What Should I Give?

[Nordlys]

I went to my wifes fathers funeral a few months ago and all of the kids had to come up with any shortfalls (money) that was not covered by the "party"/"donations". I think that is a fair way of sharing the burden and taking the stress away from the mother.

We ended up even in the end and my wife and I had to add nothing. If I had to pay something, I would of gladly! Family means responsibilty.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Yes, that's how it should be dealt with among families here.

[maerim]

What should you give?

As it is the rainy season now how about a gallon of petrol and a box of matches?

u ######ing prick...if i could reach u i would slapthe shit out of you

Oh dear, oh dear, I had no idea you were so close to the old girl.

To avoid being called a cheap Charlie Farang make sure you go for the 95 octane stuff it is only 2 baht per litre or so above the price of the scrubbers 91 octane stuff but it does make all the difference

On no account buy diesel, it is a lot cheaper but has a much higher flashpoint than gasoline and you get black smoke as well but if the event is taking place up country it will go well with the old tyres they use to get the old girl alight.

What you going to "slapthe" me with, your thist?

[bkkmadness]

Maerim it's just a case of showing a certain amount of respect to someone who is talking about someone in their wife's family that has died, that's all, not difficult to grasp for most people.

[phazey]

What should you give?

As it is the rainy season now how about a gallon of petrol and a box of matches?

u ######ing prick...if i could reach u i would slapthe shit out of you

Oh dear, oh dear, I had no idea you were so close to the old girl.

To avoid being called a cheap Charlie Farang make sure you go for the 95 octane stuff it is only 2 baht per litre or so above the price of the scrubbers 91 octane stuff but it does make all the difference

On no account buy diesel, it is a lot cheaper but has a much higher flashpoint than gasoline and you get black smoke as well but if the event is taking place up country it will go well with the old tyres they use to get the old girl alight.

What you going to "slapthe" me with, your thist?

Do us a favour and let us know when a member of your family passes away. I'm sure it wont be too long considering how inbreeding reduces life expectancy.

Twunt.

OP: Forgot to offer my condolences in my previous post. Suggest you attend to matters at hand and ignore this idiot.

[bkkmadness]

What should you give?

As it is the rainy season now how about a gallon of petrol and a box of matches?

u ######ing prick...if i could reach u i would slapthe shit out of you

Oh dear, oh dear, I had no idea you were so close to the old girl.

To avoid being called a cheap Charlie Farang make sure you go for the 95 octane stuff it is only 2 baht per litre or so above the price of the scrubbers 91 octane stuff but it does make all the difference

On no account buy diesel, it is a lot cheaper but has a much higher flashpoint than gasoline and you get black smoke as well but if the event is taking place up country it will go well with the old tyres they use to get the old girl alight.

What you going to "slapthe" me with, your thist?

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Do us a favour and let us know when a member of your family passes away. I'm sure it wont be too long considering how inbreeding reduces life expectancy.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I'm sure death wouldn't seem too bad an option if you were in Maerim's family.

[farangene]

I think the 9,999 baht idea is a good one. Sorry to hear of your and your wife's loss.

[Nam Kao]

Have you seen the body? Sometimes relatives can die 4-6 times just to fleece da falang

Edited July 1, 2005 by Nam Kao

[Nam Kao]

3-4000 is good (from me wife)

[bkkmadness]

Have you seen the body?  Sometimes relatives can die 4-6 times just to fleece da falang

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Lets just assume he trusts his own wife on this occaision no proof is required.

I'd say chat to the wife, find out what she thinks is appropriate and sort it out. If she doesn't know, get her on the phone to a member of the family who does and find out the score, it will vary from family to family and no set amount can be given here I don't think. Sorry for your wife's loss.

[Braccobaldo]

What should you give?

As it is the rainy season now how about a gallon of petrol and a box of matches?

u ######ing prick...if i could reach u i would slapthe shit out of you

Oh dear, oh dear, I had no idea you were so close to the old girl.

To avoid being called a cheap Charlie Farang make sure you go for the 95 octane stuff it is only 2 baht per litre or so above the price of the scrubbers 91 octane stuff but it does make all the difference

On no account buy diesel, it is a lot cheaper but has a much higher flashpoint than gasoline and you get black smoke as well but if the event is taking place up country it will go well with the old tyres they use to get the old girl alight.

What you going to "slapthe" me with, your thist?

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

ehi, Maerim, maybe not too much respectful but you really make me smile a lot, great sense of humour...really!

[sua yai]

Had the same experience as tornado a number of years ago at the joint funerals of my ex's father and husband.

The whole thing cost around 120,000 and 100,000 was raised through contributions. I put in 10,000 and the family the rest. Everyone was happy except one sister who had expected to make a profit. Never did like her.

[RamdomChances]

Was chatting to my mother-in-law last night, I said in my earlier post that the funeral cost around 40,000 bhat , it was more like 120,000!!!

[Kringle]

What should you give?

As it is the rainy season now how about a gallon of petrol and a box of matches?

u ######ing prick...if i could reach u i would slapthe shit out of you

Oh dear, oh dear, I had no idea you were so close to the old girl.

To avoid being called a cheap Charlie Farang make sure you go for the 95 octane stuff it is only 2 baht per litre or so above the price of the scrubbers 91 octane stuff but it does make all the difference

On no account buy diesel, it is a lot cheaper but has a much higher flashpoint than gasoline and you get black smoke as well but if the event is taking place up country it will go well with the old tyres they use to get the old girl alight.

What you going to "slapthe" me with, your thist?

ehi, Maerim, maybe not too much respectful but you really make me smile a lot, great sense of humour...really!

I think the both of you should be banned for not showing any kind of RESPECT for a member of this forum for his loss of a relative. You are a pair of twits, &lt;deleted&gt; and a multitude of other crappe. It's not at all funny and just shows how stupid some people, take that back, some animals can be. You don't deserve to be called human beings.

[Khutan]

I am finding this thread really annoying, and its starting to get a bit nasty, maybe the OP can offer some opinion on my comments. I have been through this a number of times.

my wifes grandmother has just died. i have met her once when she was in hospital spoke to her with respect with the little thai i know and gave her some money so she could enjoy a few luxuries while she was there.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ok, you have met the lady one time. You have not shared any special relationship, other than the love of your wife; her daughter.

I find it strange at least that you are married to her daughter and never met her before.

there was no mention of how ill she was but i could tell she would not be with us long,i believe she died quietly in her sleep.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ok, so you don't even know if she is dead or not.

my wife has not mentioned wanting to go back for the funeral,

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

So you have met her one time and your wife has not talked about going back for the funeral - does this give you or anyone else here an insight into the relationship?

but the subject of what we should do has come up.as i understand it the whole family puts in money for her expenses.now i would quite happily pay for the whole thing but i believe it is the thai way for everyone to contribute.

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Ok, so the whole family is contributing. Sounds good.

my question is

1)am i right

2)what would be a good amount to give(as i have no wish to make other contributions look small or seem to be tight)?

i asked my wife but she says she has no idea(i do not think she has experienced this before)and not having any idea of costs i am stuck.

any information greatly appreciated.

thanks schmokinn

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Think about this, if you start handing over large amounts of money, you will be setting a precedent. Contribute exactly what every other member of her family does.

Also just from curiosity, where is the funeral (What province), what is her husband doing, and is your wife the oldest daughter in the family?

Finally, did you pay a sin-sod when you got married, if so to who.

[george]

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