Alright so I have a bit of a complicated issue on my hand. Here's my story:

I'm 21 and half-Thai. a few months ago I went to Thailand to visit my family. Upon staying there I was introduced to my nieces friend she's 29. I went to Thailand with barely any money and she took great care of me. At this point I fell in love with her. I let her know and she states that she has feelings for me as well. One night I kissed her, she blushed but I could tell she enjoyed it. She was arranged to get married a month after I left and she did. We talk a lot and she states that she's not happy with her relationship and she got married out of "convenience" because she was 29. To this day she doesn't talk to her husband that much and states she wants me. I returned home and we still keep in touch skyping every now and then etc. She's a very independent woman and works as a school teacher. I'm back in the United States and graduate college in May. I plan on going back to Thailand for her. She says I can live with her at her house because her and her husband don't live together. I specifically stated that "I'm not going to have that much money" and she says that's ok. I wanna know if a younger man and older woman relationship is sort of like a taboo in Thailand...... Also, you think she's just playing head games with me?

Hi

you can all the advice you want on here , but at the end of the day you will make the decision. Just ask questions and take your time. Time will let you know and do not rush into it , after all if it works you will have your whole life with her

hope this helps.

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Edited September 18, 201213 yr by trickmaster51

The age might not be a taboo but the marriage is! Good luck!

Moving to General, then.

I feel sorry for the Husband,but it's your choice,personally I would run for the hills.

1) Come here for the job you talk about and not for her and once you have the job, see how it works with her

2) since when is 29 and "older woman" relationship, not even for a 21y old

3) make sure her husband does not find you in bed together... you might not be a 21y old man anymore, but a 21y old eunuch / castrate

Go for it if thats what you and SHE wants. Just be careful and be sure she divorces the guy she doesn't like.

BUT, l do worry she married this guy when you were in the picture, what ever her reason.

I think you may want to learn more about the ladies husband, before you go sniffing around or roamping with his wife. At your age (21) you have a potential long life ahead of you, unless you get into a situation which could be detremental to life and/or limb.

This could in all probability, be viewed and if you follow thru, as one of those situations,

She's married, a better option comes along, she declares she loves you and wants to get married - You've got no money - Do you see where this is going?!

You've had a holiday romance, its been fun - You're 21 years old - keep it all as a happy memory and move on.

Do not stay with her in her house as long as she is married.The husband will lose face and that might be a big problem for you.

She's married, a better option comes along, she declares she loves you and wants to get married - You've got no money - Do you see where this is going?!

You've had a holiday romance, its been fun - You're 21 years old - keep it all as a happy memory and move on.

Though perhaps rare, Love might be in the equation, her l mean, OP, perhaps infatuation, BUT, most of us seasoned guys have been there. Mistakes, yes, but that's life.

Pretty common for young foreign guys to end up with older Thai women. You should get a richer one though, a school teacher won't be able to support you very well. Go for a late 30s cougar who can keep you in style.

For what it's worth, count me as the minority around here because I am 40 and my Thai wife is 44. Been married 6 years so far and am happy.

If you are in love for the right reasons, not sure why age matters. Young girls are fun for a night, but I personally prefer to be married to one with a bit of life experience. My 2 cents...

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Do what you feel is right... you may regret for the rest of your life what you didn't do. Keep away from getting financially involved for the moment.

She sounds crazy.

Go for it if thats what you and SHE wants. Just be careful and be sure she divorces the guy she doesn't like.

BUT, l do worry she married this guy when you were in the picture, what ever her reason.

Nice -Sin Sod- for the parents?

Go for it if thats what you and SHE wants. Just be careful and be sure she divorces the guy she doesn't like.

BUT, l do worry she married this guy when you were in the picture, what ever her reason.

Nice -Sin Sod- for the parents?

Nooooooooooo sin sod, divorced.

I'm just wondering why you picked the handle "TrickMaster"......

I guess she's caught the ETA bug - Escape To America.

Oh dear, another one on the slippery slope.

BUT, l do worry she married this guy when you were in the picture, what ever her reason.

The guy was in the picture long before before I arrived.

This is such a weird situation. but meh we'll see where it goes. I graduate in May and plan to teach English there anyways soooooo......... Tired with these young dumb college girls.

I am sure that Somchai will be delighted that you are on the scene, he'll probably take you out for drinks. I think you need to have a good think about this, it's not the same as back home...

as long as u are sexually attracted to her go for it. Just remember that she's married and u don't owe her a thing.

I am sure that Somchai will be delighted that you are on the scene, he'll probably take you out for drinks.

Yes cow jai. Only time will tell graduate in May with a very technical degree. Could make A LOT of money here but rather go there.

as long as u are sexually attracted to her go for it. Just remember that she's married and u don't owe her a thing.

Yeah, and the husband is going to be delighted

but a 21y old eunuch / castrate

Wow, but mehhh I keep in really good shape. Should be able to give him a run for his money before that happens

Yeah, and the husband is going to be delighted

Yeah pretty sad...... They don't even live together!

Meh?