Bangkokbabay Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 (edited) It Breaks My Heart to read this. Soph, Please realize that this type of behavior will not change. It is time for you to move away from this horrible person. Only you will know when it is time to leave him, I hope for your sake it is sooner then later. Once a man put his hands on you that's it - I can guarentee you that it will happen again. You do not deserve this, and YOU need to realize that. Yeah, sure you are attached to him in some ways, but once you become unattached you will realize life is much better for you and you will not have to live in FEAR. You should not go home to your house and worry about how to behave so someone does not hit you. I could never be able to tell you enough times that you need to get out. Please realize that you are lucky enough to still be around, some women with proven statistics are not around becuase they thought last time they got hit that was really going to be the last time. Now they are dead. I know you are hearing this many times in different variations from people - it really can't be stressed enough. It's Better to be in No realtionship then a Bad Realtionship Please stay strong! Edited November 21, 2005 by Bangkokbabay Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajarn_Jonesy Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 I agree it would be wise to leave an aggressive husband but it's difficult not to listen to your heart. Her husband beats her up once in a while so what? She told that her husband is a very nice loving man at other times. I would rather ask women leave their dull and boring non-beating husbands. I think Soph should consider carefully gains and losses but she can't count on he'll give up beating. They rarely do! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That Has to be one of the Most idiotic things I have ever heard. Its easy to say he is loving most of the time.. Untill one day he goes really over board and you dont wake up . No Woman or child ever deserves to be touched by A man.... End of story. Soph It is hard but you need to get away NOW.. dont wait it will get worse with time... I have seen this happen to my family and it sucks. The longer you stay with him ONE THING IS FOR SURE YOU WILL HAVE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME EVER TRUSTING SOMEONE Again.... My Sister still doesn't ... Plain and simple forget the excuses you HAVE TO HAVE THE LOVE AND RESPECT FOR YOUR SELF TO LEAVE. No one else can do it for you.. Best of Luck to you Soph you truely deserve better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajarn_Jonesy Posted November 21, 2005 Share Posted November 21, 2005 I agree it would be wise to leave an aggressive husband but it's difficult not to listen to your heart. Her husband beats her up once in a while so what? She told that her husband is a very nice loving man at other times. I would rather ask women leave their dull and boring non-beating husbands. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> So you think that an exciting husband who beats you up occasionally is preferable to a boring husband who treats you with respect? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Bizzare thinking I agree!!! Let's spice up the relationship and box you a bit!!! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> I'll second you Spot on Brit Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lappami1 Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 I agree it would be wise to leave an aggressive husband but it's difficult not to listen to your heart. Her husband beats her up once in a while so what? She told that her husband is a very nice loving man at other times. I would rather ask women leave their dull and boring non-beating husbands. I think Soph should consider carefully gains and losses but she can't count on he'll give up beating. They rarely do! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That Has to be one of the Most idiotic things I have ever heard. Its easy to say he is loving most of the time.. Untill one day he goes really over board and you dont wake up . No Woman or child ever deserves to be touched by A man.... End of story. Soph It is hard but you need to get away NOW.. dont wait it will get worse with time... I have seen this happen to my family and it sucks. The longer you stay with him ONE THING IS FOR SURE YOU WILL HAVE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME EVER TRUSTING SOMEONE Again.... My Sister still doesn't ... Plain and simple forget the excuses you HAVE TO HAVE THE LOVE AND RESPECT FOR YOUR SELF TO LEAVE. No one else can do it for you.. Best of Luck to you Soph you truely deserve better. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Another Yankee hypocrite. Do you have something new that has not been discussed yet? Why only women and children doesn't deserve to be touched by a man. You think violence is okay between men? How do you know that Soph doesn't deserve get beaten? Maybe she's asking for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Excuse me? Would you like to rephrase that last sentence? Try again and maybe you won't sound so much like an abusive person yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bangkokbabay Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Well said SBK, comments like that make me cringe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibebop Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 (edited) I agree it would be wise to leave an aggressive husband but it's difficult not to listen to your heart. Her husband beats her up once in a while so what? She told that her husband is a very nice loving man at other times. I would rather ask women leave their dull and boring non-beating husbands. I think Soph should consider carefully gains and losses but she can't count on he'll give up beating. They rarely do! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That Has to be one of the Most idiotic things I have ever heard. Its easy to say he is loving most of the time.. Untill one day he goes really over board and you dont wake up . No Woman or child ever deserves to be touched by A man.... End of story. Soph It is hard but you need to get away NOW.. dont wait it will get worse with time... I have seen this happen to my family and it sucks. The longer you stay with him ONE THING IS FOR SURE YOU WILL HAVE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME EVER TRUSTING SOMEONE Again.... My Sister still doesn't ... Plain and simple forget the excuses you HAVE TO HAVE THE LOVE AND RESPECT FOR YOUR SELF TO LEAVE. No one else can do it for you.. Best of Luck to you Soph you truely deserve better. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Another Yankee hypocrite. Do you have something new that has not been discussed yet? Why only women and children doesn't deserve to be touched by a man. You think violence is okay between men? How do you know that Soph doesn't deserve get beaten? Maybe she's asking for it. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Next to you I'd say us "Yankees" are down right peaceful. Thanks for the PR boost, buddy. Edited November 22, 2005 by thaibebop Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajarn_Jonesy Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 Another Yankee hypocrite. Do you have something new that has not been discussed yet? Why only women and children doesn't deserve to be touched by a man. You think violence is okay between men? How do you know that Soph doesn't deserve get beaten? Maybe she's asking for it. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Good Grief!! you seem to have your opinions... My question for you is do you actually believe all this Krap you have been spouting... If you do maybe you should move to the Middle east where it is *Accepted* as you call it I am not going to dignify comment.... Violence Is NEVER OKAY in situations like this. But for the last part there "Maybe She's asking for it" . I hope all Finns are not like that.:annoyed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibebop Posted November 22, 2005 Share Posted November 22, 2005 I agree it would be wise to leave an aggressive husband but it's difficult not to listen to your heart. Her husband beats her up once in a while so what? She told that her husband is a very nice loving man at other times. I would rather ask women leave their dull and boring non-beating husbands. I think Soph should consider carefully gains and losses but she can't count on he'll give up beating. They rarely do! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> That Has to be one of the Most idiotic things I have ever heard. Its easy to say he is loving most of the time.. Untill one day he goes really over board and you dont wake up . No Woman or child ever deserves to be touched by A man.... End of story. Soph It is hard but you need to get away NOW.. dont wait it will get worse with time... I have seen this happen to my family and it sucks. The longer you stay with him ONE THING IS FOR SURE YOU WILL HAVE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME EVER TRUSTING SOMEONE Again.... My Sister still doesn't ... Plain and simple forget the excuses you HAVE TO HAVE THE LOVE AND RESPECT FOR YOUR SELF TO LEAVE. No one else can do it for you.. Best of Luck to you Soph you truely deserve better. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Another Yankee hypocrite. Do you have something new that has not been discussed yet? Why only women and children doesn't deserve to be touched by a man. You think violence is okay between men? How do you know that Soph doesn't deserve get beaten? Maybe she's asking for it. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Do you justify rape with these words as well? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patsycat Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 ASKING FOR IT??? Get a life... Oh perhaps you are a wife beater? Is that the only way you get your kicks (no pun intended) to abuse and hit someone who is probably smaller and lighter than you? You need extreme therapy for the next, maybe, 30 - 40 years Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soph Posted November 23, 2005 Author Share Posted November 23, 2005 yet? Why only women and children doesn't deserve to be touched by a man. You think violence is okay between men? How do you know that Soph doesn't deserve get beaten? Maybe she's asking for it. Well fyi, I dont and I wasnt, so why dont you just leave this thread alone and go and bother some other people. There is no need for comments like that. Anyway its over - ive forgotten about it So why dont you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Khutan Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Soph; Let me share a scary statistic, there is a very high chance that you will find another man who will do the same, and sadly unless you prepare yourself for this, there is little you can do. More often than not, you or any other abused woman will find a new man, and there will be certain feelings and character traits that remind you of the good things that you had with the man you left. You will say to yourself - Oh, I remember this is what I liked about XXX, but Mr New is not like that, he is so gentle. Sadly, these characteristics do manifest themselves into the same behaviour. All I am saying is if you see stuff in a new man that reminds you of your now -ex, steer clear of the guy - there is a 65% - 70% chance he will do the same to you. This is a well known fact with crisis councellors etc, and some women seem to be a magnet to these types of people. Some women I have heard of have 3 and 4 partners like this. Good luck, be strong and take care. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nickerelastic Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 To the op You live and work in a foreign country therefore you are a strong individual. If the relationship you are in is causing you pain walk away from it. You are worth it to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patsycat Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 What does asking for it curtail? Do you think she stood there and said "hit me , give me black eyes, broken tooth etc"? Like some leather bound woman in a poorly directed porn movie? With comments like that you are a sad sad sad person. Or a pervert. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lappami1 Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Some women just stimulate their husband as long as they get beaten. I knew once a woman that got beaten frequently by her husband. People asked why she didn't leave her husband? She said that sometimes she's so irritating that she understands her husband. Except all this crap against me again I agree with one good post before in this topic. Soph has to be careful not to pick up a new man that's wife-beater too. Somehow these wife-beaters have some characteristics that seem to attract certain kind of women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajarn_Jonesy Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Some women just stimulate their husband as long as they get beaten. I knew once a woman that got beaten frequently by her husband. People asked why she didn't leave her husband? She said that sometimes she's so irritating that she understands her husband.Except all this crap against me again I agree with one good post before in this topic. Soph has to be careful not to pick up a new man that's wife-beater too. Somehow these wife-beaters have some characteristics that seem to attract certain kind of women. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> IYIYI<<<<I am Not saying any more..(lappami) You have said more than enough. Its like talking to a stump with you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kayo Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Soph, why don´t you request this thread closed and come and join us in the Harem. No wife beaters allowed... More like a DOn Juan Paradise for women and me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
khall64au Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 Soph, why don´t you request this thread closed and come and join us in the Harem. No wife beaters allowed... More like a DOn Juan Paradise for women and me! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> AND US!!!!!!!! Women that is............. actually Soph, do you play a musical instrument? Or dance or something? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glauka Posted November 23, 2005 Share Posted November 23, 2005 (edited) well done khall... just bring members to our band and...harem... I have forgotten to buy the pens and the notepads...ups!!!! Edited November 23, 2005 by Glauka Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soph Posted November 24, 2005 Author Share Posted November 24, 2005 Soph, why don´t you request this thread closed and come and join us in the Harem. No wife beaters allowed... More like a DOn Juan Paradise for women and me! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Sounds like a plan! Although I cant play an instrument, but I could do a pretty good belly dance Oh and about the thread - its been going on a long time, maybe its time to shut it down and lets all talk about something else, whats done is done - lets not keep going over it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeff1 Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Excuse me? Would you like to rephrase that last sentence? Try again and maybe you won't sound so much like an abusive person yourself. And the first sentance for that matter . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted November 24, 2005 Share Posted November 24, 2005 Agreed Soph, this thread has run its course. Closed it is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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