Hi everyone,

I enter to ask some opinions to know if I'm right or wrong about something is concerning in my life. My husband and me have always been very happy couple and we love each-other very much,at least until some time a go... slowly I star to have bad feelings of things what are happening at his office,like THE SECRETARY calling him by his name and not by Mr ...... or Khun ..... or at least like in many cases they say Boss.... no,is not the case she call him by his name directly,like friends,when I asked him why is that he told me "Oh is very common everywhere people do that,nothing to worry".

Another thing is the company trips,my husband is the Director of this foreign company but he let the employes to decide where to go and when,which I think is nice from him,but funny is that again THE SECRETARY is dating those trips when I'm out of the country visiting my family and so they take 3-4 days on the mountain or the beach him with all the staff ,When I had complain about that, he said"They decide not me".

Now lately he forbid me to go to his office,because on his opinion I'm to jealous and I can create a drama and create a conflict(and I have never made or do any bad thing to no one of them) and the last thing he told me is that I need to go to see a psychiatric doctor because I'm mental hill and I'm jealous for no reasons ,I don't want to believe all that and I just want to safe my marriage, I'm still young and a very good looking person but I can't understand why is that happening to me.....now my last question is to have a look at the picture I attach and tell me,is this the way a Secretary dress up to work on a International serious company?... Please Help.

http://img806.images...4175/outfit.jpg

Rgds,

MALI

like THE SECRETARY calling him by his name and not by Mr ......

This is the 21st century. Whenever I have people working for me I would never have the call me Mr. I would insist that they call me by name, and I have never had a boss whom insisted that I call them Mr.......

and I'm jealous for no reasons

I can see his reasoning.

Edited July 17, 201015 yr by Moonrakers

Gotta be a pisstake?

Gotta be a pisstake?

I was wondering if I have just fed a troll.

Now lately he forbid me to go to his office,because on his opinion I'm to jealous and I can create a drama and create a conflict(and I have never made or do any bad thing to no one of them) and the last thing he told me is that I need to go to see a psychiatric doctor because I'm mental hill and I'm jealous for no reasons

Maybe he is correct?

You are the person who has decided to feel the way you feel. Your husband didn't 'make' you react this way.

I suggest you continue to be faithful to your husband & try to find some happiness in your own life. Nobody else can make you happy...only you can do this.

My recommendation would be to buy a disguise (such as fake glasses with a mustache attachment). You can then snoop around his office unnoticed.

From this stealth vantage point you should be able to determine if he is actually porking the secretary.

My recommendation would be to buy a disguise (such as fake glasses with a mustache attachment). You can then snoop around his office unnoticed.

Don't forget the cigar.

Mali,

I psychiatrist. I offer short term residential counseling in my office on the East coast of Thailand with wonderful views of the Gulf of Thailand. My office also has big bed to sleep in. Next to bed in my office is bottle of Thai whiskey for you convenience.

Don’t worry you think to much.

I help you very much I think.

I give you the special Hello Kitty rate.

Next time your worthless dirty falang husband go out of town with nasty secretary you come see me.

Trust mark to pop up in a thread about porking the secretary

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

This is probably because:

a] Nobody knows if you are serious or not.

b] You have told everybody about one of your weaknesses, which is that insidious thing called 'jealousy'.

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

General forum is generally not very sensitive to problems like yours. Try asking a moderator to move your post to the ladies forum. I am sure they have the expertise to answer your question.

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

General forum is generally not very sensitive to problems like yours. Try asking a moderator to move your post to the ladies forum. I am sure they have the expertise to answer your question.

Thanks.

Taking this thread at face value, it is not sensitivity that is needed here. Rather it needs somebody to say it as it is otherwise nothing will be achieved.

Making your gf/wife feel like she is paranoid and crazy is standard behavior from husbands/bfs who are cheating behind their backs. Sort of like the "Just trust me" line. Sounds like your husband is very insensitive and is probably cheating on you. I think people's instincts about their partners are right the vast majority of the time. When men cheat, I believe women can sense it.

I would never let an employee call me by my first name, fwiw.

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

Think your heading tells me it's a Troll post. Sorry.

The thing is that many people really are this insecure in a relationship. I once had a gf who freaked out because she discovered that I had a female work colleague that worked in the same office as me. Needless to say that relationship failed.

I would never let an employee call me by my first name, fwiw.

Heaven forbid you enter the 21st century. Do you want them to bow to when they meet you ?

I would never let an employee call me by my first name, fwiw.

Heaven forbid you enter the 21st century. Do you want them to bow to when they meet you ?

Well, yes. At least bow. Sing me a song when I come to work. I also expect never to see their backs. They can back out of the room. Oh and never be above my head. Squat down when you walk past. This is Thailand you know.

My recommendation would be to buy a disguise (such as fake glasses with a mustache attachment). You can then snoop around his office unnoticed.

From this stealth vantage point you should be able to determine if he is actually porking the secretary.

It might be even better to dress up like the secretary and when he gives it to you, yell AH-HHHAAAAHH!!! and catch him in the act.

Edited July 17, 201015 yr by Ulysses G.

My money is on they are porking....

I would never let an employee call me by my first name, fwiw.

Heaven forbid you enter the 21st century. Do you want them to bow to when they meet you ?

bow or wai is fine.

A Thailand English newspaper recently had a large article about clubs for ladies in Bangkok..

YOu know the female version of a go go bar..

They have attractive men for sale and rent for the night to solve your jealousy issues.

Just take up a sammi noi !

Freud, if he would live today and read all that, could have made all his analysis just in a couples of hours......

<p> Wow. A lot of abuse aimed at the OP. It may be a valid post, or it could be a troll post, but still a lot of abuse.</p><p>I am moving this to the ladies forum so members there can respond or not respond as they so desire.

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I'm pretty sure that the OP was not for real. At least I hope so.

Edited July 17, 201015 yr by Ulysses G.

OP, if you post a picture of your self, too than we can compare it with the secretary and all questions will be answered.

If the picture posted is of the secretary, or if she looks like that, then there well may be a real cause for concern... How common is it for bosses to sleep with their sexy secretaries? Not exactly rare I'm guessing...

I don't think you're being paranoid at all.

Edited July 17, 201015 yr by greytown

Is sad to know that when u feel down no one can help but make fun of me...

Think your heading tells me it's a Troll post. Sorry.

The thing is that many people really are this insecure in a relationship. I once had a gf who freaked out because she discovered that I had a female work colleague that worked in the same office as me. Needless to say that relationship failed.

I think women are keenly aware of the temptation that a hot young coworker that is around their husband all day long represents. Let alone when she's a secretary and he's her boss. That's a recipe for sticky business certainly.

I want to say Thanks for the people who try to help on this,my problem. It's sad to see how my marriage is getting to the end for this kind of manipulations.

I'm pretty sure that the OP was not for real. At least I hope so.

I have no idea why so many posters think the OP is not genuine... Or calling Troll... (?) Very calloused and cynical bunch around here.