Why Do Men Expect Bar Girls To Love Them?

[chiangmaikelly]

So to sum up, I think the question is, “ Did you expect your bar girl lady to stick around after you stopped paying her?”

Or an alternative question.

"Do you expect to keep having to pay your bar girl lady, when she becomes too fat or old to attract customers"

Now you're getting to the reality of the situation.

The 'bar lady' pretends to love the guy as she knows there is a good chance that he will. This is one of the huge benefits, or pension bonus, of picking up a gullible farang.

Or maybe there is actually some kind of love - If I were a poor farmer's daughter and in return for a bit of sex with an middle-aged/old idiot, I'd get a life of luxury - new pickup truck, best house in the village, never have to do a days work again, all my cousins and siblings able to walk round Tesco while the idiot pays for everything etc, I guess I'd love it.

I was at Tesco in Khon Kaen yesterday and really think the humanitarian thing for them to do would be to refuse service to a single farang over 50 with a trolley and more than 2 Thai people - it's so sad to see. UNless he an show a doctor's note showing that he still has his marbles.

There are any number of threads running on Thai Visa now about young men from all over who have had problems including dieing because of failed relationships with Thai women. And in the Thai media there are all sorts of stories about young men killing themselves or hurting themselves over relationships with Thai women.

It is rare that one hears of a man over 50 having any problems with Thai women with one major exception....... In the minds of Thai Visa posters. You are dealing with fantasy my young fellow.

Thailand as a country has paved the road for older gentlemen to retire here and made it difficult for young men to work and get visas. The Thai government did this because they are aware of the problems caused by young men who have not been able to find women in their home countries and come crying to the ladies of Thailand to take pity on them.

[poanoi]

Ahem, why don't you two get a room ?

[chiangmaikelly]

Ahem, why don't you two get a room ?

Be OK with me but I don't think he likes older men.

[TommoPhysicist]

As mentioned above a distinct difference between the relationship between prostitutes and Johns in Thailand v the same business back in Farangland is the purchase here in Thailand of the 'Girlfriend experience' versus back in the west where prostitutes maintain barriers between intimacy and sex.

So hookers in our home countries aren't the deranged drug addicts I always imagined them to be?

[giddyup]

So to sum up, I think the question is, “ Did you expect your bar girl lady to stick around after you stopped paying her?”

Or an alternative question.

"Do you expect to keep having to pay your bar girl lady, when she becomes too fat or old to attract customers"

Now you're getting to the reality of the situation.

The 'bar lady' pretends to love the guy as she knows there is a good chance that he will. This is one of the huge benefits, or pension bonus, of picking up a gullible farang.

Or maybe there is actually some kind of love - If I were a poor farmer's daughter and in return for a bit of sex with an middle-aged/old idiot, I'd get a life of luxury - new pickup truck, best house in the village, never have to do a days work again, all my cousins and siblings able to walk round Tesco while the idiot pays for everything etc, I guess I'd love it.

I was at Tesco in Khon Kaen yesterday and really think the humanitarian thing for them to do would be to refuse service to a single farang over 50 with a trolley and more than 2 Thai people - it's so sad to see. UNless he an show a doctor's note showing that he still has his marbles.

There are any number of threads running on Thai Visa now about young men from all over who have had problems including dieing because of failed relationships with Thai women. And in the Thai media there are all sorts of stories about young men killing themselves or hurting themselves over relationships with Thai women.

It is rare that one hears of a man over 50 having any problems with Thai women with one major exception....... In the minds of Thai Visa posters. You are dealing with fantasy my young fellow.

Thailand as a country has paved the road for older gentlemen to retire here and made it difficult for young men to work and get visas. The Thai government did this because they are aware of the problems caused by young men who have not been able to find women in their home countries and come crying to the ladies of Thailand to take pity on them.

Spot-on Kelly. Most of the guys I know here in Pattaya are over 60, not one of them has the dramas that the younger guys have.The older guys have been around the block a time or two, so they aren't as naive and gullible as the younger guys who actually believe the "hansum man" description. It's also a big plus to be able to just front immigration every 90 days for your visa check rather than the hassle of a border run.

[GuestHouse]

So hookers in our home countries aren't the deranged drug addicts I always imagined them to be?

Did your imagination consider individuals or is it constrained to generalizations?

[brewsterbudgen]

As mentioned above a distinct difference between the relationship between prostitutes and Johns in Thailand v the same business back in Farangland is the purchase here in Thailand of the 'Girlfriend experience' versus back in the west where prostitutes maintain barriers between intimacy and sex.

So hookers in our home countries aren't the deranged drug addicts I always imagined them to be?

You can find 100s of Thai "escorts" in the UK, among the 1000s of other nationalities and I can assure you they are very professional and some even provide a "girlfriend experience" - for a very high price! I would imagine that they also have "boyfriends". maybe you need to get out more?

[StreetCowboy]

So hookers in our home countries aren't the deranged drug addicts I always imagined them to be?

Did your imagination consider individuals or is it constrained to generalizations?

I try to imagine pleasant people; it makes my imagination a better place to live.

SC

[GuestHouse]

You can find 100s of Thai "escorts" in the UK, among the 1000s of other nationalities and I can assure you they are very professional and some even provide a "girlfriend experience" - for a very high price! I would imagine that they also have "boyfriends". maybe you need to get out more?

I'll bow to your professed knowledge on that particular aspect of comercial activity in the UK, but decline your sugestion that I get out more.

I don't believe I missing out on much if the gap in my social life is to lag behind you in knowledge of the UK's sex trade.

Edited November 20, 2012 by GuestHouse

[chiangmaikelly]

You can find 100s of Thai "escorts" in the UK, among the 1000s of other nationalities and I can assure you they are very professional and some even provide a "girlfriend experience" - for a very high price! I would imagine that they also have "boyfriends". maybe you need to get out more?

I'll bow to your professed knowledge on that particular aspect of comercial activity in the UK, but decline your sugestion that I get out more.

I don't believe I missing out on much if the gap in my social life is to lag behind you in knowledge of the UK's sex trade.

A working knowledge of the local mores never hurts. Remember DSK. Pay the maid, always pay the maid.

[brewsterbudgen]

You can find 100s of Thai "escorts" in the UK, among the 1000s of other nationalities and I can assure you they are very professional and some even provide a "girlfriend experience" - for a very high price! I would imagine that they also have "boyfriends". maybe you need to get out more?

I'll bow to your professed knowledge on that particular aspect of comercial activity in the UK, but decline your sugestion that I get out more.

I don't believe I missing out on much if the gap in my social life is to lag behind you in knowledge of the UK's sex trade.

I apologise as my "get out more" comment was supposed to be addressed to Thommophysicist and not you! I agree with the comment you made about the differences in most prostitute/client relationships between Thailand and the west, however my point was that not all western prostitutes are deranged drug addicts; some are really very nice and provide a professional service.

[noob7]

As mentioned above a distinct difference between the relationship between prostitutes and Johns in Thailand v the same business back in Farangland is the purchase here in Thailand of the 'Girlfriend experience' versus back in the west where prostitutes maintain barriers between intimacy and sex.

So hookers in our home countries aren't the deranged drug addicts I always imagined them to be?

You can find 100s of Thai "escorts" in the UK, among the 1000s of other nationalities and I can assure you they are very professional and some even provide a "girlfriend experience" - for a very high price! I would imagine that they also have "boyfriends". maybe you need to get out more?

But with the price, this girfriend experience becomes a shopping experience! Also they are really Pro's, the average 'dude' couldn't afford to marry.

I mean, for marriage reasons. Some Pimps marry the girl, 'cause a husband isn't called a pimp, by law!

[elliss]

Because mines different??

she tell me me, she not love he anymore,

she love only me.

lust, is cheaper than love , i should know.

[TommoPhysicist]

I apologise as my "get out more" comment was supposed to be addressed to Thommophysicist and not you! I agree with the comment you made about the differences in most prostitute/client relationships between Thailand and the west, however my point was that not all western prostitutes are deranged drug addicts; some are really very nice and provide a professional service.

Not being a user of such services (that's why I used the word 'imagined'), either in the UK or in Thailand, I bow to your greater knowledge.

Edited November 20, 2012 by TommoPhysicist

[transam]

I apologise as my "get out more" comment was supposed to be addressed to Thommophysicist and not you! I agree with the comment you made about the differences in most prostitute/client relationships between Thailand and the west, however my point was that not all western prostitutes are deranged drug addicts; some are really very nice and provide a professional service.

Not being a user of such services (that's why I used the word 'imagined'), either in the UK or in Thailand, I bow to your greater knowledge.

Me too.

[poanoi]

Me too, but only coz gonorrhea

[giddyup]

Me too, but only coz gonorrhea

Never heard of a condom?

[poanoi]

Not only that, but i've even tried one,

and i have more fun when i sleep

[noob7]

Me too, but only coz gonorrhea

That's responsible!

Where did you get it?

[cdnvic]

The way guys talk about women around here is sickening sometimes.

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