Men think logically - i.e. the kids, the facts, the figures etc.

Women think emotionally, albeit how they are feeling right now about a certain situation, and we throw logic out the window.

Jealously is an emotion, so is love - we don't have the same ability to separate emotions like men seem to do, but that's just the way we are.

on the other hand, Thai women seem to be, lets just say, a little less reasonable in forming logic around a situation. You can have a reason for what and why you did something, but they wont care one bit, or understand it, or make much effort too. If its not on their terms, your gonna suffer!

The OP hasn't actually stated in what way the current wife is jealous. If that's anything short of (actually) trying to kill herself or others then it's completely normal. It's different in Thailand, you're not even supposed to even reference stuff that happened prior to you getting remarried even if it doesn't involve your ex. Most Western people (male and female) handle stuf related to the 'ex' well, most Thai people (male and female), don't.

Deal with it, it's just one of those things that are a bit special, culturally.

A few simple questions that require you to look at your behavior in a completely honest way; do you pay equal attention to your current wife? Do you do small considerate things that show you are thinking of her? Do you have conversations/go out to dinner/ do stuff together?

Of course he does!

He's now moved to Myanmar full time to pursue his interest in amatur radio interests and teaching english for humanitarian reasons even though (by his own admission) he owns hotels in Phuket and doesn't need the money

That proves he loves her doesn't it?

Edited August 5, 201213 yr by Livinginexile

I normally dont contribute to relationship type threads cos I have nothing to offer in way of advice. And I still dont.

However, since you asked for opinions......phuturatica pointed it out very nicely and succinctly, and a few others have repeated it:

It is one thing to remain a part of your sons life. Totally different to be helping your ex run HER life and her business.

You can provide financial support for your son - his education activities, what ever else. You can spend time with your son. You said divorce is amicable. So there should be no issue of you getting to see your son.

I assume your ex does not have custody cos of her bi polar situation?

I won't ask why or whether you wanted custody

IF you want to help with the ex business then train her husband. If you want to refer clients then give the client her number and rates. If her hotel is right next door, well then even easier....just point them in that direction. Have someone from your hotel drop the clients off next door if you must. My point is, there's ways you can refer business to her without the constant daily personal contact.

Personally I think if someine decides to run a business they need to independently learn to cope with running it. Helping hand and guidance from others sure, but a handholding session on a daily basis? Ok maybe that too, but it should come from HER family. Not from you. You are not her family. You've got a wife now.

Not in anyway saying you should neglect your son.

To those that propose a lecture to the current wife about responsibility to his son.....I dont see Simon mentioning his wife objecting to contact with his son. So dont jump to your own conclusions.

Getting a job elsewhere? If you think that's going to strengthen your relationship? Hmmm

Unless you dont really care about the relationship anymore, well in that case the question would be.....why continue with it.

I suppose I sound rather harsh,which is quite unusual for me, but reading the situation this is what comes across. You may have other limitations.....only you know the full facts and can make a decision on what to do.

Anyway, in short, I dont think it's unreasonable that the wife would get upset.

(just to add that I'm not an overly jealous type....yet even I would have issues with the daily contacts

Ohhh. And to another poster.....I'm Thai. And a woman. And yes we are capable of logic. Sometimes )