SDH Posted November 3, 2005 Share Posted November 3, 2005 I've often wondered if all people are cheaters? I know myself I can be a very good guy for about 2-3 months of time then the next thing you know I'm out cheating wether it be with a woman, man, Thai, Farang or whatever! Sometimes I think it's the copious amounts of booze guzzled that night or day or whenever it happens.....But at other times there's no drinks and most of the situations are some what bizarre (like when room service gets ordered and the drinks come and next thing you know wham bam thank you man, as the other is out shopping) You know times like that. So is it just me or is everyone a dawg cheater like me??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BambinA Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 So is it just me or is everyone a dawg cheater like me??? no...when i have BF , i hve never ever cheated on him Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibebop Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Everyone can be tempted, it's human nature. So, yes everyone has the potential be a cheater, but what makes us human is our abilty to control ourselves. So, you are not taking the precautions needed to keep yourself from being tempted. Why that is up to you to find out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SDH Posted November 4, 2005 Author Share Posted November 4, 2005 No kidding so what happens to him then...Does he just go away or what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibebop Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 So is it just me or is everyone a dawg cheater like me??? no...when i have BF , i hve never ever cheated on him <{POST_SNAPBACK}> So, you are an angel after all, huh? Devil girl is just an act is it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TRIPxCORE Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 (edited) A man's true nature is not to be monogamous. It is a man's nature to spread his seed into anything he can. That's just the way it is and our bodies will never change. Over time, people have placed these rules of monogamy on ourselves to show loyalty to our partners. It never started out this way but it has become this way. I do believe a person should remain loyal to one he/she loves or cares about. But at the same time, it is also possible for one to love or care deeply about more than one person at a time too. Lots of grey area in this matter IMO. Have I ever cheated? No. Have I come close before? Yes! I don't feel bad about it because the person was someone I care about and have real feelings for. Edited November 4, 2005 by TRIPxCORE Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meom Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 ...... I can be a very good guy for about 2-3 months of time then the next thing you know I'm out cheating wether it be with a woman, man, Thai, Farang or whatever! So is it just me or is everyone a dawg cheater like me??? Please tell us more about the whatever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meemiathai Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 What does "cheat" mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuchok Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 What does "cheat" mean? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Doing business in most asian countries Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chownah Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 A man's true nature is not to be monogamous. It is a man's nature to spread his seed into anything he can. That's just the way it is and our bodies will never change. Over time, people have placed these rules of monogamy on ourselves to show loyalty to our partners. It never started out this way but it has become this way. I do believe a person should remain loyal to one he/she loves or cares about. But at the same time, it is also possible for one to love or care deeply about more than one person at a time too. Lots of grey area in this matter IMO. Have I ever cheated? No. Have I come close before? Yes! I don't feel bad about it because the person was someone I care about and have real feelings for. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Where did you find this wonderful revelation about man's true nature? Do they talk about woman's true nature too? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neeranam Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 So is it just me or is everyone a dawg cheater like me??? tongue.gif I'm not, yet. From everyone I know who has and does, it doesn't seem worth losing what I have. As for the guys who say, "she doesn't mind" - <deleted>, of course she does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Dude Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 The Dude commends the dude who came up with the idea for this thread. The Dude thinks that this is very relevant to Thailand. What needs to be added here is "how many partners cheat either on a regular basis on you, or have cheated, or think about and attempt to cheat on you on a continuing basis". You know how it is over here; leave your lady alone for a while (days, weeks, months) and you got problems, huge problems. She don't like to be alone. This is a hard fact that The Dude does not dig. Be wary of it, very wary. The Dude thinks it's embedded in the culture somewhere and that there are several reasons for it. The Dude vows to lock up all of his shovels on this issue because it is most undiggable. Can you dig? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meom Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 A man's true nature is not to be monogamous. It is a man's nature to spread his seed into anything he can..... So as long as you use a condom it's technically not cheating Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boo Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I have been with only one man for 5 years now, never thought I could do it as I am easily bored It must be love. Personally I think, if you cheat on your partner, you never really loved them in the truest sense, as if you did, you would never want to cause them hurt or humiliation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sir Burr Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 BJ's don't count......President Clinton said so. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 BJ's don't count......President Clinton said so. So i can go with anybody and i'll be OK Mr BJ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joey Boy Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 BJ's don't count......President Clinton said so. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> So i can go with anybody and i'll be OK Mr BJ <{POST_SNAPBACK}> im not sure what would be defined as cheating if yer married to a hooker? Sleeping with the same woman every night for more than a month? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 (edited) I have been with only one man for 5 years now, never thought I could do it as I am easily bored It must be love. Personally I think, if you cheat on your partner, you never really loved them in the truest sense, as if you did, you would never want to cause them hurt or humiliation. I'm with Boo on this one. If you love someone then you are considerate of their feelings. If you are a serial cheater then it's best to be straight with the girl from the start. Then, its her choice to put up with you or not. But don't fool yourself (or her) that you love the girl if you are willing to cheat on her ...again and again. I guess it goes without saying that I am not a cheater then? Edited November 4, 2005 by sbk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrbojangles Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 BJ's don't count......President Clinton said so. So i can go with anybody and i'll be OK Mr BJ im not sure what would be defined as cheating if yer married to a hooker? Sleeping with the same woman every night for more than a month? Joey Boy, could you please expand on what you mean by your comments above. Is this personal at Me or Sir Burr as you are using our quotes. Or, is it answering the Topic title. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patex Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 No cheating here also, everyting under control. I enjoy my selfrestriction, never had to call myself an areshole, Regards, Patex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meadish_sweetball Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Havent cheated once in the 4 years I have been with my GF. Did cheat in two previous (short) relationships when I was a teenager. In both cases I broke up very soon afterwards as I realized I wouldnt cheat unless there was something missing. I tend to agree with sbk and Boo. If you love and value your partner you will not cheat on them - even though we all get the impulses. Will add though that I have a friend who does seem to genuinely love his gf, but still cannot be completely faithful, which is pretty frustrating for both of them. He is not the instigator of anything though, he is the type that has girls make nasty suggestions to him on a regular basis. He looks like crap but is one of the sharpest and funniest persons I have known - and apparently this is a huge turnon for many very foxy girls. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joey Boy Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 No cheating here also,everyting under control. I enjoy my selfrestriction, never had to call myself an areshole, Regards, Patex <{POST_SNAPBACK}> yer only an as$hole if u get caught Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patex Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Joey Boy! Now you write 100 times: I must not cheat! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice Maiden Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I have only had one serious relationship so far but I'd be telling lies if I said I didn't cheat. It is no excuse but it was towards the end of the relationship and my friends encouraged me to go out for some drinks, at the time it sounded better than looking at the phone all night. A few drinks later I got chatting to a male my friends had brought along on purpose and before you know it we ended up kissing but I didn't let it go any further. It's still classed as cheating though and I confessed all. It dosen't make it any better but I'd rather tell the truth than carry a burden. But at the end of the day I'm still a teenager I shouldn't be taking life so seriously It's a whole learning process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joey Boy Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 Joey Boy!Now you write 100 times: I must not cheat! <{POST_SNAPBACK}> It aint cheatin either if u don't get caught.. Treat em like mushrooms, keep them in the dark and feed them on sh1t Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fast Eddie Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I'm with Boo on this one. If you love someone then you are considerate of their feelings. If you are a serial cheater then it's best to be straight with the girl from the start. Then, its her choice to put up with you or not. But don't fool yourself (or her) that you love the girl if you are willing to cheat on her ...again and again.I guess it goes without saying that I am not a cheater then? <{POST_SNAPBACK}> But if you are honest with your partner from the start about your philandering ways, surely this is no longer 'cheating'? If no lies are involved, is it not possible to love the girl whilst still being open to other sexual liasons? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeaceBlondie Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 It's not cheating if you don't promise to be monogamous. I tell the rental units, "I'm a butterfly. I don't need a steady lover." I tried monogamy: twenty years with an American woman, one year with a Thai man. I prefer the alternatives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Patex Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 cheat and confess, truly the Christian way to heaven... you not even have to confess to the cheated one, any representative of God will do it Patex Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daleyboy Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 (edited) I am not a compulsive cheater, but i am a compulsive mass debater Edited November 4, 2005 by daleyboy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sbk Posted November 4, 2005 Share Posted November 4, 2005 I'm with Boo on this one. If you love someone then you are considerate of their feelings. If you are a serial cheater then it's best to be straight with the girl from the start. Then, its her choice to put up with you or not. But don't fool yourself (or her) that you love the girl if you are willing to cheat on her ...again and again. I guess it goes without saying that I am not a cheater then? But if you are honest with your partner from the start about your philandering ways, surely this is no longer 'cheating'? If no lies are involved, is it not possible to love the girl whilst still being open to other sexual liasons? Yes, but this rarely goes both ways. Just because a person is honest doesn't mean the behavior is acceptable for the partner, agreed? Just because there isn't a lie being told doesn't make it "not cheating" when the partner in the relationship is unhappy with the behavior. Look at it from the other side of the coin, how would you feel if the tables were turned and your lady said, "Hey, I feel like screwing around. You don't mind since I've told you, do you?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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