Thai Girls In Farangland.

[kingkongsnuts]

My girlfriend had recently come over to visit me from Thailand. I live in Dublin, she has only been here a week or so and she is already home sick. I know that Bangkok is a bustling city with a great culture but she seems to have no interest in anything over here. I have heard that Thai people who leave Thailand get homesick easily but its only been a bloody week. My girlfriend is also not a bargirl, she is eduacated with perfect english so i tought that she could take an interest is somthing over here. Maybe she will change with time but she seems to be a bit misserable. Has anyone else had a simillar experiences as this.

PS.

She now understands why so many farangs love Thailand

Edited September 9, 2005 by kingkongsnuts

[Belfastboy]

im up in Belfast mate....my thai wife loves it here and says she never wants to live in thailand again, although she does miss her family but not thailand.

she is educated as well, from a middle class family speaks great english and loves the irish people. mind u she hates the rain...but who doesnt..

my case is a bit different though, i met my wife in australia, she had been living there for 4 years already...so i guess she was used to living away from home.

but if shes lonely mate call up to Belfast, have a few pints and the girlies can have a chat...more than welcome.

[Rj 81]

Thats sad to here mate. Hopefully she will come round a bit. Am sure there's alot of guys here who will be able to give you some pointers on how to make her feel more at home.

My G/f will be coming over in the next few months hopefully, and that is my biggest worry. Her not settling in, you'll have to let us know how she gets on in the next coming weeks.

On the plus side it's only been a week, so things might be totaly different in a few weeks.

Rj

[bangbuathongben]

Dont have any direct experience just yet as me and the wife are going to the Uk on tuesday 13th. So I will keep you posted!

Wish her luck!!!

Bang.........

[Rj 81]

Dont have any direct experience just yet as me and the wife are going to the Uk on tuesday 13th. So I will keep you posted!

Wish her luck!!!

Bang.........

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Where do you get your avatars from...

Rj

[Dara]

My girlfriend had recently come over to visit me from Thailand. I live in Dublin, she has only been here a week or so and she is already home sick. I know that Bangkok is a bustling city with a great culture but she seems to have a no interest in anything over here. I have heard that Thai people who leave Thailand get homesick easily but its only been a bloody week. My girlfriend is also not a bargirl, she is eduacated with perfect english so i tought that she could take an interest is somthing over here. Maybe she will change with time but she seems to be a bit misserable. Has anyone else had a simillar experiences as this.

PS.

She know understands why so many farangs love Thailand

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I think being home sick is normal if she's away for the first time. If your girl friend is not used to doing things on her own, you may need to initiate outings, etc.

Many Thais grow up without much interest in anything beyond going shopping and seeing their friends and families. Visiting abroad seems a great idea until they find out how much they have to help themselves, how far they have to walk, how expensive things are when converted into Thai baht, etc. Some people never developed any taste for foreign food and that can be disturbing as well.

I once traveled abroad with a Thai tour group and was amazed at how little poeple want to do beyond taking photos and shopping. The Thai tour guides carried Thai condiments to make sure that the few unavoidable farang meals would be edible. We had 7 Chinese banquet meals in 9 days! On the last day, our little group defected from yet another Chinese banquet to have a wonderful dinner at a local restaurant - the tour guide could not believe that we would miss such a wonderful Chinese meal!

I am assuming that your girlfriend is visiting you only for a short while, so find out what it is that she wants to do and see, go for it and see if that will help....

[STEALTH K3]

I must say the Thai brides I have seen with there sugar daddys here in the uk never look happy

[bangbuathongben]

QUOTE(bangbuathongben @ 2005-09-09 23:54:34)

Dont have any direct experience just yet as me and the wife are going to the Uk on tuesday 13th. So I will keep you posted!

Wish her luck!!!

Bang.........

Where do you get your avatars from... 

Rj

I hoped to bring a smile to some faces but they keep getting banned dont know why

Bang.........

[Chickenlegs]

I must say the Thai brides I have seen with there sugar daddys here in the uk never look happy

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I'm not sure that I could be described as a "sugar daddy", but my own Thai bride has enjoyed her past 4 years here in the UK. She doesn't even mind the cold and rain too much.

My family and friends love her and she loves them, and she has quite a few Thai girl friends to gossip with.

We have found several places that sell Thai ingredients, so no problems with diet - and a recent posting on this forum has meant she can spend even more hours chatting on the phone with her sister in Thailand - without breaking the bank.

The only thing she really dislikes is our public transport but don't we all.

Best of all, we are returning to los for good in October.

You couldn't wipe the smile off her face with dynamite (nor mine!)

C/Legs

BTW Stealth - have you looked at the faces on the "falang brides" when they are out with their husbands?

[mrbojangles]

I must say the Thai brides I have seen with there sugar daddys here in the uk never look happy

I hate that term, it's so condescending

BTW Stealth - have you looked at the faces on the "falang brides" when they are out with their husbands?

Good point Chickenlegs, they'll sit in a pub for ages not saying a word to each other and looking as miserable as sin. Then one of their mates will come in and they start beaming smiles again

[OxfordWill]

Everyone gets homesick, she just has to learn to get over it so that she can enjoy the experience. I guess all you can do it convince her its completely normal and that she will come out the other side of it.

[MikeRay]

My wife always gets home-sick while there are problems to solve or difficulties that she´s involved here in Germany.The main problem is that she can´t speak German yet as she has no time to go to school with a 11 month old baby.

But she has Thai food everyday as the Thai super-market is just down the road.

She´s having a chat there with the owner who is one of her friends.She made another 2 friends, very friendly and educated who like to join us or we meet them.

Several phone-calls a day to Thailand and to other friends living in Europe fill her day when lonely.She has some hobbies and even tries to learn German by herself.

During the day I´m more often home than other husbands as I´m working rotating shifts with some extra weeks off work.So we also have a lot of time together and the she also has some time for her, to relax from caring for the baby.Sometimes we are short of money and she understands it as I´m the only one working in the family.We agree with our dreams and wishes most of the times, ok I still don´t fancy jewellery and she doesn´t care about cars.

There are some places frequented very often by some Thais and Thai-Farrang couples but neither her nor me like to go there.

I´m not 100 % sure wether she´s happy here but I´m sure she´s contended and she enjoys to live here.

My wife´s a former freelancer of Patong and that doesn´t mean anything.

[STEALTH K3]

BTW Stealth - have you looked at the faces on the "falang brides" when they are out with their husbands?

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You should see my face when I see a falang man with a falang bride I just think oh you poor man

[toyicebear]

My girlfriend had recently come over to visit me from Thailand. I live in Dublin, she has only been here a week or so and she is already home sick. I know that Bangkok is a bustling city with a great culture but she seems to have no interest in anything over here. I have heard that Thai people who leave Thailand get homesick easily but its only been a bloody week. My girlfriend is also not a bargirl, she is eduacated with perfect english so i tought that she could take an interest is somthing over here. Maybe she will change with time but she seems to be a bit misserable. Has anyone else had a simillar experiences as this.

PS.

She now understands why so many farangs love Thailand

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Two things which might help make her more comfortable are...

1. Thai food...find a food vendor specialising in asian/thai food.....

(If she is not into making food, find a Thai restaurant)

2. Other Thai People...find some place where Thai people in your city hangs out, then bring her there so she have someone to talk too in her own language.....

Edited September 9, 2005 by toyicebear

[Mighty Mouse]

You need to distinguish whether she is homesick or bored.

Homesickness can be cured by buying a telephone card and letting her phone her family and friends.

If you have a computer in your home, allow her to email her friends or speak directly with them via the internet. They will chat for hours, she will be happy and it costs nothing.

Boredom is more difficult to combat.

If you are working during the day, what is she expected to do? Is there an Asian supermarket near your home that sells Thai products? Women are born shoppers and if she is anything like the Thai girls that I know, she will be happy to be off making the necessary purchases for her next few home cooked meals.

Most Thai girls love their food and love cooking. Home cooked Thai meals are more tasty than meals bought in foreign Thai restaurants.

Take her to the nearest Buddhist temple, take her where you know there are other Thai people, show her some interesting parts of your country, let her loose in your garden. Before you know it you will have your own supply of chilli and other Thai herbs. Hire some Thai movies from your nearest China town location, if there are none, buy DVD's of VCD's with Thai subtitles for her...(the list goes on)

Once she has a daily routine she won't have time to be bored.

[Belfastboy]

one thing u could try....is chatting on the net to her mates with a webcam...

me and the mrs use skype......www.skpe.com

basically u can chat by voice over the net for FREE..!! and also make calls to friends landline or mobiles for dirt cheap price...

but the best is she can chat with family and friends just like on the phone only for FREE...as long as they download it onto their pc its works like a dream

try it for your gf mate.....www.skpe.com

[SiamOne]

My girlfriend had recently come over to visit me from Thailand. I live in Dublin, she has only been here a week or so and she is already home sick. I know that Bangkok is a bustling city with a great culture but she seems to have no interest in anything over here. I have heard that Thai people who leave Thailand get homesick easily but its only been a bloody week. My girlfriend is also not a bargirl, she is eduacated with perfect english so i tought that she could take an interest is somthing over here. Maybe she will change with time but she seems to be a bit misserable. Has anyone else had a simillar experiences as this.

PS.

She now understands why so many farangs love Thailand

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Oh dear. You have to understand, I also felt that way the first time I went to UK

Thai girls miss their family, miss their friends, miss their food, all sorts of things. It's not just that though. Maybe you don't remember the culture shock you had the first time you went away from home? It's nothing to do with education either, most Thais have little experience of places so different.

The way forward is to find a Thai friend to chat with, eat with and make a little bit of Thailand in Dublin. Maybe a "phone home" card would be nice too.

Be patient

[a2396]

Been there, done this with my previous wife (Malaysian Chinese). Sooner or later theyt will become westernized and start thinking and acting with some degree of the value system (or lack thereof) in your country. In my case, after 7 years of marriage, she took off with a boyfriend 10 years younger than me. This would never have happened if we stayed in Malaysia. If you value the characteristics of your Asian wife and have a choice about things, stay in her country.

[SiamOne]

Been there, done this with my previous wife (Malaysian Chinese). Sooner or later theyt will become westernized and start thinking and acting with some degree of the value system (or lack thereof) in your country. In my case, after 7 years of marriage, she took off with a boyfriend 10 years younger than me. This would never have happened if we stayed in Malaysia. If you value the characteristics of your Asian wife and have a choice about things, stay in her country.

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what!!! and have my hubbie run off with a girl 10 years younger than me?

[a2396]

Been there, done this with my previous wife (Malaysian Chinese). Sooner or later theyt will become westernized and start thinking and acting with some degree of the value system (or lack thereof) in your country. In my case, after 7 years of marriage, she took off with a boyfriend 10 years younger than me. This would never have happened if we stayed in Malaysia. If you value the characteristics of your Asian wife and have a choice about things, stay in her country.

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what!!! and have my hubbie run off with a girl 10 years younger than me?

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I understand your comment. The knife cuts both ways, so to speak. My observation is that there are are a lot more opportunities for "extracirricular diversions" for young Asain women in western countries, social restrictions that may have existed in her country are no longer present.

In my case it was not an age problem between us, but other factors played a part.

[Youbloodybeauty]

In my case, after 7 years of marriage, she took off with a boyfriend 10 years younger than me. This would never have happened if we stayed in Malaysia. If you value the characteristics of your Asian wife and have a choice about things, stay in her country.

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Funny you should say that, my Thai wife says the same thing about us living in Thailand. ie: easy for me to take off with a girl 10 years younger then her!

...she is just joking

After 10+ years in FarangLand she doesn't want to live in Thailand.

[GuestHouse]

My observation is that there are are a lot more opportunities for "extracirricular diversions" for young Asain women in western countries, social restrictions that may have existed in her country are no longer present.

Never a truer word said.

A town along the UK's M4 is renowned for its 'Thai Nightlife' a number of bars, coffee shops and nightclubs being 'well served' with imported talent.

[markt]

A town along the UK's M4 is renowned for its 'Thai Nightlife' a number of bars, coffee shops and nightclubs being 'well served' with imported talent.

Chonabot, get down there mate!

[Laurie]

Which town on the M4 and whereabouts in the town?

[Bryan in Isaan]

.... let her loose in your garden. Before you know it you will have your own supply of chilli and other Thai herbs.

......

buy DVD's of VCD's with Thai subtitles for her...(the list goes on)

Once she has a daily routine she won't have time to be bored.

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Great ideas, but I think most of the Thai herbs would have some trouble in Ireland. We lived in Seattle (NW USA) for a few years. We grew some basil and it did OK, but the growing season was short. You might get lucky and find some seeds that are hybrid for cool climates. You could also build a greenhouse or sunroom to create more heat.

Good luck!

Bryan

[rio666uk]

how long is she visiting you for?

this could be making a difference, if she's bored and homesick - but knows she's not here for long then my guess is that she'll be less enthusiastic about doing anything, knowing she'll be going back soon.

in my own experiences, both mine and a lot of mates thai wives are always reluctant to do or try something new and unfamiliar, at least untill they try...

take for example a group of us went to longleat safari park for the day... my mrs enjoyed the drive there more than anything else... but on another day out I took her on the pier @ weston-super-mare (which is really crap) for a go on the fruit machines and fish n chips wrapped in newspaper - and she raved about it for weeks!

I think you just need to try a few different things to find out what she likes - if she really isnt happy, your local thai food shop is a great way for her to chat to other thais, make friends etc - these shops often sell thai girlie magazines and DVD's.

best of luck

[thaibebop]

My girlfriend had recently come over to visit me from Thailand. I live in Dublin, she has only been here a week or so and she is already home sick. I know that Bangkok is a bustling city with a great culture but she seems to have no interest in anything over here. I have heard that Thai people who leave Thailand get homesick easily but its only been a bloody week. My girlfriend is also not a bargirl, she is eduacated with perfect english so i tought that she could take an interest is somthing over here. Maybe she will change with time but she seems to be a bit misserable. Has anyone else had a simillar experiences as this.

PS.

She now understands why so many farangs love Thailand

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There is no helping it, man. My wife has been away six years and everyday I hear "In Thailand...." All she thinks about is the day she gets to go back.

[fanta rood]

My mom lives more then 25 years in Europe and she's still homesick. She speaks and writes fluently the language (she doesn't even have an accent! it's like she was born here) and made alot friends with the local people from her work etc etc. She;s fully intergrated. THe problem is not that she doesn't have anything to do with her free time. It's just that western countries are no fun at all. Face it our countries are only good for make quick easy money.

But your girlfriend is there on holidays to visit you. And if she's already homesick thats not good. If you go to any country for holidays, you would not be homesick either. You'll just have a good time for 1,2,6 weeks. You would not be thinking about that. That's what a holiday is for right? I think she came with the intention of spending the rest of her life there instead of traveling to different countries seeing as much of the world as possible. Broadening your horizon and having a good time for just the few weeks or months you are on holidays for.

This is something I think for when your girlfriend isn't on holidays in your country, but for real for the rest of her life:

For your girlfriend it's easier to intergrate into the irish society. She already speaks fluently english in a country that has english as first language. You said she has a good education and speaks english, she could be looking for a job as soon as possible! Or she could go to school to school there. Follow a study for adult people. I don't know about your country, but in mine we have special education for foreigners who needs to be intergrated in society. We also have alot of normal courses in English. That way she HAS something to do during her weekdays AND she'll make alot of new friends too. And in the weekends you'll just go out with her. SHE CANNOT HANG AROUND ALL DAY AT THE THAI SHOP!

I think the first few months are difficult for any outsider. She'll just have hang in there.

Edited September 13, 2005 by fanta rood

[StateSix]

It's just that western countries are no fun at all. Face it our countries are only good for make quick easy money.

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Hmmmm. Bit of a generalisation that isn't it? It's as ridiculous as saying Thailand is only good for quick easy sex. I had a lot of fun back home in England thank you very much.

I did agree with some of your other points though.

[DavieA]

Been there, done this with my previous wife (Malaysian Chinese). Sooner or later theyt will become westernized and start thinking and acting with some degree of the value system (or lack thereof) in your country. In my case, after 7 years of marriage, she took off with a boyfriend 10 years younger than me. This would never have happened if we stayed in Malaysia.

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Poor advice again a2396. I seem to remember you giving me this advice on another similar thread.

Sorry you had a bad run mate, but the way I look at it: If they have no reason to run off with someone else because they feel loved and secure, then it shouldn't be an issue. This applies to any nationality, in any country, not just Asian women moving to a falang world. And if you'd have stayed in Malaysia, do you really think it might not have happened?

I think you should take a look at youself and ask the question why your missus ran off.

Not being nasty, just honest.