Advice Need

[somluck]

Have 'uncovered' more details -

During her 1st trip here 2 years ago to work illegally, she met the guy and he offered her 'the contract'. She asked for THB75K per month but they 'bargained' till 50K.

According to her, she stayed on the job as waitress to make more money whenever her sponsor is out working during the day because the money is good. On an average day, she can earn around USD100 on tips alone. For my part when i tipped her last time it was around USD35 each time (in her books i am not even among her top 10 biggest tippers).

I have seen the guy few times when he came by the restaurant, he is indeed a 70 year old. She claims they do not get intimate very often but i take that with a pinch of salt. Sometimes i am amaze by how she can talk about him in a 3rd person context and says their relationship is that of a daughter and father.....i feel that really sounds incestous!!!

I have tested her recently with offers to pay for her airfare and other items but she has adamantly refused my money. From a 'business' point of view wouldn't it make more sense to 'keep' me as a customer?

Regarding who funded her uni education, she paid her own way while working in bangkok (no details but office type of job). She took a few more years than usual to complete her degree in open uni Ramkhamheang.

She does not come across as a high maintanence, infact i find her very frugal and thrifty.

Thanks for all the advise and replies, i will go in with my eyes open wide play it by ear and se how it goes from here

[wefearourdespot]

My concerns

1) Is she setting me up as future sponsor

Yes

2) Will she leave once another 'better' offer comes along

hopefully !

3) Does she have more sponsors that i dun know about

probably

[teacup]

My concerns

1) Is she setting me up as future sponsor

Yes

2) Will she leave once another 'better' offer comes along

hopefully !

3) Does she have more sponsors that i dun know about

probably

For a "NEWBIE"........you seem to be very good in "multiple quoting"

Sure haven't been here before?

Edited March 12, 2009 by teacup

[wefearourdespot]

On an average day, she can earn around USD100 on tips alone. For my part when i tipped her last time it was around USD35 each time (in her books i am not even among her top 10 biggest tippers).

You tip 35 USD each time and you are not even in her top ten list ? How much does people tip now in the USA ?

35USD would almost pay for a long time in Pattaya !

[loong]

You tip 35 USD each time and you are not even in her top ten list ? How much does people tip now in the USA ? blink.gif

35USD would almost pay for a long time in Pattaya !

Is OP in Singapore or USA?

[somluck]

You tip 35 USD each time and you are not even in her top ten list ? How much does people tip now in the USA ? blink.gif

35USD would almost pay for a long time in Pattaya !

Is OP in Singapore or USA?

Sorry for the confusion, i am in Singapore but smart alecky me thought that converting the singapore currency would make it easier for everyone here to relate to

She has got customers (local, thais and farangs) who tip her very generously indeed. I believe they are trying to impress her (which was my intention initially too). Her biggest tip was SIN dollars $200 (USD130) and the guy only had a few bottles of beer (i have seen it with my own eyes and this customer does this regularly). And there's no hanky panky involved (i am almost 100% sure as she told me they keep asking her out but she said she played hard to get as she said this is the only way to keep them coming back!)

[Travel2003]

Somluck,

you have now got quite a few responds to your post.

Are you still confused about what to do?

Or,

do you just keep feeding the thread with new info, just to get it going?

Surely you have enough material in order to make a decission.

[somluck]

Somluck,

you have now got quite a few responds to your post.

Are you still confused about what to do?

Or,

do you just keep feeding the thread with new info, just to get it going?

Surely you have enough material in order to make a decission.

My decision is that I have decided to go along and play it by ear. I am just replying to those new posts. There are no prizes for keeping a thread alive. I have joined quite a while before making my 1st post here.

Infact there is new info, she just told me she missed her period.

[Soutpeel]

Infact there is new info, she just told me she missed her period.

The girl plays people for money...and you are going to believe this one...

[Travel2003]

Somluck,

you have now got quite a few responds to your post.

Are you still confused about what to do?

Or,

do you just keep feeding the thread with new info, just to get it going?

Surely you have enough material in order to make a decission.

My decision is that I have decided to go along and play it by ear. I am just replying to those new posts. There are no prizes for keeping a thread alive. I have joined quite a while before making my 1st post here.

Infact there is new info, she just told me she missed her period.

Right.

I think your last one proved my point.

[henryalleman]

This is not a flame bait and is a true story (some details not affecting storyline have been change for privacy reasons)

i meet this thai girl while she was working as a waitress in my country. i am a regular there at the restaurant and would always leave her a big tip, after some time we gotten to know each other better and became friends (over a 1 year period). she was working illegally so she have to make visa runs back to thailand every 1-2 months. we went out a few times and after that became intimate. that's when she told me that she is been 'sponsored' by a rich 70 year old European man who would give her around 50000 baht per month as allowance. This man is always travelling but she would time her waitress job to coincide with when he is in town. she goes back to him every night after finishing her waitress job. she has been with this man for 2 years but insists that she have no feelings for him, from her i know that this rich man have stash many women in many countries and she is only one of them. she does not want to leave him yet but she says she is in love with me. i have not given her a single cent so far. i have even suggested that i will 'pay' her the allowance if she can leave this man. but she told me to give her a year more when she have save up enough money then we will get marry. she is back in thailand now while i am in my own country. i cannot stand this 'arrangement' anymore and would ask if any members have been in a similar situation before with any thai girls. is this the norm?

btw She is an university graduate and was working as a teacher in her province before but found the money too little to get by. She is in her late 20s and i am a chinese singaporean 40 years old. i am no where as rich as her sponsor but i can get by. i think i am in love with this girl as she is with me. how can i break this deadlock?

Is it not so that Singaporean Chinese women have exactly the same attitude, They don't like to married because they don't like to loose their independence. I saw a documentary about it, Also Japanese woman don't like to be married for the same reasons.

Maybe they know what are heading for when they are married with an Asian male, lost of freedom and belong and have to obey to the husband's family.

This create a real decline in the birth rate in those 2 countries. One of the reasons why Japan has the highest medium age in the world.

[bhoydy]

Now i ain't sayin' she a gold digger

But she ain't messin' wit no broke n----z