Bitter End To A Once Bright Future

[bswift1234]

hi there,did i just get the bad girlfriend or is it common ( lol ),,brought my thai girlfriend to ireland 3 years ago ,at the start it was rosey.but with constant,send us more and more cash, pressure ,from her family the cracks soon started to show,why can they not just be happy with what they get and leave their daughter to live her life ?anyway then she met one thai lady here and then another and so on ,ive lost count now how many of them were eating me out of house and home in the end,next we fell pregnant and had a lovely baby boy,,keep your daughters in dads hes gorgeous,at least something good came from her,so we went on holiday to let her family meet our new boy he was 7 mths by now,next was something you would only see in the movies,they only told me neither my EX girlfriend or my son would be going back to ireland unless i paid EURO 20,000,anyway with some legal and local help i got my son home,i split from her and im currently going through the courts here to try and get custody,and its not easy no matter what shes done,,oh i also found out that she cheated on me just before the split,nice mum to have for my son,would anyone know if there is anychance that a court would let her take my son to thailand ?she will say its just for a holiday but i know she would never bring him home,and thailand is not a member of the hague convention so i cant go after him,im his legal guardian in ireland as im not married,this prevents her from removeing from ireland without my consent or a court order

[Thongkorn]

Sorry to hear of your plight. Its a story i have hared many times. if your son was born in Ireland you may have a chance , but believe me she will just disappear if you let her out of your site, as for the money thing thats Thai culture, you have shown you care and have taken care of your lady, but she just sees the money, You will never change her,As for your son sorry to have to tell you , but he is just another way to emotionally black mailing you,i have known of cases where Thai women have offed to sell there child back to the father , Hope every thing goes well for you, dont forget that Thais always stick together, Wether they are in Thailand or elsewhere, try keeping her away from other Thai girls , they are very loyal to there own but will skin you good luck mate

[bswift1234]

thanks believe me i want nothing to do with her anymore,shes on welfare now 12000 miles from home by her own choice,thats not what she would have seen for her future,my son will always have the best i can give him,she burned her bridges with me to many times

Sorry to hear of your plight. Its a story i have hared many times. if your son was born in Ireland you may have a chance , but believe me she will just disappear if you let her out of your site, as for the money thing thats Thai culture, you have shown you care and have taken care of your lady, but she just sees the money, You will never change her,As for your son sorry to have to tell you , but he is just another way to emotionally black mailing you,i have known of cases where Thai women have offed to sell there child back to the father , Hope every thing goes well for you, dont forget that Thais always stick together, Wether they are in Thailand or elsewhere, try keeping her away from other Thai girls , they are very loyal to there own but will skin you good luck mate

[torrenova]

Can't understand why she came back with you - I am presuming she is now in Ireland, separated from you.

I don't know the Irish legal system so you'll have to get some answers from family forums in Ireland. Google around, there are sure to be some.

Document what you can, run a diary and email it to yourself in cyberspace everyday or every few days, at least once a week. Thus you establish an accurate timeline.

In the UK you would inform the police and the government that you are no longer responsible for the girl and no longer acting as her sponsor. With the child, that will override the normal procedures.

There are other things which I am not prepared to put on an open forum. PM me if you want further details.

[bswift1234]

thanks terrenova,i will PM you when i figure out what it means im not big on the computers,she is in ireland she said all the rubbish sorries in thailand ,but to be honest i would have agreed to take her anyway as i just wanted to get my son on the plane home,i have him for weekends now while were, in court,and i thank god for every moment,i came very close to loseing him,maybe i shouldnt say this but it is just a personal thought,after what happened in thailand i would struggle to ever trust another thai,i now just need to make sure she can never take him there again ,all she wants is the money,and if she got him back to her family again they would just try to get money from me again

Can't understand why she came back with you - I am presuming she is now in Ireland, separated from you.

I don't know the Irish legal system so you'll have to get some answers from family forums in Ireland. Google around, there are sure to be some.

Document what you can, run a diary and email it to yourself in cyberspace everyday or every few days, at least once a week. Thus you establish an accurate timeline.

In the UK you would inform the police and the government that you are no longer responsible for the girl and no longer acting as her sponsor. With the child, that will override the normal procedures.

There are other things which I am not prepared to put on an open forum. PM me if you want further details.

[Mario2008]

A PM (or personal message) is identical to email. You can send a PM by on top of the screen clicking on my controls.

In the next screen you choose compose new message from the menu at your left. Enter the member name of the person you want to send the PM to and compose your message.

[Thailaw]

You ask "would anyone know if there is anychance that a court would let her take my son to thailand ?she will say its just for a holiday but i know she would never bring him home,and thailand is not a member of the hague convention so i cant go after him." You say you are in court in Ireland and therefore presumably have a lawyer. Isn't this the kind of question you should ask him/her? Judges are not stupid, and know that reasons can be contrived. I expect that your lawyer will give you the comfort you seek in an instant. If you are looking for sympathy, this is as good a place as any. If you are looking for advice on Irish domestic relations law, you've come to the wrong place.

[bswift1234]

i am not looking for sympathy,im currsntly waiting to see a senior council barrister here,and i just put the question out there as maybe someone would have some idea thanks

You ask "would anyone know if there is anychance that a court would let her take my son to thailand ?she will say its just for a holiday but i know she would never bring him home,and thailand is not a member of the hague convention so i cant go after him." You say you are in court in Ireland and therefore presumably have a lawyer. Isn't this the kind of question you should ask him/her? Judges are not stupid, and know that reasons can be contrived. I expect that your lawyer will give you the comfort you seek in an instant. If you are looking for sympathy, this is as good a place as any. If you are looking for advice on Irish domestic relations law, you've come to the wrong place.