Platonic Boyfriends

[Ijustwannateach]

I am aware of a surprisingly large number of sexless relationships between long-term gay partners here in Thailand. I mean to say, there is not sex between the two partners, or boyfriends, or whatever other labelling is used- the two partners may or may not have sex outside the relationship. However, the partners still refer to themselves quite often as 'boyfriends,' so I like to think of them as 'platonic boyfriends.'

Now, I am also aware that couples way back home are quite frequently sexless after a number of years- like, a LOT of years- and the partnership remains for love, convenience, financial and business arrangements, friendship, companionship, and a whole host of other good reasons. However, it seems to happen relatively quickly here. The point of this survey is to determine- without anyone necessarily needing to identify themselves- how soon this tends to happen.

The question is in regard to the most recent Thai partner with whom you have been in a long-term relationship (let's say more than 1 year). If anyone would bravely like to discuss the matter, feel free.

Personally speaking, I don't think sex is necessarily the end-all, be-all, but it certainly is an important element in what I would regard as a committed relationship with a boyfriend.

[kek]

No category for 3 hours or less ..... guess this poll is not for me

[Ijustwannateach]

Well, I guess for some people long-term is relative...

[Scott]

Difficult to say exactly what happens, but I know a lot of people in sexless relationships. I used to think that was silly--but now I have a better understanding. I think a lot of gay's have a roving eye--actually, a lot of men do. How and why sex stops is sometimes a little complex, but once it stops, it seems like it stays that way for a lot of people.

I love my partner dearly, I also find the relationship convenient. I can't imagine life without him, but sexually....well, my eyes are everywhere but at home. I, make sure that others know I have a boyfriend and there will be no relationship, no lunch or dinner dates, no phone calls etc. Just not interested in that at all. It's just sex and lust.

[PeaceBlondie]

IJWT has this great knack of making polls with multiple variables. It is beyond my ability.

I would love to see the same poll for straight farang males living with straight Thai females. And for straight Thai couples.

[Chaz1819]

Still active here, little over 5 years - but we could easily slip into platonic for sure - we are kind of pro active about keeping that part of the relationship going. Both str8 and gay I think face this in a relationship - easy to allow boredom to slip in.

I think both my partner and I would be content in a boy friend relationship without sex, we both really love the relationship/companionship, but neither one of us likes the idea of the other playing outside with others so we try to keep each other content :-):-) ...........

hmmm - well maybe we are not 100% successful in eliminating wandering but we at least keep it down to a minimum by staying active with each other

[onni4me]

I have never had a committed long-term relationship with a Thai.

The above makes me think that maybe most of us actually value something more permanent.

I myself am more active than my partner who is not that sexual. We still enjoy the company of eachothers a lot. It might turn quite platonic at some point but who cares? I think we would still stick together. If its all about just sex that I could get anywhere in Thailand without thinking much about it. But I always wonder what we really remember about sex afterwords? Not much I guess but other things can be rather vivid in our minds.