as sin, and is trying to keep you with a male strategy of resource provision because her looks are that bad. But generally speaking, with better looking girls, a man will pay for her as a general rule. Women grant sexual access in exchange for resources. This is how the world works and has always worked since time immemorial.

[JakeC]

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No, that's not how the world works, and I doubt that's how your relationship works, your gf paying exactly half of your expenses. Unless she's ugly as sin, and is trying to keep you with a male strategy of resource provision because her looks are that bad. But generally speaking, with better looking girls, a man will pay for her as a general rule. Women grant sexual access in exchange for resources. This is how the world works and has always worked since time immemorial.

 

 

You are posting utter nonsense. If I showed you the girls on my phone who pay their own way, you would choke on your coffee.

You are referring to your experience with women and the way that you behave with them.

 

I have little doubt that my women are more attractive in every way....and they share.

[emptypockets]

On 5/23/2025 at 2:34 AM, still kicking said:

I just don't get it, how do people fall into those traps I have been married to a Thai for 22 years, she never asks me for any mefor any money 

You haven't got any

[JakeC]

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You haven't got any

 

That's funny...coming from someone with the username of @emptypockets

[emptypockets]

On 5/23/2025 at 2:55 AM, still kicking said:

 

 

Never, she pays for me

The Aussie taxpayer pays for you

[still kicking]

Just now, emptypockets said:

The Aussie taxpayer pays for you

No wonder your pockets are empty, my wife is a nurse and makes $ 42 per hour and more on public holidays

[emptypockets]

1 minute ago, still kicking said:

No wonder your pockets are empty, my wife is a nurse and makes $ 42 per hour and more on public holidays

Is that all?

I hope you are telling Centrelink about her income. Might affect your pension big time.

[Harrisfan]

5 minutes ago, emptypockets said:

Is that all?

I hope you are telling Centrelink about her income. Might affect your pension big time.

He spends $90 a fortnight on food. Sounds like a <deleted> life.

[JakeC]

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Is that all?

I hope you are telling Centrelink about her income. Might affect your pension big time.

 

Nasty....has he offended you in some way?

[Keep Right]

God, I love those bubble tea girls, go for it!

[Negita43]

No you are not being "played" 

You are being "conned"

[emptypockets]

18 minutes ago, JakeC said:

 

Nasty....has he offended you in some way?

No, not at all. 

[Cameroni]

49 minutes ago, JakeC said:

 

 

You are posting utter nonsense. If I showed you the girls on my phone who pay their own way, you would choke on your coffee.

You are referring to your experience with women and the way that you behave with them.

 

I have little doubt that my women are more attractive in every way....and they share.

 

In your dreams.

 

You're just another fake charlatan who claims he doesn't pay for his girls. You're lying, and we all know it.

 

Girls "on your phone", shows you're not even getting what the subject matter is, we're talking about real relationships. Not a girl you met two or three times.

[gk10012001]

Up to you.  That is less than $1,000 USD a month.  Straightup girlfriends do cost anywhere in the world assuming you treat them, take out, travel, and whatever.   Are you being played?  Possibly.  Unless she lives with you and see here day to day activities all the time it is possible she has more than one benefactor.  That certainly is not unheard of.  Are you getting what you paid for?  Again, up to you to decide.