Post Natal / Post Partum Depression

[philo]

I have a daughter 1.5 years old.

My wife - in a not very loving marriage - is going to have a new child next year. It has been very difficult with the first child - all kind of worries about health, accidents, schooling, finances, future etc.

But as it is now I seem to go into a Pre Natal Depression: Just as our first child seems to be healthy, happy and strong (but I am still worried about everything) - I sometimes cry my T-shirt wet worrying about how many more problems am I going to face when we have two ...

Any others there - or do you just 'Happy go lucky' and dump the child with it's mother if things get to heavy (a few of my friends has done this both in Farangland and here)?

[Boo]

Philo, It is well accepted that men suffer from this too & needs treatment like any for of PND. I can't offer any advice on what to do as I thankfully missed out on it after having my son, but I have just googled male post natel depression & got the following sites that may be of help to you.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/ask_the_doctor/malepnd.shtml

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-male-post-...-depression.htm

http://www.malehealth.co.uk/userpage1.cfm?item_id=120

Is there an option to find a councillor locally to talk with? or a sympathetic family member from home who may be more approachable.

I really hope you get the help & support you need.

[philo]

Thanks for a nice answer and the links, Boo.

I am surprised that few men share their problems here - but as I read from other threads some of them are already beyond trying to live in a relationship in Thailand - and then have more than enough to get their child/children out of Thailand and back home.

This was my plan too(with the first child), but now it seems I have to wait a year or more and leave with two children.

A consolation, though, is that my daughter will have a sister or a brother ...

[coventry]

Thanks for a nice answer and the links, Boo.

I am surprised that few men share their problems here - but as I read from other threads some of them are already beyond trying to live in a relationship in Thailand - and then have more than enough to get their child/children out of Thailand and back home.

This was my plan too(with the first child), but now it seems I have to wait a year or more and leave with two children.

A consolation, though, is that my daughter will have a sister or a brother ...

Depression is depression what ever the circumstances. I've been there. Seek expert advice. Don't rely on Forum quacks.

[kannon99]

Local resources:

Caroline Wells - UK trained registered nurse & health visitor and qualified family therapist. carolineswells@binternet .com

New Community Services - provides counseling services to Thais and expatriates. 02 279 8503