What's Wrong With Meeting Ladies On The Internet?

[mark45y]

What’s wrong with meeting a lady on the internet?

1. Other hands may be typing. If you live in Thailand you will see this. You will see the bf laughing as she runs multiple windows.

2. Her English is much better written than spoken. Ya sure. See above.

3. She has made a conscious decision to meet a non Thai person. You have to realize the amount of ethnocentric behavior in Thai culture. If you meet her in person she may be swayed by a number of reasons that would include introduction by another person and/or some kind of reference.

4. I asked the woman sitting at my right hand as I type this what percent of Thai men in her home town of Petchabun, drink Lao Cow to excess and she says 90% I don’t really believe her. I asked her what percent of women and she says 20% and I think that is close. Whatever, there is reason to believe that a Farang may be a wise choice for a life partner however it is my experience that this rational choice is rarely the reason for choosing a Farang.

5. I first got in the internet 25 years ago on CompuServe and have 25 years experience meeting women on the internet. Mostly they are odd. Not to say there are not exceptions but overwhelming odd.

6. What is the downside? It is a waste of time. You could be learning Thai. You could be networking with Thai people. It is not easy wedging yourself in another culture. It takes boots on the ground. Marching around the temple and cooking dinners. Reading Thai proverbs or folk tales. What percent of decent women troll the internet and dating sites? Miniscule. What percent on the internet are of questionable virtue? 80% and I think I am being generous. 90% of Thai people you meet walking down the street (except, Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket and Chiang Mai will not be of questionable virtue). They may be all sorts of other things but the odds are a better bet than the internet.

10. If you must have a wife and further a Thai wife use your time profitably. Learn the language. If you can read and write and speak Thai you will learn something about the culture.

11. This does not apply if you are gay. You can ask the guys on the gay forum why. I am sure they will tell you.

[bkkjames]

I would imagine women who were using the internet 25 years ago probably looked quite the Tipper.

[jackr]

So I take it you got burned then, op?

[NADTATIDA1]

Mark!

I think your signature says it all really,have you been burnt before by internet dating?

Or are you just bored and making a big generalisation, i think most people will disagree with.

Internet is good for some and not so good for others same as dating in a bar,nightclub or even a thai language centre.

[bkkjames]

Mark!

I think your signature says it all really,have you been burnt before by internet dating?

Or are you just bored and making a big generalisation, i think most people will disagree with.

Internet is good for some and not so good for others same as dating in a bar,nightclub or even a thai language centre.

oh I don't know I am sure if you asked a certain KISS fanatic on here, he will vouch for meeting girls at the TLC is the only way to go.

Anyways, why begrudge a few million guys around the world that like to chat online with gals here. They don't call it A LOL for nothing.

[SeanMoran]

I would imagine women who were using the internet 25 years ago probably looked quite the Tipper.

Queen Elizabeth II was online in 1973, and surely nobody can knock her good looks throughout her reign, but as for the thread question, most ladies in Thailand can't afford ADSL. You're really limiting yourself to a very small subset of people if you focus on the Internet. Then again, what does that say about me?

[MrRichard2009]

It's easier to write than speak because you can do it in your own time, my wife's is the same. ..... Having said that, I agree looking for love on the net is a crapshoot, but isn't it the same by randomly meeting people in public ? I have about the same amount of time on the net and I would say their were plenty of "odd" people over the years, but not so much more than offline. I am biased however because my sister found her husband now happily married for over a decade, and I also found my wife online, It was not a waste of time, she is not odd, she is not of questionable virtue.

The internet allows people to meet a much wider variety of people from great distances, my sister was east coast America her husband was from California, I was from the woods in Maine and my wife is from Thailand. It's not that using the internet is a bad idea or a waste of time, it's just another possible way to comunicate to others of similar interest. Places like my space, facebook, ect are just real people, putting themselves out there for all to see, over 25 years the internet has become increasingly more open and many more people are honest than they used to be. It has changed from a fantasy land of big lies and complete nonsense to people simply using it as a tool. If you think everyone around you is "odd" (in any venue) except you ....... your probably the "odd" one.

[bkkjames]

I would imagine women who were using the internet 25 years ago probably looked quite the Tipper.

Queen Elizabeth II was online in 1973, and surely nobody can knock her good looks throughout her reign, but as for the thread question, most ladies in Thailand can't afford ADSL. You're really limiting yourself to a very small subset of people if you focus on the Internet. Then again, what does that say about me?

Sorry to go over your head with that one Sean, my Tipper reference was in reference to her husband who apparently - according to him - invented the internet.

He also had a movie you might have heard about called "An Inconvenient Youth" or something but I digress.

(the point is that girls on the internet 25 years ago probably looked as I imagine they would be - who used computers 25 years ago? not the cheerleaders and prom queens I was chasing.)

[hawthorne]

Who said there is anything wrong with it?

If you like it, do it. If what you choose is offensive or illegal then you pay the consequences, maybe.

[IanForbes]

It doesn't matter WHERE you meet anyone. It's what happens in person that counts. Not everyone is going to be attracted to the same person. The more people you meet the more likely it is that you'll find someone that fits your needs. And, there is a HUGE difference between initial physical attraction and the mental attraction that may or may not occur later.

[DP25]

3. She has made a conscious decision to meet a non Thai person

There's a lot more to the internet than just sites like that

[jaidam]

Good OP, interesting topic for sure.

My Thai gf likes to play on various dating sites. It has become her full time job that I mildly support. Some American guy just sent her 30k baht 4 months ago. They had never even physically met. Got me a few new fishing reels from the spoils. Other muppets do similar on quite a regular basis

In theory the net should be the ideal meeting place, as in like minded people with similar goals and interests could meet and start a relationship with more chance of lasting than meeting pissed up at some club or bar. In reality it would seem to be largely a scammers banquet, albeit with a few quality birds thrown in. I see on other threads covering this topic that other TV members have met suitable girls that they are happy with so it obviously does work for some.

Users of such sites should use basic common sense, and if you choose to send large sums of money to some cute girl on the net who knows where it would end up. I think her indoors is working on buying us a new engine for the boat. Thanks if the donor is reading this!

[britmaveric]

complete waste of time, easier to just go out and meet people.

[mark45y]

So I take it you got burned then, op?

As I remember way back then the internet was quite expensive, $5.00 per hour or something like that. I remember getting a bill one month for $600.00. I was using a Commodore 64 at home and a Franklin at work.

I can’t remember getting burned. A number of other sensations but not burning.

[mark45y]

Mark!

I think your signature says it all really,have you been burnt before by internet dating?

Or are you just bored and making a big generalisation, i think most people will disagree with.

Internet is good for some and not so good for others same as dating in a bar,nightclub or even a thai language centre.

Thai women don’t go to bars like Western women go to bars. The culture is quite a bit different in that respect. If they do go out it is in an entirely different context. If my Thai lady went to a bar alone or with another woman she would be out the door in a second. I wouldn’t tolerate it.

If it was an American, Brit or Swiss woman I would think nothing of it.

[louialive]

Everyone has their own prefforances. There is no right or wrong way to meet anyone.

Goldiggers live all over the world. I mean they even have dating sites specifically for people with over a certain income.

From what I can see internet dating is getting bigger not smaller so that tells you something.

If you are prepared to send money to someone you hardly now then more fool you (doesn't matter if it is 10baht or 100000baht).

Heed the warnings from other by sure but do what suits you and your lifestyle best. Not everyone has hours spare to go out and about trying to find a future partner.

[mark45y]

Everyone has their own prefforances. There is no right or wrong way to meet anyone.

Goldiggers live all over the world. I mean they even have dating sites specifically for people with over a certain income.

From what I can see internet dating is getting bigger not smaller so that tells you something.

If you are prepared to send money to someone you hardly now then more fool you (doesn't matter if it is 10baht or 100000baht).

Heed the warnings from other by sure but do what suits you and your lifestyle best. Not everyone has hours spare to go out and about trying to find a future partner.

I think internet dating is getting bigger because more people are learning how to use the internet. It says nothing about the intelligence or rationality of the people using the medium.

What may be a good idea in Sidney may be a not so good idea in Pattaya. There is too much difference in the cultures.

[louialive]

Everyone has their own prefforances. There is no right or wrong way to meet anyone.

Goldiggers live all over the world. I mean they even have dating sites specifically for people with over a certain income.

From what I can see internet dating is getting bigger not smaller so that tells you something.

If you are prepared to send money to someone you hardly now then more fool you (doesn't matter if it is 10baht or 100000baht).

Heed the warnings from other by sure but do what suits you and your lifestyle best. Not everyone has hours spare to go out and about trying to find a future partner.

I think internet dating is getting bigger because more people are learning how to use the internet. It says nothing about the intelligence or rationality of the people using the medium.

What may be a good idea in Sidney may be a not so good idea in Pattaya. There is too much difference in the cultures.

Using the internet isn't exactly rocket science!!

I would say that internet dating is getting bigger because a lot of the stigma has been removed from people meeting there. I remember the chuckles I would give 5 years ago if I heard people met this way.

WWW is an open forum it is up to the individuals communicating to use commonsense and rational when entering the lions den.

Have you traced your routes you may not be a real Australian (assuming you are as you mentioned Sydney in your examples).

Meeting someone is not about cultures but someone compatible there is a difference. Saying that I wouldn't want to be with a lady who break wind more than me

[sokal]

Mark!

I think your signature says it all really,have you been burnt before by internet dating?

Or are you just bored and making a big generalisation, i think most people will disagree with.

Internet is good for some and not so good for others same as dating in a bar,nightclub or even a thai language centre.

oh I don't know I am sure if you asked a certain KISS fanatic on here, he will vouch for meeting girls at the TLC is the only way to go.

Anyways, why begrudge a few million guys around the world that like to chat online with gals here. They don't call it A LOL for nothing.

So are farang women on the internet screwed in the head too or are they just normal ?

You have not one good reason not to meet Thai women on line.

How many guys do you think are LOLing at the girls after they convince them to put out when they come to see them in Thailand ?

[sokal]

Good OP, interesting topic for sure.

My Thai gf likes to play on various dating sites. It has become her full time job that I mildly support. Some American guy just sent her 30k baht 4 months ago. They had never even physically met. Got me a few new fishing reels from the spoils. Other muppets do similar on quite a regular basis

In theory the net should be the ideal meeting place, as in like minded people with similar goals and interests could meet and start a relationship with more chance of lasting than meeting pissed up at some club or bar. In reality it would seem to be largely a scammers banquet, albeit with a few quality birds thrown in. I see on other threads covering this topic that other TV members have met suitable girls that they are happy with so it obviously does work for some.

Users of such sites should use basic common sense, and if you choose to send large sums of money to some cute girl on the net who knows where it would end up. I think her indoors is working on buying us a new engine for the boat. Thanks if the donor is reading this!

They had never physically met ? Yeah right...

Do you work out of town or do you spend 100% of your time around your GF ?

[steelepulse]

>>Some American guy just sent her 30k baht 4 months ago. They had never even physically met. Got me a few new fishing reels from the spoils

So what happens when and if she decides to upgrade from what she currently has via net dating. I don't think you'll think it's such a good thing then.

[mark45y]

Today I was talking to three Thai women. One, teaches Chinese, one is working on a PhD in some obscure form of sports medicine and the third is an 8 months pregnant government worker. I was asking them about internet dating. I know two of them have been out with western men. They looked at me like I was nuts. Thailand had approximately 3.5 million internet users in 2002. How many were women? How many visited dating sites? Where did they come from? How many could communicate in English? Think about it for a minute.

How many Thai academics can actually communicate in English? How many can use the web like an English reading person can use the web? Speaking Thai is a handicap when using the internet as there is so little information written in Thai.

You can trace my routes I am posting from Thailand.

Don’t believe me. Pick out three Thai women of any background and ask them. I suggest an internet shop is not the place to query the ladies.

There are lots of great women in Thailand. I don’t mind men talking to them on the net. I don’t mind men talking to them in bars. I don’t begrudge men talking them into putting out once they get here. Although if a women tells me she does online dating in Thailand I know what to look for. Short courtship would be one way of saying it.

There is a difference between a bar girl and an internet girl. Wait a minute, I am sure there is. I am clicking them all off in my head. Just wait a bit. I am still thinking.

[jaideeguy]

NO ONE [man or woman] is who they appear to be on the internet. I say this because I have followed thru on a few internet meetings and the reality was so far from the projection on the internet.......sorta like the fotos of dishes in restaurants......the food served never looks like the foto.

[glegolo]

What’s wrong with meeting a lady on the internet?

1. Other hands may be typing. If you live in Thailand you will see this. You will see the bf laughing as she runs multiple windows.

2. Her English is much better written than spoken. Ya sure. See above.

3. She has made a conscious decision to meet a non Thai person. You have to realize the amount of ethnocentric behavior in Thai culture. If you meet her in person she may be swayed by a number of reasons that would include introduction by another person and/or some kind of reference.

4. I asked the woman sitting at my right hand as I type this what percent of Thai men in her home town of Petchabun, drink Lao Cow to excess and she says 90% I don’t really believe her. I asked her what percent of women and she says 20% and I think that is close. Whatever, there is reason to believe that a Farang may be a wise choice for a life partner however it is my experience that this rational choice is rarely the reason for choosing a Farang.

5. I first got in the internet 25 years ago on CompuServe and have 25 years experience meeting women on the internet. Mostly they are odd. Not to say there are not exceptions but overwhelming odd.

6. What is the downside? It is a waste of time. You could be learning Thai. You could be networking with Thai people. It is not easy wedging yourself in another culture. It takes boots on the ground. Marching around the temple and cooking dinners. Reading Thai proverbs or folk tales. What percent of decent women troll the internet and dating sites? Miniscule. What percent on the internet are of questionable virtue? 80% and I think I am being generous. 90% of Thai people you meet walking down the street (except, Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket and Chiang Mai will not be of questionable virtue). They may be all sorts of other things but the odds are a better bet than the internet.

10. If you must have a wife and further a Thai wife use your time profitably. Learn the language. If you can read and write and speak Thai you will learn something about the culture.

11. This does not apply if you are gay. You can ask the guys on the gay forum why. I am sure they will

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This was a nice report, and probably quite true as well, no question about that! BUT, I helped one thailady for a while ago to come in contact with falang men. And did just what you mentioned under point one (1). I typed, all went well, there was some responses, quite many frankly!

But I must say what a load of whimps, lieyers and strange people that were trying to connect.

So I think that your words about thai ladies works both ways. The thai girl often often has to face the worst people there are in our society.

Glegolo

[rogerdee123]

Probably several decades ago men were asking each other .... "What's Wrong with Meeting Ladies On the Telephone" ...

What’s wrong with meeting a lady on the internet?

1. Other hands may be typing. If you live in Thailand you will see this. You will see the bf laughing as she runs multiple windows.

2. Her English is much better written than spoken. Ya sure. See above.

3. She has made a conscious decision to meet a non Thai person. You have to realize the amount of ethnocentric behavior in Thai culture. If you meet her in person she may be swayed by a number of reasons that would include introduction by another person and/or some kind of reference.

4. I asked the woman sitting at my right hand as I type this what percent of Thai men in her home town of Petchabun, drink Lao Cow to excess and she says 90% I don’t really believe her. I asked her what percent of women and she says 20% and I think that is close. Whatever, there is reason to believe that a Farang may be a wise choice for a life partner however it is my experience that this rational choice is rarely the reason for choosing a Farang.

5. I first got in the internet 25 years ago on CompuServe and have 25 years experience meeting women on the internet. Mostly they are odd. Not to say there are not exceptions but overwhelming odd.

6. What is the downside? It is a waste of time. You could be learning Thai. You could be networking with Thai people. It is not easy wedging yourself in another culture. It takes boots on the ground. Marching around the temple and cooking dinners. Reading Thai proverbs or folk tales. What percent of decent women troll the internet and dating sites? Miniscule. What percent on the internet are of questionable virtue? 80% and I think I am being generous. 90% of Thai people you meet walking down the street (except, Pattaya, Bangkok, Phuket and Chiang Mai will not be of questionable virtue). They may be all sorts of other things but the odds are a better bet than the internet.

10. If you must have a wife and further a Thai wife use your time profitably. Learn the language. If you can read and write and speak Thai you will learn something about the culture.

11. This does not apply if you are gay. You can ask the guys on the gay forum why. I am sure they will

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This was a nice report, and probably quite true as well, no question about that! BUT, I helped one thailady for a while ago to come in contact with falang men. And did just what you mentioned under point one (1). I typed, all went well, there was some responses, quite many frankly!

But I must say what a load of whimps, lieyers and strange people that were trying to connect.

So I think that your words about thai ladies works both ways. The thai girl often often has to face the worst people there are in our society.

Glegolo

[ThaiRex]

It's creepy. I find it backwards in the realm of social evolution.

[jdinasia]

Amazing --- a world full of people and picking the least direct method is thought of as 'good'?

The question I have ---- meeting women for 25 years on the net? Do you think that if perhaps you were meeting people in person that you would have better social skills? Or have actually met someone and settled down?

[mark45y]

Amazing --- a world full of people and picking the least direct method is thought of as 'good'?

The question I have ---- meeting women for 25 years on the net? Do you think that if perhaps you were meeting people in person that you would have better social skills? Or have actually met someone and settled down?

We lived in a small town in the mountains. My wife was pregnant. It was one of those pregnancies where anything I did upset her. Anything I cooked, if she smelled it she got sick. If I watched TV it gave her a headache. It I talked it bothered her. If I didn’t talk it bothered her. So I set up a small office in our barn. I was working on a primitive office operating system for ordering way back then. I had a commodore 64 at home. I began by talking to people in strange places like ice station zebra and other odd locations. One thing led to another and I met some unusual people. A couple were in the same small town and married with spouse issues. Didn’t want a divorce but were not getting any sex. So we put two and two together.

It worked ok. Didn’t do it much after the wife had the baby and things got back to normal. Used the net more for networking. Although the temptation was always there to hook up. Way back then it was easier and less structured.

[toptuan]

It's creepy. I find it backwards in the realm of social evolution.

Worked for me. Met my last three ex's on the 'net. In three years.

[dmax]

no different from meeting them over the internet or beach road mate .