pjclark1 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 So here I am after 7 months of living with my Thai girlfriend, she wants to get married. She owns her own house (or rather the bank does) but I pay the mortgage payments (no more than a condo rental) I have no assets in Thailand and will never have more than that amount required for my yearly Visa renewal (getting married will half that requirement). So are there any downsides to getting married to a Thai lady? It might be fun to take on her family name after the marriage as mine is fairly boring. I'm having trouble thinking of any problems it could cause me, but there must be some. There won't be any sin sot (already discussed and dismissed) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkjames Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 If you have to justify to yourself marrying your girlfriend, then I suggest you don't marry her. Thai or otherwise. For more counseling and advice concerning matters of the heart+brain, please visit my website at: www.cash4advice.co.th.ru.mad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
givenall Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 The downside getting married; is getting married . My advice is to just have fun as long as you can and get married as late as possible. Don’t forget the baggage that comes with the Thai girlfriend after she becomes a wife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 If you have to justify to yourself marrying your girlfriend, then I suggest you don't marry her. Thai or otherwise.For more counseling and advice concerning matters of the heart+brain, please visit my website at: www.cash4advice.co.th.ru.mad You heartless bar steward. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neverdie Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Marriage is an institution. Who in their right mind wants to live in an institution? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Marriage is an institution. Who in their right mind wants to live in an institution? Believe it or not, there are a fair few Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sinbin Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Stay as you are'pjclark1'. If it aint broken, then don't fix it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ballzafire Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 On average, it's hard to stay married in Thailand....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mixxman Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 what you need to do is payhalf the mortgage, u r getting a roof ove your head. then see if she still wants to marry you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanook2me Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Yup, good job you found this website.... Any of your worries and woes can be answered here by caring sharing folk Just go ahead and ask life changing questions here and you will receive in depth analytical replies with empirical evidence to back up each conclusion given to your query... TV members, they're a bunch of arrogant, pompous, emotionally-weird, stuck-up megalomaniacs. Do you really think you're going to fit in with them? What am I saying? Sweaty krap! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkjames Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) Yup, good job you found this website....Any of your worries and woes can be answered here by caring sharing folk Just go ahead and ask life changing questions here and you will receive in depth analytical replies with empirical evidence to back up each conclusion given to your query... TV members, they're a bunch of arrogant, pompous, emotionally-weird, stuck-up megalomaniacs. Do you really think you're going to fit in with them? What am I saying? Sweaty krap! Excuse me mate, if you took the time to get off your soap box and read my first line in my post (the first reply to the OP), I think you will find some pretty practical advice for him. Ah but don't bother taking time to read what is written while coming up with your insults...spoils the fun and creative process. Edited November 12, 2009 by bkkjames Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjclark1 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Share Posted November 12, 2009 I just wondered if anyone had found a downside to a marriage (assuming no major purchases are made) Good to see everyone is as helpful as usual. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkjames Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I just wondered if anyone had found a downside to a marriage(assuming no major purchases are made) Good to see everyone is as helpful as usual. ok mate, been married two years now. mostly good all around but I attribute this to my wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rabcbroon Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Depends very much on the person you intend to marry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stevymac Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 the 1 downside i can think of is the ball an chain!! i never wanna get married, why complicate life?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trogers Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Who is she to you and your family? Who are you to her and her family? If you can answer these 2 questions deeply and honestly, you can discover the kind and depth of downsides. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manjara Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 No, can't say I have a downside. Obviously your wife may change after marriage and become a nag/demanding b**ch etc, but that could happen anyway. I don't think there are too many laws on alimony etc in Thailand, at least enforceable ones. Might be worth asking her why she wants to get married, as you don't seem to have any reason yourself! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rolypie Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Upside too many to mention. Downside too many to mention. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
markokang Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I suggest taking a sharp razor blade and cutting deeply and horizontally along your wrist and then immerse your wrist in running water... It will basically take 5 to 10 minutes to do what your wife will do to you over the next few years but without all the anguish:) Good luck with it:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yabaaaa Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 You only get out what u put into it...............if you pick a good un! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MSingh Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 It might be fun to take on her family name after the marriage as mine is fairly boring. Mine's boring too but if i took the Surname of a former Thai Girl that i shared a Bed with for a while, i'd be called Mr Supaporn but each to their own i suppose so long as it's fun aye... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IanForbes Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 You should have left it at ... What is the downside of getting married?... period. It doesn't MATTER what nationality they are. The results will be the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigante7 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Yup, good job you found this website....Any of your worries and woes can be answered here by caring sharing folk Just go ahead and ask life changing questions here and you will receive in depth analytical replies with empirical evidence to back up each conclusion given to your query... TV members, they're a bunch of arrogant, pompous, emotionally-weird, stuck-up megalomaniacs. Do you really think you're going to fit in with them? What am I saying? Sweaty krap! And a Merry Christmas and a Happy New year to you too. Brigante7. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pjclark1 Posted November 12, 2009 Author Share Posted November 12, 2009 I was more looking for legal and financial implications of marriage in Thailand. Rather than relationship advice. I'm thinking that as the only asset is hers, the house, then come the worst no loss to me (except emotionally and I can live with that). I certainly don't have a 'good one' that would be incredibly dull and boring. I've got the naughtiest one you could possibly imagine (lots of fun) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brigante7 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Yup, good job you found this website....Any of your worries and woes can be answered here by caring sharing folk Just go ahead and ask life changing questions here and you will receive in depth analytical replies with empirical evidence to back up each conclusion given to your query... TV members, they're a bunch of arrogant, pompous, emotionally-weird, stuck-up megalomaniacs. Do you really think you're going to fit in with them? What am I saying? Sweaty krap! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spoonman Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Downside to marrying a Thai girl (or any nationality for that matter): costs more to trade em in for a new younger model once you become bored.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khaowong1 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 I was going to say, why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free, but it looks like your already paying for the milk... don't add insult to injury by buying the cow... you have no idea the baggage this marriage will bring... ie: the in-laws.. forewarned is forearmed... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khaowong1 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 Downside to marrying a Thai girl (or any nationality for that matter): costs more to trade em in for a new younger model once you become bored.. amen brother, amen... or rather sadhu brother, sadhu... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
villagefarang Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 After 20 some years of playing around I found some nice upsides to marriage. Companionship, love, trust, understanding and someone to travel with. The response of checking into a hotel as married and not single, is quite different. Not only does it give the female a little more face with her family and countrymen, in my case it improved my own image somewhat. People treat you differently. You are no longer a sex tourist, here to pillage the young girls. The longer you are here as a single man the more suspiciously you are viewed. This is assuming you can pull off actually looking and acting like a happily married couple. If you both look like you just crawled out of a bar then no title will help. If you are not ready, however, don't do it. My suggestion is to play into your mid-forties and then marry someone at least twenty years younger. Together for 12 and married for 10, I am very happy with my new life. It is different from the first 20 here in Thailand but I find it richly satisfying. Then again I was ready for something different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiang mai Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 After 20 some years of playing around I found some nice upsides to marriage. Companionship, love, trust, understanding and someone to travel with. The response of checking into a hotel as married and not single, is quite different. Not only does it give the female a little more face with her family and countrymen, in my case it improved my own image somewhat. People treat you differently. You are no longer a sex tourist, here to pillage the young girls. The longer you are here as a single man the more suspiciously you are viewed.This is assuming you can pull off actually looking and acting like a happily married couple. If you both look like you just crawled out of a bar then no title will help. If you are not ready, however, don't do it. My suggestion is to play into your mid-forties and then marry someone at least twenty years younger. Together for 12 and married for 10, I am very happy with my new life. It is different from the first 20 here in Thailand but I find it richly satisfying. Then again I was ready for something different. A good post and excellent advice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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