Thai Parents

[drum]

Do Thai parents really care for there of springs once they have left home,and the siblings are sending a few bt back home,

[bifftastic]

what kind of answers do you think you'll get with that kind of question?

You're just asking for generalisations. How can anyone know what all Thai parents are like?

The way you've framed the question implies that you think Thai people are bad parents and only care about money.

The only Thai parents I know in that situation are my g/f's older sister and her husband. Their son recently married and, together with his new wife, has gone to Bangkok to work. His mum phones him every day and worries about them both, whenever anyone is going to Bangkok they take boxes of stuff for him, mainly food he apparently can't get in Bangkok. He certainly isn't in a position to send them any money as he's just starting out with his new wife. Perhaps he will, as and when he can, in the future but they're not relying on him as a source of income.

Having said that, it doesn't answer your (badly framed) question as you ask about 'Thai parents' as if you want some kind of sociological statistics covering a particular demographic. Again, this is impossible because you ask about caring, which, as far as I'm aware, is immeasurable in those terms.

Are you looking for some kind of re-enforcement of an opinion you already hold, about the morals of Thai people?

And siblings are brothers or sisters, not offspring. A kinder word for offspring is children.

[surayu]

My impression by the many people that i have met and can see everydays around, is that actually there are some strong bonds inside the local families and that's something very nice to see and they can surely be proud of it, what is less nice and kind of strange for me to see, when there are young kids around doing any sort of bad/wrong thing like vandalism or creating a very avoidable nuisance to others, their parents would ALWAYS do absolutely nothing about it like if nothing is happening, they just maybe watch with that blank stare (you know what i am talking about) without showing any emotion at all, complete calm, maybe the kids are just reducing to bits a shop/object/vehicle and i seem to be the only person distressed about it or that actually goes in between their "innocent" fun....

[kikoman]

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers:

[sarahsbloke]

Some Thai ladies don't seem to care about their young children at all.

Others seem to care about their offspring very much.

On the other hand

My wife loves and provides for her mother.

Her sister never gives anything to her mother.

[MangoMungo]

Do Thai parents really care for there of springs once they have left home,and the siblings are sending a few bt back home,

My parents still cared about me when I left home. I have never sent them any money, nor have any of my siblings. They don't need money and they never ask for it.

[MJP]

My experience with this family is a resounding 'YES'.

Mother-in-law just bought a load more farm land in anticipation of daughters returning home in the future. They have proper jobs, real estate agent and the other sells fancy expensive furniture. However, she worries whether they will have enough food when they are old. Taken on 250,000 Baht in credit to do this by the way.

That said I've had to kick them into action over the years. I showed bitter disappointment when they thought they could just live off me and told them they had to work together and organise and plan and 'do'. Basically the kids were pretty bone idle (even in their twenties and thirties) and the poor old woman carried most of it. I think the womans a saint.

[scorecard]

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers

I agree, I've seen / interacted with dozens of Thai families over a long period of time. In the vast majority of cases, the on-going caring, in fact in both directions is fabulous, deep and valuable.

I also agree that the OP posed the question is quite insensitive.

[Berkshire]

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers:

This really is a classic troll thread, and I've never accused anyone of such. The OP really wants the basher-brigade to come out and criticize Thai's for being such horrible parents and even worse human beings, while conversely, he and his kind will be portrayed as wonderful, loving, caring, parents who are just perfect in every way. A really pathetic attempt to yet again, bash Thai's and Thailand.

[dumball]

I read and interpreted the OPs post as a generalised QUESTION to whom so ever happened to read it , I saw no statement or derogitory comment in any way , shape or form , he appears more to be asking you , the TV members , to give your thoughts and opinions formed by your particular interactions with Thai families . Should that be misinterpreted by some , is okay in itself , but why are folks jumping up and down about a blase type of question that , in itself , has not given pointers to what sort of responses are required .

Lighten up and just give responses in a manner you personally feel Thai families deserve , good or bad or indifferent , this is , after all , just an open thread of opinions , some you like and some you do not agree with .

[Beetlejuice]

In Thailand there are good parents, mediocre parents and bad parents, the same everywhere in the world.

[Heng]

With my inlaws, the parents (now grandparents) and heads of their household made sure that each family member had the 'bare' essentials of 1 home, 1 piece of undeveloped property, and 1 (Japanese SUV's/sedans, nothing fancy) automobile, but no cash inheritance (any funds required would have to be done on an internal loan basis or on your own with banks). + the usual standard education paid for, only 1 out of 3 kids sent abroad for school, basically on their own judgment of their potential. Not too much, not too little, just right IMO.

For my folks, no assets up front, but basically unlimited basic support (housing, utilities, education to undergrad degree paid for) until I was up on my feet in my early 20's. Lots of paid for travel thrown in from a young age. But they did provide zero interest bridge financing now and then when my businesses hit some rough spots.

OMMV.

[TheWalkingMan]

In Thailand there are good parents, mediocre parents and bad parents, the same everywhere in the world.

Exactly!

Maybe the OP had a bad experience and needed to hear of others in his situation.

TheWalkingMan

[MSingh]

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers:

It does you're right but anyone who knowingly allows their Son or Daughter to sell themselves in order to get the Family money is not very caring imvho & there are more than a few Parents like that..

[GM1955]

Obvious Troll thread.

[MJP]

Obvious Troll thread.

I see where you're coming from, but I don't reckon so. Being positive, happy thoughts, all good.  :jap:

[dumball]

'MSingh' date='2010-07-20 10:02' timestamp='1279594955' post='3760417''kikoman' date='2010-07-20 05:08' timestamp='1279577282' post='3760021']

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers:

It does you're right but anyone who knowingly allows their Son or Daughter to sell themselves in order to get the Family money is not very caring imvho & there are more than a few Parents like that..

MSing , that is your interpretation of the OPs post , do you have anything positive to post instead of negativity ?

Kikoman , very admirable response , just pray tell me where the average poor farmer finds the needed funds to have his child get a good education .

Should he manage to have the funds , where would you propose he send his child for a GOOD education ?

With the dismal state of education as constantly posted on this forum , even by educators , a poor farmers children stands little to no chance to afford his children even a half decent education , unless you are taking Thai standards of 'Pass no matter what' as a good education .

I have found many Thai interested in helping thier children to move up , but even with a steady paying job in the city , even they find it a difficult proposition .

[MrJohnson]

The way you presented your post, seems like you are seeking negative responses.

I see Thai parents as very caring and will sacrifice to make sure their child receives a good education, as to be more than a Rice Farmer!

Cheers:

This really is a classic troll thread, and I've never accused anyone of such. The OP really wants the basher-brigade to come out and criticize Thai's for being such horrible parents and even worse human beings, while conversely, he and his kind will be portrayed as wonderful, loving, caring, parents who are just perfect in every way. A really pathetic attempt to yet again, bash Thai's and Thailand.

Indeed. Don't feed the Troll

[IanForbes]

In Thailand there are good parents, mediocre parents and bad parents, the same everywhere in the world.

I agree with what Beetlejuice said. There is no defining set group of parents. They are all different and will react differently depending on their own circumstances. How can you possibly compare a well off, or middle income family, to a family born into poverty? You can't. Of course, I also believe that raising children is the single most important thing anyone can do in their life time.

[MiG16]

unless the OP wishes to restate/clarify his question or the point of it, I cant see this turning into any fruitful discussion.

on that note, closed