Helping Or Walk Away

[needforspeed]

Went out for a night with a mate, arrived at a go go bar.

Talking with a girl she was underage.

Give her some money to go home and promise her to help her.

I don’t know if this was a smart move from me, i would like to keep my promise as i always do.

Any help or what to do.

Thanks

[kurnell]

Baccara?

[Bkkorupcountry]

Did you check her id that she's underage? Or does she just look young?

[Boater]

you would have needed to give her alot of money ! , did she go home after you gave her the money? ...

it was a nice gesture on your behalf, but she will be back working

[Moonrakers]

Could just be a new twist on 'need money for sick buffalo'.

[Berkshire]

You know what they say about "helping one child..."

[otherstuff1957]

If she goes home with the cash, odds are that her parents will take the money, say "thank you very much" and send her back to Bangkok to get some more.

[Mario2008]

Might be best to guide her to an organisation that cna help her, like the Prateep Foundation: http://www.dpf.or.th/eng/Projects.html

[DP25]

Could just be a new twist on 'need money for sick buffalo'.

Most likely. They all lie about everything. My friend was with a 19 year old who turned out to be 34. Old farang can't tell the difference

[Swiss1960]

Might be best to guide her to an organisation that cna help her, like the Prateep Foundation: http://www.dpf.or.th/eng/Projects.html

I think that is the only correct answer for such a situation. Giving her money is definitely a very bad idea...

Money will end up either for clothes / phones, in the hands of the parents, in the hands of a pimp... and she will be back in the bar soon later... and even more... she will learn that she can get lot's of money telling all farang that she is underage and has so many problems and is in such a need for some money... and if it did not happen yet, the day will come where she sells herself for the money...

[kartman]

Your setting yourself up for a sting and it won't be carried out by friendly troops.

[rucus7]

They all lie about everything. My friend was with a 19 year old who turned out to be 34. Old farang can't tell the difference

Is this a math riddle?

[maiphedmaiaroi]

Just help her mate.

Send her loads of money every month.

Surely this is a piss take thread.

[Tonto21]

Might be best to guide her to an organisation that cna help her, like the Prateep Foundation: http://www.dpf.or.th/eng/Projects.html

I think this advice is the best so far….By far.

Give her the info…walk away; you cannot save her from herself. She has to make the move. Anything else, any other involvement, (underage child remember) you are possibly leaving yourselves open for a very expensive lesson in 'sticking you noise in to Thai business'.

[Heng]

Could just be a new twist on 'need money for sick buffalo'.

Most likely. They all lie about everything. My friend was with a 19 year old who turned out to be 34. Old farang can't tell the difference

Unfortunately many can't tell when women are really men either. "Are you a man!?..." Strangely enough these discoveries/interrogations tend to happen near ATM's.

[thaimate]

when you say underage ,how old was she ,very few bars will take on girls under 18 especially in tourist areas.

[Thongkorn]

maybe she is telling the truth . there are lots of bars that will take them on under age, And many bars are owned by police men , or taken care of.. maybe the sex tourist should hang the heads in shame of bringing this situation about.

[Johnniey]

Just help her mate.

Send her loads of money every month.

Surely this is a piss take thread.

Surely.

How hypocritical - you feel good now about helping one underage gogo girl while you barfine her sister.

Can't you see that you are supporting this prostitution industry by being in the go go bar?

[Tonto21]

Just help her mate.

Send her loads of money every month.

Surely this is a piss take thread.

Surely.

How hypocritical - you feel good now about helping one underage gogo girl while you barfine her sister.

Can't you see that you are supporting this prostitution industry by being in the go go bar?

Nobody said she had a sister!......

But seriously, 'johnniey' whose post are you responding to, the OP's or 'maiphedmaiaroi' great name by the way, could you have made it a bit longer.

'johnniey' Who are you trying to handbag here?

Edited September 29, 2011 by Tonto21

[mallyrd]

Turn the clock back and try for a different bar where you don't suckered.

[philw]

Just help her mate.

Send her loads of money every month.

Surely this is a piss take thread.

Surely.

How hypocritical - you feel good now about helping one underage gogo girl while you barfine her sister.

Can't you see that you are supporting this prostitution industry by being in the go go bar?

Perhaps barfine them both , would be fairer................

Doubt if being in a gogo bar is supporting the overall sex trade.

[samran]

They all lie about everything. My friend was with a 19 year old who turned out to be 34. Old farang can't tell the difference

Is this a math riddle?

Only when she is sitting on a train traveling at 80mph in a westerly direction, and that train left 4 hours before the train the OP is sitting on traveling in an easterly direction at 92mph.

[TheLaughingMan]

this is the most ridiculous thread I've read in a long time, if it was some new member I'd assume they were joking, but its someone who should know better, how silly

[bkkfoxi]

hello no dont tell me , you guys here really belive he did that ??

[longstebe]

this is the most ridiculous thread I've read in a long time, if it was some new member I'd assume they were joking, but its someone who should know better, how silly

This.

[wintermute]

I think you should give her money and buy her a house.

[ttthailand]

Not all but most of these young girls are in the bar so they have money for computers, cell phones and other toys. They also like the action, the partying, and the excitement of being with different men. They send very little if any money home. Giving a young BG money is just giving her more reason to stay.....sad but true !!! As one young 19...now 20 year old told me one time " the money is too easy". She takes a holiday sometimes and goes home but always returns and works a different bar. Young, beautiful and comes from nice family who don't need any money. Her father wants her to stay home and is even willing to give her money and pay for school.....You can not get them out of the bar once they get it in their blood...about two weeks or a few nice payoffs will get them hooked forever. If they only knew the real cost of doing what they do....very sad !!!

[mijan24]

They all lie about everything. My friend was with a 19 year old who turned out to be 34. Old farang can't tell the difference

Is this a math riddle?

Only when she is sitting on a train traveling at 80mph in a westerly direction, and that train left 4 hours before the train the OP is sitting on traveling in an easterly direction at 92mph.

Samran more information needed = steam or diesel, gradients and most of all is it dual or single track - if it is the latter when they meet the outcome will be well advertised.

[paulian]

I think it was a good thing that you did. Especially, if you felt good about it. However, as most of the posts say, "once you start down that road " . But, if it made you feel good and that you were doing the right thing at the time, maybe you were and maybe she just took the money and ate and went home. However, like most of the advise given I wouldn't get into a habit of falling in love at first sight or whatever or giving out too much help, as you can be sure if you return to the same bar in a week, she will probably be there.

[Heng]

An off topic but somewhat related tangent. We're in the process of seizing a home and adjacent property from a guy who had apparently though it was better to leave his first local wife because of parasitic inlaws for a new local wife that was indeed effectively an orphan (as per common conventional 'wisdom' posted on these forums). Didn't end well. She gambled (and apparently had a few local guys on the side under her care) a fairly large home, multiple automobiles, and half a dozen shophouses built by said gentleman and is now basically destitute. The guy at least isn't skinnt (like the property we seized from a less fortunate Brit last year) and is now back with his first wife. Beware fleeing from a lion into the mouth of a crocodile as the local saying goes.