bangkoksingapore Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i noticed in another thread that our beloved and well respected poster ratchabuild claimed that he has never held his wifes hand in public because it would offend thais. do you agree or disagree with his assessment of the thai persona? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geronimo Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i noticed in another thread that our beloved and well respected poster ratchabuild claimed that he has never held his wifes hand in public because it would offend thais. do you agree or disagree with his assessment of the thai persona? I would never hold rachabuild's hand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mikethevigoman Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i noticed in another thread that our beloved and well respected poster ratchabuild claimed that he has never held his wifes hand in public because it would offend thais. do you agree or disagree with his assessment of the thai persona?Disagree, saw a few thais and their boyfriends holding hands in jomtien Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chinthee Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Those of you who live here and are with a partner with some amount of decorum know that Thai people don't do this much in public, and especially with a foreign man. Having said that, it does slip through occasionally, yes, and is not the end of the world when it happens. But, it is not every day. But, this is not Paris, where passionate couples slip each other the tongue in dark alleys. Different deal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davethailand Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 (edited) I voted yes as i "sometimes" do hold her hand and too be frank I couldn't give a monkey's what anybody whether its Thai or farang thinks about it. I'm quite comfortable with my marriage and being in public with my wife Edited August 21, 2007 by davethailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lannarebirth Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't do it, but not because of Thai custom. It just has never occured to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canuckamuck Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 (edited) She often reaches for my hand, and I enjoy holding her hand when we walk. Sometimes we get more cuddly than that She really doesn't care what others think. Edited August 21, 2007 by canuckamuck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lazeeboy Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 She often reaches for my hand, and I enjoy holding her hand when we walk. Sometimes we get more cuddly than that She really doesn't care what others think. did'nt do it in england and dont do it in thailand ,besides how would you smoke ,hold your fags and lighter ,you'd need 3 hands.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColPyat Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Generally speaking - rarely. It depends on the social setting and environment. Outside of Pattaya and the assorted tourist ghettos Thailand is a rather conservative society. Which suits us fine, in this aspect, as we both are not so keen on public displays of affection. Things change though here, and in many settings it is perfectly alright to hold hands. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Ten years together and we still hold hands, hug and even smooch, occasionally, in public. Always have and always will. It is more about how you look doing it. I did do a little shock therapy with the wife early on by laying a big romantic kiss on her in a very public place in Hawaii. As she stood there a little confused I asked her to look around. Nobody was paying any attention so she kissed me right back. Many of the women in our upper class health club in Bangkok expressed envy at the affection we obviously have for each other. If the wife is not comfortable with holding hands, me and my suspicious mind, would question where you found her. It is the socially insecure that worry excessively about what other people think. Even then, enough love will overcome such insecurities, normally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
uptou Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 certainly not i'm British!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mobi Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 As she is always in her rightful place - 3 steps behind me- I find it rather difficult to hold my wife's hand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sibeymai Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I can't stop her from holding my hand....not that I'd really want to anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TexasRanger Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 It's ridiculous, lots of Thai's hold hands, granted it is more acceptable here in the city, but as for offending other people, I doubt anyone would take offence these days and any that did would be people I couldn't care less about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlbertTatlockDeceased Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I genearally walk down the street holding her tits..and she holds my dick..have you nothing better to do? Why not take off your strait jacket and go and play way a bread knife....the world will keep on turning thankfully Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
A_Traveller Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 A degree or two off topic, but I have noticed the increased enthusiasm for Thai's to be more demonstrative these days. The mall rats in Paragon can be quite surprising. Regards Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Whilst i've got hold of her hand, i know my wallet is safe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
draggons Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Quite often. She always takes ME by the hand when I have to cross the road though! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chinthee Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 That's me too, blind as a bat and dumb as a jackass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlbertTatlockDeceased Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 The country is falling apart, the government is a bunch of.... investement is floundering, the people are broke and this is the best you can come up with..you must be an estate agent or a chartered surveyor..go and join the farangoloid that got short changed by 5 fXXXX ing baht from Mc Donalds Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sceadugenga Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 My wife will often take my arm in public for a few minutes, not really into hand holding though... I suppose we're getting a bit past it age wise. She often giggle at elderly tourists holding hands with their new "girlfriends" in the main street in Chiang Rai though. Doesn't bother me, she's the snob in the family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sibeymai Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 Maybe she's always holding my hand to make sure I don't run off with anyone else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gary A Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't initiate it but I see nothing wrong with it. She often grabs my hand in public so she must feel comfortable with it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Naam Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i noticed in another thread that our beloved and well respected poster ratchabuild claimed that he has never held his wifes hand in public because it would offend thais. do you agree or disagree with his assessment of the thai persona? i don't hold my wife's hand except perhaps when crossing a busy street. but if i wanted to hold her hand i'd care a flying <deleted> whether somebody agrees or disagrees. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jasreeve17 Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 i noticed in another thread that our beloved and well respected poster ratchabuild claimed that he has never held his wifes hand in public because it would offend thais. do you agree or disagree with his assessment of the thai persona? i don't hold my wife's hand except perhaps when crossing a busy street. but if i wanted to hold her hand i'd care a flying <deleted> whether somebody agrees or disagrees. Why don't you say what you mean Dr Naam, you're always skirting around the point. The bit about holding hands being disrespectful to Thais is rubbish - gave my missus a good laugh though. Her words were "Who say that - eedeat." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roietjimmy Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 She often reaches for my hand, and I enjoy holding her hand when we walk. Sometimes we get more cuddly than that She really doesn't care what others think. did'nt do it in england and dont do it in thailand ,besides how would you smoke ,hold your fags and lighter ,you'd need 3 hands.. cigarette in your left hand, lighter in her right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gburns57au Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 do it all the time, both here and in Thailand, BTW....you can tell the tourist with the "New" girlfriend as against the married couple... the Tourist will have a smug look on his face.....the married guy will have a look of resignation.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
britmaveric Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 hands held and god forbid a kiss when the moment is right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cooL_guY_corY Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 lots of my friends who are thai hold eachothers hands in public. i think a BIG thing regarding this is the age factor. Thais i know under 30 are quite different then more hardcore thais. Most of my friends are 18-25, all of them are very westernized and laugh at the how closedminded some older thais are. If your in an inappropriate place for hand holding then it is understandable, but if you refuse to hold your wifes hand (.. is she actually your wife? or did you meet her in a money for sex scenario ? i know i know touchy topic here, but plz.. realism first) on the basis that you would offend thai people, then following that type of mindset, you think that you would not be marrying a thai person, as that would offend a certain type of thai people. another ridiculous thread.. jesus all these people sitting around here with out jobs ( or with jobs where they just hang out online on thai visa all day?) need to get their shit together! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Old Man River Posted August 21, 2007 Share Posted August 21, 2007 I don't think this has ever been about offending other Thais, but more of what other Thais would think about your Thai wife. In the early days of my marriage (Viet Nam war era), just standing next to each other in Bangkok would have other Thais misunderstanding our relationship. Now, it is no longer an issue and any Thai having problems with a foreigner/Thai couple holding hands in public has never been to a mall. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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