mrtoad Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Its obvious that the OP's wife is either suffering from post-natal depression (although she's aggressive rather than depressed) or SAD syndrome. . Wow that's impressive to actually give a diagnosis based on a few statements made by a third party. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 A joke here.. i hope i dont offened anyone ( not to much anyway ! ) What do you get when a Farang guy marrys a bar girl ?? ....... 3 tits with no brain What do you think... good or awful joke ? Yes, you are a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asiawatcher Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 sorry just feeling a bit rough now when i wrote this, paragraphs and grammar are the last thing on my mind Hollywood would gladly edit this storyh into something worthy of production on 70mm for the entertainment of the masses. You should take the opportunity now, before someone else gets in first. Was this supposed to be an informative suggestion or sarcasm? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asiawatcher Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Hello DMax,You may not now me, but I know what your going through. Maybe you read some comments of MJP here in this thread, he's been in the same boat as me. Been there, done that, and like many others we have all learned. The problem is partly you, and partly your wife. You have been taking care to much of her, she wants her own freedom. That's why she is getting anger attacks all the time. My advise is to talk with her ( as far as this goes ), and let her go back to Thailand for a LONG while. Let her do it HER way, how she wants it. She will find out herself eventually The best way is to LET HER GO. But do arrange to keep the kid with you in the UK! Good luck to you. By the attitude of the 'little missus' seems she does not have high regard for the child. I think she is using the emotional anchor to manipulate you. But either way would suggest you talk to her and say you are happy to look after bub and is she okay with that ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oldvisitor Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Hello DMax,You may not now me, but I know what your going through. Maybe you read some comments of MJP here in this thread, he's been in the same boat as me. Been there, done that, and like many others we have all learned. The problem is partly you, and partly your wife. You have been taking care to much of her, she wants her own freedom. That's why she is getting anger attacks all the time. My advise is to talk with her ( as far as this goes ), and let her go back to Thailand for a LONG while. Let her do it HER way, how she wants it. She will find out herself eventually The best way is to LET HER GO. But do arrange to keep the kid with you in the UK! Good luck to you. By the attitude of the 'little missus' seems she does not have high regard for the child. I think she is using the emotional anchor to manipulate you. But either way would suggest you talk to her and say you are happy to look after bub and is she okay with that ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mark45y Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 I couldn't read it either, but what a load of b*llocks anyway. There is nothing in any of these stories that is really about Thai girls, it's all just about girls or women full stop. You get the same sh*t if not worse from marrying any other nationality. Thai girls can be hard nosed but that's only because they have had harder lives sometimes than us, but <deleted>, it's not because they're Thai is it? I am still waiting to hear the age gap between the two....... And yes, it does matter. i am 42 years old, she is 32 , i am a decent looking guy (i think) have all my hair , dress well ,keep myself in shape, go to the gym when i can , i have money in the bank , i work hard ,untill recently when recession hit , i love my kids,( i still love my wife) i am generous ,maybe too much but yes off course i have my bad points , too many beers at weekend being one of them A 32 year old Asian girl can still be very attractive. She could just as easily have the same amount of sex appeal now as she did when she was 25. So basically you are an average 42 year old man with a 25 year old partner, sounds like trouble to me. Sokal to clarify for me, are you saying if the lady was a Mexican woman as opposed to an Asian woman the OP would be OK marrying a 32 year old woman? Or do Mexican women look even younger than Asian women and it would be worse? What if the woman was a pygmy? You know they are pretty short? Does that have anything to do with it? In Australia there are some aboriginal women who are out in the sun a lot and seem to look older. Would that be OK? I definitely want to stay out of trouble and you sound like you know a lot about women. Does this young looking thing apply to all women from Asia? What about Tibet? They don’t look much like Thai women, how do they hold up? Where do you go to find old looking women? How about if a guy wanted to have a woman 30 years younger? Do Italian women age quick? How about Nigeria? I have heard Israeli women like old men if they can shoot a machine gun real good? Have you heard that. You mention sex appeal. Does sex appeal always equate to age? What about, if the 32 year old women has less sex appeal does that mean it would be OK to marry a man who is 42. Or if she was really nasty maybe , god forbid, 53? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 sorry just feeling a bit rough now when i wrote this, paragraphs and grammar are the last thing on my mind Hollywood would gladly edit this storyh into something worthy of production on 70mm for the entertainment of the masses. You should take the opportunity now, before someone else gets in first. Was this supposed to be an informative suggestion or sarcasm? Either way it was a poor effort from our resident Moran. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oldvisitor Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 No hard feelings.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sokal Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 A 32 year old Asian girl can still be very attractive. She could just as easily have the same amount of sex appeal now as she did when she was 25. So basically you are an average 42 year old man with a 25 year old partner, sounds like trouble to me. Sokal to clarify for me, are you saying if the lady was a Mexican woman as opposed to an Asian woman the OP would be OK marrying a 32 year old woman? Or do Mexican women look even younger than Asian women and it would be worse? What if the woman was a pygmy? You know they are pretty short? Does that have anything to do with it? In Australia there are some aboriginal women who are out in the sun a lot and seem to look older. Would that be OK? I definitely want to stay out of trouble and you sound like you know a lot about women. Does this young looking thing apply to all women from Asia? What about Tibet? They don’t look much like Thai women, how do they hold up? Where do you go to find old looking women? How about if a guy wanted to have a woman 30 years younger? Do Italian women age quick? How about Nigeria? I have heard Israeli women like old men if they can shoot a machine gun real good? Have you heard that. You mention sex appeal. Does sex appeal always equate to age? What about, if the 32 year old women has less sex appeal does that mean it would be OK to marry a man who is 42. Or if she was really nasty maybe , god forbid, 53? Yes, if a 32 year old woman has less sex appeal then a relationship with an older man would have a better chance of working out because that would bring her closer to the mans league. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
473geo Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Here's a bit of logic for you....... 30 year old farang marries love of his life 25 years old.......when he arrives at 55.....she is 50....... 30 year old man is looking at a 55 year old farang with a 30 year old wife!!!!!...what to do??? Wait until you are 55 to marry?? 30 year old man is looking at something he may never experience........ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mark45y Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 .. Are you really implying that there is a similarity between hookers and Thai bar girls? It has been an accepted way of earning a living in Thailand for hundreds of years (it has only been illegal since 1966). Hardly the same thing as the puritanical west. You might as well say that the Times Square Tranny is the same as the Thai ladyboy university professor or doctor. Methinks some culture lessons are in order for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neverdie Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 sorry just feeling a bit rough now when i wrote this, paragraphs and grammar are the last thing on my mind Hollywood would gladly edit this storyh into something worthy of production on 70mm for the entertainment of the masses. You should take the opportunity now, before someone else gets in first. Was this supposed to be an informative suggestion or sarcasm? Either way it was a poor effort from our resident Moran. Your spelling is aweful toad, its spelt with an 'o'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJP Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 It's exactly the same. ?[/color]! Just a thought. Are you really implying that there is a similarity between hookers and Thai bar girls? It has been an accepted way of earning a living in Thailand for hundreds of years (it has only been illegal since 1966). Hardly the same thing as the puritanical west. You might as well say that the Times Square Tranny is the same as the Thai ladyboy university professor or doctor. Methinks some culture lessons are in order for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Thai women do not have much use for Farang men, even when they are very much convinced they do, their families all thinks its all a game.But just every other union, we all usually often go off script. Myself dont do well with angry women bearing sharp objects. One time my wife went on a long vacation to her sister's without my permission, I took that time to get my mia noi pregnant. ..and you didn't have permission from her to get your mia noi pregnant.. signed: tit for tat is a sad world Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrtoad Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Your spelling is aweful toad, its spelt with an 'o'. Oh no sir, calling someone a moran means he is an A star moron. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
metisdead Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Your spelling is aweful toad, its spelt with an 'o'. Oh no sir, calling someone a moran means he is an A star moron. I concur. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheLaughingMan Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Here's a bit of logic for you.......30 year old farang marries love of his life 25 years old.......when he arrives at 55.....she is 50....... 30 year old man is looking at a 55 year old farang with a 30 year old wife!!!!!...what to do??? Wait until you are 55 to marry?? 30 year old man is looking at something he may never experience........ Wow that math was way too difficult for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cognos Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 It's exactly the same. ?[/color]! Just a thought. Are you really implying that there is a similarity between hookers and Thai bar girls? It has been an accepted way of earning a living in Thailand for hundreds of years (it has only been illegal since 1966). Hardly the same thing as the puritanical west. You might as well say that the Times Square Tranny is the same as the Thai ladyboy university professor or doctor. Methinks some culture lessons are in order for you. apples and oranges are the same??? signed: Oy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheLaughingMan Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Another man that marries a hooker and then wants to warn us not to marry Thais... How bout we all JUST DONT MARRY HOOKERS?! Just a thought. Are you really implying that there is a similarity between hookers and Thai bar girls? It has been an accepted way of earning a living in Thailand for hundreds of years (it has only been illegal since 1966). Hardly the same thing as the puritanical west. You might as well say that the Times Square Tranny is the same as the Thai ladyboy university professor or doctor. Methinks some culture lessons are in order for you. Give me a break! YES, there's a huge difference between someone that sells their body for a living and someone that works hard and becomes a doctor! Thai or not! And the Thais certainly DO NOT accept prostitution, try spinning that tale on a regular Thai family that is putting its kids through school. You need to learn about culture, not me. Stop hanging with hookers and their families and you'll see it is not accepted at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
473geo Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Here's a bit of logic for you.......30 year old farang marries love of his life 25 years old.......when he arrives at 55.....she is 50....... 30 year old man is looking at a 55 year old farang with a 30 year old wife!!!!!...what to do??? Wait until you are 55 to marry?? 30 year old man is looking at something he may never experience........ Wow that math was way too difficult for me Take your time..... .........maybe you'll work it out by 55 then marry!!!!... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
davee58 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Your spelling is aweful toad, its spelt with an 'o'. Yours is not much better, you mean "awful" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmax Posted March 20, 2010 Author Share Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) sorry just feeling a bit rough now when i wrote this, paragraphs and grammar are the last thing on my mind Hollywood would gladly edit this storyh into something worthy of production on 70mm for the entertainment of the masses. You should take the opportunity now, before someone else gets in first. Was this supposed to be an informative suggestion or sarcasm? clearly sarcasm and downright fking lousy and what i want to know is why this flaming fools advice is not removed by the mods ? it does come under goading doesnt it ? Edited March 20, 2010 by dmax Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmax Posted March 20, 2010 Author Share Posted March 20, 2010 Your spelling is aweful toad, its spelt with an 'o'. Oh no sir, calling someone a moran means he is an A star moron. nice one mrtoad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dmax Posted March 20, 2010 Author Share Posted March 20, 2010 No hard feelings.... [/quote no hard feelings whatsoever mate, no harm in a bit of humour , jokes are on me fire away Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
geriatrickid Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Bonobo beat me to the punch (bad pun, sowwwy) but as soon as you physically assault your partner you have undermined your case and the Thai judicial system will not look favourably upon you if this ever gets to the legal stage. It's obvious you want to do the right thing by your kid, and there is enough decent advice provided in the thread, but if you really want to maintain access to your child, you have to play by the local rules. That means no physical violence. Conduct yourself as if there will be a split. Custody is skewed to the woman and if you want to gain custody or to obtain visitation rights you need to build your case. Once you have calmed down and are able to document the abuses, you should discuss with a family law specialist. If you don't play by the rules, you will lose everything, no matter how "right" you may be. This may require opening a file at the Family Services office. If you are the one that has voiced the concern before this gets to the stage where the partner lodges a police complaint or files a civil suit, then you are better positioned. It will also act to protect you in the event that the partner harms the child and then tries to blame you. Sadly, children are often used to "punish" a partner. Take your child & leave her. Do it now, it won't get any easier if you wait. That is unrealistic. Farangs cannot just take a child, especially from a mother. A case has to be made that the mother is unfit. If the OP follows your advice he will end up in jail charged with kidnapping. Foreigners have a weak position when it comes to child custody cases. A court order is needed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NADTATIDA1 Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) Have you got any family around you eg sisters or cousins....if so start asking them to call round more often to see the baby and see if there is any change of behaviour in her! They can always be witness's to her outbursts. treat her to a holiday ticket home for sonkran.....give yourself time apart....maybe good for you? Edited March 20, 2010 by NADTATIDA1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tigerfish Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 Bonobo beat me to the punch (bad pun, sowwwy) but as soon as you physically assault your partner you have undermined your case and the Thai judicial system will not look favourably upon you if this ever gets to the legal stage. It's obvious you want to do the right thing by your kid, and there is enough decent advice provided in the thread, but if you really want to maintain access to your child, you have to play by the local rules. That means no physical violence. Conduct yourself as if there will be a split. Custody is skewed to the woman and if you want to gain custody or to obtain visitation rights you need to build your case.Once you have calmed down and are able to document the abuses, you should discuss with a family law specialist. If you don't play by the rules, you will lose everything, no matter how "right" you may be. This may require opening a file at the Family Services office. If you are the one that has voiced the concern before this gets to the stage where the partner lodges a police complaint or files a civil suit, then you are better positioned. It will also act to protect you in the event that the partner harms the child and then tries to blame you. Sadly, children are often used to "punish" a partner. Take your child & leave her. Do it now, it won't get any easier if you wait. That is unrealistic. Farangs cannot just take a child, especially from a mother. A case has to be made that the mother is unfit. If the OP follows your advice he will end up in jail charged with kidnapping. Foreigners have a weak position when it comes to child custody cases. A court order is needed. hes in the u.k.! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YanTree Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 non useful and slightly flaming comment removed.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bina Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 i have removed a lot of posts with the words 'hooker' and prostitute' and implications that the wife of the OP is a hooker as per forum rules : discussion of bargirls eta al is off limits. please stick to the real topic which is breaking up (hard to do) with kids, etc etc.... or the topic will come to a close.... bina Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
britmaveric Posted March 20, 2010 Share Posted March 20, 2010 (edited) Give me a break! YES, there's not a huge difference between someone that sells their body for a living and someone that works hard and becomes a doctor! Thai or not! And the Thais certainly DO NOT accept prostitution, try spinning that tale on a regular Thai family that is putting its kids through school. I You need to learn about culture not me. Start Stop hanging with ladies hookers and their families and you'll see it is not accepted at by all. Take your own advice and learn about the culture lad, you certainly are not there yet! And you wonder why you don't have any mates or gf? Edited March 20, 2010 by britmaveric Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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